I hate mustard.
Yes, all of it.
Yes, wasabi mustard. Yes, fresh ground mustard. Yes, mustard powder in my curry. Yes, purple mustard. Yes, the greens too!
It's just ... it's gross, folks.
Please find a better food seed for your faith to be measured by. Mustard is awful.
Reddit user anonmitya asked:
"What is that one food/drink/snack/condiment/whatever that is very popular but that you personally don’t like?"
Turns out I'm not the only one who is just DOES NOT VIBE with a food.
Too Sweet
"Most icing or frosting on cake (except for cream cheese frosting in small amounts)."
"Its too sweet! I'd rather eat cake plain or maybe with whipped cream."
- RetiredEpi
"This is the most accurate thing I’ve ever seen."
"My family, especially my mother, LOVES icing. I just can’t take it - I swear I can feel the granules of sugar in it and it makes me feel nauseous."
"Cream cheese icing, especially if it’s homemade, I can enjoy in small bouts. The more it tastes like cream cheese, the more I like it."
- liveandletthrive
"I think you may not like American style butter cream icing, which is butter and icing sugar whipped up."
"It’s one note, but easy to use. People tend to put way too much on."
"Some grocery store cakes I have seen have an inch of icing, the corner or edge price with the piped edge on top."
- timesuck897
Disgusted New Girl GIF GiphyJust Ice Cream, Please
"Honestly not a fan of most 'too many additions' ice cream."
"You know the ones, they have 12 different things in them like raw cookie dough, chocolate bars, caramel, salted peanuts, and more... I like plain ice cream, I like ice cream with one or two additions, but the throw the entire sink of confectioneries at it really is just a sugar overload."
"When I want ice cream, I want ice cream. When I want cookies, I'll have them. When I want a chocolate bar, I'll eat one."
"I don't need to eat all of them together."
- VadPuma
"Lol I went to a 21 flavors and the person working there was talking about all these “amazing” flavors but when I just asked for chocolate she gave me the stink eye."
- getgnomedbtch
Ice Cream Cone Lick GIF by Katy Perry GiphyJiggy
"Coleslaw. Can't get jiggy with it."
- barito37
"See, it really depends on the coleslaw."
"When I was little, one of my relatives made this amazing coleslaw, I never knew his secret but it was the best coleslaw ever. My mom had told him over and over, I do NOT like coleslaw. It's true."
"Cause one day, I was eating a LOT of it and he laughed and said I must like it... I looked right at him and said: "Only this one."
"I hated all other forms of coleslaw because it didn't taste good."
"I don't know what he did to it to make it so light, but also rich, but also refreshing and peppery at the same time. It wasn't damp either, it was just... aaaa heaven."
"It was heaven."
"Anytime that family member was hosting a BBQ or invited us over for lunch he'd make it. Like, he and his wife loved me something fierce."
"I was technically their 'first' grandchild so they were like my adopted grandparents. They were my dad's aunt and uncle but I didn't call them that. They knew I loved some very specific things: His coleslaw and her strawberry shortcakes."
"The summer wasn't complete without going to one of their BBQs. This coleslaw tasted like summer and childhood happiness all in one."
"... Sorry this was a weird rant. I still hate coleslaw. I've never had one as good as his and while I've tried it... there just is something missing."
- Storm137
Andy Samberg Movie Awards 2016 GIF GiphyCheese Flavored
"Jellybeans."
"I’ve been traumatized by it when I had a friend offer me one. It tasted horrible because it was cheese flavoured."
"I can never look at them the same."
- PersonalityDifficult
"When they have those ones where two different flavours of beans look the same, but one tastes good and one tastes bad?"
"I don't like it, but I'll eat a grass, earwax or vomit flavoured bean. Sure I'll make a face, and a comment, but it's no big deal."
"I ate a "Butter Popcorn" flavoured bean once, it is the closest I ever came to throwing up from a food. And it was the 'good' one."
"To this day I will not eat white jelly beans with yellow dots, I don't care what you say it tastes like."
- keyringer
"I was the head of Marketing at Jelly Belly when we developed those weird flavors for the Harry Potter franchise (first sold as 'Bertie Botts Every Flavour Beans'), and I can tell you the backstory about the Vomit flavor."
"It's actually a flavor that we had previously developed but hadn't released: Pepperoni Pizza!"
"Thanks to the power of suggestion, if you eat one knowing that, the normal gag reflex isn't nearly as strong. Not that you should make any great effort to try it!"
- PeteHealey
Paris Hilton Reaction GIF GiphyBrew-haha
"Beer. Like literally any kind of beer."
"I tell people this and I always get the same 'it's an acquired taste' or 'you just have to find one that's actually good. Try my favorite beer.' "
"No. It's not going to happen."
"I'm 31 and I've tried beer countless times. I just think it's f*cking disgusting. It just tastes like old rotten garbage to me."
- bobthebobofbob
"Someone else who doesn't like beer!"
"I find beer is inherently bitter and so I hate it. I've tried so many different beers too."
"Only time I like beer is when it's been used to make stew because I can add sweet vegetables like carrots, boil off a load of the alcohol and maybe add some honey for good measure to get rid of that awful bitter taste."
"For drinking I'd much rather have something that actually tastes nice like cider or rum."
- MoonChaser22
Samuel L Jackson Beer GIF GiphyDaddy Issues
"Miracle Whip."
"I haven’t been able to eat it since I witnessed how my dad eats hot dogs."
"It’s a microwaved hot dog on a slice of white bread with American cheese, covered in miracle whip. I have never seen him eat a regular one on a bun with ketchup and mustard."
- dekuscrubber
"I'm not sure if that's better or worse than the sandwiches my grandfather enjoyed."
"He'd slather two pieces of white bread with Miracle Whip and stuff a thick round of raw onion between 'em."
- SEND_GLUTES
"I nearly downvoted this out of sheer reaction to the horror that is now in my mind, but then I remembered that we shouldn’t suffer for the sins of our fathers and now I weep for you."
- LousBlues2
miracle whip sandwich GIF by Lady Gaga GiphyCoffee Conundrum
"Coffee."
"I love the smell of the beans, roasted and ground hell even brew the stuff I love the smell! But I won't drink a drop if it."
- Heykidsitsme
"I feel like you're the only other person I know who doesn't like coffee. I can't stand it, I've tried giving it plenty of shots and i just hate the taste."
"Looooove the smell though."
- dumbassliz
"You're not alone. I hate coffee."
- theconfather
Snow White Coffee GIF GiphyTakis
"There's a weird push for Takis in a lot of media lately."
"They're not that good, what the f*ck? It's obviously product placement."
- CircusStuff
"Takis have been around in Mexico for years. We are addicted. I personally crave them aggressively."
"I see why they are marketed, and why people love them."
"To be honest, Takis from Mexico taste better than those I find in the US. But US Takis are better than no Takis."
- aespin18
"Yes u become addicted."
"I'm from the US and couldn't imagine them getting any better. I need to try the ones from Mexico!"
- sjsRegime
Happy Love It GIF by The Drew Barrymore Show GiphyHey We're Talking Cheese Again
"American cheese, cheap overly processed with no real flavour."
- Much_Committee_9355
"For the longest time I thought that I just didn't like cheese."
"Then I went to college and consistently ate at places that weren't my parents' kitchens. That's how I found out I DO like most cheeses; I just hate the Kraft singles that were the only "cheese" I had been exposed to."
- Ineedflavorice
Cloudy With A Chance Of Meatballs Eating GIF GiphyAmbushed Through The Straw
"Boba."
"All these places start popping up like it's the cool new thing but these chunks take up space that could be more of my beverage."
- aguycalledkyle
"I feel like I'm being ambushed up my straw."
"There I am enjoying my tea, but at unpredictable intervals *BAM* sudden slime ball."
- AskMrScience
GiphyJim's dog treat
"Slim jims are dog treats packaged as human treats"
-coinsaken
"Not a fan of the Slender James, eh?"
-Anxiety_Potato
"I know this and yet I'm still fine with devouring them."
-Interesting_Ad5016
The disappointing rib
"The McRib. Tried it, don’t like it."
-Pickled_Taco
"Plus something about the formed meat into a fake rib seems gross."
"But yet Dino Chicken Nuggets (even if throwaway meat) are fucking delicious and a delight to bite their heads off"
-TheOnlyPepromene
"I read a thing that the real reason it's seasonal is to give people time to forget how disappointing it is. Then when you have forgot, they get you with the hype again and you fall for it and buy it."
-penislovereater
That's a lot of ways of describing it
"I can't stand for raisins, always hated them. They look like pieces of mouse crap and taste awful to me"
-Strange-juice-2988
"Someone told me when I was a kid that they were flies with the wings pulled off. Haven’t eaten them after that."
-Ilovehushpuppy
"It’s not the taste but the texture that bothers me. Especially if they’re in a muffin or cookie and get all plump and mushy, like a rotten frog testicle."
-Historicmetal
Yummy diabetes
"I live in the south and can't stand sweet iced tea."
"Tastes like pond water and diabetes."
-flyting1881
"I grew up making gallons of it for my dad. Certain water and low quality brands will give a pond water taste. And diabetes, duh, but that’s everything in the south."
"IMO- Luzianne steeped for 5 minutes plus cold well water… chef’s kiss"
-tebeehughes
Happy Season 6 GIF by The Simpsons GiphyPlayed out
"Nutella. Please stop putting it in every dessert. It's too much."
-GothicBeau
"I’m a fan of Nutella but I’m still with you here. It’s totally overused and it’s like places have just given up when they rely on this. This product that I can just buy in a shop and eat with a spoon if I want to."
-SmeSems
Not holy mole-y
"I'm Mexican and I can't do mole. It just tastes like dry sadness sauce. I've tried all kinds, homemade and even restaurant ones. Just no."
-Dizzy__Mermaid
"Also Mexican. And I think mole is disgusting."
"BUT I have had a few people cook me some really good mole. They are generally sweeter/spicier than the stuff I've eaten before."
"The closest I can think to describe it is like chicken with a thick bbq sauce on it. It exists, but I still don't really crave it much even at its best."
-ydna1
Snot mud
"Eggplant. To me, it tastes like mud."
-notthesedays
"Honestly, it’s not even the taste for me, it tastes good. It’s the texture, I just prefer not to eat congealed snot."
-go_kart_mozart
"Ugh...the texture too"
-taaarna
Olive without them
"Olives I’ve tried to like them but I just can’t"
-rfrost97
"Same. Literally the one food I’ve had I just can’t do. I try every year or so (even posted this same comment elsewhere recently), but just can’t get into em."
-PadKrapowKhaiDao
youtube lol GIF by Channel Frederator GiphyAgressive water
"sparkling water"
-pocapeanut
"I’m a soda water addict but I’ve heard people say it tastes like static electricity."
"Ever since I quit smoking I crave that burning throat feeling so soda water and hot coffee are my best friends."
-MoreShoe2
"angry water"
-V3dotoh
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People Reveal Whether They Let Their Dog Sleep On Their Bed Or Not
Reddit user Piggythelavasurfer asked: 'Do you let your pet sleep in your bed? Why/why not?'
Not all pet owners have the same relationship with their pets.
While anyone who decides to become a pet owner, or pet parent as some say, love their pets equally, some never ever let them leave their side.
Taking their pet with them to work, running errands, even on vacations.
Many pet parents even allow their pets to share their bed with them when going to sleep.
For others though, this is where a line is finally drawn.
Redditor Piggythelavasurfer was curious to hear whether pet owners allowed their pets to share their bed with them, as well as the reasons why they do/don't, leading them to ask:
"Do you let your pet sleep in your bed? Why/why not?"
The Tiny Issue Of Water...
"Absolutely not."
"I have fish."- Senior-Meal3649
Everyone Gets Lonely Eventually...
"I adopted an eleven year old cat the day before Halloween."
"She has mostly lived in my closet since I got her, and she hasn’t been too interested in coming out."
"Last night, she came out of my closet and jumped up on my bed, and crawled under my covers and curled up by my feet to sleep."
"I was so happy!"- YellowBeastJeep
The Comforting Reminder That You're Not Alone...
"I recently lost my Greyhound but I used to let him sleep on my bed with me."
"The company was nice and he was no trouble to have on my bed."- HoodedMenace3
Hungry Cookie GIF by De Graafschap Dierenartsen GiphyWhat Do You Mean Allow?
"I have no choice."
"She is a cat, cats do whatever they want."- Small_cat1412
"He lets me sleep in my bed."- Poorly-Drawn-Beagle
Wouldn't Have It Any Other Way
"I carry my old boy upstairs to bed every night."- worst_in_show
Hug GIF by The BarkPost GiphyWho Needs An Alarm Clock?
"I let my two cats sleep with me."
"They're so full of love and just want cuddles all the time."
"And so do I."
"We've all developed a lil routine."
"Get to bed, oldest sleeps on my feet to keep them warm, youngest lies in my arm while I lie on my side (she the little spoon), then when I snooze my alarm for work in the morning the youngest paws at my face and meeps loudly to wake me up."- GhostofaFlea_
Whose Bed Is It Anyway?
"Yes."
"They're also kind enough to let me squeeze into whatever space they've left for me."
"Although I do get a few dirty looks off them."- Therealkaylor
"I found this tiny kitten screaming her head off under a car."
"Would not come out."
"Got some food and some water in dishes."
"I stood by the tire so she couldn't see my feet."
"She got curious about the food and water and started gobbling it down."
"I thought she would bolt when I squatted down."
"She was too busy eating."
"I grabbed her by the nape of the neck and all four legs went straight out and she tried to scratch me to death."
"I got her in the door and tossed her toward the couch."
"She ricocheted off the couch as if she was a ping pong off a table and I lost sight of her."
"I put out food and water and a sandbox and did not see that kitten for three days."
"On the third day, I came home and she was on my bed pillow."
"I thought she would bolt when I came near, but she didn't."
"I wanted to sleep so I tried to scoot her little butt off my pillow."
"She would not go."
"I put my head down to sleep and that is the way it was from then on."
"She ran the roost."- Logical_Cherry_7588
sleepy kitten GIF Giphy
Sleeping Is A Prerequisite...
"No, he's a cat and he cannot keep still during the night."
"He walks across the headboard, opens the closet doors, jumps into the windows and rustles the blinds, etc."
"If he would sleep he could stay, but alas, he's a ramblin' man."- Spong_Durnflungle
Saying No Just Isn't An Option...
"'Let'."
"Lol."
"It's a cat's world and I'm happy to be on her good side."- milaren
Felines Only!
"The cat does, the dog doesn't and the horse certainly does not either."- Xcrowzz
Angry Tom And Jerry GIF by Boomerang Official Giphy
Is That My Hair On That Pillow?
"My dog is perfect."
"She comes up, cuddles til we start to fall asleep, then gets down to sleep on her bed so she doesn't get too hot."
"Jumps back up in the early morning for wake up cuddles."
"The hair everywhere is the only downside but she is so cozy, what can you do."- HoodieWinchester
It is easy to understand how some people are able to fall asleep more easily knowing their friend and protector is there, in bed, with them.
Though we can't blame others who don't want to run the risk of being scratched or bitten in the middle of the night either...
The old wives' tales.
They are the stories of legend.
I think we all need a big DEEP Google dive though.
Where did they originate?
WHO ARE THE OLD WIVES!
You don't hear about them as much anymore.
It's like science and logic are suddenly a thing.
But they sure are a good way to keep your kids and their behavior in line.
Redditor the_spring_goddess wanted to discuss the tall tales we've all been fed through life, so they asked:
"What is an old wives tale that people still believe?"
"Wait an hour to swim after eating."
What a crock!
So many summer hours wasted.
I want revenge for that one.
Say Nothing
Giphy"An undercover cop has to tell you he's a cop if you ask him."
LonelyMail5115
"Pretty much most advice when it comes to cops are old wives tales. I’m not even a cop but most of the advice you hear is pretty off."
I_AM_AN_A**HOLE_AMA
Say Something
"That you have to wait 24 hours to report someone missing."
Severe_Airport1426
"I really think this one is important and should be the top regardless. As it’s a piece of advice that needs to be relearned and the only way to do that is through awareness."
crappycurtains
"This used to be true. I think they changed it after some guy named Brandon went missing back in the '80s or '70s. You used to have to wait 24 hours if the missing person was an adult because they had 'a right to be missing' and then everyone realized that was stupid and stopped doing it."
AlbinoShavedGorilla
Body Temps
"That drinking ice cold water after eating oily foods will solidify the oil and permanently remain in your body. I informed my coworker that if your body temperature ever reached that point, you’d have bigger problems than weight gain."
chriseo22
"Oh, I have a cousin who 100% believed this. One of those guys who believed every early 2000s internet rumor and old wives tale. One night I chugged a big glass of ice water after dinner and he started freaking out and saying my guts were gonna harden."
"I sarcastically told him to drive me to the hospital if that happened. Obviously, nothing happened and the next morning I said something like 'Thanks for being on standby in case my guts filled with hardened oil.' He just walked off muttering under his breath."
apocalypticradish
Arms Down
"When I was pregnant, I was told by young and old alike that I should NOT raise my arms above my head or exert myself in such a manner because it could cause cord strangulation to my unborn sons and daughters."
Fatmouse84
10 Years Actually
Unimpressed Uh Huh GIF by Brooklyn Nine-Nine Giphy"Chewing gum stays in your stomach for 7 years."
"I remember accidentally swallowing a piece of gum when I was a kid in like 1995 and just accepting my fate like welp, gonna have this in my stomach til high school I guess."
Gecko-911
I was so afraid to sallow my gum when I was young.
This tale is haunting.
High/Low
Hungry Debra Messing GIF by Will & Grace Giphy"You can tell the sex of the baby by how you carry."
LeastFormal9366
"Pregnancy certainly wins awards for the most old wives tales. So much absolute BS was repeated to us by everyone we talked to."
IllIIIlIllIlIIlIllI
The Cursed
"If you’re a woman and you wear opal jewelry but opal is not your birthstone (October), you’ll never be able to have children, or will be widowed, or just generally have bad luck or something. You can counteract this by having a diamond in the same piece of jewelry as the opal, though."
"I have a nice opal ring that my parents gave me years ago, and I’ve had other women give me this 'advice' unprompted more than once when I’ve worn it. I have absolutely no idea where it started, but I’m pretty sure this little chunk of silicate rock has no concept of what month I was born in, let alone of how my reproductive organs work."
SmoreOfBabylon
Stay In
"Going outside with wet hair will make you get pneumonia. Or an earache. Or maybe arthritis. Depends on which old wife you listen to."
"Jokes on them - I haven't blow-dried my hair in decades and usually leave the house with wet hair in the morning. On winter mornings, the tips of my hair get frozen. No ear infections or pneumonia or arthritis yet."
worldbound0514
Dreams and Facts
"You never make anyone up in your dreams you've seen everyone in your dreams somewhere else before and never make anyone up entirely."
"How would you possibly prove that to be true? My partner adamantly believes this and tells me this 'fact' whenever I have a dream about someone I've never met before."
mattshonestreddit
"My late wife used to tell me that before she met me she would have dreams of standing at an alter on her wedding day but could never see the guy's face, no matter how hard she tried. After meeting me the face was filled in with mine. Don't know if it's true but one of those things I like thinking of every now and then when I miss her."
Darthdemented
Cracked
Getting Ready Episode 2 GIF by The Office Giphy"Some people still believe cracking knuckles causes arthritis."
Choice-Grapefruit-44
"There's a doctor (Donald Unger) that cracked his knuckles a couple of times a day for 60 years, but only on one hand, just to prove it. Both hands remained exactly the same."
MacyTmcterry
I love my knuckles.
Do you have any tall tales to add to the list? Let us know in the comments below.
A lot of workers daydream about some day winning the lottery and being able to say goodbye to their job.
Far too many workers are unhappy with their job duties, workplace dynamics or company culture.
But with a taste for luxuries like housing and food, they keep plugging away, year after year.
However not everyone feels that way about their job.
So what are these compelling careers?
Reddit user BITE_AU_CHOCOLAT asked:
"People who wouldn't quit their job even if you won the lottery, what's your job?"
Cup Of Joe
"Barista is my main regular job."
"I f*cking love it."
"I love being able to talk to people all day and making cute little swans or whatever in people's drinks."
~ Low_Perception9046
Cleaning Up
"Janitor."
"Hours are good, work is easy, people are mostly nice."
"Something to keep me busy."
~ IHate2ChooseUserName
Fun With Chemistry
"I develop chemical sensors."
"I would buy the company and work half time."
"The joy of solving the types of problems that come up is fun."
~ BadDadWhy
Helping Children
"When I win the lottery I’ll still work but I’ll probably go to part time."
"I work with children with special needs—my job is rewarding and special."
"I love working with kids."
"Plus I’m too young to 'retire' and not work, I’ll get bored."
~ No-Section3226
Doing Dos
"I do hair."
"Love it!"
"Gives me purpose."
~ Hyperboleballad
Feeding The Hungry
"I'm actually a chef at my local homeless shelter."
"My dream job, even with an advanced degree."
"I'd not quit this if I won 3 lotteries."
"I would, however, cut a fat check to my organization and my sister organizations."
~ subwooferofthehose
Angel Of Mercy
"Nursing."
"I kind of still like it."
"I'd probably back off to part time if I won big."
~ LadyVaresa
Sweet Beats
"I'm a musician."
"Basically I have what for most people is a dream job, which makes me a non-representative specimen."
"On the other hand, I still occasionally work as a paramedic, and as rewarding as that job can be, I'm mostly doing it when I want to grab some extra cash."
"I'd probably let my certs expire if I was rich."
~ loose_lady_lutenist
Healing
"I'm a doctor."
"A great portion of my income is already donated to my hospital's program that expands access to low-income patients."
"I'd probably give 100% of my income to the program if I won and use the lottery winnings for living."
~ Shiblets
DIY
"I recondition (light remodeling) apartments after tenants move out."
"I’m alone all day and I can listen to podcasts or books, the work is very satisfying to me, and as a woman I’ve loved learning HVAC, plumbing, and electrical work as I use the experience in my own home when things break/need updating."
"I would go crazy without working anyway but I really do love my job."
~ Dependent-Bass-2043
All Creatures Great And Small
"Kennel attendant."
"I’ll never willingly turn my back on these animals."
~ RathGodofWar
No Business Like Show Business
"I’m the Assistant Director for a Children’s Theatre."
"It’s really not something you do for the money."
"You do it because you love it and can’t imagine your life without it."
~ RamblingsOfaMadCat
Fostering Futures
"I work in addiction recovery."
"It means a lot to me."
"I wouldn’t quit if I won the lottery, but I would go part time."
~ randtcouple
A Stitch In Time
"I teach people how to sew, mostly kids but we have a few adult classes as well."
"It is stressful but also so rewarding to see a room full of people who have learned a skill from you and can take home a bunch of goodies."
"Sewing is a dying skill so we need to teach it more!"
~ Interesting-Chest520
Saving Lives
"National Suicide Prevention Lifeline."
"I love the job. It’s stressful at times but also very rewarding."
~ MaryKathGallagher
Many people stated they might cut back to part-time or donate their salary, but a significant number of people had no plans to stop working.
However some would change their job focus or profession.
So, would you keep working after a lottery win?
Some people stand firmly stand behind their beliefs that everyone would benefit from therapy and that therapy is life-changing.
It's because of the totally life-changing truth bombs their therapist had dropped during their sessions.
Curious, Redditor anonymiss0018 asked:
"What is a little bombshell your therapist dropped in one of your sessions that completely changed your outlook?"
Communication Issues
"'If you don’t have these problems with any other person in your life, why do you think you’re the problematic person in this one?'"
- maggiebear
"I love this. I have a 'friend' who I always seem to run into misunderstandings with. Every time we had a conversation, it somehow turned into a debate even if it was me talking about my day. The conversations were never easy."
"I always evaluate myself first and take into consideration his critiques. He was very good at convincing me that I was contradicting myself or wasn't good at communicating my thoughts."
"I NEVER had this issue with ANYONE else in my life. I kept trying to figure out where the miscommunication was coming from. In the end, I just minimized contact and now I don't run into this issue."
- chobani_yo
"I read this quote somewhere once (and probably have it a bit wrong): 'It's a waste of time arguing with someone who is determined to misunderstand you.'"
Emotional Regulation
"'You can’t control your emotions, but you can control what you do with them.'"
"At the time, I was a young adult who had learned zero healthy emotional regulation skills (only suppression and shaming) growing up, so this blew my mind."
- lil_mermaid
Tough Relationships
"'It sounds to me like you are trying to convince yourself to stay with your girlfriend. I'm not so sure it should be so difficult.'"
"At the time he said this, I remember it was like he said, 'The earth is flat.' I thought he was crazy when he suggested relationships don't need to be difficult. But eventually, I started to realize I was trying to change myself to stay with this person rather than just being who I am."
"It took me three more months to finally break up with her but from that day on, I vowed to never again abandon myself just to be with someone I had convinced myself was better than me."
- metric88
High-Stress Situation
"I was at a high-stress time, and I asked her how people live like this."
"She replied, 'Oftentimes they have cardiac events.' She said it as an urging to care for myself as much as possible."
- KittenGr8r
The End of Alcohol
"I was struggling with my alcoholism, and we were discussing how I had been cutting back."
"She asked what I would consider success, with regard to my drinking."
"I said I wanted to get to a point where it wasn't interfering with my daily life. I wanted to just be able to have a glass of wine at holiday dinners or family gatherings."
"She simply asked me why. Why was it important for me to drink at those times?"
"It was as if she'd turned on a light. Alcohol had always been a key ingredient in every family function, for my entire life. When I smell bourbon, I think of my uncle. When I smell vermouth, I think of my dad. Alcohol ran through almost every happy childhood memory."
"But, even more than that, I was very afraid of the explanation I'd have to give when family and friends asked why I wasn't having a drink. I had tried to quit before but failed. What if I admitted my problem, only to fall off the wagon?"
"When she asked why I didn't want to completely quit, it was the first time I saw that last part of the big picture. I'd be willing to drink myself to death in order to avoid being scrutinized, or judged for possible future failures."
"That was the day I quit. I've been sober since May 6th, 2017. 2,407 days."
- sophies_wish
Acceptance vs. Enjoyment
"'Accepting something doesn’t mean you have to like it.'"
"That took away a lot of my inner conflicts about situations because I could accept a situation without expending energy internally fighting against the injustice of it."
- alibelloc
Emotionally Immature Parents
"You are not responsible for your parents' emotional wellbeing. They are independent adults who have been on this earth for many more years than you."
- SmokedPears
Not So Lazy
"'Why do you think you're lazy?' Then she listed off all the things she knows I'm doing for my family, my job, and my life."
"It kind of blew my mind when I struggled to come up with an example."
"She also described family dysfunction as water. Some families are messed up in a way that everyone can see the huge waves across the surface. Others are better at hiding it, but there's still a riptide that you can't see unless you're also in the water."
"It made me realize that trying to keep the surface from ever rippling doesn't erase what is happening underneath."
- flybyknight665
The Harm in People-Pleasing
"'Why do you make people more comfortable when you are uncomfortable?' when talking about people pleasing and fawning."
- ERsandwich
Agree to Disagree
"'Stop trying to get everyone to agree. When you need everyone to agree, the least agreeable person has all the power.'"
This really changed my outlook on planning family events."
- freef
Grieve and Start Anew
"For context, I had a major TBI (traumatic brain injury), seizures, strokes, and all around not a fun brain time when I was 28."
"They said, 'You have to grieve the loss of yourself.'"
"Most people wanted me to go back to how I was. The f**ked up truth is that part of my brain is dead. The person everyone (including myself) knew died. I needed to grieve the loss of myself."
- squeaktoy_la
Multifaceted Identity
"They told me that my job and career is just a way to make money; it's not my life or identity. That took a lot of pressure off me."
- unfairpegasus
Breaking the Cycle
"They validated me."
"'You always talk about not wanting to do to your daughters what your mom did to you. You worry about it so much in every interaction you have ever had with them."
"But your children are 19 and 21 now. They are happy and healthy and they trust you because you’ve never abused them in any way. So I just want to validate for you that you really have broken that cycle of violence."
"You did that. And you should be proud of it. I’m proud of you for it.'"
- puppsmcgee74
The Grieving Process
"I was constantly bringing up how I felt like a completely different person after my mom died... like there was a marked difference between before and after her death."
"But once, she was asking about my hobbies, I got really into describing all the things I loved to do or at least used to do before I got into a deep depression."
"She was like, 'Wow, you seem very passionate.'"
"And I just sat there like, 'Well, I mean, I can't change what I like to do, they're still fun to do.'"
"And it's like she knew when to take a step back, because it was like, wow, I may be super depressed about my mom passing, but I'm still me. I'm still my passions and those don't go away."
"I don't know, maybe it only makes sense to be, but it really started getting me back on track."
- Hannibal680
Sharing the Load
"I've never really had friends. I've had colleagues and classmates and housemates and people who have hung out with me, but I never really felt close to any of them."
"And I did that thing you see on here sometimes; I stopped reaching out to see if I would be reached out to, and I wasn't, which I took as confirmation that they didn't really want me around, or at the very least, that they wouldn't mind my absence."
"I was talking to my therapist about people I'd been close to in college, and she told me to pick one and talk about him. So I did. After I shared some basic stuff like his name and his major etc., and a couple of anecdotes, she asked me what else I knew about him."
"And I couldn't answer. It wasn't really a broadly applicable bombshell, but she said, 'What else?' and I started crying because I realized that for as simple as the question was, my inability to answer spoke volumes."
"I've never had good friends because I've never been a good friend. I'm withdrawn and reserved and I always made others do the work to drag me out, without ever extending my own friendship in a meaningful way in return. If I wanted to have meaningful relationships with other people, I would have to build them."
"I'm still working on this, but I'm trying to make more offers and extend more friendliness to others in my daily life."
- Backupusername
The discoveries in this thread were incredibly touching and profound; it's no wonder these were lasting concepts for these Redditors.
It's important to keep ourselves open to inspiration and insights from others, as we have no idea how their experiences could help us, or how we could help them.