Rage is unhealthy and toxic. It can turn your hair prematurely grey and can cause ulcers. Anger also has a direct link to anxiety and depression. That's why we have to be careful about what causes raging outbursts. Going into a state of anger over any little thing is not the way to get through a day. It only leads to more chaos, but sometimes chaos, is unavoidable.
Redditor u/Cumconsumer12 wanted everyone to share about the things that can make one fly on the handle by asking... What makes you really angry?I have a short fuse. I really do. For too many years it has lead to a lot of undo stress and trouble. I try deep breathes now. And prayer. But I nearly pass out from all the breathing and my mouth is dry from reciting scripture. I have issues. Anything can set me off. I could make my own personal reddit thread. But... I'm clearly not alone.
Bullies
Angry Season 9 GIF by ShamelessGiphyHorrible people who go into professions working with vulnerable people. Like, a bully going into social work or nursing, or abusive people going into youth care. Nothing pisses me off more than that.
MOVE!!
Being stuck behind a trio of slow walkers taking up the whole sidewalk.
Sometimes, depending on the width of where you're walking, it could just be 1 person and they are so evenly in the middle that you can't pass them on either side. It's infuriating. Like, HELL, make the minimal effort to move ever so slightly one way or the other.
Me Time
Having no free time.
My previous employer would send me appointments at 10pm for the next day.
I made it a rule to never EVER respond to emails past 5pm, even if I had a mail I wanted to send I would schedule it for delivery the next day.
Yeah I have a rule about being talked to while on the clock. If it's not important enough to tell me while you're paying me then it's not important.
Beware of Others
Inside Out Reaction GIF by Disney PixarGiphyPeople who are just oblivious in public. You are not the center of the universe, other people exist around you, stop being an a**.
And stand in the middle of the aisle leaning on their cart texting with one finger.
Passover
People who drive up my butt in the mother freaking slow lane. Wtf.
I hate when they do that when there is a passing lane and clearly they aren't trying to get to a turn. I could get if you can't pass me because of a turn (whether regular road where you are about to get to an entrance, or highway/interstate and off ramp) but WTF are you driving up my @ss when there is an empty lane beside you and you can go around me.
All of those things! ALL OF THOSE THINGS! I hate them all. How could you not? I'm angry just from reading. LOLOL. Let me pause for a breath and a prayer. Continue without me for a moment.
Get Back
Mad Grumpy Cat GIF by MOODMANGiphyLine cutters.
Missing Pieces
When you order takeout/delivery and you get home and the food is wrong. Ruins the whole meal for me.
Dude. This. I swear to god, if I splurge and get delivery and it's missing hoisin for my mu sushi it's honestly like momentarily devastating.
I bought some as a back-up and always leave a polite note saying I'd like sauce packets, but it still happens and is such a bummer. I usually only order food when it's been a rough/stressful day, so missing sauce is just like an extra kick in the shins.
It's Pretend
People sending death threats to actors because of a role they played.
Wtf. Really?
I studied acting in college and played a major douchebag in a play once. I played carter in Neil Labute's "Fat Pig." I talked with some girl several days after performances ended and she said she had a friend who wanted to talk to me but didn't because she thought I might be an butthole. So I kinda get that some people don't understand that actors aren't their characters, but sending death threats seems almost unbelievable.
Trashed
People who casually throw trash out their car window.
One time while I was in the car with my family, there was a daycare van driving in front of us on the highway and the passenger threw trash out, so my dad called the daycare phone number. Glad he did!
Stay Calm
Angry Season 4 GIF by The OfficeGiphyWhen someone "apologizes," but starts of with I'm sorry YOU don't like/didn't hear/felt as if/etc. If you're going to apologize freaking own it. Get out of here with that passive aggressive bullcrap.
This entire thread has given me anxiety and makes me thankful for alcohol. I don't know why anything here would be deemed irrational; or maybe it's time I head back to therapy. Pray for me, and the world at large that has to encounter me.
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Redditor onlyusemefeets wanted to hear about the worst of everyone's family, so they asked:
"When did you find out that someone in your family is evil?"
The Reddit community rose to the occasion to shed some light on their family skeletons.
Money Issues
Wild West Fighting GIF by Buyout FootageGiphy"When they ripped apart 3 generations of my family almost immediately after my dad died for a measly $37,000. He's a millionaire. That kinda money is pocket change to him."
Good Lord
"When my 11 year old cousin got cancer."
"Her mom and boyfriend were shooting up her pain medicine. My cousin was in so much pain, she told her Doctors. Thats when the doctors stopped giving her mom a prescription and the nurses dispensed her pain meds at the hospital. Unfortunately they could not keep track of medication while at home so they reported it."
"CPS removed her. She died shortly after in foster care. Parents were never charged."
dead-parrots
Death
"When my dad died of covid my Aunt tried to say she was entitled to some stuff of his since it belonged in the family. She even called a lawyer on us and it was big deal and my mom didn't need to deal with that trying to raise 3 kids on her own so f**k her. She still bothers us about stuff and all it is like plates and some pictures and some other things."
"Sunken Cost Fallacy"
"My brother's addiction has led to him spinning some ridiculous stories. I'm not sure if he is very convincing or if my father chooses to believe him because of some 'sunken cost fallacy,' or he genuinely refuses to give up. But my brother has told lies and stories about me and my siblings to the point that he's the only child who talks to my father anymore. He convinced my father that I forced him to do drugs."
"But I knew my brother was evil when scared away my sister with physical violence. Last month, he went missing for a weeks only to turn up after flipping his car high on pills. My father doesn't know it yet, but my mother is planning on leaving him because my father chooses my brother over her. No one can convince my father that he's enabling. No one can convince my brother to stop. Hard drugs really destroy entire families."
sleepypanda59
A New Family
Frustrated Skip Bayless GIFGiphy"When he purposely excluded his 4 year old son (from a previous relationship) from his wedding to his new spouse, deleted all photos of his son from his social media, and legally signed away all parental rights. He has since had 2 more kids with said new spouse."
FeminaCanadiana
How can parents act that way?
Failure...
"I don't know about evil, but my dad got remarried and has a kid and stepson with his new spouse. All of that would be fine if he didn't pretend that none of us (offspring from first marriage) exist so he can pretend this family is the first family and we never happened."
"Once this realization hit me, I stopped contacting him, and once I stopped putting in the effort, everything else dissipated. We haven't spoken at all. He does not care in the least. I honestly believe that he wishes we never even existed. He is a failure as a father and as a man."
Raindrops_On-Roses
Oh Brother
"When my husband's brother (1 of 5 siblings) said he couldn't make it to our house to plan their mother's funeral because he had to work. Meanwhile we found out he wasn't working because we caught him on ring doorbell entering the moms house to rifle through it while the rest of us were planning the funeral at my house."
Legitimate_Energy257
The End
"When my ex said 'you've been a godsend, I want a divorce.' I had taken time off from work to take care of her parents. She told me this right before her dad died, and she inherited. She found a boyfriend while I was with her parents. She got the house by declaring I had abandoned it. I was with her parents."
rollercoaster_5
Evil
Season 5 Nickelodeon GIFGiphy"When my dad tried to throw my 6 month old sister when he was drunk. That man is a monster in disguise"
iinattanii
So many people really need to be screened for their abilities to raise kids.
Redditor thunderchild10 wanted to discuss everyone's thoughts on the friends with benefits scenario, so they asked:
"What's your opinion of friends with benefits?"
I've never done FWB.
I feel robbed.
After a while...
Friends With Benefits Herkenbaar GIF by GoPlayGiphy"Fun, and fine for a while, but less fulfilling than a relationship. Also, you both need to be good at compartmentalization, otherwise one of you will likely end up catching feelings."
Akiram
Be Clear
"My FWB caught feelings even though we were always clearly communicated as FWB. We were both in a big but really close friends group. I got a gf (she had recently had a bf as well) and she got mad. I ended up losing all my friends. It’s been 4 years, and she actually successfully managed to get 20+ ppl to forget I exist."
"Wouldn’t recommend."
sadbudda
The Rule of Three
"I had 3 throughout college. Two ended in us dating and then breaking up. The only one that worked and lasted two years was me and an ex from high school. We never hung out but were cool after our breakup. Didn’t speak for like three years and then when we were in college we saw each other at the bar, hooked up that night, then like two days later she asked if I wanted to meet up and I said sure."
"Then it just continues for two years. We rarely spoke outside of the bedroom other than like ‘pick me up from the bar’. Overall it was cool but I think it’s very rare. You have to find two people who just don’t have any desire for each other other than when horny, which a lot of times is not the case in one side"
InternationalMouse56
Confusion
"I honestly don't understand it at all. Having any sexual relation with a person whom I don't love and who doesn't love me seems pointless and even scary to me. I guess I am over-sensitive or something, because the thought of being so close to somebody without actually having a connection, an exclusivity, without knowing if this will ever happen again, is genuinely horrific to me."
"I don't care what others do in the bed and with whom, but this kind of relationship is just not for me."
ZidanSufuzki
For Life
Corona Snap GIF by INTO ACTIONGiphy"If they can provide Medical, Dental, Unemployment, and Retirement benefits then they’re a friend for life."
Stupify_Me
Benefits are benefits. I'm in.
Forever
married single ladies GIFGiphy"It didn't work out. We couldn't keep it just friends once we started the benefits. We will celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary in 2 weeks."
dirtysecretsofmine
Hey Buddy
"Very messy. You gotta either be f"k buddies only, dating, or friends only. Trying to keep feelings out of FWB is too difficult."
MarthaTheTRex
"That's a great point. I agree that it's tough to keep feelings out of the equation. I think it's best to just be honest and open with your friend so that you both know the boundaries of the situation and can stick to them. That way, both parties can be sure that they're getting what they need out of the relationship."
Professional-Help114
Taking Chances
"Seems iffy to me if you want the friendship to lay long term. Doesn't someone usually catch feelings, so after the FWB finds a partner they want to keep, it leaves the other party out. Especially if the new bf/gf doesn't want you to be friends with someone you've had sex with."
"Yes? No? I'm not into casual sex for myself, so am I off base?"
lifehappenedwhatnow
Developments
"A lot of people are saying 'someone always inevitably develops feelings' and that it ends badly, but that's not been my experience. I'm still friends with a few of my FWB's that I'm no longer sleeping with over the last couple of years and I'm genuinely happy for them that they've found relationships that make them happy. And I know of quite a few others similar to me."
playswithf1re
In Sync...
Sacha Baron Cohen Thumbs Up GIF by Amazon Prime VideoGiphy"A great plan when both participants are on the same page. Whether that is 'stay FWB' or 'hey we caught feelings, let's give a relationship a try'. A mess when only one participant catches feelings."
Gwywnnydd
Don't get hurt...
"Terrible idea, someone always inevitably develops feelings and gets hurt."
"It can work sure, but in general, unless you're both 100% sure (which, how can you ever really be?) beforehand that you won't develop feelings for each other, I generally have seen it not work."
"In my personal experience, someone always had to break it off just as feelings were starting to arise. So yeah, be careful I guess."
PodcastingPodcastGuy
What have we learned?
Communication is key.
Do you have any WTF FWB experiences to share? Let us know in the comments below.
