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Being an adult can be difficult. No one taught me how to negotiate my salary for a job, for example. It was just something I had to figure out on my own and it made moving up in the working world a bit rocky. That said, I've always known how to cook well and clean properly, which is more than I can say about some of the people I know. Everyone has their own strengths. I also vastly prefer being an adult to being a teenager! It's a lot more fun.
After Redditor IllustriousLaw_4248 asked the online community, "What is an adult problem that no one prepared you for?" people shared some of their experiences.
"It starts so slowly..."
<p>Watching your parents growing old. It starts so slowly and suddenly you have to help your father carrying things, notice how tired they have become...</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m6xj2i/what_is_an_adult_problem_that_nobody_prepared/gr85e7c?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">bookworm1876</a></p>"My shoulders and neck..."
<p>Me: "My shoulders and neck hurt every morning when I get out of the bed. Maybe I damaged something?"</p><p>My Doctor: "You are 32... Thats the new normal now."</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m6xj2i/what_is_an_adult_problem_that_nobody_prepared/gr8ltks?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">OneMorePotion</a></p>"Having to decide..."
<p>Having to decide what you want to have for dinner every day for the rest of your life.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m6xj2i/what_is_an_adult_problem_that_nobody_prepared/gr8d2lz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">shaodyn</a></p>This one is definitely annoying.
<p>And especially so when you've had a busy day of work and realize you forgot to take out some meat to defrost let alone found the time to prep some vegetables. Cooking dinner can be more time consuming than people think.</p>"Comparing yourself..."
<p>Comparing yourself to your parents when they were your age and realizing they didn't know what the hell they were doing either.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m6xj2i/what_is_an_adult_problem_that_nobody_prepared/gr83had?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">dusty_kat</a></p>"As a kid..."
<p>Loneliness.</p><p>As a kid, there were always lots of other kids around. You weren't left completely unattended for any significant period of time. As an adult, I can go weeks without talking to anyone about anything not work-related.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m6xj2i/what_is_an_adult_problem_that_nobody_prepared/gr840ut?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">2legit_2care</a></p>"School is so easy..."
<p>It takes a lot more work to maintain relationships as an adult. School is so easy when you are stuck together but even if your colleagues are amazing it isn't the same.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m6xj2i/what_is_an_adult_problem_that_nobody_prepared/gr95cij?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">GoldieFable</a></p>It definitely is difficult.
<p>And takes a lot of effort. I do my best to stay on top of my friends and what they're doing, but it can be draining when you have work and other responsibilities.</p>"Looking in the mirror..."
<p>Looking in the mirror every day and thinking "girl, you look tired." And then realizing one day that <em>this is how my face looks now.</em></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m6xj2i/what_is_an_adult_problem_that_nobody_prepared/gr8o4av?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">WendyWindfall</a></p>"As a kid, you just hung out."
<p>Making friends and connections without spending a fortune. As a kid, you just hung out. As an adult, it seems like I need to spend $60 for a monthly membership or $40 for a night out. It's like a pay-to-play system.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m6xj2i/what_is_an_adult_problem_that_nobody_prepared/gr86axd?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">snailer_33</a></p>Going out is EXPENSIVE.
<p>I say that as someone who loves to go out (but who gets creative with it thanks to watching their wallet.</p>"No one told me..."
<p>No one told me how incompetent adults would be. When I was a kid I thought people with jobs and people, in general, would be competent. Boy was I wrong. Competent people are the exception, not the norm.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m6xj2i/what_is_an_adult_problem_that_nobody_prepared/gr98u36?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">mmoloney2</a></p>This is accurate.
<p>The number of stupid people I had to deal with on a daily basis when I worked retail was soul-crushing.</p>"When I became an adult..."
<p>How fast you can get out of shape. For me exercise was always a part of socialization, i.e. teams, competition. When I became an adult and wanted to get back in shape it was just me and the equipment.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m6xj2i/what_is_an_adult_problem_that_nobody_prepared/gr8k875?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">BobFX</a></p>Being an adult doesn't have to be depressing.
<p>Life can be nice––but it takes a certain investment. That's easier said than done, admittedly. Be kinder to yourselves.</p><p>Have some of your own stories to share? Need to vent about adulthood? Feel free to do so in the comments section!</p>| Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay |
One of the more maligned horror film subgenres is the one featuring escaped mental patients. For every good one (Nightmare in a Damaged Brain, anyone?) there's all sorts of crap that's barely even worth a time slot on the SyFy Channel. These stories can be rather problematic, too, but that's another article in and of itself. But guess what? Psychologists do know what it's like to have an unsettling patient or two. We're certain they occasionally hear things that keep them up at night.
After Redditor dodge_menace asked the online community, "Psychologists, what is the most bone chilling thing a patient has said to you?" people shared their stories.
"I've heard some disturbing stories..."
<p> I work with complex trauma patients. I've heard some disturbing stories that would keep me up at night if I didn't have to take a medication that makes me really drowsy. One that has been on my mind lately is a patient whose dad died (of a heart attack, IIRC) when she was young and her mom didn't tell anyone, instead choosing to keep the body in a spare room. The patient described in detail the last time she saw her dad's body, when it had spent several weeks decomposing.</p><p>In general, I'm pretty comfortable letting patients talk through their homicidal fantasies, and that yields some disturbing things. One young man used to talk about how he loved to daydream about cutting abusive family members to pieces, roasting them, and feeding them to the neighbor's dogs. The most disturbing part to me is that he was actually one of the sweetest patients I've ever worked with. Genuinely would never hurt a fly, but just had this really dark daydream he'd carry around.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m3nvcy/psychologists_of_reddit_what_is_the_most_bone/gqroldg?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">CurveoftheUniverse</a></p>"He wanted to flay him..."
<p>I had a patient explain to me in detail how he planned to kill his neighbor. He wanted to flay him put him in the ground and cover him with horse manure so he would slowly die of infection. I informed my supervisor. His neighbor was warned and my patient was picked up by the police. Not sure how that case turned out.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m3nvcy/psychologists_of_reddit_what_is_the_most_bone/gqqy41d?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">shaniusc</a></p>"That they liked to watch..."
<p>That they liked to watch videos of babies crying when they felt upset because it made them feel happier and more relaxed.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m3nvcy/psychologists_of_reddit_what_is_the_most_bone/gqqv0iw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">MorticiaBlue</a></p>WHAT.
<p>What did we just read?</p><p>Unsettling.</p>"I work mainly in mental health..."
<p>I work mainly in mental health and I had a client tell me they were going to throw the boiling oil I had been frying chicken with in my face. Then they proceeded to punch me in the back.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m3nvcy/psychologists_of_reddit_what_is_the_most_bone/gqscdn7?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Sgtpal</a></p>That is terrifying.
<p>The fear of being assaulted can be a very real one.</p>"My recommendation was not to parole him."
<p>Clinical psychologist here. I used to work in a prison and did a parole evaluation for an inmate that was a high-ranking gang member in a national gang. By his account, he was the highest-ranking in the state. In fact he was placed in that prison to hold his "people" accountable and keep the peace. He had a long violent record and was, in my opinion, a genuine psychopath.</p><p>Part of the eval is discussing the crime and assessing remorse and whatnot. He was so clinical in his description of how he tortured and left this guy to die over an unpaid debt. "Live by the sword, die by the sword" was his phraseology for the act. Like it was nothing.</p><p>He was also very nonchalant about his ability to "take care of his business" while inside. I believed him. He had only spent 18 months of his last 15 years outside of prison.<span></span></p>To which this person replied:
<p>Criminal defence lawyer here: A lot of those guys basically understand that we exist in the system, but that we're in a different role than they are. So, they might kill a guy for shorting them on cash because he's part of their world, but not be upset at the prosecutor who sends him to jail for a decade because that prosecutor isn't. It's an interesting disconnect.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/db18b5/psychologists_of_reddit_have_you_ever_been/f1yde27?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">varsil</a></p>"Luckily..."
<p>A few people had unpredictable anger and outbursts that could be scary at times, and once a husband brought a gun to a couples therapy session and threatened to kill himself/wife.</p><p>Luckily we were able to calm the situation down, but things like that can end badly, and you always have to be aware of that possibility when emotions run high.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/db18b5/psychologists_of_reddit_have_you_ever_been/f1ya3wq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">NadiaLee81</a></p>"The client had a volatile temper..."
<p>Had a client years ago who had recently gotten out of prison for assaulting a police officer pretty badly. The client had a volatile temper and lived in a violent family growing up. The client never got angry with me, personally. However, while talking about their family and other people in their life the client would get so worked up with anger that I sometimes wondered if I was safe. I started pretending to be on "emergency call" duty in the clinic where I worked so that I had an excuse to carry a walkie-talkie with me during our sessions. Shortly after I began doing that, I terminated the therapeutic relationship and referred the client for a completely different type of treatment than what I provided. The last I heard, the new treatment method was helping the client.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/db18b5/psychologists_of_reddit_have_you_ever_been/f1ynrs9?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Glitzyn</a></p>"I've never been afraid..."
<p>Clinical psychologist in training here. I've never been afraid, but my friend had a client once who made her extremely uncomfortable. Without revealing any information that could break confidentiality, I will say that he had issues with masturbating too much (and not doing much else), and at one point asked my friend if they could watch porn together in the next session so he could show her what he does... At another time, he talked about his masturbation habits while touching himself through his pants a bit - totally inappropriate behavior, obviously. This client had lots of other issues, but when these things came up, her supervisor took her off the case because it wasn't suitable for training and my friend didn't feel safe.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/db18b5/psychologists_of_reddit_have_you_ever_been/f1xh720?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">iamnotsaturn</a></p>"When I started..."
<p>I'm a psychologist now, but, between undergraduate and graduate school, I worked at this facility with male teenage sex offenders for about two years:</p><p><a href="https://www.youthvillages.org/services/residential-programs/inner-harbour-campus/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.youthvillages.org/services/residential-programs/inner-harbour-campus/</a></p><p>It was the single worst period of my entire life.</p><p>When I started, I generally had faith in the staff, and I really wanted to help the kids. It probably wasn't six weeks in before all of the stress got to me. The kids knew that most of the rules were not enforceable, and they could constantly curse at us, threaten us, steal, break rules, manipulate the system, and act out with very few repercussions. I think it was my second day there when I saw a kid break down a steel door with a chair. They would provoke staff. They would provoke each other so they could force staff to intervene and try to get the staff in harm's way. What's worse, I'm a bit of a straightforward and by-the-book guy, and the kids started to learn that I would enforce the rules, and they started to hate me and target me.</p>Well, this was quite the read.
<p>We applaud the psychologists who keep going, continue to care about their patients, and do their best work despite some of the risks. And to those who couldn't, that's okay too. Safeguarding your own mental health is so important.</p><p>Have some stories of your own? Feel free to share them with us in the comments section below.</p>| Image by gabrielle_cc from Pixabay |
I feel like over the course of the last decade or so there has been an uptick in people changing their names when they reach adulthood. Some people make some good changes and others, are clearly too high to be making such life altering choices. But a lot of theses names are being changed, because parents themselves, were clearly incapable of properly making some of these decisions as well. And society has taken notice.
Redditor u/Hasden2007 wanted to discuss the names people have given their kids that make us all feel bad that some people have kids by asking... What is the worst name you could give a child?"ME"
<p>I was named after my grandfather, word for word. Nice man, but dull name. At least I've always thought so. I waited until I was eighteen and the day I could do it, I changed it. Well, some of it. My mother wasn't furious, but oh well. I'm the one who had to live with it. A name is for <em>LIFE,</em> you would think more thought would go into more of them. </p><p>What's in a name? Let's find out...</p>Scrub
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTg0NDk1NC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0NDUyMTY3NX0.9Wv26UPGicjrc5875RCvKF8sQkQ1fS9l6MsADqY7U1o/img.gif?width=980" id="03b25" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="4626d633e95295037c22465904e1f7ab" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="500" data-height="278" />crossfire hurricane vintage GIFGiphy<p>My coworker named her baby "Strawberry Rain", which would be a great name if she had given birth to a bottle of shampoo. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqw4zca?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">captainmagictrousers</a></p>Brewing Weather...
<p>There was a girl in high school with the last name Storms. She got knocked up at 14. She named the kid Sylva Winta. I always thought was really terrible. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqwpp1w?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">lizzpop2003</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqwpp1w?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a>Knew a girl named Summer Storm who had a sister named Winter.</p><p>Winter and their mom were strippers. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqy0rqi?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"> PM_ME_SUMD**K</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PM_ME_SUMDICK/" target="_blank"></a></p>Oh Richie...
<p>I actually went to school with a guy named Richard Rash. To make it worse his mother was a teacher there. Poor Dick couldn't catch a break. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqw5md4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">LilPeaHen</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqw5md4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"></a>There was a name game in the 1800s where you'd shorten a name, and then rhyme it. Like William to Will to Bill, or Richard to Rick to Dick. </p>The Spare
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTg0ODQyMS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2MjA5NDM5Nn0.aGOvI2rfuN2-pxLEVQ5A2Ijso2CqetTvHPDAOBHdZHE/img.gif?width=980" id="32f5b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="116d4e025c8aea14e5ee3347a216f9f7" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="268" />Awkward John Krasinski GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy<p>I went to school with a younger-brother named Justin Case.</p><p>Sorry man. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqx30t6?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">davethemacguy</a></p>No Name
<p>How about not giving your child a name? There was a kid I went to high school with whose legal first name was "Unnamed Baby Boy." I don't know the story behind that though. </p><p>That's awful.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqwkx5k?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">NotEvenJohn</a></p>"Seriously?"
<p>Now you can't tell me some of those people were indulging in some mind altering stimulants when they chose these life labels. Whether you're a parent or renaming yourself, how could one possibly think these were sufficient options? Let's continue...</p>Size Matters
<p>I have a friend named Johnson. That's no big deal, but his last name is Smalls. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqw4sfy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">hotdogfluster</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqw4sfy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"></a>Peter Tiny would like a word. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqwjcnt?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">MeddlingDragon</a></p>Serve it Hot
<p>There's a British chef, jamie oliver, who named his children the following:</p><ul><li>poppy honey rosie</li><li>petal blossom rainbow</li><li>buddy bear maurice</li><li>daisy boo pamela</li><li>river rocket blue dallas someone call childline. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqwsrkh?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">peachxstile</a></li></ul>Go with a Veg
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTg0ODQ1OS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY3MTUzNjUzOH0.A3-4MNffxY3tukrn1VKnzPAoH-3XqRsEqUO--UmrVqA/img.gif?width=980" id="8124b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="8deb6b7dc717e6d299fe2090000c01df" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="600" data-height="450" />fruit GIF by Dead Set on LifeGiphy<p>I have heard of many bad names, but <a href="https://www.newsshopper.co.uk/news/11172578.anus-sex-fruit-and-21-more-hilarious-and-weird-banned-baby-names/" target="_blank">Sex Fruit</a> is probably the worst I have seen. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqw2ooc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">RoyalGelly</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqw2ooc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"></a>And people get mad when you call their children "crotch fruit", here they are doing it to their kids themselves! </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqx17lb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">shinygoldhelmet</a></p>Parents are Crazy
<p>I was a high s hill teacher for many many years and have seen some real crazy names throughout the past 4 decades including each decades " trend". The worst name ever? Still can't believe it and this was about 8-9 years ago - I had a girl with the first name Swastika. Fortunately she went by the nickname Tika but who does that to a child? </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqwm1s2?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Available_Honey_2951</a></p>Hey Girl
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTg0ODQ2My9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1MDM4MzY2OX0.muHgElZxyck-M0T20osCg4H_RJEdcDG_GTFiVW73xik/img.gif?width=980" id="ce3ea" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="accd6410dc8f4fafbabf2781bd7d4b65" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />Netflix Sam Dean GIF by DaybreakGiphy<p>Princess. A girl in my high school was legally named princess but she went by her middle name. There was also a girl who's name was Sunny Day and she was the emo kid. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/m4the7/what_is_the_worst_name_you_could_give_a_child/gqxawok?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">ugly_crier420</a></p>Unless you've just realized a lifelong dream of becoming a doctor, finding yourself in the hospital is not a joyous occasion.
Whether you are patient, employee, or concerned loved one, the hospital is a place known for its high-stress elements, morbid realities, and involuntary bodily functions.
All of those common elements can be quite scary, especially while you're in that heightened state of mental stress.
Plenty of Redditors know that full well, and from personal experience. They shared their stories.
le_kif420 asked, "What was the most terrifying thing that you've experienced while staying in a hospital?"
Many Redditors found it scariest to wake up in a hospital bed. Often disoriented, under the influence of drugs, or generally worried for their safety, the moments after the eyes open can be full of panic.
The In-Between World
"I was strapped down and on a ventilator. I woke up and I was on heavy drugs so I kept thinking I was in a very bad dream and and trying to get out."
"I only did that a couple times but I remember having to be told it was real and not a dream. Whatever I think is real is the dream. And after a few seconds it would clear up."
A Regular Refresher
"When I woke up in the hospital buckled to the bed and didn't know why I was there. Happened more than once because it was for a brain injury and I couldn't remember why I was there so I kept trying to escape."
"They ended up writing on a whiteboard at the end of my bed that I'm supposed to be there and stuff."
-- Zeliv
Way Too Public
"I had intestinal surgery when I was about 13. Recovery was about 7 days to be sure that all the plumbing was working properly."
"Well about the 5th day I had woken up to a fairly large wet spot covering my crotch and gown."
"Turns out I had a wet dream and was still unable to move easily to clean myself so I had to inform the nurse. I know it's not much compared to these others, but to a 13 year old it was a nightmare!"
-- 19rotuken84
Too Many Tubes
"It really wasn't that bad but I was 5 and very very scared. It was after waking up from anaesthesia after having my tonsils removed. Due to a genetic thing painkillers or anything anesthetic doesn't really affect me."
"So I wake up and I am in a huge amount of pain, I'm surrounded by strangers and I can't talk. And then I see the bandage on my arm from the IV and start crying."
"It felt like forever until my Dad and Mom were there. But definitely being alone, in pain and unable to voice it was the scariest thing for me."
For others, it was all about the screams.
The other people around them in the hospital were in far more pain or anguish than these Redditors, but there involuntary outbursts were enough to make them shutter.
A Lot for a 12-Year-Old to See
"Was about 12 years old got bit by a poisonous spider. In ER for it. The guy in the next curtain was apperently shot and stabbed with knife still in him."
"Nurses opened the curtain didnt realize me and my dad were in the next area over and so I saw a guy scream and holding in a knife in his gut."
A Tragic Twist
"I was in a car accident with my mom back in 1999 here in Texas. A large van ran the red light at a four way intersection and t-boned us. The accident was so bad they took us all by ambulance to the emergency room."
"The people who hit my mom and I were in the room next to us. The woman was heavily pregnant but explained to the doctors something felt off for many, many weeks but that her doctor in Mexico said the baby was fine."
"The ER doctors did an ultrasound and determined her baby was dead and that it wasn't due to the accident - they figured the baby had been dead for WEEKS."
"I'll never forget that woman's screams. It was heartbreaking. She kept screaming 'get it out of me, get it out of me.' "
"I'll never forget that moment."
A Pop and A Scream
"I spent some time in a psych ward as a kid. It was a bad place and pretty abusive. One of the staff members broke another kids arm and I remember hearing the boy screaming as it happened and afterwards."
"It was scary especially because we had no agency between being kids and psych patients so the staff had total control."
-- Heartlast
Others recalled the procedures they themselves endured. At the time, they were concerned, in pain, and frantic. They hope to never find themselves in that spot again.
ER Trip
"In the ER and was given an IV push for pain and left alone in a treatment room. I had a bad reaction to the medication (found out later, I can't have any form of opiates, real or synthetic, as I have a bad reaction.) In short, I tripped my fu**ing A** off, while bleeding heavily, and whatever they gave me seriously slowed my HR and my BP tanked."
"I'm not sure what was more terrifying: being fully conscious and aware in a body that is slowly shutting down, or being convinced there's a 7 foot tall shadow demon standing at the foot of your bed to take you to Hell when it's over."
-- geminiloveca
AHHHH
"It wasn't terrifying but the most awful thing I've ever felt. I had a drain put in after having my gallbladder removed and the next day the nurse came in to take it."
"That things was in there about 6/7 inches, right up into my stomach and she just slowly pulled it out. Oh a still shudder thinking about it."
-- thatisyucky
Close Call
"Giving birth. I lost a lot of blood, I was lying in bed and feeling really weak and cold when someone from the staff came to check on me."
"I asked if that's what it feels like to die, she didn't seem to take it seriously until she had checked some stuff at which point she got others there and then last thing I remember is them putting some mask on me, thinking I was going to die."
"Reading the journal it was initially estimated to be 0.8L blood loss but it was more than double that I lost. If she had checked on me later, I probably would have lost more blood."
-- jpesj
Hopefully, you never find yourself in the hospital facing such concerning moments like these ones. But if you do, know that you're not alone.
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