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You don't have to be a man to understand a man's problems. Odds are, his wife is ready to tell you exactly what's wrong with him. Hey-oh!

...Speaking truthfully, being a man does come with its own share of societal problems, but the public acceptance of being allowed to talk about them may not exist. In that regard, perhaps a woman speaking up for a man is the way to go?


Reddit user, u/-ThorMan-, wanted to know what's the worst of the worst when they asked:

Women of reddit, what do you think would be the worst part of being a man?

Taking The First Leap

Having to build up the courage to ask a girl out on a date. I got asked out by some guys I wasn't attracted to at first glance, but I still went because I know how much it takes to approach a stranger.

nainamaina

Stepping Up

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I can increase my attractiveness if I need a confidence boost by applying some light makeup and wearing flattering clothes.

It doesn't seem that easy for dudes

_banana_panda_

Everyone Thinks The Worst Of You

you can't be near parks or schools without someone thinking you might be paedophile. if you walk anywhere alone after dark women are scared of you thinking you might be sexual predator. generally people being scared and thinking the worst while you might actually be the nicest guy who would help anyone and couldn't hurt a fly.

fantsukissa

There's Only That One Sweet Spot

Height. If you're a short woman you get called 'cute' and if you're tall a 'model'. So win win. I've seen so many cases where there would be a smart/handsome looking guy that would be below 5'11 (180cm) get rejected for an average looking stupid guy that's 6ft+.

Bellekaleeze

"Know what I call guys shorter than 5'11"? Friends." is a super common tinder bio.

williamblair

Is It Okay To Assume Either? Or Should You Just Assume Neither?

Figuring out if a women is actually into you or is just being friendly.

Future_South

It's easy. Assume no woman likes you, because that's usually the case.

unicornsex

Where Is It Okay To Cry?

Not being able to show emotion in the same way

Amethyst1408

My dad beat my a-- whenever I cried, so I think it subconsciously deterred me from crying. Then two decades later, I cried during an episode of Futurama and figured I was cured.

MisoCurry

Are You Even Allowed To Have Problems?

The pressure of being perfect. You have to look good, smell good, be good, be great at your job, be the rock, be the glue that holds sh-t together. & you aren't even able to have a break down and cry when it gets too much.

EDIT - I truly understand that women too can feel this way. However this post is asking about MEN. Men do feel this way and they also have every right too.

I would also struggle as a man that it seems when a man has a issue people jump to 'this doesn't just apply to men, this applies to women too' .. that must be truly frustrating to have your problems downplayed and made out to not really be a problem because everyone can feel that way.

erniebernie123

This Might Be The Stiffest Thing To Deal With As A Teenager

Unexpected boners

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It would be the hardest part, yes.

portablecabbage

No One's Ever There

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Not receiving emotional support.

Edit: I'm sorry you guys are all dealing with this. It sucks. For the ladies also dealing with this, I'm sorry it sucks.

Everyone, don't be afraid to reach out for support. If someone slaps you down for it they are not the right person to be around.

If all else fails see a therapist. You go to doctors to take care of your body. Go take care of your mind too. You don't have to be depressed or have a mental health issue. Sometimes it's nice to just speak to someone without judgement and no one has to know about the visits but you.

Much love.

TomBoysHaveMoreFun

No Defense Given

Men cannot defend themselves from women without it exploding in their faces.

it's ridiculous, you have a right to defend yourself, gender nor age should be a factor on your wellbeing.

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Now that college has become a standard requirement for so many jobs and careers, there is a massive push by high schools to get their graduating students accepted and enrolled at an undergraduate college.

On the whole, that's undoubtedly a great thing. A more educated workforce will be prepared to solve the most complex issues facing human beings in the next several decades.

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*The following article contains discussion of suicide/self-harm.

The person on the other end of a 911 call has a truly remarkable job.

For those who don't play that professional role, we hope to never encounter the 911 call interaction. But if we do find ourselves making that call, the moment is an anomaly in our lives.

The chaos, the panic, the racing heart, and the desperation are all emotions we, ideally, don't experience on a regular basis.

But for the operator on the other end, our call is one in a long line of calls they've received all day, and all the workdays before that one.

It's difficult to imagine being embedded in those uniquely urgent, emergency moments all the time.

Some Redditors who are on the other end of that call shared their experiences on the job.

WhimsicalxxButcher asked, "911 dispatchers what has been your most creepy/unnerving call?"

For a few, the most unnerving moments were the calm callers.

There was something just so eerie about how level-headed the faceless human being on the other end could be through such a desperate, tragic moment.

Almost Clinical 

"I had a friend who worked as a 911 dispatcher and he always said the worst call he ever had was a ~20 year old kid who committed suicide by mixing a bunch of chemicals together in his car to produce hydrogen sulfide gas."

"He said that the most unnerving part was hearing him calmly listing off the chemicals, the type of gas produced, and the effects of hydrogen sulfide on the body (namely the almost instant death it causes at high concentrations)."

"He ended the call by providing the address of the parking lot he was in and saying that nobody should approach the vehicle without hazmat equipment."

"Apparently after that there was a whooshing sound as he dumped the last chemical into the mix, and then the line went dead silent aside for a quiet fizzing noise."

"I know that call screwed him up because he almost never talks about stuff that happens to him on the job. He quit a few months later to go into construction management, and frankly I can't blame him."

-- iunoyou

Planned Out 

"A woman called me, saying she was going to kill herself. She was gassing herself. Gave me her name & address then said she was just going to lie down and 'go to sleep.' And stopped responding to me."

"I kept the line open, trying to get her to speak to me, and eventually heard officers forcing their way in to find her body. I guess she just wanted someone to find her body."

-- mozgw4

Before It Set In 

"When I got a call from a 6 year old who got home from school and laid down to take a nap with his dad. His dad never woke up."

"The kid was so calm when calling it broke my heart."

"I ended up leaving dispatch shortly after. I was good at compartmentalizing the job for the year I was doing it, but it would've broken me in the long run."

-- tasha7712

Other 911 operators were unfortunate enough to receive a call from the very last person they wanted to hear from: a loved one.

These dispatchers' unique position gave them the unexpected access to a family member or friend at their most dire moments.

No More of That 

"My family member is a long time first responder, and 'retired' into doing dispatch. He heard the address (someone else was taking the call) and realized it was his daughter's house."

"He rushed over there just in time to see them wheeling her body out. Overdose."

"Five months later, he was called to his ex-wife's place because his grandson (son of the daughter who recently passed) had his door locked, lights on, but wasn't responding to his grandma."

"He broke the door down and found him deceased in bed. Overdose."

"He's very stoic after years of all sorts of traumatic situations but my heart hurts whenever I think of what all of this must have felt like. Like sand through your fingers."

-- bitchyhouseplant

Knowing the Address

"Not me, but my grandma. I was sitting in the dispatch office, (very small one only 2 dispatchers including my grandma) but she put out a dispatch that there was a gun shot from my best friends address."

"My heart sank to my stomach and broke later that day. He committed suicide."

-- OntaiSenpuu

When it Happened 

"My uncle passing away. Worked as a small town dispatcher for a year or so. Had a bunch of messed up stuff happen on shift, but this call came in in the still hours of the night. Small town, so not many calls after midnight."

"I answered and recognized the name and address on caller id. Aunt was in a frenzy so didn't recognize my voice. I remained calm and got ems and fire rolling to them, but by my aunt's own words he was already blue."

"I went thru debriefing and mandated therapy for a couple other things that happened, but never really talked to anyone about this. I just try not to think about it."

"That was the call I figured out I needed to find a different job."

-- dangitjon

Finally, some simply had a front row seat to sudden tragedy.

These operators were flies on the wall when disaster struck. They never asked to witness what they witnessed, but sometimes that came with the territory.

A Holiday Tragedy 

"My mom is a 911 dispatcher. Early on she said one Christmas Eve while working she got a call from an elderly lady who's husband had just collapsed(and died) from a heart attack and in the background Alvin and the Chipmunks Christmas music was playing on blast."

"The lady was screaming and crying and begging for her husband to wake up but my mom could hear his gurgling in his last breathes. She doesn't listen to or watch Alvin and the chipmunks since."

-- Blueflowerbluehair

What is it About Christmas?

"Christmas night. 911 call with crying child on the other end. A neighbor had run her car over her mom during a domestic."

"The mom crawled to the porch bleeding and the child saw the car coming back. I had her hide quietly in a closet with the cordless phone."

"The 10 year old child was crying and screamed that she hated Christmas. She was afraid of the police when they got there."

"I kept her on the phone until she felt safe enough to give the phone to an officer. I almost fainted after that call was over. Had nightmares for a while."

-- 2FunBoofer

Close to Home 

"Not a dispatcher but I handle radio communications for the Coast Guard. One night I was on the radio and got a call from an 11 year old kid whose boat had started to sink. He was out with his dad and 6 year old brother."

"They had been hit by another boat and his father got knocked unconscious. I remember the entire conversation up until the radio had gone underwater."

"They ended up finding his dad floating on his back alive but the two boys didn't make it. That one really fu**ed with me because my two littlest brothers were around the same age as the youngest."

-- HIRSH2243

A Horrible Clock 

"Another one that stays with me was the man who called in. It was the anniversary of his adult son having hanged himself. He'd now come home to find his wife had done the same."

"That date is always going to be a black day for him."

-- mozgw4


If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/

Again, we hope you never have to use the 911 call in your life. Nobody wants to be involved in a sudden emergency or a tragic incident.

But hopefully, if you do, an operator like one of these thoughtful, sensitive Redditors is on the other end.

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