Dear Men,
Can y'all please put your forearms away, you're creating a distracting work environment for everyone.
Just kidding, nobody expects you to hide totally non-sexual pieces of your body just to make others comfortable. But you need to know... forearms. Forearms, fam.
Reddit user tycooperaow asked:
"Women of Reddit, what is a non-sexual thing a guy did that turned you on?"
Scrunching your shirt to show your forearms is (clearly) my answer, but there's tons of innocuous stuff y'all are out here doing that have people down bad. Fiending. Craving. Thirsting...
Dinner And Desert
GIF by ShamelessGiphy"When we're cooking together. He is just chopping some vegetables and here I am getting turned on."
- flake5991
"Honestly cooking together is a very successful dating strategy for me."
"Have someone over and say you'll cook them a meal, they'll probably end up helping you and it's become an activity you guys do together."
"Then you eat the food, clean up, then before you know it you're in bed for desert."
- writingwithmovement
Driving 'Em Wild
Reverse Richard Hammond GIF by DriveTribeGiphy"Putting his hand behind the passenger seat and looking over his shoulder to reverse the car, pheww"
- subjectivevalue01
"You know he's about to finesse the hell outta that reverse."
- smol_boi-_-
"I remember once, on whatever freeway that is between Philadelphia and Baltimore, I was driving late at night with my then-girfriend and our baby daughter in the back seat."
"At one point doing the drive, I easily navigated a difficult stretch with one hand while singing 'Always Something There To Remind Me.' "
"My girlfriend, out of nowhere, declared 'I love you.' "
- ATAlum
"I agree, I get jitters in my nethers whenever my boyfriend reverses the car like that so effortlessly 😩"
- Poliwhirlers
"Second this, idk why but dang it's such a turn on."
- _throwaway26374859
Getting Personal
season 4 massage GIF by Chicago MedGiphy"Giving me a back rub."
"It doesn't start sexual, but after years of giving them to guys for a solid 15-30 minutes at a time (my arm was dead!) who wouldn't do it back for more than two swipes of their arm; a legitimate back rub is so appreciated and immediately turns me on."
"In general though, anything they do just to make my life easier and better on their own without my prodding."
"I noticed tons of things about my past partners (favorite food, favorite game, comfort tv show, comfort topics, comfort activities) that I would actively try to engage them in or give them when I can tell they're having a bad day."
"They don't ask. I just do trying to make them feel better."
"It so rarely happens where my stuff like that gets noticed that when it does, it's just amazing and appreciated and is immediate 'take me now.' "
"I don't mean chores or cooking help to make my life easier, I mean 'I've noticed you get happy and excited around these topics/things and you feel crappy. I'm gonna talk about these things/topics and just let you go deep.' "
"Chores and cooking help is nice, but it's not personal. Personalized help on a bad day is just amazing."
- musryujidt
Heathen Hugs
Kate Mckinnon Flirt GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy"Hugging me from behind. Poor guy just wants a hug and my first response is always to wiggle my butt like a dirty heathen."
- mikasa_517
"Uff the hugging from behind is my weakness too!"
- random_star0350
"Let me urge you to be a dirty heathen every time."
- deathbyhours
"Oh that booty wiggle is something else"
- steamenginetrain
Choreplay
cleaning up mr clean GIF by ADWEEKGiphy"First time I had my now-husband over for dinner at my house, he immediately got up and started doing dishes after he was done eating."
"Married 4 years now and it still gets me going every time."
- Dragoness42
"Choreplay is 100% real. I text her a picture of me doing laundry and dishes while she's out with her girlfriend(s)? She's jumping my bones the moment she gets home."
- throwawayspank1017
"I remember reading a Suzanne Brockmann book (Night Watch). The woman returns with bags of groceries."
"The guy (not yet a boyfriend) is on the phone, but he automatically reaches out to start bringing in the groceries and help put them away."
"I'm like, Suzanne Brockmann, you GET it. That is so hot."
- moonbeamcrazyeyes
"I figured this out many years ago. Women get horny when the house is clean and they didn't do any cleaning."
- teneggomlette
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The Actors Who Seemed Miscast But Absolutely Nailed The RoleFew people bought into the idea of Bryan Cranston in the role of Walter White before Breaking Bad...The Reverse Clark Kent
justice league glasses GIF by DC ComicsGiphy"When a guy doesn't mention he has glasses until he needs them to read or to drive in the dark, then puts them on outta nowhere. Oof."
- Minnie7831000
"When my husband puts his glasses on.... 😈😈😈"
- ainjel
"They normally wear contacts, so seeing them in glasses is a big and nice shock"
- XenaSerenity
"Reverse Clark Kent."
- Ascholay
Monkey Brain
Beauty And The Beast Dance GIFGiphy"When he's a good Dad to our kid. Nothing makes me love him more than watching him play with, or snuggle, our 9 year old daughter."
"He's always been a good Daddy."
"Whenever I see it I get the happy clenches in my heart :)"
- littlegingerfae
"My wife always said that too. Seeing me just stop everything to take time with the kids to play or teach warmed her up."
- TenuousOgre
"I'm childfree by choice and don't even enjoy being around children. But every time I see him being great with kids I get all ... squirmy. Some SERIOUS monkey brain action here."
- [Reddit]
I Told You!
bash stanton GIF by MLBGiphy"Aw man, just saw a dude in 3/4 sleeve baseball shirt the other day. I started feeling ashamed for objectifying his forearms so much."
"Worked with this guy for months. I had no idea his forearms were so attractive. I had no idea I found forearms attractive."
- Princessfootinmouth
"Not a woman, but my girlfriends tell me rolled up sleeves showing off forearm does it for them."
- rudalsfg
"I had a girlfriend who loved watching me button the cuff buttons on a dress shirt. Something about the motion of it."
"Never understood it, but always made sure she was in plain sight when I had to button them."
- AmigoDelDiabla
"I'm a little guy, and never had big forearms."
"I had a new girlfriend about 15 years ago. I had just purchased a button up that had a little strap and button for the half rolled sleeve look."
"I came out of the house to meet her with her dog. She tells me later that shirt with the exposed arms is what sealed the deal for her. I laughed because if my forearms worked, any would."
- maaaatttt_Damon
Handle It
I Can Handle It Fast And Furious GIF by The Fast SagaGiphy"I am not a women but I can give a good example of a non-sexual thing leading to amazing sex."
"Long story short, wife and I heading off on a long road trip, had car trouble on day one. I dealt with it and we got moving again."
"I didn't think much of it."
"We got to our hotel that night and she was like a wild woman, it was extraordinary."
"I was like, 'wow!' and she said, 'I've wanted to do you so bad since you got that car going.' "
"So yeah, maybe just handling a problem?"
- Stumpytoes
"Taking charge and taking care of things."
- Ascholay
Talent
Kelly Clarkson Nbc GIF by The VoiceGiphy"Some one being really good at something."
"Like, say a brilliant piano player who really knows how to handle the piano, or a scientist who is insanely intelligent, or a craftsman who can carve beautiful things."
"Straight away I think: 'yes baby, handle me like that piece of wood, you sexy stranger with incredible talent.' "
- turdusphilomenos
Confusingly Sexy
"So this isn't like most of the comments I'm seeing here but I still question to this day why this turned me on."
"We were playing Dungeons and Dragons. My DM was in character as someone we were fighting and threatened the party."
"I cannot remember what the hell he said, but I distinctly remember sitting there for a while thinking 'why is THAT of all things turning me on?' I guess I'm into magic and threats?"
- opalrosehawk
Oh Look, We're Talking About Forearms Again
Oprah Winfrey Wow GIFGiphy"My husband's best friend from childhood opened a bottle with his forearm."
"Something about that was just Soooo Sexy."
"I mentioned it later to my husband (the trick, not that I thought it was sexy) and he said 'Who do you think taught him that?' "
"And yes, he demonstrated."
"And yes, it was still very sexy!"
- ZubLor
"I'm a simple lass. Rolled up sleeves on a button down shirt with the top few buttons undone is like catnip."
"Can't even really explain it beyond that, it just does something for me."
- BasketSweet2737
Be Free
The Kid Mero Dance GIF by Desus & MeroGiphy"Generally just not giving a f*ck about what anyone thinks of him."
"He will dance and be goofy as hell in public without a care in the world. He's just living life to have a good time while making other people's lives better in the process."
"We've been together for eleven years."
"Just not giving a f*ck about expected societal constructs is so attractive to me. Men who aren't 'just trying to do all of the things that society expects of them' are sexy."
"Just be you and forget all of the fake social media pics and captions and what your deranged family might think of you. Don't live a lie."
- jolly_poison85
Focus
dynasties GIF by BBC AmericaGiphy"When a man is thinking, focused, in a thoughtful act."
"He could be helping his Old People or his children, immersed in his favorite sport or hobby, talking about something that is important to him, relating to a pet, ribbing his friends, laughing subtly about something really funny."
"Doesn't matter. It's all sexier when he's focused."
- rsogoodlooking
Stretch
Gym Stretch GIF by Chance The RapperGiphy"Ugh my best friend who I'm really attracted to... Has the body of a GOD and if he ever stretches/yawns and I get that one little inch of lower torso when his shirt pulls up I'm DONE."
- tofutti770
"Bro anybody stretching is so f*cking hot…men and women. You can NOT prove me wrong like damn that's sexy"
- Kandle13
Best Vacay Ever
knight ok GIFGiphy"A guy riding a horse! I love horses and a guy that knows how to ride is just so sexy."
"And I love guys with long hair."
"We went to Medieval Times once and it was like a freakin fantasy for me. Mmmmm."
- mslm90
A Screwdriver
jim carrey screwdriver GIFGiphy"Not bragging but I was putting away dishes and mentioned my frying pan handle was loose."
"Without missing a beat, my boyfriend pulled a screwdriver out of nowhere and tightened it. Literally the hottest thing I have ever seen in my life and I've lived a good one."
- Archeressrabbit
Don't Panic
Ross Geller Friends GIFGiphy"I remember I went out to lunch with a co-worker. The server came over before I was ready to order, and I panicked."
"He looked at me and casually said 'the fajitas here are great.' I nodded, and he turned to the server and announced 'two fajita plates, please.' "
"Turned back to me and said 'water? Or something else?' I mumbled water, and he pleasantly turned to the server, smiled politely and said 'just a couple of waters.' "
"Now, I had never had a guy order for me. I always thought it would be something I would even get a little miffed at."
"Maybe it was him recognizing my panic, and just trying to help."
"Maybe it was the way he was so pleasant and charming about it."
"Maybe it was because I am used to staring at my children and insisting they make a f*cking choice about the food so the nice server can go about their darn job."
"But God damn, having someone else handle the ordering business with that kind of dignity and confidence... got me all sorts of hot and bothered in an unexpected way."
- Princessfootinmouth
A Subway Seat
Happy Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt GIFGiphy"Stranger on the subway asked me to save his seat."
"I was very confused, but couldn't stop watching as he dashed halfway down the car to ask an elderly lady if she wanted a seat. She was fine standing so he came back and I was blushing the rest of the way home."
- kickingtenshi
Studious And Attentive
Austin Powers Flirting GIFGiphy"Be extremely good at pool. Like pool shark status."
"I've hung out with two guys in the past who you'd never guess it and then next thing you know, they're banking the entire table in like two goes."
"Just the way they studiously approach it and pace around the table, eyes so attentive…"
- ultravioletblueberry
What did I tell you about the forearm thing? I wasn't kidding!
Forearms. Men, women, nonbinary folk, genderfull friends, cryptids... hear me. Take note.
Forearms.
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Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.