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You don't have to be a man to understand a man's problems. Odds are, his wife is ready to tell you exactly what's wrong with him. Hey-oh!

...Speaking truthfully, being a man does come with its own share of societal problems, but the public acceptance of being allowed to talk about them may not exist. In that regard, perhaps a woman speaking up for a man is the way to go?


Reddit user, u/-ThorMan-, wanted to know what's the worst of the worst when they asked:

Women of reddit, what do you think would be the worst part of being a man?

Taking The First Leap

Having to build up the courage to ask a girl out on a date. I got asked out by some guys I wasn't attracted to at first glance, but I still went because I know how much it takes to approach a stranger.

nainamaina

Stepping Up

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I can increase my attractiveness if I need a confidence boost by applying some light makeup and wearing flattering clothes.

It doesn't seem that easy for dudes

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Everyone Thinks The Worst Of You

you can't be near parks or schools without someone thinking you might be paedophile. if you walk anywhere alone after dark women are scared of you thinking you might be sexual predator. generally people being scared and thinking the worst while you might actually be the nicest guy who would help anyone and couldn't hurt a fly.

fantsukissa

There's Only That One Sweet Spot

Height. If you're a short woman you get called 'cute' and if you're tall a 'model'. So win win. I've seen so many cases where there would be a smart/handsome looking guy that would be below 5'11 (180cm) get rejected for an average looking stupid guy that's 6ft+.

Bellekaleeze

"Know what I call guys shorter than 5'11"? Friends." is a super common tinder bio.

williamblair

Is It Okay To Assume Either? Or Should You Just Assume Neither?

Figuring out if a women is actually into you or is just being friendly.

Future_South

It's easy. Assume no woman likes you, because that's usually the case.

unicornsex

Where Is It Okay To Cry?

Not being able to show emotion in the same way

Amethyst1408

My dad beat my a-- whenever I cried, so I think it subconsciously deterred me from crying. Then two decades later, I cried during an episode of Futurama and figured I was cured.

MisoCurry

Are You Even Allowed To Have Problems?

The pressure of being perfect. You have to look good, smell good, be good, be great at your job, be the rock, be the glue that holds sh-t together. & you aren't even able to have a break down and cry when it gets too much.

EDIT - I truly understand that women too can feel this way. However this post is asking about MEN. Men do feel this way and they also have every right too.

I would also struggle as a man that it seems when a man has a issue people jump to 'this doesn't just apply to men, this applies to women too' .. that must be truly frustrating to have your problems downplayed and made out to not really be a problem because everyone can feel that way.

erniebernie123

This Might Be The Stiffest Thing To Deal With As A Teenager

Unexpected boners

bycomparison

It would be the hardest part, yes.

portablecabbage

No One's Ever There

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Not receiving emotional support.

Edit: I'm sorry you guys are all dealing with this. It sucks. For the ladies also dealing with this, I'm sorry it sucks.

Everyone, don't be afraid to reach out for support. If someone slaps you down for it they are not the right person to be around.

If all else fails see a therapist. You go to doctors to take care of your body. Go take care of your mind too. You don't have to be depressed or have a mental health issue. Sometimes it's nice to just speak to someone without judgement and no one has to know about the visits but you.

Much love.

TomBoysHaveMoreFun

No Defense Given

Men cannot defend themselves from women without it exploding in their faces.

it's ridiculous, you have a right to defend yourself, gender nor age should be a factor on your wellbeing.

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Some years ago, I had to advise a college friend to stop chasing the girl he was interested in at the time. She'd already turned him down. Explicitly. At least two or three times.

He wouldn't take no for an answer and didn't see anything wrong with his behavior.

Perhaps he'd seen too many movies where the guy eventually breaks through the girl's defenses and essentially coerces her into going out with him?

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Parents make mistakes. We want to believe that parents are doing there very best to raise their kids, but sometimes they do more harm than good.

Research into childhood trauma didn't actually begin until the 1970s, so we don't have as much knowledge about our mental health as adults as we might like.

However, a study that followed 1,420 from 1992 to 2015 found conclusive results about childhood trauma:

"'It is a myth to believe that childhood trauma is a rare experience that only affects few,' the researchers say."
"Rather, their population sample suggests, 'it is a normative experience—it affects the majority of children at some point.'"
"A surprising 60 percent of those in the study were exposed to at least one trauma by age 16. Over 30 percent were exposed to multiple traumatic events."

Not all of the things our parents do that were not so helpful technically classify as trauma, but it definitely has an effect on us as we get older.

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Breaking up is something that never gets easier.

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On the outside, so many professions and careers look glamorous, financially enticing, and fun.

Often we sit back in our own lives and wallow in our dead-end jobs with that "wish I could do that for a living mentality!"

But if you look a little closer or, much like Dorothy Gale in OZ, just wait for a Toto to push the curtain back, you'll see that a lot more is going on behind the scenes.

And the shenanigans we don't see, make all that fun... evaporate.

So many careers and high power industries are built on a foundation of lies, backstabbing, and stress. And not in that fun "Dynasty" way.

That quiet, dead-end gig may not be so bad after all.

Redditor MethodicallyDeep wanted hear all the tea about certain careers, by asking:

What is a secret in your industry that should be talked about?
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