Bridal Party Calls It Quits After Bride Kicks Out Gay Bridesmaid Last Minute To Supposedly Appease Her Homophobic In-Laws
Weddings are stressful by nature.
Though they're beautiful occasions, they require tons of planning months in advance, forcing the bride and groom to make fast decisions.
In the midst of all the pressure, a bride or groom's true personality may reveal itself. Sometimes the results aren't the most pleasant.
In one bride's case, she was placed in the tough position of choosing between pleasing her future in-laws or standing up for her friends.
According to one of her friends—who was supposed to be one of the bridesmaids—the bride made the wrong choice.
The former bridesmaid, Reddit user "SoggyWealth0," shared her story on the "Am I the A$$hole" subReddit, asking if she was wrong to react in the way she did after hearing of the bride's decision.
The former bridesmaid shared:
"My friend Kelly is getting married next Saturday. She asked myself and 3 other friends to be her bridesmaid, her sister as MOH. One of our friend Ellis is in a same sex relationship. Kelly seems to have no issues with it since she asked Ellis to be her bridesmaid and invited Ellis' partner as a guest to the wedding."
"Well last night Kelly texted Ellis and told her she's no long a bridesmaid, she and her partner aren't welcome to the wedding. Ellis was confused and pressed for a reason. Turns out Kelly's FILs are furious "f**king gay sluts" are attending their wedding. It's a sacred place and dirty h*es have no business being there."
"Ellis calls me earlier this morning while my BF and I were sleeping. She was really upset and crying. I tried to comfort her the best I could and we are meeting up for dinner later. So I called Kelly and asked WTF is going on. She tells me it's no big deal, she's only missing a plate of food and she will make it up to her. She also has the nerve to tell me to ask Ellis to lend her the bridesmaid dress because she found someone to replace her. So it wouldn't look uneven at the wedding. It's such a hassle and last minute, if everyone would just be normal then this wouldn't happen. I pretty much lost it right there."
"I told her she's the s**ttiest piece of s**t I have ever met. She's just all into looks and I told her I am not going to the wedding either and hung up on her. My BF heard this all go down and texted the groom that's he's not going to be the best man either. My BF also told his friends about what happened and they are also not going to the wedding."
"The MOH calls me up and says I'm such a B***h that I ruined the wedding for Kelly and I'm just starting s**t up. I'm honestly glad I bowed out but I'm left wondering if I should've just kept to myself then confront Kelly after the wedding? Our tight group thinks i did nothing wrong but others said I shouldn't dictate who gets to go their wedding."
The former bridesmaid later updated her post on the subReddit page, stating that the situation wasn't all that it seemed to be.
It already would have been horrible if the bride chose her future in-law's preferences over defending her friend.
But as it turns out, the bride dramatically exaggerated what her future in-law's said. She chose to un-invite her friends from the wedding and remove her friend from the bridal party, on her own terms.
The former bridesmaid explained in the updated post:
"So yesterday was a huge s**t show. The groom, Eric came to the restaurant where we had dinner and apologized to Ellis. He also wanted to make a few things clear. He had no idea Kelly would go behind his back and tell Ellis and Anita (her partner) they aren't welcome to the wedding. And most importantly, his parents didn't say any of those things."
"His father made an off hand comment which translates to 'what's a good girl like Ellis doing with another woman?' His mother said 'children these days think different.' Kelly took it upon herself to interpret that her future-in-laws meant they hated homosexuals. FILs weren't furious and never said Ellis and Anita aren't welcome to the wedding. Kelly and a few of us speak that dialect fluently, there's no way she didn't understand exactly what Eric's parents said."
"The wedding is called off as Eric wants to step back and think if Kelly is the right match for him."
The former bridesmaid also explained that all of the bride's behavior may have come to light out of pure jealousy.
She continued in her update:
"Anita tells us Kelly has been very passive aggressive towards her and Ellis for the past few weeks. Anita said she thought it was the stress of the wedding so Kelly was acting up. I think it's also because Anita and Ellis are getting married at the end of the year."
"We live in a country where gay marriage is non existent. In fact if you are LGBTQ, you as a person don't exist. Ellis and Anita have talked about going to Canada or Taiwan to get their marriage license and holding a mini banquet back in our country. Someone suggested we all go to Taiwan for a mini vacation and they can have a small wedding there."
"We have been talking non stop about this for the past month. Tbh we were talking about the vacation rather than the wedding since it's the first time most of us have traveled there. Kelly is probably jealous that Ellis upstaged her."
"Either way, Ellis and I feel incredibly guilty for how it all went down. We've known Kelly for over a decade and we don't want to see her go down in flames. It's a pity that a friendship had to end this way over a single day."
The response from the Reddit community was a unanimous "no," that the former bridesmaid was not being a jerk for choosing to step out of the bridal party in favor of supporting her friend.
They were quick to point out that her friends, Ellis and Anita, being a part of the LGBTQ+ community, already don't have enough support. By taking a stand and stepping out of the wedding, she showed unconditional love and support for her friends and their unfair removal from the wedding celebration.
Not to mention the bride's decision to use her future in-laws as a cover story for a decision she was making alone; lying and putting words in someone else's mouth is never a good look.
"NTA. Go you for sticking up for your friend. And your bf too. And your friends are ah for saying you're dictating who can and can't go, people make up their own minds about that and you are all right to not go." - flagg6805
"Thank you thank you thank you!! As a gay person this means so much to me. News flash! if you're dating someone/marrying someone who's homophobic that still makes you the a$hole. I'm so happy these people immediately shut that s**t down. It's not always a homophobic bashing that people are most worried about when it comes to homophobia. It's this type. The 'I need to be accommodating for people who 'don't believe in homos'' type."
"I get the s**t beat out of me. At least I know it's cause the person was a d**k. This girl is now just showing her true colors. When it gets right down to it, she'd rather side with the homophobes than her own friend. That's betrayal and almost worse. She's essentially endorsing her in laws beliefs." - majorminor51
"Agree 100% You are perfectly modeling what to do when presented with evidence that someone in your life is an unrepentant bigot. Not only are you NTA - you did good!" - VaalbarianMan
"Add to that, her statement ((if everyone would just be normal then this wouldn't happen)) Says it all. You do not say something like that if you truly accept your friends for who they are." - Kittinlily
It's too soon to tell what will happen with Eric and Kelly's relationship, but clearly they have some things to work out before they move forward. Including, but certainly not limited to, inviting almost an entirely new wedding party.
You know how when you hear the same thing over and over again, it kind of makes you want to kick someone in the shin? Yeah ... this article is totally about that.
Reddit user _ligaya asked:
LGBTQ+ people, what are you tired of hearing?
And if you, like me, foolishly thought that some of the more awful or annoying stereotypes had gone away, then brace yourself. They're still here in full effect. Here are some of the things that members of LGBTQ+ community are tired of hearing, both from outside and inside of the community.
In the words of Motormouth Maybelle: "Brace yourselves for a whole lotta ugly comin' at you from a neverending parade of stupid."
Woman's Attempt At Decrying The 'Sins' That Will Keep You Out Of Heaven Gets Blown To Smithereens
Many sects of Christianity have evolved to embrace people from all walks of life – including the LGBTQ community.
But one woman is being dragged for her outdated views on religion.
Religious Twitter user Kristen Hodges ignited hellfire after listing "sins" that will bar you from entering the pearly gates.
She devotes 95% of her tweeting activities to Jesus, yet her latest tweet has nothing to do with the teachings found in the New Testament.
According to Hodges's gospel, "being LGBT" and "getting drunk/high" are sins, and anyone who is guilty of such cannot be a Christian.
She bullet-listed other unspeakable acts such as "sex before marriage," "being lustful," "masturbation," "cheating/lying," and "cursing/quick to anger" as sins.
Although she conceded that "God loves everyone," she assured that "not everyone will go to Heaven!"
Her tweet got over three thousand responses, with many of them from users who forfeited their ticket to heaven by happily committing one of Hodges's sins: "cursing/quick to anger."
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Drinks are on this guy.
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@natfinnonE @KHodgess I guess typing masturbation is a sin. I’m a sinner.— Tony Posnanski (@Tony Posnanski) 1561140766
Sinners are getting lubed up.
@natfinnonE @tonyposnanski @KHodgess Oh I’m sinning right now 😳— eric molina (@eric molina) 1561140925
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This user called out her tendency to be holier than thou.
Hodges may have conveniently forgotten about judging others (James 4:11).
@KHodgess @calebebling You seem pretty comfortable judging, which is a sin. So...— Evan A. LaChance (@Evan A. LaChance) 1561149985
@KHodgess Judge not lest ye be judged. I'm thinking you missed out on that one. Worry about yourself. 🤔👍— Andrew Goss 👊USAF👊 (@Andrew Goss 👊USAF👊) 1561142249
What is heaven, really?
Or hell, for that matter?
@OutlierShME @gerivas66 @winewithdara @RockyMtnShaggy @A_DVS_NTT @KHodgess If hell exists, I bet it’s a party.— 💜🖤🤍♠️ THEE Rain - “Hello, I must be going” (@💜🖤🤍♠️ THEE Rain - “Hello, I must be going”) 1561155571
This user was more merciful.
@KHodgess Messages like this is exactly why people are leaving the church in droves. Why don’t you check the plank… https://t.co/bZ0Mw5iD45— Cynthy Wu (@Cynthy Wu) 1561157555
Hodges is known for her interpretation of Christianity.
In a previous tweet, she insisted "you are not born wanting the same sex" and that by rejecting His word, you are "insulting a perfect creator."
She contradicted herself by vowing to "stand up for people," but remained uncompromising about her anti-LGBTQ views.
Her reality check continued.
@KHodgess it’s not YOUR place to belittle anyone. it’s not YOR place to make these people feel bad. THIS is the kin… https://t.co/8VJp0tG6K4— mak (@mak) 1536439535
@KHodgess You wear glasses - did God not create you with imperfect eyes? Why insult Him by wearing glasses?— jessica harvey (@jessica harvey) 1536555067
@KHodgess "The More You Know..." https://t.co/ost34veTcE https://t.co/ugAWpjkgyn— John Pavlovitz (@John Pavlovitz) 1561159162
Hell hath no fury like the internet fighting for justice, equality and minding your own business.
For many modern inclusive Christian organizations, the focus of The Bible and their faith draws more from the Sermon on the Mount where Jesus introduced The Beatitudes. Instead of condemnation, it speaks of blessings on certain behaviors and actions.
A copy of The Beatitudes, suitable for framing and gift giving, is available here.
Chasten Buttigieg has won the hearts of tons of people as his husband, Pete Buttigieg, campaigns across the nation for the presidency.
People have fallen for Chasten's charisma, his intellect, his "realness" and his warmth.
Recently, Chasten opened up to The Washington Post about how this new-found popularity has affected him and how that popularity hasn't exactly translated to his family life.
As far as potential "first spouses" go, Chasten is unique. He's still in his twenties, the campaign is happening in the first year of his marriage, he is the first in his family to graduate from college and he and Pete are a same-sex couple.
Chasten Buttigieg is a story of firsts.
One of the major firsts in his life has to do with his family. Chasten is the first member of the LGBT+ community in his working-class, mid-western, conservative Christian family. Coming out didn't come so easily to him, but Chasten Buttigieg insists nobody was entirely surprised.
He told The Washington Post that he was entirely different from his two older brothers his whole life. They were athletes; Chasten preferred reading, theater, and Celine Dion ballads.
In their small High School, about 500 students total, there were no openly LGBT+ students - but that didn't prevent Chasten from standing out enough to be bullied, called homophobic slurs and get flung around by his backpack in physical attacks.
Eventually, Chasten applied to an exchange program that sent him to live in Germany for a brief period of time.
It was there that he finally confessed that he had been:
"scratching and itching and clawing to try to change whatever brain chemistry was making me the way I was."
Rather than reject him, the friends he made in Germany just gave him a word to go with how he was feeling - gay. Chasten Buttigieg accepted his homosexuality for the first time while in Germany. He knew it would change his whole world back home.
He wasn't wrong.
When he told his friends, they mostly responded by telling him that they loved him. However, there was a sharp divide in that love. Some loved him just the way he was, but others loved him by telling him he should turn to God to fix him.
That sentiment was later echoed in his family by his brothers, but we will get there.
First, he told his parents. He sat them down in the living room and handed them a letter filled with words he couldn't bring himself to say aloud.
After reading it, his mother's response shocked him.
"I remember my mom crying, and the first thing she asked me was if I was sick. I think she meant, like, did I have AIDS?"
His father opted for silence and Chasten spent what felt like ages getting the cold shoulder from his once warm and loving family.
Then he heard his brother utter the words that convinced him he wasn't safe at home:
"No brother of mine …"
At that point, he made the difficult decision to leave, feeling safer homeless than he did with his family. Chasten spent time couch surfing or sleeping in his car in the parking lot of his university.
It took months, but eventually his parents asked him to come back home. Their next conversations on his sexuality clearly went better than their first.
When Chasten and Pete fell in love, his parents were thrilled and proudly walked Chasten down the aisle to his future husband.
That loving acceptance hasn't come from his brothers, though. According to Chasten they just never got past it.
To this day Chasten has no relationship with either of his older siblings. One declined to be interviewed for The Washington Post piece.
The other, Rhys, who is now a Christian minister in Michigan admitted that Chasten coming out was not at all a surprise. Everyone had known since childhood.
However, knowing Chasten was born this way didn't mean the minister could accept it.
He simply stated:
"I want the best for him. I just don't support the gay lifestyle."
Gay U.S Ambassador To Germany Compares Pete Buttigieg To Jussie Smollett's 'Hate Hoax' For Attacking Mike Pence
Just about everyone is familiar with Jussie Smollett's alleged hate hoax.
Now United States Ambassador to Germany Richard Grenell is accusing Pete Buttigieg of something similar.
Recently, Buttigieg called Mike Pence "anti-gay". Richard Grenell, who is gay, claims Pete Buttigieg is committing a hate hoax.
Here’s a tweet from 2015 that is barely mentioned. The hate hoax being perpetrated on my friend @VP Mike Pence is… https://t.co/FuNlERxNhx— Richard Grenell (@Richard Grenell) 1555667995
Buttigieg was commenting on a video where Pence calls the former "don't ask, don't tell" policy too pro-gay for the military.
During an interview with Fox news Grenell said, after viewing the clip of Buttigieg calling Pence anti-gay:
"Mayor Pete has been pushing this hate hoax, along the lines of Jussie Smollett, for a very long time now, several weeks."
Grenell, who calls the Pences his friends, has said they are:
"...great…godly people [who] don't have hate in their heart for anyone."
He went on to talk about how Mike and Karen Pence know his partner and have accepted them.
Karen Pence has even accused Buttigieg of using her husband for notoriety. Grenell mirrored this by suggesting Buttigieg was only bringing up Pence's well-known stance on LGBTQ+ issues in order to encourage donations and gain attention as he runs for the Democratic Party's presidential nomination for 2020.
Grenell questioned why Buttigieg, who would be the first openly gay President if elected, would speak poorly against a man who has spoken so well of him in the past.
Buttigieg responded by saying:
"People will often be polite to you in person while advancing policies that harm you and your family. You will be polite to them in turn, but you need not stand for such harms. Instead, you push back, honestly and emphatically. So it goes, in the public square."
Jay Lockhart, a former press secretary, questioned why a sitting U.S. ambassador would be speaking out against a potential presidential candidate on TV.
@a_miehls @RichardGrenell @marthamaccallum Why is a sitting US ambassador going on TV to talk about a Presidential candidate?— Joe Lockhart (@Joe Lockhart) 1555629270
Grenell responded to the tweet that he was defending his friend.
My friend was attacked. I’m defending my friend from a terrible & erroneous charge of homophobia. And I’m gay. https://t.co/PvJsPq1APy— Richard Grenell (@Richard Grenell) 1555629977
There were many replies, wondering why Grenell seems to ignore Pence's Anti-LGBTQ+ stance.
@joelockhart @a_miehls @RichardGrenell @marthamaccallum Because they are afraid that Mike Pence and his anti-gay ag… https://t.co/aWVP9wULbZ— Michelangelo Signorile (@Michelangelo Signorile) 1555641751
Wait, what? Are you seriously denying that VP Pence has engaged in homophobia? I’m asking earnestly, not snarkily. https://t.co/kaSmrnMkfG— Jeremy Hooper (@Jeremy Hooper) 1555634416
Okay, I’ve now watched the clip, and the answer is yes. Ambassador Grenell, a gay man, just claimed that… https://t.co/KE0K85kR6p— Jeremy Hooper (@Jeremy Hooper) 1555637054
Buttigieg: Pence is cynically exploiting his religious faith to legitimize a serial philanderer in the eyes of evan… https://t.co/NiYW0KfpUy— Scott Bixby (@Scott Bixby) 1554998665
The fact that Pence has not used an anti-gay slur against Buttigieg does not mean the mayor has no valid reason to… https://t.co/4pa3b9PUnH— Mark Joseph Stern (@Mark Joseph Stern) 1554987816
@mjs_DC It was painful but illuminating to read the article you provided. Thank you. (I had always loathed Pence fo… https://t.co/4fS7K58gpP— Nancy Molzon (@Nancy Molzon) 1555006455
Lockhart was not the only one to find a sitting Ambassador inserting themselves into a political campaign inappropriate. GLAAD also called Grenell's Fox News appearance.
A sitting ambassador shouldn’t be going on TV to attack a Presidential candidate, @RichardGrenell https://t.co/FCscMPoNBq— GLAAD (@GLAAD) 1555707766
In response, Grenell claimed GLAAD should support him because he's gay.
Odd that GLAAD wants to silence gays they don’t agree with. Are we all supposed to think the same?#realdiversity https://t.co/j3W57A6hRd— Richard Grenell (@Richard Grenell) 1555711859
Whether it is an attempt to start a feud or an attempt to derail Buttigieg's run for President, it seems as though Pence and his friend Dick Grenell want to forget his history of anti-gay actions while in public office.
We remember, Mike and Dick, we remember.