Bullying seems to be a concept that has always been around. It comes in all forms, and in varying degrees.
Sometimes, the bullying can be mild and temporary. That doesn't make it okay, but it does make the bullying easier to deal with.
Other times, the bullying is harsh, and can even go too far. Sometimes, that can mean relentless teasing. Othertimes, it can mean that a bully took their torment to a new level, even proceeding into physical violence.
Whatever the case, when bullying goes too far, it sticks with you. Sometimes, you get revenge. Other times, you just deal with it until you can find a solution. Whichever method you choose, you will never forget it.
Curious about how far is too far, Redditor tylerboyzzz asked:
"People of Reddit, when did the bully go to far?"
"One of my friends had been getting bullied for crying after her mother's death. One day I got sick of it and shoved his head into a door. I know violence shouldn't be used in some situations but I felt like this needed it. He never bullied my friend again and I only got 1 detention."
"Kids are so dumb, making fun of someone for losing their mom is the stupidest thing ever, good on you."
"This guy bullied me for years, relentlessly. He saw another guy bullying me one day and lost his mind and beat the guy half to death. It was f**ked up. Not even that he beat the guy, whatever there, but in this ultra weird like "staking his claim" kinda way. Like I was his to bully and no one else. It literally made me fear for my life a bit. I got a restraining order."
"He took a thick piece of metal wrapped it with electrical tape and hit my friend in the head. He had to get stitches but wouldn’t say out of fear who did it."
"I ratted him out. A day later he jumped me as two of his friends held my arms. Then he stole my bike."
"My mom went to talk to his dad who was drunk and hit on her so she left frustrated."
"A few days later he tried to jump me again while on my bike when I was at the ice cream truck but my older (in high school) brother saw it."
"He literally jumped down three flights of stairs from the 3rd fl of our apartment complex and literally grabbed the back seat of the bike and picked it up as he tried to pedal away. He was freaking out screaming."
Bullying The Teachers
"My class was terrible. On multiple occasions they had managed to make teachers leave the classroom in tears. For the record; I never participated, I was bullied too in this class."
"One of the worst days; they were really taking it out on this nerdy teacher. Like, this was definitely the worst and the most direct insults they had ever given to a person and he broke surprisingly quick. It turned out that the day before he was diagnosed with testicular cancer..."
Bullied BY The Teacher
"Bullied by a teacher. I grew up in the 1980's and there was something wrong with my digestive system that doctors here didn't understand at the time. Parents and friends were aware that sometimes I needed a toilet without much warning for either vomit or poo. I could easily dose off sometimes and always had a crampy tummy."
"First week of high school, I needed to go, now. I asked the teacher if I could be excused. She said I was old enough to be able to hold it in. I tried to explain that I needed to go. She was all boo-hoo, the baby needs a nappy, the baby needs burping. Some friends tried to explain to the teacher that if I had to go, I had to go. Teacher said no. I couldn't hold anything in any more and made for the door, the teacher shouted something and I passed out, vomited and sh*t myself."
"From what I remember, dad had the teacher fired. School policy was changed so that if a kid needed a loo break, they got it. Ironically there was an increase of tp related thefts and bathroom vandalism."
"I spent a week in hospital being prodded and poked, and we found out what was wrong."
"I went back to school, some kids pointed and laughed at the kid who sh*t herself in maths but they were quickly silenced by my friends and some kids who I didn't even know."
"I had a huge crush on one of the "cool" kids, who was actually a really nice, down to earth guy who was always nice to me. We even played Magic: The Gathering together a few times."
"I overheard my bully tell my crush he was planning to wait until the last day of school and "f- me up real good." Crush grabbed him by the throat and said "Don't you dare touch her!" so of course, the bully had to do something."
"He stole part of my crush's cherished favorite deck and left it in my backpack with a really sweet (fake) note. Then he told my crush he'd seen me steal the cards. His plan worked perfectly, I was looking through the cards when crush walked over. The look of hurt and then anger on his face is still burned into my memory. I gave the cards back, apologized, and tried to defend myself, but he never forgave me and we never spoke again."
You Showed Her!
"She bullied me for how I looked, would underhandedly called me ugly, and was the root of all my insecurities...A year later I won a major beauty pageant and she blocked me on IG"
"still kinda insecure cuz of her though"
"I befriended the problem girl in high school. Thought she just needed a friend. Anyway, she turned on me for whatever reason. Broke into my house while I was away on vacation and stole my cat and every item of clothing I owned. She ended up donating most of my clothes to goodwill, but the stuff she liked she wore to school. I called her out on it. That same day the principal pulled me out of class and said I “need to stop bullying X.” Anyway, she never did get in trouble but I did get my cat back after a few weeks."
Yes, He Did Fall
"6th grade. He sat behind me in study hall. He, an 8th grader, had been picking on me since the beginning of the year. I told my parents and my dad said next time he messes with me just stand up for myself."
"Next day he flips my ear really hard. I turn around and tell him don’t ever touch me again. I turn back around and then I feel something getting put into my ear. It was a pencil. I jumped up, grabbed my thick as hell math book, and hit him directly in the face. It ended up knocking four of his teeth out and broke his nose."
"The teacher was the gym teacher, who was also an assistant coach on my baseball team. He came over and said with great surprise…..what happened did he fall out of his desk? Needless to say he never messed with me again."
Bigger Doesn't Meant Better
"TLDR: Jumping me with two of his friends. I ended up punching the ring leader in the throat."
"I was bullied all throughout school. Inherently easy target, quiet kid with temperament issues. It all boiled to a head when three dudes jumped me in the gym locker room. I came to school the next day covered in welts not wanting to be there, but hell I had all AP courses if I missed one day I missed 5 units of material. Bully was still running his mouth. Get to gym class I see him and I do what any slightly deranged battered person running on zero sleep and a pot of coffee would do. I punched the poor bastard in the throat for it. I had a ten minute rant on how much of a cockhead you have to be in order to be twice my size and still need to bring friends in order to jump me. He never bothered me after that."
Keep Them Apart
"This was an incident that occurred back in the eighties that actually made the news and caused a major shift in educating disabled people. Some bean-counting asshole thought it was a great idea to save money by putting juvenile offenders and disabled kids under the same roof for education. That was until a repeat violent offender decided to shove a kid in a wheelchair down a flight of stairs for no other reason than shits'n'giggles. This caused an outrage that disabled children should not have to share a facility with violent offenders and they separated the two. But you always have to keep an eye on the latest government because they'll stick them back together in a heartbeat if they could do it without it making the news."
I'm The Big One Now
"In Elementary School I was always bullied by this one kid, younger me was very naive and passive so I didn't do anything about it. After a while I got sick of it and started working out and taking boxing classes. One day he picked me up by my collar and dropped me in a garbage bin, I got pissed, crawled out of the bin and kicked his ass. His buddies tackled me and then I got suspended, and the bully got away with a slap on the wrist, welcome to the American education system. Anyway, I continued to work out and now I'm in High School, the bully is this scrawny boy who avoids me at all costs, I can't believe I once got bullied by him."
You Reap What You Sow
"Kid wouldn't stop calling me names and spitting on me on the bus when I was 8, so I filled a straw with Tabasco sauce from MRE packs that my dad had got on the bus the next day and he spit on me so i slapped his glasses off, pulled out the straw and spat it all in his eyes. Never saw him again on the bus"
Such Awful Kids
"I've posted this before on similar questions, but I still remember it so vividly. I had a group of about four or five bullies in elementary school who got their kicks by messing with me in the classes we had together. They definitely targeted me because I'm disabled and believed I wouldn't fight back. They'd hide my stuff in the classrooms, take my walker that I had at the time, and throw things at me when teachers weren't looking. I'd know it was them because they'd laugh while or directly after doing it. The final straw came while we were doing a test in English class. I had been pushing back against them in recent days, and I guess they thought I'd give up eventually. They were wrong."
"Anyway, during the test, all of them started throwing chunks of rubber erasers at me, giggling after each volley. I kept telling them to cut it out as best I could, but they'd just start again. Finally, near the time I was almost done with my test, a final volley from the leader of the bullies made me lose it. Now, I also had an unlockable brace on my left leg due to a surgery that I locked when walking and unlocked when sitting so my leg could move. I angrily locked my brace, stood up, and started going around the desks towards the bully leader, yelling that I was going to kill him. Only then did the teacher look up and realize something was happening and got up to stop me before I could throw a punch. It was also the first time I had seen the bully scared. Coincidentally, an SRO (school resource officer) also happened to be walking by the classroom and also stepped into intervene. I told both the teacher and SRO what had been happening while I cried and they warned the bullies against doing it again. Nothing more came of the incident. The bullies started their torment again a few days later, but less often so as to not set me off. Some of the worst years of my life."
Want For Nothing
"walking past me"
""you want some soap?""
"slaps handful of soap on the back of my head"
"she dumped my entire desk out in the corner of the class room then had everyone tell me i didn’t deserve anything i earned and i had to pick everything up while they circled around me"
"I used to get bullied from when I was 6-8 by this one kid who was much bigger than me."
"When we finished school for the day the teachers would stand us in a line outside of class, we'd then walk in a line to the school gate where our parents would be waiting."
"This was our 2nd day of a new school year and I got in line after class. I didn't even notice that I cut in front of him but he let me know pretty quickly."
"I just tried to ignore him out of fear. He kept pushing me and telling me "You're dead when we get outside""
"The fear and anger bubbled over, I swung around with what felt like the force of a fucking cannon and socked him in the nose. I have no idea how I generated that much force or how I hit him so accurately at 8 years old."
"After a brief silence his nose turned into a tap and he was COVERED in blood. He cried so hard it was insane!"
"My family all knew about it and when I got home my Dad shook my hand and congratulated me for standing up for myself."
"School took no action and he was out for a week with a broken nose. Needless to say the bullying stopped."
"Violence is rarely the answer but that day still makes me warm and fuzzy inside."
"Maybe im being simple here, but: every time. Any form of bullying is always too far."
Yeah, that's probably true.
Bullying is wrong, but you will never be wrong for standing up for yourself.
Why do bullies bully? More importantly... how do we get bullies to back off?
Can we just use words? Does it always have to resort to violence?
There is no reason in this world for anyone to be a bully. It's all about power and self worth.
The bully has none and it's all they want.
Redditor Yaboi2tall wanted to hear about how bullies can be stopped.
"How did you get a high school bully to never mess with you again?"
I swung on my bully, with a pencil. Never had an issue again.
"Vomited all over him. After that he never messed with me again."
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"A group of sociopaths from my school that always tormented us followed me and my friends to my house one day in a pick up truck. They stole my friends shoes, pushed one of them until she fell, and took my sketchpad and threw it in a puddle. My stepbrother came outside, beat one of them badly, stole his pants, and threw his keys into a sewer grave before hitting him with an empty vodka bottle. It was traumatizing for me on both ends, but that group of kids never even looked at us again."
"He tried to shove me down an embankment while on a field trip. Had I fallen, I would have broken my leg or worse, because the embankment ended about 25 feet down, then dropped off into some deep brush and trees. Anyhow, my best friend was next to me, and said 'Watch it!' as he came at me."
"I side-stepped him, and he tumbled down the embankment and over the edge into the brush. Fractured several ribs, dislocated his shoulder and broke his ankle. He never did anything to me again. F**k you Darren! You b**ch!"
"She told me, my face made her want to kill herself. So I told the school counselor that she had confided in me she wanted to kill herself. She had to explain to the everyone what she really said. She would call me fat, and ugly everyday. She also would tell me I was trash because I was adopted. 'Your own mother thought you were so ugly she didn't want you.'"
"Made friends in the football team. Bullies think twice when you are buddies with a 6'2 250 pound Samoan. Crazy how nice so many Samoans are."
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I do like Football players. I knew they'd good for something.
"I was bullied for my wheelchair, so I ran their feet over."
"Fast and furious."
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"A bully was harassing my daughter on the bus. Instead of calling his folks, or jumping on him, I did this…"
"I pulled him aside at the bus stop one day and asked for his help. “Hey Danny. I was hoping you could help me out. I guess there’s a kid on the bus who is picking on my daughter. She’s a girl and small and I’d like for you to help protect her. If you see anything like that, could you stick up for her please and let me know about it.'" That was the end of the bullying."
"Pretty much the same. Stopped associating with our mutual friends when I realized they're not my friends if they're friends with a bully like this person and ever since we graduated, and I've been out of that social bubble, it's just was over."
"Not a bully per se, but a d**k." In my French class a guy who sat behind me would always kick my chair repeatedly, and I was at the point where I was visibly infuriated by this happening every lesson. The girl who sat next to me turned to him and said 'Hey, you should probably stop doing that, he looks like he's about to hit you.'"
"Guy laughed it off and said I wouldn't. I didn't, but I turned around and cocked my arm back. He was leaning back on the hind legs of his chair with his feet on mine, so when I did this, he flinched, fell backwards off his chair, and got a few laughs from the people behind us. He never kicked my chair after that."
"Challenged him to a fight at lunch, left during the period before lunch to move 800 miles away."
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I Love U... Not!
"I knew a girl like that in middle school. She made my bus rides to school and back miserable. Constantly abused me physically the whole school year. Stole my sweater to wear it herself. On the last day of school her friend handed me my sweater and a note that explained how she had a huge crush on me, asking me out, etc. On my walk home I crumpled that shit up and threw it as far as I could. Some girls have some f**ked up ways of showing affection, lol."
"It wasn't high school, but it was summer camp and I was about 8 or 9 years old. This slightly older kid was always a huge bully, just total dbag for nothing. I went home and told my dad about it and he said 'next time he does something, punch him i the face, and if you do, I'll take you to a baseball game.'"
"Next day at camp I was minding my own business on the 4 square line, he came up and said something and I punched this fool right in the face. He was shocked, never said one bad thing to me ever again, and let me cut him in the 4 square line in my next turn."
"It was actually a great life lesson on how to stand up for yourself. I didn't start going around picking on kids or needlessly beating people up, but I never was bullied again. And yes, my dad took me to a ballgame."
"Hit him in the face with a water bottle. For some reason I couldn't stand up for myself, but he started bugging my friend. It was during after school band practice (which my mom forced me into anyway, I already didn't want to be there). For some reason him teasing my friend just made me slug him full force in the face with said (plastic) water bottle. That got other students and the teacher involved. He didn't bug us again."
"Middle school. The bully challenged me to a fight after school. I told him to meet me on the soccer field which happened to be visible from where my bus home would park."Big Brother Fight GIF by 20th Century Fox Home EntertainmentGiphy
"I made sure to get out of school as quickly as possible and sat on the bus so I could clearly see the field. As I expected, he never showed up. The next day at school I announced loudly so several classmates could hear 'Jason, you never showed up for our fight. I waited there after school and you never showed up. You are a f**king chicken. That was the end of the bullying."
"Started rugby in grade 10. Stood up to him in grade 11 and he got mad and he tried to kick me. I was almost 6 foot by then but always tall and weak, well training for rugby sort of fixed that a little so when he kicked me I caught his foot and whew I let it go it was a above my head... he fell backwards and landed on the back of his head, he never talked to me again."
"I didn't lol. I fought back, I got my a** kicked. I ran... he'd wait for me somewhere else and get my a** kicked. I fought back successfully once and it just made him and his friends jump me and my friends. Now he takes my sweaty towels from me at the gym so I make sure to make them as gross as I can."
"A friend of mine was being bullied at school decades ago, and after a few days of it, he stood up to the bully and said, 'Listen. If you keep doing this, we're gonna fight. And you may beat me, but we're gonna fight again, and again, and you're going to have to fight me every day until you leave me alone.' The kid left him alone."
"Headbutt, broke his nose. Got expelled 2 day, but i'm really happy I did. I don't remember him bullying anyone else after this :) "
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Sometimes all it takes is one good punch. Not that I'm advocating violence. But most bullies are just cowards.