For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health... those are promises that are called upon and put to the test pretty quickly after I do.
People really should sit down and process those words and the meaning behind them before the big day.
Money can often be a burden, especially in relationships.
It's not everything but everybody should be on the same page about it.
It's especially important to be clear when one partner has been living a type vastly different from the other.
Does money define part of the ever after?
Redditor BugsRatty wanted to discuss want happens after certain types if "I Dos." They asked:
"Redditors who have married someone of a significantly greater or lesser socioeconomic level, how did you meet and how is it going?"
I've had a few rich significant others. It can be uncomfortable. I didn't learn soon enough to speak about the uncomfortable.
Lucky
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"Just got engaged to the woman of my dreams, her mom was homeless and she’s been working minimum wage jobs since she was 16. Hopefully things turn out well, she’s sweet and kind and I honestly think I’m the lucky one." ~ Responsible-Laugh590
The Practice Girl
"My husband grew up very wealthy and very socially awkward. When he was 20, his mom had him take out the new maid so he could 'practice' on her. The mom did not expect him to propose. She was not amused. She cut him off until they had their second kid. This was like forty years ago. We’re still happily married." ~ HolaEverybody
Life is good...
"My wife's family is very wealthy and I grew up a poor country boy. They've been very welcoming and nothing but amazing. We met at a park a few years ago. She has a higher earning potential than I do because of her education, but I'm the breadwinner of the family right now. Life is good, we have everything we need and most things we want (excluding super expensive things)." ~ chewroxurface
'favela'
"I was born in the 'favela' (Brazilian name for ghetto), always lived there and I met this woman at a mansion party that I went because my brother was a friend of one of the organizers, I've been studying hard as f**k for my whole life and now I work at a pretty big corp (got accepted two weeks ago), while she's the daughter of a plastic surgeon and lived at a very rich neighborhood here in São Paulo, we met, dated and we're engaged now."
"The funny part is that her family loves me, her father is a very nice man and her mom is pretty much an angel, all of them treat me really well. The weird part is that my family doesn't like her exactly for the fact that she came from a rich family, I already got into an argument with my mom because of this, my brother is the only one who really supports us." ~ Regular-Attorney-310
When at Sonic
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"I was making around 90k a year and she was a car hop at Sonic. We met through my sister n law at the time. We were married for 18 years, and the divorce." ~ No_Ordinary_3824
So far a mixed bag. You win some, you lose some. Ah sweet romance...
No regrets
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"Over 30 years after meeting and later marrying my beloved deep south redneck wife, no regrets! It's going well, and we've been able to forge a strong partnership. My elitist, aristocratic Japanese mom's inheritance helped not just us but those we care about." ~ MyAnvsIsBleeding
10 years this January...
"Not the biggest difference, but my girlfriend is definitely on a higher level than me. When we met (at a mutual friend’s birthday party) I was unemployed, she was a software engineer leading a team of people from all over the world, writing the kind of code that entire countries use to keep track of their economies. I was still living with my parents at 25, she was able to support herself in her own flat in the centre of town, no roommates."
"I got s**t GCSEs and never pursued higher education, she’s got the kind of degrees that give you letters after your name. We’ll have been together for 10 years this January - I do minimum wage restaurant work, she makes four times as much as me writing code from home and developing cool apps. I’m saving up for an engagement ring. :3." ~ SpookyVoidCat
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"I grew up in public housing, lived on welfare and food stamps for a time, and attended college on scholarship. I met my husband in college when we had a class together and, later, when we met again during a protest of the first Gulf war. He was handsome, funny, and bold. I had no idea he was from a wealthy family until we were already engaged."
"We separated this summer after 26 years together but, in truth, our marriage had been over for several years. A health scare and slow drift into extremist politics changed him into a different person, the pandemic accelerated it until he was unrecognizable. Our son no longer speaks to him and his mother and brother are baffled by his behavior. We had 2 good decades together and raised a beautiful child, I'm just sad it ended like this." ~ HaupiaGoddess
Made it Work
"My wife grew up wealthy. Her dad is a doctor and exec of a local hospital, her mom is a professor. Both of my parents worked in a factory. My mom was a secretary and dad an electrician. I was the first in my family to go to college and got a computer science degree."
"I learned to budget well, lived within my means, and bought my first house at 23. I sold it a few years later and put myself through grad school where I met my wife. We have 2 beautiful daughters and a nice house. She’s a stay at home mom now and we live off my income. It’s going great." ~ HitNRun_
Mom's Tale
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"Not my story... But my mother was a single parent of two working 60 hours a week to provide for me and my sister."
"When I was around 5 , she met my step dad who was making 100k as a railroad engineer. They soon moved in together and my mom was able to spend more time with me and my sister. I'm now 18, they've been married for almost 4 years and together for 13." ~ BladeWolf26
Here we are 11 years later...
"Not extreme, because I'm not wealthy or anything. But I definitely had a very different upbringing and opportunities (college degree, stable home, professional license...) We met because she was a server where I ate every Thursday. We clicked so one day I gave her my number and she called. Here we are 11 years later. It still gets interesting. Since being with her I've had more interactions with the police and legal system than I know."
"If you say you are cold she will give you the shirt shirts she's wearing damn nudity laws. She'll make ramen to take to people she saw sleeping in the laundry room. She's also the person that will come back from redbox and say 'The police will be here soon. Girl got in my face so I kicked her a**.' Our perception of life are very different; but we are better together." ~ diegojones4
Thanks Cupid
"I was a nanny and in grad school to be a teacher, and he was working in finance making half a million a year. We met on OkCupid and hit it off from there. I grew up lower middle class with blue collar parents, and he grew up in different countries with a prominent ob-gyn father and SAHM."
"Every one in his family is wildly successful while my parents are probably the most successful out of their families of black sheep. My sister jokes that I’m a fancy witch now and maybe I am. But I am still a thrifty person at heart; husband likes that I’m scandalized by the costs of things and try to find better deals and don’t want things just because they’re expensive."
"For example, I drive a Subaru while he drives an Audi because the idea of a $900/month car payment is offensive to me. We could afford it, but I’ll take my Subaru. I also donate more to charities than he does because it’s ridiculous we have so much money. He thinks it’s all very normal, but it’s not for me!" ~ katiejim
26+
"I was in fast food as a lowly peon watching my marriage crumble (first husband was a serial cheater). He (second husband) was a college student nearly eight years younger than me. We met on the internet back in the days of the BBS (ya know, in the early days, back when rampaging hordes of compuserve and AOL floppies roamed the earth)."
"We struck up a friendship while my soon to be ex husband was out on a date on our anniversary, and about two months later started dating after I left my first husband. Been together 26 years now, married for 23." ~ Pagan_Chick
From the Middle...
"Idk if this counts but my dad came from a middle class family and my mom was the daughter of two factory workers (working class). They met at a country fair while they were both in high school. My mom was the first person in her family to even try to go to college. My dad has a Bachelor's in Mechanical Engineering. He works full time and makes triple what my mom does working in a store part time."
"They love each other so much it's honestly inspiring but my father has expressed some sadness around the pressure he feels as the almost sole provider for the family. My mom, on the other hand, is sad she didn't complete school and get a degree. They make it work but it's rough on both of them. I can see how something like this could break up a marriage though seeing as they just celebrated their 25th anniversary I think they're doing ok." ~ ShadowCast2550
Legit
"My ex-wife and I fit this very well. I'd rather keep the specifics to myself, but everything that I had heard about how it could go wrong did go wrong for us. Not saying it's not possible, but there's a legit reason people are warned not to do this." ~ Locklin13
"Similarly, my cousin dated the same guy all through college and for a while after. They had a beautiful life together and our family all adored him. But his family thought she couldn't be anything but a gold digger because she came from a poor family. She walked away shortly after they got engaged because she just couldn't live the rest of her life with in-laws looking at her like that." ~ nothingweasel
'unlimited funds'
"We met through a mutual friend while I was finishing up my BA in my late twenties. I'm not exactly poor but I certainly am compared to the outrageous wealth that she comes from. Overall it's great but I still find her hang-ups about money to be extremely strange. For example, we rent even though she has a trust with 'unlimited funds' for purchasing a home because she isn't ready to buy."
"It wouldn't be my home but I would rather pay her rent than a landlord. People who come from old money seem to have strange psychology around money. Her aunt isn't leaving her cousins any of the family money because she feels the family inheritance ruined her life. Truly bizarre." ~ howdidthishappen777
Toxic Boomer
"My wife grew up showing horses and I grew up mowing the infield of a local dirt racetrack so I could pay our electric bill. 28 years later, we are happier than we ever have been. We raised a daughter, moved across the country, and now enjoy taking a shower together every day. It prolly helped she decided to kick her toxic Boomer parents to the curb, though. I encourage her frequently to reach out, especially when we make infrequent trips back to our birthplace. Her choice. They really are unredeemable a**holes, though." ~ BBaggins75
Struggles...
"I grew up moving from home to home with a drug addict father and a mother who had to work 2+ jobs to keep a roof over her 3 children’s heads. my husbands family definitely struggled when he was a kid cause he’s the oldest, but now they make upwards of $150k a year and live in a nice house with nice food and things and present parents. We didn’t endure the same traumas and sometimes it’s difficult to understand each other’s struggles, but we’ve been married almost 6 months now and everything’s going great!" ~ straightupgong
In the Bay Area...
"I grew up in the Bay Area, so my dad made good money and invested well with stocks. Money pretty much wasn't ever an issue. My wife's family always struggled with money though I'm not sure if say it was poverty (she finds Malcolm in the Middle very relatable, haha). We met at church, been married about five and a half years. I'd say it's going pretty great. :) " ~ The_GREAT_Gremlin
Fairytales...
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"Yes. We met online, lived in different countries and it’s a fairy tale for 7 years now. Sounds cheesy and cliche but it’s true." ~ No_Prune1433
It feels like money isn't always the obstacle. If you're going to be together forever, you make it work or you don't. For richer or poorer be damned.
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For many childhood memories are overrun by living nightmares.
Yes, children are resilient, but that doesn't mean that the things we see as babes don't follow us forever.
The horrors of the world are no stranger to the young.
Redditor -2sweetcaramel- wanted to see who was willing to share about the worst things we've seen as kids, so they asked:
"What’s the creepiest thing you saw as a kid?"
Serious Danger
"Me and my best friend would explore the drainage tunnels under the Vegas area where we grew up. These were miles long and it was always really cool down there so it was a good way to escape the heat of our scorching hot summers. We went into this one that goes under the Fiesta casino and found a camp with a bunch of homeless people."
"Mind you we are like 11 years old lol. And we just kept going like it was nothing. It wasn’t scary then but when I look back at it we could have been in some serious danger. Our parents had no idea we did this or where we were and we had no cellphones. We could have been kidnapped and never have been found."
oofboof2020
Waiting for Food
"I was at a portillos once when I was 12 and I was waiting with my little brother at a booth while my parents got our food. This guy was standing with his tray kind of watching me then after a couple of minutes he started to walk over really fast not breaking eye contact with me."
"He was 2 feet from the table and my dad came out of nowhere and scared the s**t out of him. He looked so surprised and just said he wanted to see if I’d get scared or not. He left his tray full of food near the door and left. My folks reported him but we never went to that location again since we found a better one closer to home."
nowhereboy1964
Captain Hobo to the Rescue
"When I was a pretty young teen, my friends and I were horsing around in San Francisco and started hanging out to smoke with some homeless guys. Another homeless dude came up and began aggressively trying to shake us down for anything (money, smokes, a ride, drugs- all of it) and wouldn’t take no for an answer."
"We got in over our heads and could tell this guy was now riling the other 2 guys up and they were acting like they wanted to jump us. Some grandfather-looking old homeless man appeared out of nowhere and yelled at us to get the f**k out of here- nice kids like us don’t belong down here at this hour!!"
"Captain Hobo saved our lives that night. My parents sincerely thought we were at a mall all day lol."
FartAttack911
Survival
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"I was 7 and survived the 2004 tsunami in Thailand. Witnessed the wave rise way above the already massive palm trees (approx. 40ft?) and my family and I watched/heard the wave crash into the ground from a rooftop."
faithfulpoo
These Tsunami stories are just tragic.
On the Sand
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"We were a group of kids who went to swim in a local lake. And there was a dead body on the beach with their hands raised and their legs bent unnaturally that local police just took out of the same lake. I've never put my foot in these waters again."
oyloff
Be Clever
"I was walking to school and I was about 5 or 6 years old and some guy pulled up beside me in his car and asked if I would get in. He also offered me sweets to do so. I said no. The creepy bit was when he calmly said ‘clever boy’ to me, then drove off. I’ve never even told my parents or anyone else about this as it would most likely freak them out."
OstneyPiz
Bad Jokes
"Dad's side of the family pranked me by burying a fake body on our back property and had me dig it up to find valuables. Was only allowed to use a lantern for light. They stuffed old clothes with chicken bones. Sheetrock mud where the head was... Random fake jewelry as the treasures... I was like maybe 10 or 11.. I remember digging up the boot first and started gagging because it became real at that point."
Alegan239
YOU
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"Woke up to find my little brother staring at me in the dark, asking, Are you really you?"
PrettyLola2004
Siblings can really be a bunch of creepers.
No one should talk to others in the dark though.
Not all pet owners have the same relationship with their pets.
While anyone who decides to become a pet owner, or pet parent as some say, love their pets equally, some never ever let them leave their side.
Taking their pet with them to work, running errands, even on vacations.
Many pet parents even allow their pets to share their bed with them when going to sleep.
For others though, this is where a line is finally drawn.
Redditor Piggythelavasurfer was curious to hear whether pet owners allowed their pets to share their bed with them, as well as the reasons why they do/don't, leading them to ask:
"Do you let your pet sleep in your bed? Why/why not?"
The Tiny Issue Of Water...
"Absolutely not."
"I have fish."- Senior-Meal3649
Everyone Gets Lonely Eventually...
"I adopted an eleven year old cat the day before Halloween."
"She has mostly lived in my closet since I got her, and she hasn’t been too interested in coming out."
"Last night, she came out of my closet and jumped up on my bed, and crawled under my covers and curled up by my feet to sleep."
"I was so happy!"- YellowBeastJeep
The Comforting Reminder That You're Not Alone...
"I recently lost my Greyhound but I used to let him sleep on my bed with me."
"The company was nice and he was no trouble to have on my bed."- HoodedMenace3
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What Do You Mean Allow?
"I have no choice."
"She is a cat, cats do whatever they want."- Small_cat1412
"He lets me sleep in my bed."- Poorly-Drawn-Beagle
Wouldn't Have It Any Other Way
"I carry my old boy upstairs to bed every night."- worst_in_show
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Who Needs An Alarm Clock?
"I let my two cats sleep with me."
"They're so full of love and just want cuddles all the time."
"And so do I."
"We've all developed a lil routine."
"Get to bed, oldest sleeps on my feet to keep them warm, youngest lies in my arm while I lie on my side (she the little spoon), then when I snooze my alarm for work in the morning the youngest paws at my face and meeps loudly to wake me up."- GhostofaFlea_
Whose Bed Is It Anyway?
"Yes."
"They're also kind enough to let me squeeze into whatever space they've left for me."
"Although I do get a few dirty looks off them."- Therealkaylor
"I found this tiny kitten screaming her head off under a car."
"Would not come out."
"Got some food and some water in dishes."
"I stood by the tire so she couldn't see my feet."
"She got curious about the food and water and started gobbling it down."
"I thought she would bolt when I squatted down."
"She was too busy eating."
"I grabbed her by the nape of the neck and all four legs went straight out and she tried to scratch me to death."
"I got her in the door and tossed her toward the couch."
"She ricocheted off the couch as if she was a ping pong off a table and I lost sight of her."
"I put out food and water and a sandbox and did not see that kitten for three days."
"On the third day, I came home and she was on my bed pillow."
"I thought she would bolt when I came near, but she didn't."
"I wanted to sleep so I tried to scoot her little butt off my pillow."
"She would not go."
"I put my head down to sleep and that is the way it was from then on."
"She ran the roost."- Logical_Cherry_7588
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Sleeping Is A Prerequisite...
"No, he's a cat and he cannot keep still during the night."
"He walks across the headboard, opens the closet doors, jumps into the windows and rustles the blinds, etc."
"If he would sleep he could stay, but alas, he's a ramblin' man."- Spong_Durnflungle
Saying No Just Isn't An Option...
"'Let'."
"Lol."
"It's a cat's world and I'm happy to be on her good side."- milaren
Felines Only!
"The cat does, the dog doesn't and the horse certainly does not either."- Xcrowzz
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Is That My Hair On That Pillow?
"My dog is perfect."
"She comes up, cuddles til we start to fall asleep, then gets down to sleep on her bed so she doesn't get too hot."
"Jumps back up in the early morning for wake up cuddles."
"The hair everywhere is the only downside but she is so cozy, what can you do."- HoodieWinchester
It is easy to understand how some people are able to fall asleep more easily knowing their friend and protector is there, in bed, with them.
Though we can't blame others who don't want to run the risk of being scratched or bitten in the middle of the night either...