Love is beautiful and a many splendored thing.... until it destroys you and it's over long after you should've realized it. We will accept and look away at too many things when it comes to matters of the heart. We have to be WOKE when in love. Often it's not love we're in, we're just obsessed with the comfort of the illusion and we choose to carry on wit the wrong person.
Redditor u/ValiantSoul_ needs everyone to let us all know what looks like the end of a relationship, so we don't repeat any bad behavior by asking.... What was the "last straw" that caused you to end your relationship with a significant other?
Speed Racer!
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She hit me with a car. On purpose. spinzthewiz
Sometimes it doesn't, my mom hit my dad with her car and he is still with her. ADreamWoven
Call Maury....Â
She begged and begged for a kid that I didn't want and she wasn't emotionally mature enough to handle. She ended up getting pregnant from a different party altogether and I left. Later potater. PugilistPenguin
Glad it wasn't yours, glad you're away from her. Not so glad for the kid though. Reddit
The Games Player...Â
He said, "I wasn't actually cheating on you. I just wanted to make you THINK that I was." alkthatpotato
He missed the obvious result of his actions by a mile in the ridiculous hope that you would tolerate him screwing around. You're well off without that in your life. Markr1957
Think of the Freedom!Â
He sold my car for drug money.
So I stole his car and all the paperwork, and drove halfway across the country. I'm miserable, but free. MongoosePenWales
I Drove All Night...
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He wasn't working but I was going to school and working part time. He expected me to drive across town after my weekend shift to see him because he didn't feel like getting up. Packed up all the stuff he had at my place, drove over, and started unloading. VampireChild
We're all Done!Â
He wasn't working, I was working 16 hour days to make ends meet. I got home from work one night around 3 am exhausted, he was up waiting wanting to pick a fight about something stupid. I looked at him and said I'm exhausted I'm been at work since 10 can we do this tomorrow. He just wouldn't stop talking, I had like an out of body experience where I was looking at us and I realized it was never going to change, it was never going to get better and life was too short to be this unhappy. I was only with him because we were together 10 years but honestly the last 5 were miserable.
So I got up off the couch and just said I'm done and went to bed. He started yelling I'm not done talking to you. I said you don't understand I said I'm done! I'm done with us and you need to find a new place to live because I'm moving out of this house and you will be homeless.
He didn't believe me, I contacted the landlord broke the lease, got a new house and had to call his brother from another state to come get him so he wouldn't be homeless. amannion75
Catch & Throw...Â
The beer bottle he flung "in my direction" was a pretty big straw. reirarei
I had a lamp thrown at me- "just because you were standing there doesn't mean I was throwing it -at- you..." hahahaha... ifyouwanttobeabanana
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She was a very romantic woman, especially after we got married. She loved fancy candle-lit dinners with a fine bottle of wine, then going home and making sweet, sweet love all night long.
The biggest reason I divorced her is that she was doing this stuff back home when I was stationed overseas by myself. wzl46
Facebook is like Dateline...Â
When I found out she was cheating on me and making alternate fake friends Facebook accounts to interact with herself and try and make me put forth more effort to her by saying her ex was back in the picture. Got a lot of weird and at times very threatening messages over those few months.
Too much psycho for me. Way too much. SearsActivewear
Call your Bluff...
She used to constantly threaten to break up with me. Whenever there was a fight "let's just break up then." I was young and stupid so i would forfeit the fight to keep the relationship.
One day we drove out to wineries and a nice water side restaurant. She was making snide comments the entire day. "You know, with your next girlfriend, you should hold her hand more."
Things like that... well we went to my uncle's place who lived on a house on the water and we were gonna grab food for dinner. We park the car and she goes, "we should just split. Let's have dinner with your uncle and then we take a break."
For some reason I got mad that she wanted to break up with me then eat dinner with my uncle who is my godfather and one of my favorite people in the world.
I told her that she doesn't get the privilege of eating with him, and drove home that night. Ended it myself. She tried to get me back and I said no. Twigsnapper
Try not to follow the bad advice given here, because you don't want to get the results that these guys did.
U/Duckerton375 asked: What's the worst advice someone ever gave you, but you still followed?
The workplace can bring a cornucopia of terrible advice. Don’t follow these unless you want to get fired.
​Bad jobs are usually not worth it.
Stick with a job no matter how bad it is. I stayed with a terrible job working retail, dealing with horrible customers and sexual harassment. I was told I wouldn't find anything better.
"No, no, you misunderstand. I said you wouldn't find anything better at making you feel like complete garbage."
This gets really creepy really fast.
frustrated workplace GIFGiphy"After you put in a job application, you need to call them at least once a day every day until they hire you."
Note: this did not get me hired. It got me called out by the HR person I was calling and forbidden to ever contact their facility again.
I work for a law firm that employees over 1500 people in the home office alone. Once I received a call from the building security saying, "Insert Name is here to speak with the owner." Well we are run by a committee so that's odd. Found out they just applied for a job and wanted to talk directly to the person that would potentially hire them. Told him the firm will contact them to schedule an interview. They refused to leave without "talking to the owner." Had security escort them out of the building.
​This is absolutely not true.
"Sleep is for people who do not want success" great words from my uncle, it almost killed me.
Now I may be oversleeping.
​Interpersonal relationships are also a big breeding ground for terrible advice. Don’t listen to any of these.
Heartbreaking.
My father always tought me and my brother that "having friends is bad and in the end they will never be there for you" so everytime I told my father about my friends he would get kinda mad and give me the advice to stop talking to them.
Now I am afraid of people and have several trust issues, thanks dad.
​This won’t end well.
A Christmas Story GIF by filmeditorGiphyIn the fifth grade my teacher was talking about bullying, then she said "if anyone tries to bully you just agree with them." So the next time I got bullied I agreed with the bully and they bullied me more.
Dude one time I saw an anti bullying video that told the victims to just BE NICE TO THE BULLY. Like the bully was hurling insults and the victim was smiling and complimenting him. My first thought was about how much I hated the mere thought that this would work. My second thought was of how the people who came up with that method had clearly never been bullied.
​Oof.
When I met my now wife at the age of 19, one of my coworkers said that it's very important to start at the bottom with presents and work your way up, she still has the socks I gave her on our first anniversary on the wall over our bed as a reminder...
I'm still trying to teach my boyfriend about good presents and bad presents. Biscuits from the supermarket = bad present. Cheap unbranded laptop battery from China as my only present = bad present (and only lasted 2 months). Anything off my 7-page wishlist = good present. It's literally a list of things I want to receive as presents.
​Can tell you from experience that this is a bad idea.
Had a falling out with some friends. My husband recommended I reach out to an old friend who ghosted me suddenly in a manner that induced some pretty severe abandonment trauma. Went for it anyways because "it's been so long, surely they changed". Am now experiencing the same things as last time.
When you follow bad advice, it can lead to mistakes that you just can’t come back from.​
Buying a house is tricky.
for sale dancing GIF by Lisa VertudachesGiphy"Buy a home now before the prices go up!" -my FIL in 2006.
We bought in 2007 and paid $259,500 for our 1,300 sq ft house (we really couldn't afford it and had an 80/20 so we had 8% interest for one loan and 6% on the other) and in 2008 it was worth $97,000 so refinancing wasn't even an option. We watched all of our neighbors walk away or get foreclosed on but we kept paying our bills and as of this very moment our house is worth $462,000. I'm so happy we stuck it out, we both worked our @sses off and the house will be paid off in 2 years.
It worked out for us, it's a horrible idea. Especially since 1300 sq ft houses are $460+k
My heartbreaks for future generations, I honestly don't know how people are going to afford housing in the future.
It’s there for a reason.
"Never apply for any government assistance."
Cue years of suffering trying to work full-time with a painful disability. Quit a particularly terrible job, and wanted to apply for food aid until I could find another gig; a friend with lots of DHS experience recommended I apply for Social Security "just to get in the system." Turns out my disability was bad enough to get accepted the first time, which I wasn't expecting. Really could've used that support, oh, the 30+ previous years of my life.
Credit is important to have.
I was told to not get a credit card until after college. I was super fortunate to have my college paid for so I had no loans, car paid in cash, no credit card or anything to start building credit. Found myself out in the world at 22 years old with a credit score of 0.
So while a lot of this bad advice came from trusted people, oftentimes they were too misinformed to give that advice in the first place. Don't trust the word of one person--do your research, and make decisions for yourself.
It'll be way better in the long run