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Against the responsibilities of careers and family and children, it can feel tough to make friends when you're over 30. The days of running up to randos on the playground and saying, "Wanna be friends?" might be far behind us, but that doesn't mean it's impossible to make friends.

NOTE: Remember to follow this advice in a post-COVID world, as safely as possible.


Reddit user, u/Llamatomb, wanted to learn some new tips and tricks when they asked:

How do you make friends when you're 30+?

Just Be More Open

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Join clubs of activities you enjoy.

Talk to the people at your job.

Write a message to your old classmates or friends.

Meet your neighbours.

R3makea

Look For Any Kind Of Connecting Thread

My story; I recently switched jobs and I hadn't met any of my coworkers due to corona.

I saw a coworkers Volvo V60 (my dream car) was up for grabs and I was the only one who showed interest in taking it, so I went by his house to see it; We started talking and it turned out we shared a lot of common interests; BBQ, Beers, Whiskey & [cigars]. He mentioned that he and some other coworkers had a little club and they got together for slowcooking sessions! I instanly became best friends with half the management at my company!

Th3_Accountant

Baby Steps

Started therapy this year and that seems to be going well. I bought a bass guitar which makes me interact with people at the music store because I have no idea what I'm doing with it yet. I also get my car washed twice a week so that I can tip the car wash person $5 and ask them to put my other mirror in because I can't reach it.

Baby steps.

warWITHINtheGIRL

Shift Up The Meeting Priorities

I'm not 30+ yet (28), but I've had good luck with just dating. We're all pretty lonely and if you go into the first date with the attitude to find a friend rather than a life-long companion, you'll usually have some pretty good luck.

GourdofThunder

You Don't Even Have To Talk At First

get involved in activities were you will see the same people on a regular basis. You have that activity in common at least and maybe create friendship from there.

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You Only Hang Out When Your Kids Hang Out

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I feel like the catch 22 is this: Being a parent makes it easier, because you have a natural connection to others - kids the same age, play dates, etc. Buuuuut being a parent means you have so little time and energy for friendship, so it's kind of a wash

peppermntn

Oh Yeah. Our Jobs.

Co-workers you really get along, can have fun, and have things in common with are hard to come by it seems, but it happens. 3 of us had been going to the bar for a beer or 2 before heading home after work most Fridays for a bit before Covid forced the bar by work to cut its hours and open later.

TheMightyIrishman

Go With A Book And Be Ready To Put It Down

My boyfriend works at a local brewery, he's 30, I'm 26. A lot of the regular customers there are in their 50s, a lot of single men and women who would just go there, bring a book, order a beer, sit at the bar, and chat with people who sat by them. Some of our best friends are regulars there.

I spent a lot of this summer at backyard fires at a 50 something year olds place talking about his army days, and he's just a guy who was bored at home so started going to his local brewery for a beer every weekend.

I know it's hard with covid right how, but there's nothing wrong with going to a brewery or pub alone with a book and chatting with anyone who's down to chat.

PistachioMaru

Never Say No

  1. If you have at least one friend, or know any other humans that you feel you can stand for longer than a few hours, find similar interests you have and this can lead to them introducing you to other people with the same interest (music, sports, gaming, etc.)
  2. NEVER turn down an invitation. Even if you're not feeling up to it, or feeling lazy, just go. You can always leave if you're not feeling it. But perhaps you might end up meeting someone who has the potential for friendship!

Its obviously hard now with COVID and so many social restrictions, but hang in there!

Ftw_dabs69ish

When You Give Back, The Universe Gives To You

I felt lost when my Marriage ended. So I volunteered in the community , And found myself, found new friends, and found a sense of purpose for my spare time. Now, three years later when I go walking in the neighbourhood, I can say hello to a great number of people and I never feel alone. More than that, I'm hanging out with great people that also want to help the neighbourhood. In conclusion, Try volunteering.

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