People Reveal The Longest They've Ever Gone Without Sex

Relationships, whether that means dating or being in some form of a long-term relationship, are hard, and that definitely includes sexual intimacy. Whether it's trying to keep things interesting or staying connected after a long time of being together, many people struggle to stay intimate with their partner.

But some may be surprised at just how long some people go without having sex.


Redditor ItsRainingAlberts asked:

"What is the longest you've gone without sex, and why did you go so long?"

Tough Break-Ups

"A year. I was shattered from a break-up (two years ago)."

"Now I'm enjoying the dating scene."

- Enekovitz

No Rebounds

"A little over two years. I had no partner and wasn't really interested in finding one at that moment, and casual sex did nothing at all for me anymore. I didn't care about sex much at all during that period of my life."

- SexyChronicPain

A Dissolved Marriage

"Over three years. My wife wouldn’t touch me and I remained faithful."

"Now divorced at 40, it’s kind of hard to meet people, so the counter continues to go up."

"I'm doing mostly better since the breakup. I'm still struggling with seeing my daughter less and balancing work life and meager attempts of putting myself out there to meet new people."

- DarkScytheCuriositie

Lingering Grief

"Seven or eight years. Three or four years because my husband wasn't able to anymore, and almost five years since he died."

"I have no interest at all in looking for another life partner but I had tons of sex in my 20s so I'm all good now."

- PurplePanda1971

Social Trouble

"About a year now since my ex broke up with me. I haven't gotten anything since and probably won't for a while as I'm not very good at socializing, especially with people I'm interested in."

- billybongnong

Friends Only

"Since I had sex for the first time at age 16, the longest I have gone without was four years, from 2017 to 2021."

"Why? Because I'm now a single male in my late 40s. I have never had the desire to get married, and I don't do well in relationships."

"Most women in my age group are now married, and the ones who aren't are not interested in FWB (Friends With Benefits) relationships or one-night stands."

"I'm lucky to have found a woman who's interested in FWB, who's 27, and who has an obsession with older men, but women like her don't grow on trees."

- Fresh-Hedgehog1895

Lackluster Interactions

"Since my last relationship, all of my sexual encounters have been spontaneous, casual, and overall kind of meh."

- bazmonsta

Different Interests

"I will never have children or date someone with children and in your 30s that eliminates everyone. I'm at 2 years myself and while it sometimes gets lonely I've learned to like having 100% of my time belong to me."

- SchleftySchloe

Bad Experiences

"Two and a half years... still going strong. I don't want to get with someone again for now due to past experiences."

"I've had my fair share of relationships, and the sex (most of the time) wasn't bad but very good, the relationship though wasn't good a lot of the time, and in a relationship, I look for more than just sex, and I don't look for sex without a relationship."

"So for now, I'm good, and if I never have it again, I won't really cry about it."

- JVR84

The Importance of Intimacy

"A... while. Having sex is an incredibly intimate experience, and it can be hard to recover from bad experiences."

"I feel like a relationship is more than just the physical, the emotional bond and love, and support is what holds a relationship together. If you can't find that mutual love and respect, it doesn't matter how great the sex is."

- ItsRainingAlberts

An Evolving Relationship

"The last four years. Ever since my twins were born, my wife has had zero sex drive."

"We do the deed once, maybe twice, a year. I wish things were different, but I love her and if that’s all I get, then I’m willing to accept that."

- Jonquay84

The Way It Used to Be

"My husband has the same issue but shows me affection in other ways so I don't want to leave. Just wish that part was still there."

- WyattLP323

Low Point in Life

"I'm going on almost eight years now. I had a major life event where I lost everything, and the subsequent depression killed any desire to be with another human."

"I don’t even like to be touched now. I look at myself in the mirror and I am disgusted. I’m not ugly, but I have let myself go to a point where my physical looks match what I think I mentally look like."

- airlinehome

Mental Health

"I haven’t had sex in close to five years now, by choice. My antidepressants killed my sex drive so now I have zero interest."

- mermadzz

Medical Problems

"14 years and counting. I went through some pretty awful medical s**t that year, and one of the side effects is no more sex. This has been, as they said in ancient Babylonia, 'a real bummer.'"

- facelesscog

While the reasons for not experiencing sexual intimacy are all across the board, people who are currently missing the experience can at least take some comfort in how common of an issue this seems to be.

Do you have any similar experiences or anything to share? Let us know in the comments below.

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