When it's over... it's over, let it die already.
Yes I'm talking about the end of love. Not all romances are meant to be forever.
In fact sometimes the best part of a relationship is the end.
Too many people seem to stay together long past their relationship's expiration date. That is so unhealthy.
Just listen to the immortal words of Cher... "Do you believe in life after love?"
Yes, yes I do. And so should you.
In case you need convincing, read along.
RedditorHoneylemonFrogwanted to spill the tea about why we all have run screaming from a relationship. Drink up.
They asked:
"Why did you break up with your last partner?"
My relationships ended out of necessity. We got out while we still liked each other.
Others weren't so lucky.
Simple
"Because we brought the worst out in each other." ~ Little_Land_271
"Well put. A simple sentence that says so much. When it isn't meant to be, that repelling force comes whether you want it or not." ~ drumsripdrummer
GiphyHang Up
"I've never been the one to break up with someone. My last partner broke up with me two weeks before our wedding because the guy that always got away, was single and in town. They dated for a year, he stole her money, knocked her up, disappeared. She called me back after all that and asked if we could get back together. I laughed, and hung up." ~ NobleEnsign
Nuclear
"She was mentally and emotionally abusive. When I asked her to go to marriage counselling she told me she was OK with being 'married housemates' and it was up to me to accept that. I took the nuclear option and ended it." ~ Flight_19_Navigator
"Sounds familiar. Asked for couples counselling. Was told 'this is a two way street so maybe you should get help by yourself.'” ~ bRainshower2021
Just Wrong...
"My ex broke up with me to be with someone she’d been cheating on me with. She tried to restart our relationship after they had just married and were living halfway across the globe (husband was in military). Started off by sending me unsolicited nudes while she was pregnant with their first kid."
"She was coming back to the states in a few months and wanted to hook up, telling me she had made a horrible mistake etc.. I was dating someone at the time and we’d been hanging out less than a couple of weeks. Even if I weren’t dating someone, that whole situation my ex was trying to perpetuate was nefarious and just plain wrong."
"I sent a very condescending email telling her I was going to notify her husband if she didn’t leave me alone. Luckily she did… until a couple of years later after she had her second kid." ~ tiraralabasura_2055
Over It
"She wasn’t interested in me anymore but she didn’t have the courage to break up with me- she ended up pretty much explaining every reason why I should break up with her, so I did." ~ Deez**alls
GiphyWhy do people cheat? Just go already. You know you're not happy.
SURPRISE!!!
"The girl he was cheating on me with tried to surprise him by decorating his room for his birthday. I showed up early to do the same." ~ FrasierCranes*itch
GiphyDear John,
"She left me a letter while I was at work saying she was essentially moving out for a month. On the way out she stole my dog, a bunch of my stuff, and 20k from my side hustle. She ended the letter with how some time apart would be good for us, that she loved me still, and in 4 weeks we could go back to normal after she had some time to herself."
"She was insisting we weren't breaking up, just taking a pause. I never got a reason for the sudden pause in the two days I tried to figure out what happened. It was so odd and out of character. I packed up her stuff which was all still at my house, had a friend drop it off to her, and then texted her that it was over."
"She didn't seem to think it was a huge deal or that I should be upset, since it wasn't a break-up. I found out later she was cheating and apparently a thief, I decided she was right about some time apart except my time-line was forever." ~ Illustrious_rocket
'History'
"He is an absolutely lovely person in his unique and weird way. But we had one of those unbalanced relationships where I was expected to act more like a mother than a girlfriend (taking care of him and housework). We also had nothing in common apart from just 'history.'"
"We didn't do anything together. He was never willing to watch something I liked and never initiated any activity. We were just two lonely people when we met and though 'a relationship' would mend us. We didn't think about what we loved in each other which wasn't much." ~ FatalJuice
Halloween
"She wouldn't spend time with me unless she brought her friends that hate me with. She told me I was only really a boyfriend to her when she wanted one. She left me in the rain on Halloween bc she changed her plans without telling me and went to her friends house instead (this is when I broke up with her). And more... What's crazy is I liked her for 7 years just to have this happen. Now bc I refused to get any other girl friends bc of her I am stuck with 0 options because I don't know many girls." ~ Amaturatsu
Decisions
"She expected me to be in charge of every point we moved forward in our relationship and never talked about her expectations or wants. I don't have time for that. Talk with me and help decide our future." ~ Sanguiniutron
GiphyDon't be cruel.
Think of it all like pulling off a bandaid.
Pull and run.
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Redditor h-gotfred wanted to hear from the over 50 crowd, so they asked:
"To you Redditors aged 50+, what's something you genuinely believe young people haven't realized yet, but could enrich their lives or positively impact their outlook on life?"
There is so much to know about life.
And we have to age to learn it.
So let's chat...
Be Happy
just married love GIFGiphy"Marriage/relationships should be fun, and happy. Life is hard, things get tough. Find someone that makes the tough times easier, not harder."
Inevitable-Mine6466
"Piggybacking off this and saying, even the happiest marriages get into arguments. It's not a reason to leave."
J3sush8sm3
Battles...
"Not everything that you disagree with deserves an argument. Pick your battles and let trivial things slide."
hail2theKingbabee
"To echo this: Not everyone you disagree with is 'wrong.' They are simply operating with different information. You can disagree with someone on an issue and still value the person. Don't let one issue define your entire relationship with another person."
A_Socratic_Argument
The End
"If you die, your employer will have your job posted before you are buried. Remember that when making work/life choices."
Justin9314
"I started my career at corporate headquarters for a large insurance company. I was doing GREAT, but I just didn’t like the industry. I applied for a job at a major university and someone took a chance on me and gave me the position (transitioning from for-profit to non-profit is notoriously hard)."
"I made less money over the course of my career certainly but I wasn’t on poverty wages by any means. But I remember about 5 years in, one of my old VPs was in town and we got together. His comment was 'We miss you, but you look so much happier, the psychic income is showing.' Insightful guy."
Reynyan
The Truth
"2 things I will be eternally grateful to my grandfather for instilling in me..."
"Failure is not an end state unless it is where you choose to stop. He loved to quote that line by Churchill whenever something didn't work out for me, Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm."
"Honesty is the most powerful tool you can use to define yourself. Admit your mistake, frankly and honestly. The truth always comes out in the end no matter how big or small and it doesn't get better with age. You can give back something you steal, and you can help those you hurt but once they brand you a liar, it's all you will ever be."
iskandar-
Be Quiet
Golden Girls Rose GIF by TV LandGiphy"Unless you don't mind hearing EEEEEEEEEEEE like all the time day and night, use hearing protection in loud situations. Tinnitus is a bi*ch."
revnhoj
Take care of your ears.
One of life's greatest lessons!!!
Live by the Moon
bart simpson maggie GIFGiphy"Wear sunscreen."
nilecrane
"I just had a quick look at my 50-year-old upper chest, frequently exposed to the sun in my youth, and compared it to my 50-year-old belly, which has always been clothed and covered (I have never liked two-piece swimsuits). What a difference!"
HootieRocker59
Passions
"Take a genuine interest in what other people have to say, ask them follow-up questions about their passions in life. Don’t just talk about yourself, or wait for your turn to talk. That’s how you have a conversation, and build a relationship."
MayIServeYouWell
"Sometimes you gotta be careful with that. Pay attention if the other person is doing that too, it's important for you to share about your life. It can be kind of lonely when you know so much about your friends, but they don't know about you."
jacarelunar
Practice makes Perfect
"Every skill takes determined practice to master. I see my young friends/relatives try and give up on so many things because 'they weren't very good at it.' If you keep doing that, you'll never be very good at anything."
EarhornJonesI
"I love cooking - and find it easy and relaxing. I have hit a point where I can make several dishes that I can honestly say are far superior to what I could get at a restaurant. I love delighting my family and friends with what I cook."
"But the truth is - I've prepared thousands of dishes. I've practiced for 40+ years. I have f**ked up every single type of food there is at least once. I've burnt things. I've undercooked chicken. I failed to emulsify things that should have been emulsified. I forgot to set the timer. I've added too much salt. I chopped when I should have torn. I did all of the wrong things at some point. And because of all of these things, I can walk into any kitchen and make something delicious."
NewSummerOrange
63
"I’d say invest in your health by regularly exercising. My wife got me into running when we were in our twenties, and it has been a big part of our lives ever since (I’m 63). Nothing crazy, no marathons, we don’t time ourselves or follow a strict training plan, we just pick a route, go at our own pace, and have fun. We still go 3-4 miles, 3-4x per week."
"I also started working out at the gym 3x a week with free weights in my 30s, and have been doing it ever since. I’m no Schwarzenegger, believe me, but I can still work around the house, move furniture, shovel snow and have fun tossing a ball around with the kids without injuring or exhausting myself. Between aerobic fitness and weights, I’ve been able to stay remarkably healthy my entire adult life, knock on wood. It’s also been great for my mental health and managing stress."
"You don’t have to go nuts and set unreasonably strict requirements for exercise goals or diet that a normal person can’t possibly maintain - just do the best you can, make exercising a few times per week a habit, eat a reasonable diet (avoid fried stuff, eat fruit and veggies, lay off the sweets), and 40 years later you’ll really thank yourself, believe me!"
lanky_planky
Plan Ahead
Make It Rain Money GIF by yvngswagGiphy"Debt can really ruin your life. If you want to take on a lot of it, make sure you have a good plan and run it by a lot of smart people first."
vanityklaw
Debt. Everyone should learn about avoiding debt as early as possible.
This whole list should be taught in Universities.
