Reddit was asked:
"Women who like women, what do you look for in a woman?"
The answers got pretty interesting, honestly.
So let's get into this super awesome sapphic showcase, shall we?
The Practical Answer
"Someone about the same size as me, so if the relationship works out our wardrobes double."
- Far_Bicycle7269
"I’ve been living this dream for 6 years now. The only thing we can’t share is shoes."
"People often marvel at the sheer amount of outfits I have to wear to work, but it helps that I’m engaged to someone who is truly in love with buying beautiful clothing."
- kimchiandsweettea
"So much yes!"
"Me and my fiancee are the same size, except she's Latina and I'm white so we can't share pants cause my trunk came with significantly less junk. Everything else is shared."
- Laurenharrow
"This is the real answer. The one thing I miss about my ex is her clothes…"
- magicalzebra
GiphyGood Hugs
"Someone who treats me well and gives good hugs"
"I don't know how to describe it, but one of my ex’s was like the most emotionally vacant hugger in the world."
- Toastiexists
"Imagine being the most fantastic person in the world, but your hugs are horse shite."
"Like, people would rather have you affectionately headbutt them than one of your hugs, that are somehow both dry and wet at the same time."
- Bahamabanana
GiphyWhat Really Matters
"That she is kind, smart, and has a sense of humour."
"It's also nice if she has a nice smile but looks aren't as important in my opinion. I like a woman who can have a witty conversation with me and doesn't bend to someone else's opinions easily."
"The most important thing is definitely how kind they are to other people though. It shows a lot about maturity."
- Flying_Haggis
"I had no idea how much I valued a partner who had her own opinions until I started dating someone who would basically change her opinion to match mine in almost any discussion we had."
- esoteric_enigma
"Are we looking for the same woman?"
"All of those are on my list. Looks don’t mean much, they can fade or improve with age. Personality traits, and the content of their character don’t."
"I want someone who can challenge me to be the best version of me without it seeming like a challenge. Someone who is smart, motivated, driven and passionate about things."
"She’s gotta absolutely love dogs because I have 3 and there are 7 in my house."
"A love for bell peppers and pizza, and gaming would be a plus."
"Someone who doesn’t let social media dictate her life is 100% a necessity. I hate it but use it for my business and to keep in contact with relatives that live a ways away and that’s it. I don’t look to FB or Insta for validation and I hope she wouldn’t either."
"Open to adoption or having kids is a definite plus. I’d love to be a mom, I also was born with a shitty uterus and don’t want to be pregnant."
- ON-Q
GiphyA Scary Lady
"I love me a scary lady. Hard-asses are my weakness lol"
- YAreUReadinThis
"Anyone who could pick me up while being incredibly stylish and charismatic is especially wow. Big muscles + sleek suit = :D"
"Unfortunately I cannot find such a woman that likes me back."
"Pop culture examples: Azula from ATLA, Vi, Caitlyn, or Mel from Arcane, Reagan from Inside Job, Jasnah from the Stormlight Archive, Doc Oc from Spiderverse,"
"Sighhh the woes of a nerdy sapphic teenager."
- Force_fiend58
"Surprisingly, I like a lot of “masculine” energy from my women but not from my men. Go figure."
- 143019
"Well I’m glad to see this here. Love me scary, powerful women. Maybe from too much Xena as a kid?"
- weirdkidomg
"Went on a date with a lady this weekend and we stopped by this bar on the way back to the place. As we left we had a group of dudes catcalling the f*ck out of us."
"When she unleashed her mean side and yelled back at them, I went weak. She was all apologetic and I was like please… hahaha"
- keeponrottin
GiphyAdopted By An Extrovert
"I am the introvert that needs to be adopted by an extrovert, so a girl who is either super talkative that I can lovingly listen to all the time, or someone equally comfortable with silence."
- moonkitz
"The comfortable with silence thing is so important."
"I am an introvert too, and at some point my partner started to get uncomfortable with silence, she would say like "tell me something" and start complaining about me not having nothing new to say."
"I felt the pressure of always having something to talk about, and sometimes I just wanted to have my mind off for a while."
- mapabu05
"Geez I couldn’t agree more."
"I want an extroverted girl who knows my limits though. I used to date a girl that would push me into things I didn’t feel comfortable with, like REALLY did not feel comfortable with, and our relationship was just a whole lot of not understanding each other."
- Witch_Supreme72
GiphyLucky
"Friendly, outgoing and kind. A good sense of humour also helps a lot."
"Physically I prefer women who present more on the femme side. I love running my hands through long, soft hair while I kiss her soft lips."
"Oh and I’m pretty tall for a woman at 6’1 so someone tall preferably."
"Okay, I’m basically just describing my girlfriend lol. I’m a lucky girl!"
- Frggy
"lol, i thought that last sentence was going to end in 'I'm basically describing MYSELF!' "
- KeberUggles
GiphyAdventure
"Hello my fellow women who love women!"
"Looks don’t matter to me. Whether you’re masculine, feminine, or in between, I really don’t care."
"I like someone who is compassionate. Somebody who is kind to others."
"Having somebody willing to go on adventures with you, fight for you, and do anything with you is really important. Being able to go make memories together that are so good they will fill up all the bad in my life are the types of girls I want."
"It’s good to have a stable income, but it doesn’t have to be riches. Money isn't a top priority for me. As long as you’re not a 25-year-old still living in their parents basement with no job, I’m cool with it"
"Adventurous, compassionate, loving and loyal are definitely what I seek."
- FlyingFoxandwings
GiphyCapability Counts
"Someone capable."
"My partner can grow tomatoes from seed, hang a shelf and build a bicycle. She’s practical in ways that I’m not."
"It’s nice knowing that she doesn’t need me around to look after her; I’m around because she wants me."
"She’s also a really good, considerate driver and there’s something very hot about that."
- club144
GiphyWasting Time
"Most important: kind, patient, and makes me feel comfortable around them. Not a racist, and likes to read."
"Also, someone who likes to cuddle and give hugs, or is at least comfortable with constant body contact (and I don't care if it's just our legs touching while we sit on the sofa, that's enough for me.)"
"After that: shorter than 5'7" to avoid back-problems from kissing, and similar goals and priorities in life as well as similar outlook on parenting and family planning."
"Dating someone is fun, but if our vision for life doesn't align, I feel like I'm wasting both of our time."
- literalpeacock
GiphyLust Is A Must
"Well, I gotta tell ya, being stuck in the role of the aggressor, or person-doing-things-to-a-passive-partner - even if they specifically request those things - turns out not to be my favorite."
"I think it would be cool to meet someone who actively wants me, not just to be serviced. So given that, a person who makes intense eye contact and can be a bit aggressive would be hot if everything else is a go and we're clearly into each other."
"Also, I kinda get what some straight guys complain about. It does make a person feel ugly to not be lusted for, even if you technically had sex."
- PyrocumulusLightning
GiphyDid this list look the way you expected it to?
Does it differ from what you normally see in hetero-centered lists?
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The community is finding itself in the spotlight after it came together to send a message to the anonymous neighbor who mutilated and killed Angelina's cat after sending hateful transphobic messages.
They don't know who it is, so they can't handle things through the legal system. Instead, they decided to be perfectly petty and we're here for it.
They knew the cat murderer hated rainbow flags, so Angelina and her community came together and painted her entire house in bright rainbow colors.
Angelina says the harassment began in 2017 when she received the first of several threatening letters. She had recently put a pride flag up under her American flag and the letter writer was not a fan.
That letter was just the beginning. Angelina called the harassment "unrelenting" over the years, but could never have predicted how far the neighbor would go. She found out just what they were capable of in a horrifying way.
While in her garden one day she discovered the remains of her beloved cat, Rambo. To be more specific, Angelina discovered some of Rambo's remains.
The neighbor had murdered him, chopped him in half, and placed the back half of his body in her garden. If there had been any doubt about who did it, the transphobe took credit for the cruel murder.
RIP Rambo.
Now This / Youtube Screenshot
Police were contacted and Angelina has been working with them by reporting each incident and providing all the evidence she can. Mail has been taken for tracing, Rambo's body was examined, etc.
Rambo was murdered in the summer of 2019, but authorities have not been able to make any arrests.
Angelina took her time grieving, but it wasn't long before she decided she needed to fight back somehow. She didn't like feeling helpless and the police were handling things on their end.
She had already taken steps to make sure she was safe, but she also wanted this neighbor to know she wasn't afraid or ashamed. Angelina needed to send a message.
But how?
It was a rainbow flag that initially irritated the neighbor enough to start sending the letters. So she decided to just turn the rainbow up to full blast.
"You hate rainbows, transphobe? You're gonna get ALL the rainbow!" ~ Angelina, probably.
Angelina didn't want to just make a statement for herself, though. She wanted to speak as a community, so she invited neighbors to paint the house with her.
We don't just mean her next door neighbors.
We mean Angelina invited basically the whole neighborhood. If you're going to make a statement like this, you go big.
She created a Facebook event and put flyers up around town to let people know what she was doing and why. Painting the biggest, brightest rainbow possible was a peaceful solution that's also just a smidge petty.
So obviously people LOVED THIS IDEA.
A local hardware store got wind of the event and donated all of the paint Angelina would need to paint not just the house, but also the fence and pretty much anything else she wanted to cover in color. On the day of the event, she expected maybe 50 people counting herself and her friends.
That's not what happened.
Instead, hundreds of people showed up. They brought out grills, chairs, music and more.
The community turned it into a painting picnic party to show support for Angelina. At the end of the day, they had the house covered in color.
This has to be the prettiest proverbial "eff off" ever.
Now This / YouTube Screenshot
Check out this YouTube video about it.
Angelina's story started making the rounds on Twitter.
A neighbor sent her anonymous threatening letters for 3 years and then murdered her cat by chopping it in half. And… https://t.co/ZnZeuyFVQ5— Katelyn Burns (@Katelyn Burns) 1580306143
@nowthisnews If someone tortures and kills an animal, their issues go far, far, far deeper than bigotry, transphobi… https://t.co/s0aYxDF6Ra— ClickitCricketHarley (@ClickitCricketHarley) 1579819134
@LilithLovett Some sick people just need an "excuse" to do horrific things to pets.— Guy Fieri Stan account #1776 (@Guy Fieri Stan account #1776) 1580330350
@maagdalene17 @nowthisnews I have ZERO fear. If they killed me they’d only make my voice stronger and louder.— Angie V. (@Angie V.) 1579854442
Angelina and her community are determined not to let hate win.
If you or someone you know is experiencing harassment, please take the proper steps to make sure everyone is safe before creating any fabulous response.
Twitter user trendy timic is not a public figure we know a lot about, so let's take a moment to examine their Twitter bio, shall we?
Trendy Timic describes themselves as:
"I disturb peoples TL with Jokes || Facts || Content Creator || Brand Publicist"
The account is part of the social media team of Nigerian disc jockey DJ Timic.
The woman in the profile photo for trendy timic also appears in several photos with DJ Timic who describes himself as:
"I am the mouthpiece of the Jesus. I minister in songs."
Apparently Kanye has some competition.
According to the DJ Timic Facebook page:
"This Is One Of The World Famous(Disc Jockey) In Nigeria, We Do Mixtapes, Artiste Promo, Club D.Js, Birthdays Parties, Event, Video Coverage & Many More...."
Birthday party DJ or messenger of God?
Who knows?
But let's start with the Twitter posts of trendy timic.
Look, regardless of what any anti-gay sentiments might say, we feel like we need to remind you that "those Gays out there" are not just out there.
They're everywhere. They always have been.
You know why? Because they're just regular people!
They're other human beings, not some rare and endangered species you need to trek into the wilderness to behold.
Gaywatching parties aren't a thing.
Although...
Anyway, here are those 8 powerful signs of gayness ... which you might notice are actually not.
At all.
So, to clarify...
- if you look at a man
- go to church
- do any self maintenance
- go to the gym
- dress well
- have male friends
- crack jokes with your friends
- like anything other than totally vanilla sex
- talk with your hands...
...you're gay, apparently.
It's unclear whether the female associated with DJ Timic in several photos online that the account is purported to belong to or DJ Timic himself created this "helpful" list for women.
However, given the laws in Nigeria regarding the LGBTQ community, the series of tweets posted under trendy timic's Twitter account seem a lot less "joking" and more menacing.
How strict are the laws regarding LGBTQ people in Nigeria?
"The new law prohibits any form of relationship, including 'domestic partnerships,' 'caring partnerships,' or 'adult independent relationships' between two individuals of the same sex. It also punishes any public show of affection, even a kiss, between two people of the same sex, with 10 years in prison."
"Anyone who speaks out in support of, meets with, or participates in a group advocating for the rights of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex (LGBTI) people also risks 10 years in prison."
"People of the same sex who share a room because they cannot afford anything else – which is not unusual in a country where the majority of people live on less than a dollar a day – could be accused of being in a relationship and locked up for years."
"Anyone could accuse their neighbor of being gay, or of having spoken out about LGBTI rights."
"Men and women living with HIV/AIDS will have to think twice before looking for care and treatment out of fear of falling foul of the new law."
This Twitter list isn't cute or funny for people in Nigeria.
People arrested after the law passed faced being locked away in isolation with no access to legal counsel. They were sentenced to whippings, stonings and other violent acts of punishment. Nigerians are encouraged to turn anyone they suspect of being gay in to authorities.
This thread is encouraging a witch hunt based on ridiculous stereotypes.
Twitter was SO NOT HERE FOR THIS MESS.
@trendydjtimic People like you should have supervision when using the Internet.— Vicki Pope (@Vicki Pope) 1578223569
@CoxeAnne @trendydjtimic Who willingly does housework, don't forget the tidy home. It's what sold it for me— abbie snail lines (@abbie snail lines) 1578342146
@trendydjtimic Are straight people okay? Sounds exhausting. #offtothesauna #inmytighttrendyclothes— Rob Kenny-Lipar (@Rob Kenny-Lipar) 1578472967
@i_am_wave_daddy @trendydjtimic 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂... the stupidity of that whole thread is mind boggling— Thundazz⚡ (@Thundazz⚡) 1578182833
In conclusion, this thread is bonkers.
Please, keep your bodies and rooms clean. It's 2020.
None of us should smell like this Twitter thread's version of straight men.
To get beyond gender stereotypes, the book Parenting Beyond Pink & Blue: How to Raise Your Kids Free of Gender Stereotypes is available here. The children's book Pink Is for Boys is available here.
So when the chance to join the film cast came up, she jumped at it. Dame Judi was cast as Old Deuteronomy, the leader and elder cat of the tribe.
Up until her, the role has been played by a man. It is written as a male cat in the musical's books and materials.
Not a problem for Dame Judi, though. In a recent press junket with Out magazine she explained that, as far as she was concerned, her version of Old Deuteronomy is trans.
"I kind of call it 'trans Deuteronomy,' is the part for me, you know."
It's definitely an unexpected take on the role, as most people had no problems imagining the leader of a walking, talking, dancing clan of cats could be a cis female like Judi. There's nothing in the role that specifically requires Deuteronomy to be male.
Still, it's just another strange turn in the story of this widely-panned adaptation.
It's been a box office disaster with countless reviews about how strange, impossible to follow and overall bonkers it is. It's caused people to obsess over Jason Derulo's package.
The cgi has people creeped out. It's been such a dumpster fire that Universal Studios is re-releasing it with updated graphics to address complaints.
Considering everything that's already happened, "Trans Deuteronomy" is hardly surprising people.
But that doesn't mean they're happy about it.
Nope. You stop that nonsense right now. Your movie bombed and you're not going to get us involved in this business. https://t.co/EopNLI9Avd— Katelyn Burns (@Katelyn Burns) 1577100417
Give a white woman an inch...I love Judi Dench but the movie tanked and you ain't finna use marginalized folks to s… https://t.co/3nl8l9pzfO— MODERNA MOSS (@MODERNA MOSS) 1577163705
'I wish we had more trans characters in film' >monkey's paw clenches into a fist https://t.co/9Jss8k01KT— Lone (@Lone) 1577116760
i have yet to see cats but can still say with confidence that it is the one movie which should have absolutely zero… https://t.co/YvwNcGeX8Q— i n n e s (@i n n e s) 1577100222
Hey trans person here and in think i can call it: were good on allies please stop this https://t.co/VPvNZARj0o— bucca di meggo (@bucca di meggo) 1577116340
Just in time to complicate any meaningful discourse at your family gatherings... https://t.co/EgEgAXFlHb— Brown Anthony™ (@Brown Anthony™) 1577114661
The parade of absurdity surrounding this movie continues and I cannot get enough, please let it go on forever! https://t.co/OCN9ZlvECE— 🄱🄰🄲🄺 🅃🄾 🄱🅁🅄🄽🄲🄷 (@🄱🄰🄲🄺 🅃🄾 🄱🅁🅄🄽🄲🄷) 1577118771
don't drag us down with you judi https://t.co/yATCdDP6DO— Girldick van Dyke (@Girldick van Dyke) 1577101264
Nope Nope Nope. Your movie was an unfinished mess and youre not saving it with trans-baiting. Cut that out. https://t.co/pT2MyOP3JC— ChaoticAyana (@ChaoticAyana) 1577111596
So let's give it to you long-story-short.
Pretty much this happened.
World: "Hey so this movie is gloriously terrible for reasons we will now list."
Judi: "Well my character is trans. Please talk about that and not all that other stuff."
Trans community: "Thanks, we hate it."
Given the film's track record, we doubt this is the last weird thing we'll hear about it.
Can't wait.
