There are definitely some negative consequences when it comes to posting NSFW pictures online. True, you can do what you want- I don't judge, I was a burlesque dancer myself. But it's important to know the safety concerns, like having your "fans" approach you. Here are some of those stories. Post with caution!
u/Adrous asked: People who post NSFW pics on Reddit, have you even been approached by a "fan", if so how did it go?
Damn Tumblr.
I had always really struggled with body image stuff and didn't want anyone to look at me for the most part. I found this app called "Mobli" which was essentially Instagram for d*ck pics. I had lost a few pounds and decided to take a leap into the deep end and post a few things since I got to control who could see my "private" pics through a request/accept system. One was a photo of me in my underwear.
Someone apparently stole that and posted it on tumblr. I'm kind of a stocky/fat hairy guy with a beard so I never imagined that happening but I met someone at a party weeks later that recognized me from it. He told me he saw me there and I felt sick.
I asked him if he remembered where so he found the post and sent a link and there I was - face and all with the camera situated to put my junk all in the viewer's face. It had been reblogged like 700 times already including by some magazines specific to guys like me apparently.
Wholesome!
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Years back, there was a exotic dancer in town that I recognized from a Lil Wayne video. She was actually surprised that I knew that. Nice girl, hope she's doing well.
Yikes.
I happened to meet someone who showed me a list of his four favorite NSFW tumblr blogs he followed. Mine was on the list. I am not sure if he actually recognized it was mine and I didn't reveal the fact on my own.
Sounds like high school.
I used to post NSFW pics on tumblr, about a year after I deleted it some girls at work found the pictures and sent them to everyone at my work. I had to have a very awkward conversation with my manager.
To answer a couple of questions, the girls did get a talking to and had their probationary period extended but nothing really came of it. My manager spoke to me about it but I didn't get in trouble. I think the main reason she did was because she found out before I did and she thought I should know. The pictures had been reposted on other sites etc so I'm assuming they found them on one of those. Didn't really feel like asking them where they found them.
Awkward.
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I used to sell my underwear, socks and stuff online during my college years. I hardly ever met with clients but met this guy, let's call him Jim, a couple of times in a coffee shop to hand him the package because we lived in the same city. Super quick transaction - hi, thanks, have a good one. All was fine. Happened maybe 3-4 times. Always the same order.
Fast forward to a couple years later, I was invited to a job interview. Got there, met the CEO and we talked for a bit. Everything went great. I met a couple of other people and everyone seemed utterly lovely. At the end of the interview, CEO tells me to wait a bit because he wants me to meet the head of my future department. Well, Jim walks in. I probably wouldn't have recognised him if he hadn't acted all weird and pretty much fled the room after like 30 seconds of awkward starring. I got a call later from him today, he apologised and said that he was looking forward to working with me. I ended up taking another offer. Still get texts from him from time to time asking if I'd still sell him stuff though. So, yeah, that was fun.
Put a bag on your head.
There was a girl at my school, who had a video that her boyfriend recorded of them having sex go pretty viral on tumblr, everyone knew then, but the couple didn't really seem to care.
Fast forward to now, I sh*t you not I still see this video if I browse, not even looking it's just all over, she has had to make a post about dudes from our school hitting her up either trying to blackmail, or just sleep her because they assume she's easy?
Moral of the story, put a bag on your head.
Oh my GOD.
I posted a gif of my round man butt jiggling on Reddit about 8 years ago.
It ended up being used in some porn ads, blissfully unaware it was a man.
That's so scary.
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A friend from high school, who I knew of but didn't know, DM'd me on Facebook letting me know that there was a website dedicated to identifying GW girls. They had most of my pictures, my full name, my hometown, state, and college.
That was like 5 years ago and I haven't posted to GW since.
I owe her a lot.
Hijacking this comment for a PSA to anyone who posts anything NSFW on Reddit, even text stories: there are multiple websites out there that use automated bots to scrape content posted to Reddit and store / display it offsite, and often that includes attempts to dox the poster behind the content.
I had a friend who didn't even post nudes, just stories on r/gonewildstories, and she found that her posts were almost immediately (like, in a matter of hours after submitting) appearing on other porn sites under her username. She had a "profile" page created of her and everything, linking to all the stuff she'd posted that was stolen from Reddit and archived on other websites.
The takeaway here is that once you submit any NSFW content to a public site like Reddit, it's no longer under your control. You can delete the posts, take down the pics, even delete your account and that content will persist forever on other websites.
That's so messed up.
I used to post maybe 5 or 6 years ago. A friend of mine on Facebook warned me he'd come across my photos on a separate forum. People had taken them from reddit and posted them on a forum dedicated to doxxing women. They had my first and last name, and names of places (bars, etc) I commonly visited.
I had to change up my entire life because I was terrified of being murdered or assaults.
Edit: I edited this into a comment further down but adding here to dissuade the crazy theories. I went back to look at the Facebook message, it's been five years so I didn't remember details. He knew about it because they were extorting his sister for $500 to take down her photos. So he was looking in the (our area) thread to see if he recognized anyone else to warn. It has been taken down.
This is cute.
It was kinda cute. I was at a coffee shop and she approached me, asking about the book I was reading. I could tell something else was on her mind. I expected some pyramid scheme pitch, but she casually asked if I posted on reddit and if I was the username I used at the time.
It threw me off guard, like my real life hit with this anonymous world, but she turned out to be super nice and we ended up dating for a few months. I think she had an abnormal amount of self confidence and most people wouldn't approach.
That's kinda cool actually.
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Not exactly what is being asked and not my own experience.
But the opening scene for Wolf of Wall Street when Leonardo rips a line off of a woman's a** — she went to the same little college as I did. I didn't know her very well, as she was a couple years older.
On campus, those that ran in her circle knew and were supportive, and contrary to what might be expected, there were no creepy stalkers or whatever and it was largely accepted as a kinda neat fun fact about her.
And apparently DiCaprio is a delight.
What a strange first date.
Not this, but I was once set up on a blind date with a "fan" from FetLife. I didn't know until he called me by my username and asked if I'd do things from my profile with him. There definitely wasn't a second date.
That's creepy.
Not on Reddit but I used to be a cam girl. An older man in Walmart approached me saying he loved my videos and was very sad when I announced I wouldn't be doing them anymore. He saw my daughter (who was three months old at the time) and said "oh you got pregnant. You could have made a lot of money doing pregnant vids. I would have loved to watch you grow".
It freaked me out a bit, and my daughter and I left the store immediately. This is one of 3 people I've run into and he was the most polite, which is sad.
Yikes.
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I was a nude model in my younger years and posted some work on DeviantArt. Some of them ended up on 4chan and eventually the link to my portfolio got sent around at work in a very male dominated field. A lot of people liked to have opinions about me because they saw me naked, but had never actually spoken a single word to me in their life.
Lots of sexual harassment and unwanted attention came of it, but I still don't regret doing it. It was all very classy stuff and I'm proud of my body of work.
Thrift stores are the best places to flirt.
I had a guy recognize me in a Goodwill once. But he didn't come up to me, he messaged me a day later to tell me he had seen me but was too scared to say anything to me. We chatted for a while but never met up and it eventually fizzled out.
The old wives' tales.
They are the stories of legend.
I think we all need a big DEEP Google dive though.
Where did they originate?
WHO ARE THE OLD WIVES!
You don't hear about them as much anymore.
It's like science and logic are suddenly a thing.
But they sure are a good way to keep your kids and their behavior in line.
Redditor the_spring_goddess wanted to discuss the tall tales we've all been fed through life, so they asked:
"What is an old wives tale that people still believe?"
"Wait an hour to swim after eating."
What a crock!
So many summer hours wasted.
I want revenge for that one.
Say Nothing
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"An undercover cop has to tell you he's a cop if you ask him."
LonelyMail5115
"Pretty much most advice when it comes to cops are old wives tales. I’m not even a cop but most of the advice you hear is pretty off."
I_AM_AN_A**HOLE_AMA
Say Something
"That you have to wait 24 hours to report someone missing."
Severe_Airport1426
"I really think this one is important and should be the top regardless. As it’s a piece of advice that needs to be relearned and the only way to do that is through awareness."
crappycurtains
"This used to be true. I think they changed it after some guy named Brandon went missing back in the '80s or '70s. You used to have to wait 24 hours if the missing person was an adult because they had 'a right to be missing' and then everyone realized that was stupid and stopped doing it."
AlbinoShavedGorilla
Body Temps
"That drinking ice cold water after eating oily foods will solidify the oil and permanently remain in your body. I informed my coworker that if your body temperature ever reached that point, you’d have bigger problems than weight gain."
chriseo22
"Oh, I have a cousin who 100% believed this. One of those guys who believed every early 2000s internet rumor and old wives tale. One night I chugged a big glass of ice water after dinner and he started freaking out and saying my guts were gonna harden."
"I sarcastically told him to drive me to the hospital if that happened. Obviously, nothing happened and the next morning I said something like 'Thanks for being on standby in case my guts filled with hardened oil.' He just walked off muttering under his breath."
apocalypticradish
Arms Down
"When I was pregnant, I was told by young and old alike that I should NOT raise my arms above my head or exert myself in such a manner because it could cause cord strangulation to my unborn sons and daughters."
Fatmouse84
10 Years Actually
Unimpressed Uh Huh GIF by Brooklyn Nine-Nine
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"Chewing gum stays in your stomach for 7 years."
"I remember accidentally swallowing a piece of gum when I was a kid in like 1995 and just accepting my fate like welp, gonna have this in my stomach til high school I guess."
Gecko-911
I was so afraid to sallow my gum when I was young.
This tale is haunting.
High/Low
Hungry Debra Messing GIF by Will & Grace
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"You can tell the sex of the baby by how you carry."
LeastFormal9366
"Pregnancy certainly wins awards for the most old wives tales. So much absolute BS was repeated to us by everyone we talked to."
IllIIIlIllIlIIlIllI
The Cursed
"If you’re a woman and you wear opal jewelry but opal is not your birthstone (October), you’ll never be able to have children, or will be widowed, or just generally have bad luck or something. You can counteract this by having a diamond in the same piece of jewelry as the opal, though."
"I have a nice opal ring that my parents gave me years ago, and I’ve had other women give me this 'advice' unprompted more than once when I’ve worn it. I have absolutely no idea where it started, but I’m pretty sure this little chunk of silicate rock has no concept of what month I was born in, let alone of how my reproductive organs work."
SmoreOfBabylon
Stay In
"Going outside with wet hair will make you get pneumonia. Or an earache. Or maybe arthritis. Depends on which old wife you listen to."
"Jokes on them - I haven't blow-dried my hair in decades and usually leave the house with wet hair in the morning. On winter mornings, the tips of my hair get frozen. No ear infections or pneumonia or arthritis yet."
worldbound0514
Dreams and Facts
"You never make anyone up in your dreams you've seen everyone in your dreams somewhere else before and never make anyone up entirely."
"How would you possibly prove that to be true? My partner adamantly believes this and tells me this 'fact' whenever I have a dream about someone I've never met before."
mattshonestreddit
"My late wife used to tell me that before she met me she would have dreams of standing at an alter on her wedding day but could never see the guy's face, no matter how hard she tried. After meeting me the face was filled in with mine. Don't know if it's true but one of those things I like thinking of every now and then when I miss her."
Darthdemented
Cracked
Getting Ready Episode 2 GIF by The Office
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"Some people still believe cracking knuckles causes arthritis."
Choice-Grapefruit-44
"There's a doctor (Donald Unger) that cracked his knuckles a couple of times a day for 60 years, but only on one hand, just to prove it. Both hands remained exactly the same."
MacyTmcterry
I love my knuckles.
Do you have any tall tales to add to the list? Let us know in the comments below.
