Depression Sufferers Share The Worst Advice They’ve Ever Gotten
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Living with depression is incredibly difficult.

It's made all the more difficult when people share unsolicited advice.

This isn't to say that others don't mean well–they often do–but they may sometimes lack the foresight or tact required for conversations about mental illness.

It's a lot easier to play armchair psychologist than actually learn a thing or two about what life is like for depression sufferers.

That's why a lot of people prefer to live with the disease silently; they'd rather not hear other people's callous remarks and prefer to be spared their judgment.


We heard about bad advice in action after Redditor nekrozis666 asked the online community:

"People who suffer from depression, what was the worse advice you've gotten?"

"Just stop..."

"Just stop thinking negatively. Just be happy. Just get some exercise. Just eat healthier. I am so sick of the 'just do this' advice. Like yeah, those things MIGHT help, but all of them are impossible when I'm struggling to even change my clothes, take a shower, cook actual meals, or clean my house everyday."

MissAnthropy612

Oh, if only it were that easy!

How the hell can you get anything done when it's a hassle to even get out of bed in the mornings?

"It's kind of the thing..."

"'Do things you like.'"

"It's kind of the thing....you can do them but you don't like doing them anymore. You're emotionally flat and exhausted and frankly it's even worse to go through the motions of a thing you used to love."

Kay_Elle

Losing pleasure in things you enjoy is so frustrating.

You can't just "do things you like" when none of it brings you any joy and feels more like an imposition.

"Thanks..."

"'Think about people who have it worse.' Thanks, now I'm depressed and feeling guilty about it."

ipakoopapi

Your feelings are always valid no matter how many idiots you're surrounded by.

"Ditch your meds..."

"Ditch your meds and do acid a few times, it'll fix everything."

Bagospearen

Psychedelics can be massively helpful in the right setting at the right time, but a bad trip can equally be so traumatizing it leaves you recovering for months.

They're a catalyst for introspection and change, not a cure on their own.

"My dad told me..."

"My dad told me to have kids, which makes me wonder about him."

illmade

Perhaps it simply means he became a happier man after having you—but this is an excellent example of advice that should not be "one size fits all."

"Why, that's brilliant."

"'You should try to be more positive!'"

"Why, that's brilliant. I had never considered the idea that I could just be more positive and poof, everything would be better. But this advice did get me to realize that I am responsible for my own wellbeing. I can ask for help but ultimately, it's on me to work on my issues."

iamalext

Good to hear that this advice served as a catalyst to that realization—as bad as that advice was.

"Gee, thanks!"

"'At least you're not in a 3rd world country.' Gee, thanks! Can I go take my antidepressants now?"

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It really says a lot about someone when they bring up less developed countries to make their careless points.

"I was told..."

"I was told to pray the depression away by my therapist."

Significant_Venison

Sounds like you need a new therapist.

Immediately.

"The worst advice..."

"The worst advice was: If you have time for depression, you have nothing to do. Get more work, clean your house; in our youth we worked 6 days a week and helped our parents on weekends."

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While there are certainly people out there who do well on comparatively full schedules, this doesn't hold true for a lot of people out there—and still does nothing to address the root cause of depression.

"My dad told me..."

"My dad told me if I prayed, God would take it away along with my lupus and other crippling health issues."

htkpe

Yeah, dad... it doesn't work that way.

But nice try, though?

Not.

As you can see, none of these pieces of advice actually help anyone.

Think before you speak—especially if you're not a trained professional.

Have some stories of your own? Feel free to tell us more in the comments below!

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