The key to any successful relationship is communication.
The ability to be open and receptive to what a significant other has to say, as well as the ability to be able to convey something weighing on one's mind, can be healing.
But depending on the circumstance, some things are better left unsaid.
Curious to hear examples of what those might be, Redditor FamiliarFarmer8356 asked:
"What's something you wish you could tell your partner without upsetting them?"
If there is conflict, there is a way to discuss and address the issue in a civil and respectful manner.
Things Just Happen
"Every bad thing that happens doesn't require someone to be blamed for it. And that someone doesn't always have to be me."
A Cornerstone Of A Successful Union
"One of the cornerstones of a good marriage, is knowing how to argue. I’d actually say that before a couple get married, they should check how their potential partner behaves in an argument. What are they like when they get angry. It’s important because no two individuals are going to agree all the time. And on those occasions, it’s important to remember not to belittle the other. Deal with the issue at hand. And especially, don’t argue in front of the kids. You have no idea how much lasting damage this causes."
"All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest - never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principles of equal partnership."
It's Not That Deep
"please stop complaining about everything."
"If you keep seeking out reasons to be miserable, you will find them."
"I'm tired of being dragged down with you."
Drop The 'Tude
"That the constant bad attitude is really annoying and a definite buzz kill."
There's no need to get defensive when there's something to discuss.
"The universe is not out to get you. Not everything is happening to you some of it is in your control. I'm so sick of you refusing to take ownership. And stop getting so fucking defensive about everything!"
It's Not About You
"That some days I’m just tired from class and work and just want some me time, it’s not that I hate you my social battery is just running out."
"Her first reaction to something adverse doesn't have to be anger."
In The Words Of A Pirate
"In the wise words of captain Jack Sparrow sometimes:"
'the problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude toward the problem.'
It Takes Two To Tango
"That I wish she’d be more independent so she didn’t need my help for everything outside the house."
"That it’s a little disturbing how aggressively he drives when he’s grumpy… heavy on both gas and brakes, zooming in and out of traffic, swearing at people who make mistakes… very unlike him."
"I wish you’d care more about your physical health and how it would make me feel if you got seriously sick later in life."
Not An Attack
"I feel your frustration!! But anytime I try to say anything they always reply that I'm 'making excuses for everyone' or 'just want to argue/disagree with them' and everything is a personal attack."
Sometimes the truth hurts when talking about members of the family.
A Real Assessment
"That her mother is not a good person."
"I told my husband that it's not that his family is nosy and overbearing, it's that I hate watching him cave and negotiate as if they have a right to behave like this, and I really hate when I'm the bad guy for wanting reasonable limits."
"It got worse, then it got better, FYI."
"His parents are greedy, selfish people and treat him like an atm."
Like Mother, Like Daughter
"Although she is not like her abusive mom in most ways, in some ways she is — understandably — and it causes real harm to her relationships."
"I’ve tried to say this very plainly, as constructively as I can, but it’s like she can’t hear it. I think we all have these things. Something we can’t confront, so our brains filter it out before we can be fully conscious of it."
There's definitely a fine line between withholding your thoughts to protect the person you love and being brutally honest.
If coming clean isn't going to resolve an issue, then it might be better to suck it up and deal with whatever frustrations you have about the other person.
It's up to you, but make sure the delivery doesn't come from a place of rage if you do decided to be totally transparent about your negative thoughts.
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Adulting is hard. The responsibilities of juggling work with social responsibilities while sweating it can be tough daily hurdles to get over.
There's no rest for the wicked, they say, but that doesn't mean we can't take a breather whenever there's an opportunity.
The thing is, we don't always see the opportunity because we tend to go through life with blinders on. Well, I speak for myself.
Nevertheless, like how shortcuts on a keyboard save a lot of time to fulfill a purpose, there are just as many things in our life that can be made easier that aren't always readily available information.
Fortunately for strangers online, they were given a plethora of unexpected life wisdom when Redditor Insanitanium12 asked:
"What simple 'life hack' should everyone know?"
For those who spend a lot of time in front of computers, these could be game-changers.
Information At Our Fingertips
"Google it first."
Watch Your Sitting Posture
"Get into a routine of stretching your hip flexors and chest if you sit for long periods. Absolute game changer for people who suffer with chronic lower back pain as a result of being hunched over a desk."
"5 minutes of daily exercise is infinitely better than 0 minutes and will make a big difference."
When it comes to our interactions with people, we learn as you go.
But these tips can be super helpful as we go along our respective journeys.
You Do You
"No matter how good a person you are, at some point you will be the bad guy in someone else’s story. You can’t please everyone, and you shouldn’t try to. Be a good person, and have friendships with people you can respect and look up to."
When Making Decisions
"If you have trouble choosing, flip a coin. While you're waiting to get the result, your mind automatically starts to wish for what it wants. Then you can choose easily."
Growing A Backbone
"In a lot of daunting situations, for example asking someone out or standing up for yourself, you only need to be brave for a few seconds to get it over with."
You'll be grateful for stumbling upon these solutions to problems you never knew you had.
"Buy anything you'd need in your kitchen from a restaurant supply store. ANY-THING, plates, glasses, pans etc. There are a few online that sell to consumers. Those $8.99 tongs at a box store are like $1.30. A 16 oz. mason jar glass that sells for $3-$4 a piece can be bought as a 12 pack case for $8.55. Oneida China plates that sell for $345.84 a case for $57.84. I just bought a 2 foot by 2 foot wooden butchers block cutting board that would have been close to $400 for $55."
Make Unofficial Announcements
"If you put something down temporarily, say out loud 'I've put the screwdriver by the microwave' or whatever."
"This engages many more areas of the brain (particularly the language centres) which creates a richer memory making it less likely you'll forget where you put it."
"In a similar vein, I will say it out loud when I turn stove burners off, unplug my hair straightener etc...I’ve found this helps me eliminate those moments where I leave the house or am in bed and I’m suddenly like 'Did I leave that on?'"
Say It With A Twist
"My wife and I made this a ritual due to her OCD. Any time we're going out, I'll say to her, 'Hey. I unplugged the iron.' Saying it in a funny voice helps too, because it's easier to remember that Shrek told her the iron was off."
"Brush your teeth more thoroughly before bed after you are done eating and drinking for the day."
"Morning brushing is important too, but more so for fresh breath; while evening cleaning will prevent bacteria from breeding and damaging your teeth and gums."
If you read this far, congratulations!
With your newly acquired knowledge, you can now apply some of these to make your life stress-free on some level.
Because why should you make things harder for yourself in an already stressful world?
You deserve better.
As we all know, wisdom is earned with time and life experience. Try explaining that to youngsters when they have questions that are too complicated for them to grasp.
Kids will always be inquisitive but they usually aren't ready to receive answers–especially when the subjects are related to the concepts of romantic passion and death.
The best response to give a child when they ask about a mature topic is what Mrs. Potts (R.I.P. Angela Lansbury) told Chip in response to his observation of the budding romance between Belle and the Beast:
"I'll tell you when you're older."
Curious to hear examples of earned wisdom, Redditor dickdockdack asked:
"What is the single most 'you’ll understand it when you’re older' thing?"
Getting older can be unpleasant over time. But children need not worry about it until they have to."
"Health issues. I know I've been genetically lucky, but after 20, random sh*t just starts happening for no reason. It's like Darryl developing a soy allergy at 35, who develops a soy allergy at 35?"
Kids, when your grade school classmates stop pulling your hair and you stop retaliating mercilessly, you'll learn a thing or two about the people you call "friends."
Value Of Friendship
"That the quality rather than quantity of friends matters."
Sure, Everyone Is Cordial, BUT
"Good people aren't always nice people, and vice versa."
"High school drama isn’t important. Like, at all."
Kids Are Influential
"Understanding why your parents wanted you to go play with the awkward kid, or why they were so keen to help you make friends."
"It's beyond annoying as a kid when your parents try to guide who make friends with, but most parents instinctually know that bad social habits start early, are hard to break, and can be a real burden when you are older."
They Come And Go
"Friendships fading away."
"I remember my dad telling me all kinds of cool stories about things him and his friends did in the past. I even asked him 'why aren't you still friends with these people?' He really did basically say 'it's complicated, you'll understand when you're older.' Even back then I remember thinking 'that's crazy, me and my friends will always be friends."'
"Sitting here now in my early 30's and it really hits home."
Here are some honorable mentions.
Passing On "Luxuries"
"Can we get McDonald's? No we have food at home."
"Why it’s so annoying when you forget to take the chicken out of the freezer."
Convenience Of Zapping Food
"Man, I don’t know how parents in particular survived before the microwave oven. I’m a reasonably not-incompetent home cook, I understand there’s nothing you can do with a microwave that you can’t do without one - but doing without requires a lot more time, attention, and planning ahead, all of which are in very short supply with little kids underfoot."
"Also, unsolicited LPT: use the lower power settings, they do take longer, but they allow the heat to diffuse out of the 'hot spots' faster than it accumulates, so you get a nice, evenly-heated meal, and not an ice salad with lava dressing."
Getting old is a cruel fact of nature.
Loneliness Hits Hardest
"Why elderly people in nursing homes who get no visitors are so lonely and filled with despair."
"We had to put my mom in a home because we physically could not care for her anymore. She didn’t want to be there and we didn’t want her to be. But there weren’t any other options."
"My dad was there every day until he got sick and died. My sister and I stopped in a couple of times a week each. The last month of her life I was there every day."
"I hope she knew I did the best I could to take care of her."
We currently live in a fast-paced society where youngsters almost always have play dates, birthday parties, county fairs to attend, etc.
This is to be expected as kids are always needing to be stimulated.
Little do they know of the inevitability of doing nothing becomes a luxury to look forward to.
Until then, younglings, live life to the fullest and your reward of chilling out will come when you have learned to recognize it.
The Make-A-Wish foundation and similar organizations arrange to make the dreams of children with life-threatening or terminal illnesses come true.
As a result, children have been given trips to Disney World, the chance to meet celebrities, or throw a pitch or shoot a basket at the stadium or arena of their favorite sports team.
Moving and tear inducing stories to say the least.
However, not all children's wishes are lavish and extravagant.
For some, just getting the chance to enjoy a picnic with their friends, away from hospitals, doctors and nurses, is the only thing they want more than anything int he world.
While other wishes might result in confusion before they induce tears.
But knowing it's what the children dream of these foundations waste no time in making these wishes happen.
"Make a wish employees What was the most strangest thing a make a wish kid asked for and actually received?"
"I shot an internal promotional video for Make-A-Wish once."
"I got to read through a big book of wishes they had granted."
"Some of them were so extravagant and amazing."
"Family vacations, celebrity meetings."
"And then I saw a 3 year old who wished for a banana split for breakfast."
'And that's what they gave him."
"No one was like 'ayo'."
"'Wish higher'."- josiemarcellino
To The Moon And Back
"I helped host a visit to a planetarium by a kid whose wish was to go to the moon."
"The front office folks thought I could just give her a personal tour of the planetarium and show her some nice high-resolution visuals, but I thought she deserved better than that."
"I commissioned a jeweler friend and meteorite enthusiast to make a silver crescent moon necklace, which he graciously donated to the cause, and I donated a small lunar meteorite from my own collection."
"It was a gorgeous necklace very much to the credit of my friend's artistry and generosity."
"We couldn't take her to the moon so we gave it to her instead."
"She was thrilled, but later said her real highlight of the trip was the astronaut ice cream."
"Ah, kids."- aluminum26
Always Wise To Have A Back-Up Plan
"My daughter was a Make-A-Wish kid."
'She asked to go to Australia to meet the Wiggles."
'Unfortunately, she wasn't able to travel that far, we live in the US, health wise."
"She made a second wish, to meet Captain America."
"We never told Cap that he was a back up wish after the Wiggles were a no-go."
A Gentle Nudge Never Hurt...
"When my sister was 5 and I was 8, she had cancer and had the opportunity to make a wish."
'When our mom and the Make-A-Wish person sat down with her, they told her she could wish for whatever she wanted."
"She just kept saying she wanted macaroni."
"They kept saying 'but it can be anything you want!'"
"Yet she simply wanted macaroni and cheese."
"After some strong encouragement to think bigger, and the Make-A-Wish person suggesting Disneyland, she chose to go to Disneyland."- tinbasher97
Some Wishes Come With Baggage
"I was granted a wish after beating brain cancer in 2015."
"They flew my mum and I out to the capital city of our state and we stayed in the flashiest, most expensive hotel suite with all the bells and whistles."
"We got free dinner, drinks and dessert on arrival, got to chill in the VIP lounge while we were waiting for our room."
"Our room was decorated with teddy bears and chocolates and MAW decorations."
"The next day we were chauffeured to the local mall in a limo and I went on an eleven hour shopping spree with a pre-loaded VISA card and bought every solitary thing you would imagine a 16 year old girl wanting."
"I ended up having to buy another suitcase to take everything home with me but it was the most epic 3 days of my life."
"I’ll never forget it."- lizzierose456
Detective For A Day
"A friend of mine is a K9 police officer. "
"He helped Make-A-Wish grant a wish to a set of twins with the deadliest form of Cystic Fibrosis."
"Most of the time kids with CF aren’t allowed to be around others with it because of cross infecting bacteria."
"Them being twins shortens their life expectancy even more."
"Well these 10 year old boys wanted to meet a police dog."
"My friend and some of his buddies upped the wish and during their meeting of his dog they got called to help solve three 'crimes' in their town."
"They pulled over a high jacker, found and arrested a robber and helped find a 'missing' six year old, my friend’s nephew."
"The town police department gave them certificates and honorary police badges for their work."
"Around 200 people showed up to where they got their awards to cheer them on."
"At their eleventh birthday they gave my friend a plaque they made with their dad thanking him for the best day ever."- hisamsmith
Becoming Their Heroes And Role Models.
"To be a 'merman', a boy mermaid."
"He got a tail and swam in the giant tank with other mermaids at the aquarium."
"To play football with 'the red team'."
"No pro or college preference , just had to be red."
"USC made it happen."
"To be a 'cool kid'."
"Got a limo ride to the mall."
"Red carpet entrance with cheering fans, signed autographs, shopping spree for clothes."
"5 years old, so cute- and very 'cool'."
"To be Robin, not Batman.. he said he wasn’t ready for that."
"Went on an epic adventure fighting crime with Batman."- scootercomputes
Some young children dream big, while some still aren't aware just how big they can dream.
Strange as some of their wishes may be, anything that brings a smile to the face of a child with so little to smile about is as close to a dream come true as anyone is likely to get.
While also rapidly decreasing the world's supply of tissues.
The 2016 film Hidden Figures was notable for bringing international attention to Katherine Johnson, Dorothy Vaughn, and Mary Jackson, three remarkable mathematicians who were integral to the early successes of NASA space launches.
The title carried a double meaning, as it referred not only to a mathematical term but also to the fact that these remarkable women's contributions to NASA had been grossly overlooked for far too long.
As their accomplishments were overshadowed by those of their white male colleagues.
Indeed, Johnson, Vaughn, and Jackson are far from the only women who made momentous contributions to society but still don't get the recognition they deserve.
Despite the considerable efforts of journalists and historians to earn them their rightful place in the spotlight.
"Who are some women that often get overlooked in history but had major contributions to society?"
"Virginia Hall has a building named after her at the CIA."
"She was an American woman from Baltimore who went to Europe in the 1930s, lost her leg in a shooting accident, then proceeded to become a leader in the French Resistance and master of disguise, all with a wooden leg."
"The book A Woman of No Importance is about her and came out last year."- Muchamuchacha42
"Anna Connelly invented the fire escape in 1887."
"That same year, Josephine Cochrane invented the dishwasher."- fergi20020
"Carol Kaye, the First Lady of bass playing."
"She played over 10,000 sessions, including albums from Frank Sinatra, Beach Boys, Stevie Wonder, and the Monkees."- Cerrida82
Dr. Mona Hanna-Attisha
"Dr. Mona Hanna-Attisha."
"She is the Dean of Medicine at Hurley Children's Hospital in Flint, MI."
"She saw that children were having elevated lead levels (ELLs) outside the normal range."
"She contacted the Genesee Department of Health, who at first, dismissed her claim, then sent her obfuscated data to make it look like the ELLs were completely within normal trends."
"She grew frustrated at this, so she called a team of epidemiologists from VT, her alma mater, to find the source of the lead."
"Lo and behold, she found that the water in multiple zip codes was contaminated with lead."
"She informed the Genesee Department of Health Again, who brushed her off."
"She then said 'f*ck it' and held a major press conference where she announced on air that the water in Flint wasn't safe and to come to the hospital to get your child tested and to pick up supplies of water and liquid infant formula."
"If she saved thousands of children from the permanent effects of lead poisoning."- MadameBurner
"She created the first map of the ocean floor, which led to the discovery of tectonic plates, and the theory of continental drift."- PhantomKitten73
"Inge Lehmann was a Danish seismologist."
"She discovered P' waves, waves that reflect off of the inner-core, confirming that the earth has a solid inner-core and a liquid outer-core."- Occams_l2azor
Dr. Georgeanna Seeger Jones
"Dr. Georgeanna Seeger Jones."
"Dr. Jones singlehandedly organized the field of Gynecological Endocrinology."
"While at John’s Hopkins with her husband, Dr. Howard Jones and Drs. Roberts and Steptoe, she devised the hypothesis of follicular hyper stimulation, which produced more than one egg per cycle."
"Her later discoveries led to increases in viability of In Vitro Fertilization."
"Per Wikipedia : 'As a resident at Johns Hopkins, she discovered that the pregnancy hormone hCG was manufactured by the placenta, not the pituitary gland as originally thought'."
"'This discovery led to the development of many of the early over-the-counter pregnancy test kits currently available'."
"On 1949, Jones made the first description of Luteal Phase Dysfunction and is credited to be the first in using progesterone to treat women with a history of miscarriages, thus allowing many of them to not only conceive, but to deliver healthy babies'."
"She also served as a Dean of the College of Pontifical Sciences, advising the Vatican of matters of Gynecology and Conception."
"Her husband always said 'She’s the smarter one'.”
"She was also a great friend."- Fyrepup
Dr. Virginia Apgar
"In 1952 Dr. Virginia Apgar developed a quick, easy five-point test that summarizes health of newborns, and determine those needing emergency assistance."
"The Apgar Score is now given to practically every newborn, and helped save countless young lives, and reduce infant mortality."- anthropology_nerd
Be it poor timing, ill-kept records, or blatant sexism, there are far too many female trailblazers who deserve far more recognition than they are given.
Thankfully, there are also passionate historians who will continue to work hard to make sure they all get their moment in the sun.
With all of us showing our endless appreciation.