Do you ever wonder what happened to that person who tormented you in high school?
The one you avoided running into in the hallway or after school on your way home?
Most of us at one time or another were mocked or worse – beaten to a pulp and spat on.
High school was already hard enough where everything – socially and academically – was high stakes for a teenager.
We dealt with pressures of who to ask out on a date, making a sports team, or have sacrificed our social lives to academic pressure in order to maintain an acceptable GPA.
But the anxiety and depression experienced by victims of bullying pales in comparison to everything else.
Curious about what became of the ruffians who have scarred us for life, Redditor -froggystyle asked:
Pregnant at 19
"One girl that bullied me in middle school and high school ended up getting knocked up at 19. One time I creeped on her Facebook and found her having an argument with the baby daddy's mom on her page. I read all 200 posts of the drama of them going back and forth. That was how i got over it."
"I wasn't bullied, but my brother had to deal with a particularly bad one in high school. It ended after summer, grade 10, when the guy was drunk and walking next to the highway."
The Brother's Reaction to His Bully's Death
"The worst of their encounters resulted in this guy punching my brother around and then throwing him off the train platform and onto the tracks (the train wasn't coming at the time). My parents called the police and the guy was charged with assault, but my brother's friend lied on the stand about what happened, because the guy was his cousin."
"At that point, bully mostly left my brother alone. Even if he got away with it, I don't think he really wanted to be charged again and go through all of that, and it wouldn't have mattered much anyway. It was just months later that he died."
"The school? These things happened away from school grounds, so they had a very official "this has nothing to do with us" stance on the matter."
"My brother didn't hope the guy would die, but he was definitely relieved that he wouldn't have more trouble with him."
The One Who OD'd
"Recently died of a drug overdose and as everyone was writing things on Facebook like 'your were an amazing person' all I could think was 'f'k this guy' I know that's f'ked up to say but damn, Peace out, dude."
"Update: The General consensus seems to be F'K THAT GUY."
"Thanks everyone for all your amazing words :) life is much better now! I have gotten over it, life goes on and gets better! At that moment I wasn't happy I survived my attempt, today I am VERY happy I survived. It always gets better! Stay strong everyone."
The One Who Finally Came Around
"I ran into him a few years ago. He didn't come from a very good family and would get angry and violent at school. He'd always take it out on the quiet kids like me and just inflict all sorts of emotional abuse. It really f'ked me up, to be honest."
"He cleaned up his act in high school/college. Found the family he never had in his college mates. He was a lot friendlier when I met him and was clearly trying to make an effort. In truth I'm just glad that he's happy. It was evident that he was messed up as a kid so it's nice to see him find his way."
"My childhood best friend, on the other hand, went the polar opposite... perfectly good kid who just went off the deep end and became CRAZY as an adult lol."
The One Who Scored
"Ugh... I got past the BS, then I noticed, watching baseball one day. One of my HS bullies went on to play pro ball. He jumped around from the rangers, astros, reds and orioles. F'kin guy signed a 3 year 30mil contract a few years ago. A relief pitcher, not that good. But damn."
Spoiler Alert: No Longer Arm Wrestles
"He lost his arm. F'king idiot. There is a picture of him in the year book flexing his bicep that no longer exists. He punched so many of my friends with that arm. I didn't believe it when I heard he lost it because the story goes he picked a fight with the wrong dudes at a bar and they stomped him out and dragged him to the railroad tracks behind the bar. It seems unbelievable, but I looked him up on facebook and there he is...unable to clap."
"Side note: it was a pretty common thing in my town in Oklahoma to beat someone down and break their arm on the curb."
A Very Valuable Lesson
"Recently got out of Prison. He was driving drunk and killed my cousin. She didn't even live nearby, Her Mom and her were on a road trip to some family land 3+ hours from where they lived and he happened to be on the way."
"I wish I could say I was angry at him, but mostly it just makes me sad. My family mostly hates the guy, partially on my behalf. One of my formative memories is my Dad saying Hi to the kid while we were on a walk and when I asked why when the kid was mean to me he said that most mean kids are hurting. I wish I'd taken that chance to be nicer to the kid in return, as he'd largely stopped bullying me by High School. Not that I was mean, but I could have been something."
"I took that advice(and a lot of other things) and turned it into a career working with at risk teens, trying to help them break the various familial cycles that cause them problems."
"She used to make fun of me for my weight. She is now a dollar general budget 'Instagram model' promoting body positivity because she's the weight that she used to make fun of me for."
"The guy who used to bully me for my weight and my friend for being gay is now overweight, balding, and looks like a lawn gnome."
Last Seen At KFC
"One of my bullies is currently addicted to multiple different kinds of drugs and the last time I saw her she was being walked out of a KFC by the police, half naked and with only one flip flop."
Apology And Forgiveness
"I saw my high school bully about 10 years later at a bar, strangely enough he came and apologised to me for his wrong doings. I forgave him instantly!"
"So HEY! yeah YOU! If you see someone you've tormented, maybe apologise! Certainly helped me and I'm guessing him also."