When I think about all the effort we put into getting gussied up to impress people and land a lover, it can make me mad, because we're never going to get that time back.
After a while, and by a while I mean... growing old, we learn that less is more. You don't have to drop thousands on clothes and special fragrances to put together a look that will drive others wild.
More often than not a simple t-shirt and jeans, or a little less than that, can drive another crazy, or impress whoever it is you're trying to send a flare of attention up to.
So let's stop worrying about the perfect look and focus on the basics. Read below if you don't believe me.
Redditoru/isthisourthrowawaywanted to hear about those times we've been struck by a certain bit of unexpected sexiness, by asking:
What piece of clothing on the opposite sex is your biggest weakness?
I've lost track of the amount of times I've agonized over ever section of my wardrobe, to fashion the absolute perfect image, so I can land a little sexy time; only to be hit on in my work uniform. My restaurant work uniform that was covered is spaghetti stains and sweat. That's when I'm most pretty apparently.
No regrets...
moving pictures art GIF by Tech NoirGiphy"I have 2 kids, a dog and a mortgage due to a white bikini. No regrets."
Comfort First
"My wife lounging around the house in a white tank top and a comfy pair of undies does it for me. Also a comfy pair of fitted jeans and a white t-shirt."
"My gf finally moved in recently and this is all she's worn around the house since. We're in a heat wave right now so it makes sense but damn is it unfair."
"Lol spot on! That's actually when I found out that it was a thing for me. I was 13 in 1994, and thats the age I accidentally walked in on my friend's mom ironing in a tank top and panties. I knew at that moment it was my weakness."
Cool
"Summer dress with sneakers!"
- bigbbear
"It's hard for me to believe that too. Dresses and rompers with sneakers was cool when I was a kid so it's hard for my brain to make that jump."
"As a man, I can't understand this new craze of women wearing baggy jeans with ugly chunky shoes. It looks like straight garbage."
Legs
"Stockings. Totally not pretending these hugs are from legs in stocking."
"Black fishnet ones. Am I writing this for my gf who occasionally stalks my reddit? Definitely yes."
- Tneon
"Yeah, that gets me... I'm the polar opposite side of the spectrum, on the side that is an instant turn off, Jesus sandals."
Exhausted & Sexy
Bored Season 5 GIF by The OfficeGiphy"I'm into the "tired office man going back home on a train" style, white shirt, rolled up sleeves, loose tie, suit pants.. I have no idea why though."
Some of those looks make no sense. Nobody looks good in all white, just my opinion. And a tired office look? Well, that is new. But, hey to each their own.
Meow
Giphy"This may sound weird, but I have go with a cardigan. I cannot say 'no' to an adorable librarian."
Magic Pants
"Boxer briefs."
"I have some that I don't think any guy can pull off lol but they're so damn freaken' comfy! I call them magic pants (pants is underwear in UK) because they're like a strange almost lycra material and after wearing them for a couple minutes it feels like you've got just a wisp of silk wrapped around you there. However it does look like you've crammed one small, intimate part of yourself into a very thin wetsuit."
To work we go...
"Workers in their uniform, something about a guy in a pair of trousers with too many pockets, a pair of boots and a high vis."
"This! When my husband puts on his coveralls for work I can't help but get excited. Something about the way they frame his body while giving a rugged but sleek vibe at the same time. Also, dat butt."
"1000%! Have worked in an office my whole adult life and always thought men in business casual/suits were where it's at. Ended up with an electrician and damn, seeing him in his work clothes at the end of the day, dirty and sweaty, wowza."
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Never Roll Down
"When my bf wears a long sleeved shirt, but rolls or pushes the sleeves up to like, just below the elbow… I mean, I always want to do him anyway, but that's like, shove me against a wall and do whatever the hell you want kind of stuff… just don't roll those sleeves down."
Illusions
paul rudd love GIFGiphy"Okay girls that wears a tank top and an unbuttoned flannel. I swear the flannel acts as the 3D bars you see in optical illusions."
- Vader46
Naughty
"Not clothing but a choker."
"Been wondering if this would get posted. Chokers rev my engine in a special special way. I like simple black ones best. My… crap, ex of three days would wear them for me cause she knew I love them… was also a secret signal that we were gonna have some extra special naughty time lol."
Curvy Issues
"Short skirt and looooong jacket."
"Just FYI long jackets don't really work on super curvy women. It just bothers me they put them on JLO and she never closes them bc she wouldn't be able to. Not bc she is fat, the fit is not for curvy women UNLESS tailored extensively. The characters that wear these jackets would not have the funds or desire to do it. Lost interest in a storyline quickly with those types of styling errors."
"Casual Friday"
"The "casual Friday" look. Maybe it's because my husband only wears graphic tees and cargo shorts. The very few times he wears slacks and a polo/button-up shirt I just fawn over him it is so attractive. Bonus points if he's rocking a clean shave and a recent haircut."
More Sexy
vanessa hudgens skirt GIFGiphy"Skirts. I will forever be confused when Christians mandate skirts for girls because they're somehow the LESS sexy option."
Nice and Airy...
"A kilt. Very specifically, my husband in a kilt. I'm Scottish, he's Australian. Before we met in a third country, he had lived in Scotland and whilst there he had a kilt made in his family tartan (his mum's family is Scottish). Flash forward to our graduation from our Masters degree and I walk into the room. He's standing at the top of a set of stairs, resplendent in his kilt, looking like an old world prince. I already knew that I would marry that man, but damn, talking about sealing the deal."
- NixyPix
Suave
"A nice 3 piece suit. Oooh baby! Cuz every girl crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man! ZZTop know the deal."
"Suits are sexy as hell! A well tailored 3 piece suit is one of the most attractive outfits ever to exist."
"About 90% of my suits are 3 piece. It's definitely a little more on the unusual side but I just love the look - to me it's very clean and I love the added detail and shape that it adds to the ensemble. And it makes it much easier to take off my suit jacket and still look well put together. If anybody is insecure about wearing a vest: most people judge you for wearing a suit already, the vest very rarely got additional comments for me in about 6 years of almost exclusively wearing them."
The Form
"Yoga pants."
"Yes… a pair of yoga pants make a complete show of legs and rear. Completely clad but also a complete description of form. Don't even know what the difference between yoga shorts and bicycle shorts would be, but the latter are like the unsexiest thing ever."
I Died!
"Suspenders 😍🤤."
"Hot damn yes. On our wedding day, after we got in the limo post-ceremony, my new husband said "I have something to show you" and slipped off his jacket to reveal suspenders (knowing they were my thing). I died."
- MrsSpecs
"bad boy"
Johnny Depp Love GIFGiphy"Leather jackets. I don't know why, because I don't normally go for the "bad boy" personality type, but something about the biker aesthetic is really, really hot."
Rivals
"This summer, bicycle shorts seem to be a thing with the girls I know - I'm pretty sure they are made by LuLu so are really a type of yoga short… for some reason, the length makes them really hot - not short 'booty' shorts, not knee-length yoga shorts. These are rivalling yoga pants as my favourite thing on a girl."
I will never understand the flannel attraction. Just looking at flannel makes me itch. Now the librarian look? I can roll with that.
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Redditor MrRandyWatson_100 wanted to hear about what happened to relationships after inviting a third, so they asked:
"Redditors who have had a threesome with their SO, how did the relationship turnout after sex?"
Bad Things
Tim Robinson No GIF by The Lonely IslandGiphy"It was already horrible, that's why I didn't mind trying it. It didn't get any better, but it was a lot of fun."
Educational_Dust_932
Thanks, Jerry
"Went on a vacation with my ex and her best friend from out of state. It was heavily alluded to that we were going to give a threesome a go. We all arrive at the hotel, and her friend turns on the TV while we unpack. It was by chance an episode of Jerry Springer (or some equivalent type of show). The subject was 'Our threesome ruined my life.' Obviously, it didn’t happen."
sincethenes
"Wanna hear a pile on to that? We broke up a few years later, I haven’t seen or heard from her in years. I bought a new home two years ago in the middle of nowhere. I go to the local grocery store, and there she is. Turns out she lives about 1/4 of a mile away from me. Thanks, Universe."
sincethenes
Then Again...
"We all went out to eat breakfast the next day and it was just such a funny experience. We laughed and talked about how crazy it was. Afterward, my girlfriend was embarrassed and said she didn't want anything like that ever again. Then it happened again (at her own insistence, with the same girl)."
"Then again. After the 3rd time, I was pretty blown away that this would be a regular thing. After a while things stopped and my girlfriend went back to being super embarrassed about it and liked to pretend it never happened."
Kogah
Well bye now...
"The sex was fine, we invited a third for a fun night at a hotel with a jacuzzi and drinks. But then the third person didn't leave, nor did they leave in the morning after breakfast, and the next night after dinner we literally had to ask him to leave so we could continue our vacation as a couple in privacy. It gave us a funny story to joke about for years and didn't affect our relationship."
Mister_IceBlister
Realizations
Shocked Sesame Street GIFGiphy"Haven’t been in a threesome, but my gf had two on the same day with her previous partner, which is when she realized she was actually into girls more."
"So in a way, I can thank those threesomes for my relationship. She doesn’t like it when I bring this up lol."
DreaDreamer
Epiphanies can come at the strangest times.
Whoops
Schitts Creek Oops GIF by CBCGiphy"My girlfriend asked me who I would like a threesome with. Then she got angry. Apparently, I was supposed to name only one person."
arvigeus
Long Stories
"I (M) hooked up with a friend and his wife a few times. He originally proposed it as something she would enjoy, with both of us focusing our attention on her. She reluctantly went along with it but quickly got way too into it for his comfort. He got jealous of all the attention she was getting despite that being the point of the threesomes in the first place."
"Long story short, after many long fruitless discussions and a few arguments we finally got him to admit that he was in love with me, he wanted the threesome so that we (he and I) could have sex (despite us having had many conversations in the past about how I'm not that into men and he's definitely not my type) without cheating or him getting a divorce."
"Longer story even shorter, we're no longer friends, they're divorced, wife and I became really close friends for a few years."
tempUN123
Happy Holidays
"Relationship with who, your SO or the third person involved?"
"My SO brought her very close female friend for a threesome as a Christmas present to me one year. I was really nervous but they made me feel super comfortable and able to just enjoy the experience. I'm still with my SO and the friend is still a friend, we don't see her very much as she lives in a different country but it's in no way awkward."
AverageMale31
Surprise
"I had a threesome with one of my close friends and her boyfriend of like 5 years (at the time). She wanted to surprise him and boy did it work. It was fun! We ended up doing it a few more times. They’re still together and doing well and my friendship with them has never changed. The only difference is now we have inside jokes and references together!"
wineshivers
Be Careful
Bedtime Threesome GIF by PantayaGiphy"Just fine... But don't play with others if your relationship isn't on solid footing and your communication isn't up to par."
Misophonic4000
"In my experience, sometimes you think you’re on solid footing, but in reality, it’s a house of cards easily toppled. In retrospect, it was f**ked either way, but this definitely expedited the end."
AdmiralTiberius
Not all fun ideas are good ideas.
Do you have any similar experiences? Let us know in the comments below.
Reddit user SinkingFeelingBruh asked:
"What did you think was fancy as a kid that isn’t?"
Mc's Steakhouse
"Getting to eat McDonald's all the time..."
~ 02red
"This was my first thought, and it was also the first comment I came across opening the thread."
"You are so right..McDonald's used to be so exciting. I don't even eat it anymore."
~ kasparzellar
GiphyWith or Without Crusts
"Cutting sandwiches diagonally."
~ 787la57la47al
"As a college student, I love dressing up my husbands plate when he eats mediocre meals. If he wants a sandwich, I will dress it up like it’s fine dining."
"I made us air fries nuggets and had the ketchup dots and swirls garnishing the plate lol. It makes things more fun."
~ ireallyamtired
Cocktails for Children
"Shirley Temple/Roy Rogers drinks."
"I remember when my parents would take us to a 'fancy' restaurant and we would be able to order these."
"I felt so adult! With the skinny straw and the maraschino cherry..."
~ Iron_Chic
"Okay but low key though… I still love myself a Shirley temple."
"Like if someone were to offer me one I definitely wouldn’t turn it down."
~ faithle97
GiphyWelcome to the Club
"As a kid I thought going to a restaurant and having a club sandwich was the height of sophistication. Probably because I learned about club sandwiches from a family friend who introduced me to them."
"I used to think the little toothpicks with the plastic frills that held the sandwiches together were sooooo fancy. I always brought my toothpicks home with me to play with."
~ Bebe_Bleau
Processed Foods
"My friends whose kitchens were filled with junk food like Captain Crunch, Twinkies and Ding Dongs, hot dogs and American cheese."
"I thought they were so fancy and I was so jealous."
"My mom cooked from scratch every day, and we thought we were so neglected because she wouldn't buy that sh*t for us to eat."
"We were so lucky. Thanks, Mom."
~ riceme0112358
GiphyOoh la la!
"Viennetta ice cream cake was the peak of fancy for me."
~ KaleidoscopeVast9290
"I came here to say this! They marketed it really well to 7-14 year olds."
~ Holiday-Armadillo-34
The BIG Box
"Back in my day, kids who had Crayola 120 colored pencils were considered the elites of society."
~ Prism_Red
"Or the Crayola Crayons with the sharpener on the back."
~ Spoozle64
GiphyA World Tour in a Mug
"A cup of General Foods International Coffee to cap off your five star evening. Might I recommend the Suisse Mocha?"
~ Smooth_Riker
"That was upper class shiz that I begged my parents to buy for company."
"Turns out, Folgers out of the red can was all encompassing; for home and company. Sigh."
~ burgerg10
"My 10 year old self would walk around my room sipping a cuppa and pretending I was grown in my own apartment."
~ odd_kumquat
It's the Foil Wrapper
"Ferrero Rocher chocolate."
~ SirRobynHode
"Richard Gere did the commercials in a tux. I thought these must be the most fancy and expensive chocolates imaginable."
~ Either-Durian-5517
"Dude I'm 22 and they're still fancy to me."
~ rubbersoulelena
GiphyUnder Glass
"Desserts in the display cases (eclairs, bon bons, petifores, etc...)."
~ Med_Vamp
"This jogged my memory of those iced cookies they’d have on display at Giant (American grocery store)."
~ nicheencyclopedia
Pardon Me, Do You Have Any?
"For some reason, as a kid I thought Grey Poupon was some fancy delicacy by the French. I imagined some fancy guy with a gray wig slathering it on a baguette."
"Like only the rich had access to it."
"It’s just mustard. WTF. Still haven’t had it."
~ JackfruitCurry
"When I got married, my dad insisted upon renting a Rolls Royce to take hubs and me from the church to the reception."
"I jokingly asked the driver 'pardon me, do you have any Grey Poupon?' in my snootiest faux-British accent. He popped open the glove box and there it was!!!!"
~ RefugeefromSAforums
GiphyBeep, Beep
"Old cars from fancy brands."
"Kids are always like 'whoa he drives a BMW' without realizing it's not impressive to drive a 1999 BMW in 2023."
~ slightofhand1
Get Some Quarters for the Bed
"Hotels were the fanciest as a kid, weren't they?"
~ Non-opisthokont
"I thought a motel or an inn was fancier than a hotel."
~ tobiiam
"Omg, yes! Lol, the vibrating beds were so fancy & fun! I’d always beg my parents to get me one."
~ Sad-Comfortable1566
Jumping Michael Chiesa GIF by UFCGiphyBut There's Cheddar in the Biscuits
"Red lobster."
~ MonsoonMermaid
"A guy I worked with (in the 90’s) said he treated his women right."
"When he went out to eat, he took them to places like Red Lobster. What a baller!"
~ eastcoastme
"Oof, I took my junior prom date to Red Lobster back in ‘00. Sorry, Michelle…wherever you are."
~ kyd712
The Beer Fridge
"I thought that having a second, older fridge in your garage meant your family was rich.
"Actually, hell, if you had a garage at all I thought you were rich."
~ CoolBugg
"Didn’t realize people used their garages for cars for YEARS. I still have a hard time wrapping my head around it."
"It feels like such a waste of storage space to keep a car in there. Where else do people keep lol their tools, holiday decor, and sh*t they don’t want to throw out but also don’t want to use anymore?"
~ Ithinkillgrowthis
"When we bought our house it came with a fridge in the garage."
"I audibly gasped."
~ Aggravating-Dig-8987
GiphyMy Father was in the military, but didn't want to live on United States Navy bases, so we lived off base in a trailer.
Back then, trailers were much smaller and easily moved from place to place. So each time my Father was stationed at a new base, our trailer was packed up and moved to a new trailer park near the new base.
Because of this life of trailer parks, my idea of luxury living wasn't a mansion—it was a double-wide trailer.
What did you think was fancy as a kid?