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80's music lovers absolutely remember the band Cinderella. We've all wailed out a "don't know whatcha got til it's GOOOOOOOOOONE!" a time or two or ten. Younger people might remember a similar line courtesy of a Jonas brother. You ever stop to really think about that idea though? We tend to think of that idea as being about a romantic partner, but one Reddit user asked:
What is something that you don't appreciate you have until it's gone?
And the answers hit us. Sure, love came up. But so did a ton of other little things we take for granted - like being able to taste your food. One stuffy nose and all that deliciousness is gone. So sad!
Nostrils[rebelmouse-image 18359393 is_animated_gif=
The ability to breathe out of both nostrils. You don't even think about it until you get a head cold or allergies or something. The worst is when you're stuffed up and laying in bed then go to switch positions. There's sometimes a moment there where the mucus has to sliiiiiide from one side to the other (cause gravity) and you can't breathe out of either nostril.
Job[rebelmouse-image 18359394 is_animated_gif=
A job you really enjoy. Once you've had one and have to move on to another, you'll hold up that good job as the one you'll compare all other jobs to. And some days that's very tough to take.
It's even worse when you HAD coworkers you genuinely got along with (to the point of spending lots of time outside of work with your coworkers), and while working with them, you ALSO had a job you really enjoy (and paid well, awesome benefits, fantastic work environment / facilities).
Getting laid off from that job was a real kick in the a**.
Teeth[rebelmouse-image 18359395 is_animated_gif=
For a lot of people, their teeth. I have 4 crowns, 1 extracted tooth, and due for another crown. And I'm only 28. don't just brush and floss. Some of us have naturally brittle teeth and grind them at night. Also if you are an athlete you tend to breathe through your mouth more, which is bad for your teeth. Take care of your teeth, people.
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No back pain. Jesus I miss the days of running around and playing all day with absolutely zip worry about my back hurting. I've gotten a lot better but for a long time if I was doing anything other than laying down in bed, my neck and back would be bothering me, especially if I had to be on my feet.
Everyone's Nightmare[rebelmouse-image 18345224 is_animated_gif=
"It Was Brutal"[rebelmouse-image 18359397 is_animated_gif=
Decent Internet in your house. I had to go a couple of months without it when I was moving from place to place, and it was brutal.
Firsts[rebelmouse-image 18359398 is_animated_gif=
Being young and experiencing life for the first time. The first crush, the first kiss, the first love, the first heartbreak, the first recovery, and on and on. Life is beautiful, and it just goes by so damned fast. So many people take everything for granted, and when it's gone, they end up looking back instead of looking forward.
Appreciate what you have, and where you came from. Provide a better life for your children. Leave the world better than it was when you arrived.
Weekends With Friends[rebelmouse-image 18359399 is_animated_gif=
I've been working backend (W-Sat) nights for the past year. Everyone else works the opposite schedule. I literally have no time with friends. I didn't realize how much I would miss the weekend, the time with friends. I'm switching back soon.
Family[rebelmouse-image 18359400 is_animated_gif=
Family. And I know some people have bad relationships with their blood family but I mean the people who care a lot about you and you them. Once that's gone sh!t gets really lonely and meaningless.
Diversity[rebelmouse-image 18359401 is_animated_gif=
Being surrounded by a big, diverse group of people around your age. Probably will never have the chance to meet as many cool people as I did while I was in college. Plus living nearby a lot of friends. Much harder to do postgrad.
Your Pets[rebelmouse-image 18357865 is_animated_gif=
When my dog Snoopy died after being my friend for almost 17 years, I realized just how much I didn't appreciate the little things. Getting excited every time I came home and being able to put a smile on my face after a long day. Being there to lounge around with me and watch TV on days when I was sick, sad, or just feeling lazy. Always managing to make me laugh with the absurd ways he would fall asleep or his quirky behavior like when he would scratch at the carpet for like 5 minutes as if he was getting the spot comfortable to sleep on, but then would just go and sleep somewhere else.
It wasn't after he was gone that I started to truly appreciate all these little moments of everyday happiness he would bring me. That was on top of all the bigger things I knew he had done for me, like being a playmate to a lonely only child. Being someone I could cry to whenever I was going through something hard in my life and in return him doing his best to cheer me up.
All of these things make me miss him a lot, but also make me grateful I had someone like him to bring so much happiness to my life.
The One That Out-Grew You[rebelmouse-image 18359402 is_animated_gif=
Oh man, the amazing angel that put up with your immature sh** until she couldn't anymore. But, because it was the status quo, you were too ignorant to realize it was you who was neglecting her with your video games, drinking with buddies, etc. Now you're alone and you miss her and you hate yourself for taking advantage of her, but she is with another dude who is mature enough. They set proper boundaries that he sticks to, he cherishes her and you have to hate them because you're still a child.
Heh, good times good times.
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Seriously kids, stop blasting your music so loud your car rattles. Especially when your car is such a POS I can hear the parts rattling over your cheap stereo. You're damaging your car, and your hearing.
You know that guy at the concert with earplugs? Laugh at him all you want. He's not going to have tinnitus when he's 50.
Get some musician's earplugs, not those dollar store ones, and protect your hearing.
Sight[rebelmouse-image 18359404 is_animated_gif=
The security of having multiple pairs of whole, current prescription, nearby glasses. I smashed one pair, left another pair on the train and now I'm down to one old prescription glasses that function enough that I don't get headaches til I've read for about 20 minutes. Then I gotta rest.
Being blind would be on a whole other level of loss since I live in quite a beautiful area of the country imo so I appreciate my sight by taking walks and enjoying views. There is this terror that I might go completely blind before I get a chance to travel to more exotic places of beauty.
Dad[rebelmouse-image 18354751 is_animated_gif=
Having your father around. Lost mine back in 2004 and I was having a lot of personal issues at the time with addiction. Now I'm clean and living life raising a son and have so many questions and I miss him so much every single day
The Bounce Back[rebelmouse-image 18359405 is_animated_gif=
I never realized how terrible I was to my body until it basically stopped putting up with it one day. I used to think stretching before a workout was just something excessively thorough people did. I ran a half marathon once and really didn't train or taper like I should have. Etc. 3 years later I injured a ligament running from my knee to my hip so badly that it still bothers me. I feel stupid and wish I could go back and tell myself to do all the stretches! And hydrate! And rest!
Metabolism[rebelmouse-image 18354217 is_animated_gif=
Being able to eat pretty much whatever you want because you're growing and active with school sports.
College years can be a real wake-up call. I count every calorie and I'm still two full dress sizes bigger than I was in high school.
Sun[rebelmouse-image 18359406 is_animated_gif=
Sunlight. If you spend a couple weeks in artificial light with zero sight of the sun, you start to really appreciate it when you have it.
Play Time[rebelmouse-image 18359407 is_animated_gif=
Someone once said something along the lines of:
One day you and your friends went outside to play for the last time
Throat Full Of Razors[rebelmouse-image 18359408 is_animated_gif=
Swallowing - until you get a nasty virus that makes it feel like you throat is lined with razors. The morning you wake up with a sore throat is the morning you realize how good you had it the day before.
Being an emergency responder is a high-stress job.
It's a career with long, laborious hours.
There is always a hint of danger. And death is always around the corner.
So we as a society could try to help these people out and not put ourselves in unnecessary danger.
Redditor Diligent-Log6805wanted the rescue workers out there to tell us about the times they rescued people. They asked:
"Emergency responders of reddit, what are some dumb things that have lead to an emergency situation?"
These workers and the world already has enough trouble without my stupid.
"So... was she impressed?"Idiot Reaction GIFGiphy
"Kid driving his new truck down a residential street, wet from a recent rain, lost control and hit a parked car, overcorrected and rolled it once back onto its wheels up onto a lawn. He told the fire chief he had gunned it to impress his girlfriend and the chief just looked at him and asked 'So... was she impressed?'"
"I had a client once who was basically Ricky from Trailer Park Boys, loud, obnoxious, hilarious and every second word was some Maritime slang or a derivative of 'f**k.' He has been on daily eye drops for decades for dry eyes, sure ok cool. I hear screaming down the hall and run in and he's wedged against the wall and the bed just screaming 'I f**ked up boys, I dunno what the f**k is f**king happening but It's f**ked."
"Turns out he mistakenly put Jublia which is an antifungal ointment for toenails in his eye thinking it was his eye drops. The strangest part was the bottle has this miniature sponge at the end so you soak the sponge then paint it on like a gel...he painted this antifungal ointment onto his eye which immediately went red and angry then proceeded to do the other one."
"So he's at the eyewash station and I'm talking to poison control and they are pretty stunned because they have zero data on what happens to a human eyeball when it's painted in antifungal. I can hear the staff at the other end kind of snickering under her breath and she asks can you compare and contrast the eyes? Well... he put it in both eyes. The line goes silent because I can tell she is howling. Guy was totally fine but it was a standout for sure."
Will they show?
"Responded to a call of two minors being kidnapped and their parents being beaten in front of them and then taken someplace else. One was around three years and the other one was six. They were held captive in an apartment out of hundreds of residential apartments which not easy to locate, upon reaching there we found out that the boy six was just playin' with us to see if we would actually respond. Their parents were so embarrassed by all of that and vowed to not give them mobile until they are adults."
"When I was an EMT in NYC years ago we had a call for a man 'unresponsive.' We entered an upscale apartment that was a hoard: floor to ceiling newspapers and magazines, just a mess. The woman who called said her brother was in his bedroom sick."
"We entered his room and it was pretty obvious that he had already passed away. She had placed a bowl under his mouth because he had hemorrhaged which had coagulated the day before it was crazy. We asked her why she hadn’t called sooner and she said thought he’d get better?!"
"The joke around the house was 'if you have to put a bowl under a relative who is bleeding from the mouth, call 911. Don’t wait.' Never thought we’d have to advise anyone to do that. But there ya go. Also, it was Thanksgiving. Didn’t eat any cranberry sauce that year."
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"Had a guy call because he had the cure to Covid and needed a ride to the local education hospital so he could share it. Dude was so high on meth He ended up having 4 or 5 binders worth of scientific looking notes. God only knows what was actually in them."
Wow, people really need to get a grip. Of their minds.
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"One of my old bosses once built a new shed in his back yard, to replace his old, worn-out one. He moved everything from the old one to the new one, then decided that the best way to remove the old one was by burning it down. He ended up with no sheds and the nickname 'Sparky.'"
Dead in the living room...
"Paramedic here. We responded to this 54 year old having chest pain. Man was having a heart attack. Dude didn't want to go to the hospital because it too early in the day. That's it. We tried to convince him to go. Got the ER doc to talk to him and he wouldn't budge. He signed a Refusal. Later that same night, his family found him. Dead in the living room. We got to him and started CPR, meds, everything. Dude didn't make it. When we advise you to go to the hospital, go."
"Got called to a shooting. A guy says he received a text message from an anonymous number saying his brother has been shot. He checks all the hospitals with no luck. He goes to his brother's apartment but gets no response at his door but sees his car and can hear the TV on. We get there, attempt to get an answer at the door."
"Eventually we kick the door in to make sure he wasn't dying in his apartment. We boot the door, announce police, and find him asleep in his bed. The guy tells us that he got a new phone number and decided to mess with his brother by texting him he had been shot. He then fell asleep and forgot about the text and was woken up by us. So many wasted resources on his idiotic prank."
"Got called to a priority job. The caller was kayaking in a lake and said that there was an unresponsive male in the water. So off we went, lights and sirens. We requested paramedics and fire to attend as well for the rescue operation. There were about 6 emergency vehicles attending including a rescue boat. We got there within minutes and met the caller who showed us where the guy was."
"He was just swimming, minding his own business. The caller said he was unresponsive, but really he was just ignoring her. Had a chat with the guy, he seemed alright, said he swims here every day and likes the quiet. No issues. Would have been nice if the caller told the operator that he was still conscious and swimming rather than 'unresponsive.'"
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"Well, I was taking a lady home from dialysis and she decided to eat a snickers in the back of the ambulance, and she started choking. Had to do the heimlich, and tell her to finish her food at home."
If it's not a true emergency dial 311. Please.
I hated science classes.
As soon as I could I ran.
But it follows me.
Because science can be downright disturbing.
That's why I blocked out so many of the details.
Redditor Flimsy_Finger4291wanted to compare notes on all the frightening facts that are a definitive. They asked:
"What's the scariest thing that science has proven real?"
As if knowledge isn't scary enough, let's her more...
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"Some tumors have teeth, hair and even eyes."
"My sister had one minus the eyes! It was cantaloupe sized on one of her ovaries before it was found. She named it Terry the Teratoma."
"My best friend and bunk mate from summer camp died from one of those when I was in 7th grade. Happened so quickly, we were a week into camp and he got really sick. They gave us all heavy meningitis shots because they didn’t know what it was and within a few days he was dead. Turned out to be a brain eating amoeba."
"Edit: strangely enough on the same day he started getting sick one of the lifeguards that was sitting out in a boat waiting for the next group of kids for what we called Trojans Vs. Spartans day had a seizure, fell off the boat and drowned. Only deaths they’d ever had in the 50+ years the camp had been open."
Far Far Away
"The size of our galaxy, how many other galaxies there are and how far away they are. When you can actually see something that incomprehensible.."
"The nearest star to us would take the Voyager 70,000 years to reach. The nearest galaxy to ours would take the Voyager 749,000,000 years. If we some how managed to take on the monstrous task of speed of light travel it would still take 25,000 years to reach the nearest galaxy. And it's even further apart after you read this. Wild stuff!"
"How the brain is literally rewired and chemically altered by childhood neglect and abuse."
"It's genuinely kinda freaky, playing a puzzle game, and noticing how quickly you're getting better at it. The kind of puzzles that were a real blocker in the beginning become baby-easy after like an hour of playing puzzles like it."
"My sister faced horrible abuse at the hands of our father, and she has been working through it with multiple therapists over the last 10 years and she is only now starting to get her life back. I feel like she was robbed at a fair chance at life because of our a**hole father."
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"Prions, horrific and totally unpredictable."
"Fatal familial insomnia is a prions disease where you can't sleep anymore, you just stay awake until your brain deteriorates and you die."
Now I can never UNKNOW about prions. Perfect.
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"Ageing. I'm content with death but the idea of my body growing old, frail and eventually falling apart before the end game gives me goosebumps."
"Gamma ray bursts. No warning, no escape, no defense, no survivors."
"If you're talking about supernovas if the star isn't too close the gamma burst would probably only destroy some part of our ozone layer. And gamma radiation is actually the least lethal out of all types of waves."
"Entropy. Time shall consume all things. Inevitable heat death of the universe."
"I personally want the 'Big Crunch' to be true. That instead of fizzling out it all gets sucked back into an infinitely small/dense particle and then another Big Bang happens. It’s my explanation for the multiverse. It’s all one timeline. Just infinitely long."
"More like a theory, the 'orangutan paradox,' when we film a documentary on orangutans, they can’t realize that we are observing them, yet they are the most intelligent species of their category, so aliens might be watching us and we are as oblivious as an orangutan."
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"That hearing is the last sense to leave, when dying."
Well that is the antithesis of comfort. Life is so fun.
Ever since Star Wars: Episode IV - A New Hope opened on May 25, 1977, a devoted fanbase developed.
And that fanbase has opinions.
Lots and lots of opinions.
Redditor Ebo8000 wanted to know:
"What is your most controversial take on Star Wars?"
"LASERS LOCK DOORS. LASERS OPEN DOORS. LASERS KNOW WHAT YOU WANT THE DOOR TO DO."
"But if you get past the door and close it behind you and you don’t want anyone to follow you through it…"
"…you shoot the bloody door panel!"
"Also, f*cking hell, we're in the future (or in the past), whatever, and people have better technology."
"Why put the door control RIGHT NEXT to the door? Put the door control system in a breaker box."
"Build every door so in case of malfunction they all shut closed (after all, they're in space and you don't want to lose air in decompression, do you?)"
"Shoot the breaker box, now the whole floor is closed until someone can figure out what happened."
"Almost look like those doors just exist as dramatic elements..."
"I’d like a film about when the Republic was at its height. 1,000 generations is 25,000 years and we’ve had 9 movies about the last 60."
"Not sure if controversial but they need to take the franchise and yeet it 200 years in the future."
"I'm tired of the Empire era where they need to justify why more than 2 Jedi and 2 Sith exist at one moment alongside knowing everything is pointless until Luke leaves the farm."
Design Fail? No!
"The Death Stars weren't badly designed they were just badly managed."
"Yes, designing them assuming large scale assaults was stupid given the political state of the galaxy but the second Death Star wasn't even finished so that doesn't count, it's all Palpatine's fault. As for the first one that was finished, the Alliance made three runs on the exhaust port."
"The first was called off before they made it to the trench, the second failed and the third was carried out by space Jesus which isn't exactly fair."
"All in all it sounds like a fairly effective defence when you consider the design philosophy."
"The entire universe has a cool factor that outweighs the atrocious storytelling."
"Bro imagine the following movies, but if they were in Star Wars universe."
"Magnificent 7 - A Jedi, Bounty Hunter, Ex-Imperial, Pilot, Wookie, a Droid, and Lawman team up to defend a town against pirates"
"Dredd - Two Jedi climb up an apartment block to confront a new dark side user who has mental control of the entire apartment block"
"Supernatural (T.V. Show) - A Jedi and their apprentice go around and solve and defeat Dark Side Force spots—where the Force consolidates from emotions and creates foul creatures to fight"
"Top Gun - But it's you know, Wedge or something"
"Ford versus Ferrari - But it's podracing or swoop racing"
"Something about the ships in the original series always felt more like real ships than in any of the later movies, despite the objectively better effects of the later films."
"Some of this is probably the use of models (i.e. actual three dimensional objects), but I think there is some critical difference in the design that makes them feel more real (probably because they were designed to be things that would actually work as models)."
"Whatever it is, I LOVED the ships in the original series and never really liked any of the new ones."
"The original trilogy changed the world by showing a universe in space that was dirty and lived in. The special effects from the later movies did not recognize this."
"Boba Fett is an oddly overrated background character, and even after watching The Book of Boba Fett, I don’t really care about him."
"He was never a character. He was a cool helmet."
"He was a cool jetpack too."
Time for the weather...
"Han is actually older than Obi-Wan due to Time Dilation."
"Time dilation in a universe where every planet and moon has the same gravity and atmosphere?"
"And just 1 biome."
"That way they only need one Weather Channel per planet."
"And over to Klaatu for the Tatooine weather report. Klaatu?"
"It's still sunny."
These are the droids we're looking for.
"Star Wars is actually the life story of C-3PO—think about it."
"I disagree. I think its R2-D2's story. He had a much greater presence in Episode 1, 2 and 3, and got the same amount of screen time as C-3PO in 4, 5 and 6."
Fan is short for fanatic.
"Fans ruined the whole franchise."
So, did your controversial Star Wars opinion make the list?
Death is a subject many people shy away from because what they don't know beyond our realm of existence can be intimidating.
Hollywood hasn't helped, as movies and TV have typically portrayed death as something sinister and violent.
How could anyone be convinced death is a peaceful transition, and that what awaits on the other side is actually an unimaginable utopia?
Curious to hear strangers' thoughts about death, Redditor GoodNess2020 invoked a quote by an iconic literary figure and asked:
"Mark Twain once said, 'I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.' Why do you agree/disagree with his statement?"
People clarified what actually terrified them most about death
"I don't fear being dead. I fear dying."
"Yeah, that's usually the issue. It's why that quote doesn't mean much, to a lot of people."
"It's not a fear of eventually dying and not existing anymore. It's the act of dying itself. He didn't constantly die for all of time. He just wasn't alive."
Concept Of Loss
"To have not existed for billions of years is to have spent billions of years never knowing loss. To die is to know loss."
"If you look into a new bank account and see zero dollars, it’s nothing. If you look into a bank account that once had a million dollars and see there’s nothing in there, you’ll know it’s absence."
People provided an analogy to articulate what ceasing to exist must feel like.
It's About Time
"Time is only relevant to you when you are alive. He is right. Have you ever been sedated for surgery? You go under, and then instantly wake up and procedure is done.... or you died so no worries."
Consciousness Is Life
"You won’t be feeling anything in death though is the thing. That infinite/instant sensation was a living feeling, you just weren’t conscious for it - your body experienced it anyways. No body, no experience."
Like Being Under
"That is very true, but for me, that's the closest amalgamation of what it probably feels like."
"No one can tell you what actual death will be like. It's impossible for you to experience nothingness."
"Thinking about death can be paralysing sometimes, and when I remember that the closest thing i can link as an experience I had, being put under, was actually sort of pleasant. I then think maybe death will be like that, and honestly it doesn't seem that bad."
When In Deep Sleep
"Yeah in contrast to sleep where you can actually feel like time has passed when you wake up."
Think Line Between Death And Slumber
"As CGPGrey puts it, your bed might very well be a suicide machine."
"Given our lack of understanding for the fundamental processes of our sentience, it's entirely possible that when you fall asleep, your mind is functionally killed, disassembled, analyzed, sorted, tweaked, and adjusted by your biology, before being reassembled when you wake. Every night."
People opened up about their insecurities around the concept of death.
Fear Of What Comes Next
"I’m just paranoid that something does happen after death and it’s just based on one thing that you didn’t know about."
The Circle Of Death
"There’s nothing to fear in oblivion. Unless, of course, your consciousness survives death. If so, it would be reasonable to fear the sensation of consciousness without senses, suspended alone in the cosmos, with no one to hear you, and no way to make yourself known. No reference point for counting time – a count that does not matter anyway in a literal eternity."
"You might wish that you still had a corporeal form, only so that you could make your mouth move to express your terror, to make the universal form of a terrified scream – the form of a letter O."
"But you won’t be able to. You just won’t!"
"This has been the Children’s Fun Fact Science Corner. Brought to you by shame, loneliness, and the letter..."
When Faith Fails You
"what do you mean I'm going to hell?! I was a good person and attended church regularly!"
"Ah yes, but you failed to put a blue feather in your hat and then turn in circles the times praising God Almighty on the fifth Sunday after your twelfth birthday. To the pit with you!!!"
There is an poignant episode from the Twilight Zone that brought me a sense of peace surrounding the concept of death.
Death was embodied by a handsome police officer who had been shot–played by a young Robert Redford–and begs to be let into the home of an elderly woman who had been living in perpetual fear of meeting "Mr. Death."
As the episode continues, she discovers much to her dismay that she welcomed Death into her home, but he warmly reassures her there is nothing to fear.
The episode ends with her finally offering her hand to Death after much protest, and they peacefully walk out together, arm in arm, into the light.
It was sweet and beautifully done. The 1962 episode was titled, "Nothing in the Dark."
That's how I imagine it to be.
A dashing Prince of Darkness telling me it's time to join him in guiding me to the other side.