You don't have to be a man to understand a man's problems. Odds are, his wife is ready to tell you exactly what's wrong with him. Hey-oh!
...Speaking truthfully, being a man does come with its own share of societal problems, but the public acceptance of being allowed to talk about them may not exist. In that regard, perhaps a woman speaking up for a man is the way to go?
Reddit user, u/-ThorMan-, wanted to know what's the worst of the worst when they asked:
Women of reddit, what do you think would be the worst part of being a man?
Taking The First Leap
Having to build up the courage to ask a girl out on a date. I got asked out by some guys I wasn't attracted to at first glance, but I still went because I know how much it takes to approach a stranger.
Stepping Up
GiphyI can increase my attractiveness if I need a confidence boost by applying some light makeup and wearing flattering clothes.
It doesn't seem that easy for dudes
Everyone Thinks The Worst Of You
you can't be near parks or schools without someone thinking you might be paedophile. if you walk anywhere alone after dark women are scared of you thinking you might be sexual predator. generally people being scared and thinking the worst while you might actually be the nicest guy who would help anyone and couldn't hurt a fly.
There's Only That One Sweet Spot
Height. If you're a short woman you get called 'cute' and if you're tall a 'model'. So win win. I've seen so many cases where there would be a smart/handsome looking guy that would be below 5'11 (180cm) get rejected for an average looking stupid guy that's 6ft+.
"Know what I call guys shorter than 5'11"? Friends." is a super common tinder bio.
Is It Okay To Assume Either? Or Should You Just Assume Neither?
Figuring out if a women is actually into you or is just being friendly.
It's easy. Assume no woman likes you, because that's usually the case.
Where Is It Okay To Cry?
Not being able to show emotion in the same way
My dad beat my a-- whenever I cried, so I think it subconsciously deterred me from crying. Then two decades later, I cried during an episode of Futurama and figured I was cured.
Are You Even Allowed To Have Problems?
The pressure of being perfect. You have to look good, smell good, be good, be great at your job, be the rock, be the glue that holds sh-t together. & you aren't even able to have a break down and cry when it gets too much.
EDIT - I truly understand that women too can feel this way. However this post is asking about MEN. Men do feel this way and they also have every right too.
I would also struggle as a man that it seems when a man has a issue people jump to 'this doesn't just apply to men, this applies to women too' .. that must be truly frustrating to have your problems downplayed and made out to not really be a problem because everyone can feel that way.
This Might Be The Stiffest Thing To Deal With As A Teenager
Unexpected boners
It would be the hardest part, yes.
No One's Ever There
GiphyNot receiving emotional support.
Edit: I'm sorry you guys are all dealing with this. It sucks. For the ladies also dealing with this, I'm sorry it sucks.
Everyone, don't be afraid to reach out for support. If someone slaps you down for it they are not the right person to be around.
If all else fails see a therapist. You go to doctors to take care of your body. Go take care of your mind too. You don't have to be depressed or have a mental health issue. Sometimes it's nice to just speak to someone without judgement and no one has to know about the visits but you.
Much love.
No Defense Given
Men cannot defend themselves from women without it exploding in their faces.
it's ridiculous, you have a right to defend yourself, gender nor age should be a factor on your wellbeing.
- People Break Down The Worst Part About Being Their Age - George Takei ›
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Redditor Deviant55 wanted to talk about physical intimacy in relationships, so they asked:
"How important is sex to you in a relationship? Could you be with someone you love even if sex was off the table indefinitely?"
I learned how much sex matters in my last relationship.
Once I wasn't interested, it kind of killed everything.
Forever
GIF by moodmanGiphy"When my wife of 30+ years became too ill for sex to be even remotely interesting for her, I certainly did not end the relationship. I loved her and I took care of her until she died. No other course even occurred to me."
fvillion
Frustration
"When I met my wife we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. This lasted a few years. I was in my mid-twenties when we married. She developed a chronic medical issue. I’ve gone twenty years being sexually frustrated. There are stages and phases to this."
"What I came to realize is that I love my wife. Yes, sex is important in our relationship. But I would rather have her in my life with no sex than have sex without her."
"The thing is, I love her. She can’t help her situation. I can’t help it. One deals with it. Marriage is more than sex. It is building a life and memories, raising a family, and loving each other regardless of the challenges life throws our way. But sex is very important. It helps keep the closeness and the emotional bond. But it isn’t the only thing that does that."
QuietusNoctis
I Love Her
"It is complicated. I am in a near-sexless marriage. The wife needs antidepressants to function. And it kills her libido. So usually it is four to six times a year. My libido rages. And yeah, it sucks. I dream of more sex."
"But I love the chick. She loves me to the moon and back. I’m not willing to sacrifice her love so I can try dating again. Divorce rates these days? And I found a woman who more than tolerates me, she loves me. I’ll stay. And not to be crude but yeah I masturbate. A lot. She doesn’t begrudge me that. Occasionally she even encourages it."
"She went off her meds for a while. And man did we do it. But she was a mess. I need her healthy more than I need a shag. We travel together. We enjoy each other’s company. We actually like each other. I could claim that it is hell, but I choose to see all of the good I am blessed with."
painthawg_goose
Heartless
"Quite important. But I think it depends on where you are in the relationship. I've been married for 10 years. I have kids. If my wife suddenly couldn't have sex with me for some reason -- illness or injury or something -- I'm not divorcing her over it. That's heartless."
"Now, if she just decided we weren't ever having sex again because she didn't feel like it, that'd be different. Or if I was just starting to date someone and they told me they'd never have sex, I probably just wouldn't keep pursuing the relationship. Plenty of people out there who will."
Arkhangelzk
Necessity
"It depends on the circumstances. I LOVE doing it with my man but I love his heart and soul more. If we had to stop having sex for medical reasons or something I’d definitely stay with him and stay faithful. If I was single, I think it’s unlikely I’d start a new relationship knowing it would be sex free."
Fit_Technology8240
Heart and soul is just as necessary and hot and sweaty.
At least a lot of people recognize that.
Percentages
Giphy"Sex life is 10% of a relationship when it’s good and 90% of a relationship when it’s bad."
jakovichontwitch
"The other way I've heard it put is that sex is like the bathroom in your house. It's not the only reason you bought the house, but if it's not working it's a big problem."
molten_dragon
Age Related
"50-year-old here married for 27 years. It’s not important. It was important when we were younger but honestly, if sex wasn’t possible I would still love my wife and really nothing about our day would really change."
Kantforall
"I’ve been reading these comments and wishing that everyone’s age was flared on their post because I sense that there are a lot of under-60-year-olds. I am older than my wife but she is starting menopause and I can see the writing on the wall. Not super thrilled but I love her completely and understand. The real intimacy is in how we still (and will always) want to sleep touching each other and waking up next to each other."
caffeinated-hijinx
Kiss Me
"I honestly considered this before. I absolutely adored this guy. It was like a child relationship; we'd kiss and cuddle and hold hands and things, but he wouldn't have sex with me, nor would he commit properly. Any time we came close to sex, he'd go soft or back off."
"I couldn't understand it, wondered if I could keep doing that. My sex drive was wild. Why kiss and the rest but not sex?"
"Then one day he told me he was in love with me and asked me out properly. I said yes there and then, had a wonderful day with him, but when I went home, I was left questioning if I could possibly live without sex. I decided that yeah, I loved him but it would be tough."
"We had sex the next day. So yes, I think I probably could."
Adventurous_Train_48
Touchy/affectionate...
"It's very important. I'm a very affectionate and physical person and touch/caresses and anything physical is one of my love languages. I couldn't function with someone who is the opposite of me or who's uncomfortable with how I am. I already was in a relationship with someone who wasn't that touchy/affectionate and it created frustration for both of us."
Borboleta77
Don't Look at Me
"I am in a sexless relationship. He has erectile dysfunction and I really don't like sex in general. I'm really uncomfortable naked or even vulnerable. I'm shy around him despite the relationship being 10 years nearly, I'm even shy around my family and friends. Everything about sex makes me feel so embarrassed, and I feel nothing but negative feelings when I used to be sexually active. Not through choice of partner, I just hate that sort of attention."
NucularOrchid
Definitive!
Shake Handshake GIF by OriginalsGiphy"10/10. Sexual incompatibility is a deal breaker!"
oeeiae
Sex is important but not everything.
Until it is everything if it becomes an issue.
Good luck couples. Open and honest communication is key.
