A truly stressful job can destroy your self-esteem and confidence. It's been said that people don't necessarily leave jobs, they leave management.
Indeed, bad management can leave you feeling unmoored and unsupported.
There has been a wider conversation about hostile work environments over the last couple of years now that the COVID-19 pandemic has afforded many people the opportunity to switch careers and/or call it quits with their awful jobs.
No job is worth your mental and physical health.
People shared their stories with us after Redditor yourmaeve asked the online community,
"Redditors who changed careers from a high paying but stressful job to a lower paying but low stress job, was it worth it, why or why not?"
"My wife and I sold the house..."
"I didn't make the switch until I was 50. Something about turning 50 sparked a change in me. I previously had high blood pressure issues and I was having stress related fights with the people I love. I started to hate myself. Something had to change."
"My wife and I sold the house in the city and moved up to the high country. I took a low-paying job with a small startup company. I wanted to make a difference (and not just make an income)."
"EVERYTHING about my life got better almost instantly. Do I miss the money? Sometimes, but not often actually. The quality of life is way more important for us. We often comment/joke about how we still feel like were on a vacation."
Congrats on the change! It sounds like you guys are much happier and healthier to boot.
"The check is smaller..."
"Yep. The check is smaller, but comparable to what I would have lost in a divorce in a couple years."
"About a 45% pay cut, but my "real" labor hours dropped from like 65 and permanent on-call status to about 35 hrs or so and after 4pm, I CANNOT BE CONTACTED... worth it. I'm genuinely happier, healthier, and family life is now GREAT instead of slowly decaying."
Congratulations on saving your marriage and family.
"I left after 30 years..."
"Had an IT job. On call 24x7x365 - never knew what situation would come up. Phone would ring and it would make my blood pressure rise. I left after 30 years as they made me part owner, but God that was stressful."
Glad you got out! 30 years is a hell of a long time.
"Although what's interesting..."
"100%. Although what’s interesting is once I didn’t hate my job I did a much better job advancing and now I make about what I did back then."
It makes sense though that you would naturally just do a better job if you aren't hating your life.
"I'd rather be broke..."
"Yes. I'd rather be broke than suicidal."
Amen to that. Glad you're still here with us.
"It has come with some sacrifices..."
"Yes. It has come with some sacrifices, like I can't do the lavish vacations or buy the super fancy cars that all my neighbors do/have, but I also get to be at home every night and weekend. I learned through a stretch of rapid ascent up the corporate ladder that I don't care about that kind of ambition and got super burned out. I'm finally healing."
Healing is necessary. It's great that you've found what's important to you.
"Money is temporary..."
"Most definitely it was. Money is temporary but the peace of mind and much better family life are everything to me."
Peace of mind? A better family life? It sounds like you won the lottery. Well done!
"I used to rake in paychecks..."
"Yes. Yes. Yes."
"I took a 25% base pay-cut 4 years ago to escape a terrible situation at a terrible company. My new job was salaried, no overtime pay but also no real expectation of overtime. No regrets."
"I used to rake in paychecks that started with a $5xxx, net, with overtime but the negative effects on my health made it pointless. If you're working crazy overtime for too long, you're going to wind up in the hospital, especially if it's a high-stress job in a hostile work environment."
"I gave up the overtime, the title, and the base pay for a far better job elsewhere. To be honest, I haven't really even noticed a difference financially since I have far fewer medical expenses nowadays."
You have your health! That's huge. Kudos for escaping such a toxic work environment.
"I didn't really change companies..."
"I didn't really change companies but I had my middle management position eliminated (60+ hour weeks, stress) but was assigned to another position with about a $20k decrease. But it was 35 hour weeks, low stress, less meetings and when the day was over I was done: no after hour calls, no late nights."
"It was awesome and I ended up being glad I didn't leave for another company and another management position. I have since moved on but i wouldn't go back to a stress filled life."
That's great you were able to stay in the same company but find something right for you. I feel like a lot of people have to completely change their field to something different in order to find what works for them.
"Have since moved up..."
"I used to be a healthcare administrator for private practices. High stress, but pretty good pay. Got into IT at the very bottom. Low stress, low pay."
"Have since moved up and my pay has returned to previous levels. Some stressful days, however my worst day now is like an average day in my previous job. Most days are just fine and the good days are very good."
"I'm not high profile anymore and I don't have to wear a tie anymore. It has been worth the pain of losing 70% of my salary for several years. I sleep better and don't dread going to work everyday."
Sleeping better is the goal! Well done.
No job is worth sacrificing your health. Remember that the next time you feel like you're going to lose it and your management team isn't being supportive. You absolutely deserve better.
Have some stories of your own? Tell us more in the comments below!
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
Television has been in it's golden age for quite sometime now.
And it's only getting better.
One thing that has become insanely popular is the limited series.
"All good things must come to an end."
That's a lesson TV shows could stand to learn from.
Double digit seasons can become tedious.
Sometimes, less is so much more.
Redditor shamanKAshamanTAKA asked:
"What is a TV show you got really far into but eventually quit watching before its conclusion?"
I gave up on Melrose Place (The OG) before the end. And I LOOOVED that show!
"How to get away with murder."
"I considered quitting after Wes was out, but I stuck through it. It was okay. Just... okay. The storylines became less and less 'realistic' and it kinda felt like they were just trying to see how much s**t could hit the fan before wrapping up. Viola Davis is a Goddess, though."
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"Once Upon a Time I just stopped caring, because it felt like none of the characters were actually developing and would just regress season to season."
"That's absolutely the main problem with OUAT. Rumple is redeemed! Just kidding he's plotting to kill is grandson. Actually it's okay he's redeemed! No, wait, he sold his baby."
"Shoulda just kept Rumple evil the whole time he was the best character in the show at the start. I think the Evil Queen redemption was enough."
"Arrow, got tired of the main character flip flopping from season to season. Felt he was hypocritical when he killed people in the first season and then hunted down people doing the same thing he did in the next only for him to go back to kill people in the following season."
"I got so far with all the Arrowverse shows and then they all slowly became like a teen drama with power ranger budget fight scenes."
"I got 18 seasons into Grey’s Anatomy before I got irredeemably bored, that’s probably the biggest sunk cost here."
"I lasted 15, I didn't care about Meredith supposedly being in trouble. First of all she's the main character, second of all she's smart enough to handle the issue legally."
"After that was Covid and I wasn't interested in watching that sort of storyline in the middle of the pandemic, and after that why catch up? And Alex disappeared in the dumbest possible way, undoing sixteen seasons of character development."
'The Blacklist' was great until they ran out of ideas and just kept recycling the same plot over and over. The little guy from the DMV becoming a major player was the sign the end was near."
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The Blacklist just never appealed to me. Now, I'm not worried.
"Pretty little liars, that shit got too confusing for 16 year old me."
"It was too confusing because they made A an omnipotent being who was in 1000 places at the same time with unlimited resources lol."
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"Riverdale. I think it’s still on… I got really into it and then just dropped it like a hot rock right about when Sweet Pea came along. Also I was so convinced that Sweet Pea would introduce Popeye eventually and that Pop’s Diner was some kind of portal and it would all be revealed they were in a comic book. I think I might have had too high expectations."
"Falling Skies I actually enjoyed it but it moved channels and then I forgot about it."
"I stopped watching when the aliens put everyone into Nazi reeducation camps. That could’ve been an interesting take on the alien invasion trope but they introduced it too late. Shows have to have an internal logical consistency for me and this was at least the third hard left the show did because it kept getting new show runners. After that I just lost interest."
"NCIS I don’t think it will ever end."
"NCIS is so weird to me because it's lost almost its entire cast and somehow still goes on. Like even Mark Harmon finally left, how is there still a show?"
"My mom has been watching NCIS since it began. I was a child then. Now I'm an adult with a job and a child."
Give me an End
"Walking Dead, for sure. It never went anywhere. I wanted a conclusion, a solution, something new that wasn't killing and fighting other people. I wanted smart solutions, but they never arrived."
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I've never seen any of these shows. I suppose I'll skip.
As we enter into the fall, we find ourselves putting away our shorts and lightweight clothes for the season, and bringing our coats, hats and gloves out of storage.
For when fall approaches, it means winter is around the corner.
There's plenty not to like about winter, namely the freezing cold and the shorter days.
Conversely, winter also means the holiday season, and the chance to hit the slopes and ski or snowboard.
Making it understandable why winter is many people's favorite season.
"People who like winter, why?"
No Chance Of Bug Bites!
"No mosquitoes."- Aggra_Photo_
Some People Just Prefer The Cold...
"I'm not sweating in bed anymore."- drgn2009
"I hate being hot and I enjoy snow."- gomperfrozen let it go GIFGiphy
No Chance Of Overheating
"I'm fat and work outside."- jamiethered
"Winter air smells so crisp and calm."
"The cold air on my skin makes me feel alive and inspired, like anything is possible."
"I can't really explain it."
"Have you ever walked alone in the woods during a light snowfall?"
"I highly recommend it."
"Everything is quiet and still, except for the sharp crackle of underbrush under your feet as you walk."
"It's like being the only person in the world."
"Sorry, I think my introversion is showing."- whenthecatmeows
Easier To Enjoy The Great Outdoors...
"My allergies aren’t bothering me in winter and I’m not sweating after a 5 minute walk outside."- Verily_indubitablyWinnie The Pooh Animation GIF by DisneyGiphy
Turn , Turn, Turn...
"Fall is the beauty of dying."
"Winter is the peace of death."- PatientlyNostalgic
Just A Matter Of Personal Taste
"Just like some people enjoy summer and feel more alive."
"It is the same for winter."
"The smell of nature after it rains, the sound of rain, feeling cold."
"I think part of it is that I prefer night to day so having a gray wether is heaven plus winter clothes are prettier and more comfy."- metcxtubc
Just About Sums It Up
"Winter is cold, so the mosquitos are dead."
"The days are shorter, more time in bed."
"Staying warm by the fire, with the one you desire,
"And far less restrictions on bread :)."- rity5yenderfireplace GIFGiphy
Take Your Pick!
"The sun isn't as bright."
"The world is quieter."
"Especially at 3am."
"There is no pollen in the air."
"The sun isn't out near as much."
"People stay indoors more."
"Fires are nicer in winter."- dragon_book_hoarder
Who doesn't love snuggling up by a fire with a cup of hot chocolate?
Perhaps people who prefer lounging by a pool with a frozen margarita?
To each, their own...
Just after tax season, countless Americans might find themselves startled by an automated message from the IRS, saying they have a warrant issued for their arrest owing to money owed and they must call this number immediately.
Of course, the IRS would never call someone to warn them in this manner, and these automated calls are part of an elaborate scam.
But sadly, scams are becoming more and more convincing with each passing day, often taking direct aim at people where they're at their most notable.
Making it hard to detect what is, in fact, a legitimate message, and what is simply an attempt to steal your personal information or hack your bank account.
"What is a Scam that everybody should know about?"
Always Go Back To The Source
"If you every get an email about account activity that you aren't expecting, I.E password changes, sus logins, etc., NEVER click the link that was sent to you."
"Instead open a new window or tab and go to the website contacting you and use their proper support line."- DrPepster
Praying On The Elderly And Vulnerable
"Scams I've warned my parents about:"
"NEVER get onto a computer if a 'customer service' rep who called them tells them to."
"I will never take a trip overseas without telling them, find myself stranded and need money wired to me."- dougiebgood
When You Have To Pay To Pay...
"Being charged a 'convenience fee' for the 'honor' of being able to pay a bill by phone or online."
"Uhm - really? "
"I have to PAY you to PAY you?"- Senior_Morng4210
Read The Fine Print
"The Biden Administration is not personally contacting you about insurance or student loan debt."- 1Strict-Succotash-405
Be Careful What You Do On Camera
"I've seen a ton of this scam happening:"
"Dude meets 'hot girl' online somehow, whether from a dating site, or forum somewhere, instagram, etc."
'Hot girl' asks to snapchat / facetime / whatever, for sexy stuff."
"Dude jerks off on video for 'her'."
"'Hot girl' turns out to not be a hot girl, and is instead a scammer who now threatens to send that video to all of his instagram, twitter, facebook, etc. followers unless he sends money."
"This crazily seems to happen ALL THE TIME and people still fall for it."- Top-Royal6249
"See The Pyramids Along The Nile..." Or Online...
"Every single MLM out there."
"There is not a single 'good' one."
"It has nothing to do with products and everything to do with the business model."
"You are set up to fail 100 percent of the time."- PumpkinPure5643
Be Selective With Online Shopping
"I'm a postal worker."
"A problem I've uncovered a couple of times are on-line sellers giving you a tracking number for a small inexpensive item that is going to the same zip code as the item that you have ordered."
"When that item is scanned 'delivered', 99% of the time to another postal customer, you will think that your nice expensive item that you have ordered is lost or mis-delivered when in reality it was never sent at all."
"Or your PayPal account is hacked with the same scenario--the expensive item that you have ordered is diverted to another party and the tracking number that you had issued to you is for an inexpensive item going to the same zip code."
"I had that happen just yesterday in fact."
"A lady came in screaming at me because 'I' lost her package that she said was delivered to a parcel locker, according to her tracking number, but it wasn't there."
"That package was indeed still there at the post office and I pulled it out to show her."
"It was addressed to another customer and it had been delivered to them in the parcel locker, as the tracking number indicated."
"So, be careful when you shop on-line."
"Thieves find ways to capitalize on anything."- touristspleasegoaway
Get A Good Realtor...
"HoA charging a fee to sell your house."
"Especially when it's a % of the cost of the house."- MMOAddict
When A Job Seems To Good To Be True
"Fake job scams are becoming increasingly common now that WFH jobs are becoming popular, here is how it works.
"An 'employer' contacts you for an interview, the pay is usually very good, too good to refuse especially for people who are down bad."
"You 'pass' the interview and you're sent the generic hiring paperwork, this is really bad as it is sometimes almost impossible at this stage to tell it's a scam, but there are ways to tell which I'll explain later."
"Forms like a W2, I9 and Direct Deposit forms, stuff you would normally fill out for a legit job but it gives them all of your very personal information such as your SSN.
"This is where the scam becomes obvious, they tell you that you need to purchase the equipment, such as a laptop, printer, software, etc."
"They will tell you that they will cover it and they send you a check."
"Then you're supposed to buy the stuff, usually through sketchy means like wire transfer or gift cards."
"Since the check is fake, once you spend this money the check will inevitably bounce and now you're down the hole by the thousands, your 'employer' now dips out and you're scammed."
"There might be easier ways to tell, but my advice is to always ask how you will be receiving your supplies before filing any paperwork and sending it to them."
"If they refuse to tell you how it will work, or they tell you anything involving having you purchase the equipment, it's a scam and you can just dip out, or mess with them if you have the time to do so :)."
"I nearly fell for one of these scams a few months ago."
"I never sent them the money because it was obvious, but at that stage I already sent them my SSN and other information."
"I had to freeze all of my credit, which there are guides on how to do so that are easily found."
"If you get caught in a scam like this, I would recommend getting a new bank account(s), freezing all your credit, filing a fraud report for your credit."
"This will prevent any scammers from opening any loans or credit lines in your name."
"File a report for a stolen SSN and contact the FTC and file a report with them as well with as much detail as you can."- team-tree-syndicateGiphy
Scams have come a long way from snake oils and miracle cures.
And sadly, technology has made it even easier for scammers to access our personal and financial information.
With this in mind, should you ever receive a text message or an email which seems unusual, or delivering good news which seems too good to be true, always err on the side of caution.
An age old classic beginning to any horror movie is a car breaking down in an inopportune location.
In search of help, the car's passengers might find themselves asking to use the phone of a haunted house, in a town inhabited solely by demonic children, or in the woods where a monster lurks.
With this trope ingrained in our brains, finding ourselves with a flat tire or overheated engine is enough to put us on high alert no matter where we’re stuck.
But finding ourselves stranded in a place which isn’t so different from the settings of those classic horror movies will no doubt make our pulses raise and our teeth chatter a little bit harder…
"What’s the scariest rural place in the USA/Canada for your car to break down?"
Wide Open Space...
"It's a really cool place, but there's just nothing there."
"You might as well break down on another planet when it comes to some stretches on the interstate, let alone smaller roads."- cosmolegato
Way More Than Border-line creepy...
"A number of years ago I drove along the Texas/Mexico border and went through a little border town on the US side."
"A buddy of mine was with me and as soon as we pulled into town, we both looked at each other and said, 'what the f*ck is wrong with this place?'"
"But, I was almost out of gas, so I stopped to fill up."
"Went inside to pay."
"Standing in line."
"10 year old buying a candy bar in front of me."
"I suddenly realize that the magazine stand in front of me is completely filled with, anime porn?"
"I still don't know."
"They looked like comic books, but the cover of the one that I happened to be looking at was a p*ssy."
"A very artfully drawn anime p*ssy, but a pussy nonetheless."
"With a 10 year old standing in front of me buying a candy bar."
"Okay, this is weird, but whatever."
"Ten year old pays for their candy bar and exits."
"Guy behind the counter says, 'can you hang on for a moment?'"
"I look at the counter."
"The magazine on the counter seems to be a special effects magazine of some kind."
"It's showcasing what appears to be a severed human head lying on the sand of a beach somewhere."
"Me, still not figuring this out somehow, 'huh, this is an interesting magazine, what's the back cover?'"
"The back cover would appear to be a car interior with a dead body and a bunch of blood and, material, everywhere.
"This is a magazine of crime scenes."
"At the local gas station."
"So we left."
"Pretty sure the next car found themselves in the middle of a Stephen King novel."- kneightxGiphy
Always Pack A Sweater
"My car broke down in rural Nunavut."
"I’m lucky I had my emergency kit on me."
"Nothing like sitting for three hours while it’s -40C and no heat."- veggienuggets123
Alone In The Lone Star State
"For me, it was west Texas."
"No idea about the people, but it was unnerving."
"I drove through it at mid day-night."
"No cell phone signal."
"No power lines."
"Hot as hell."
"At night you could see occasional flashes of light in the distance of one of those fuel things that spit out fire out the top."
"Then every once in awhile there would be this random small house or run down looking trailer out in the middle a good 10-30 minute drive from the road."
"I always wonder what their story is."
"Cut off from the world in the middle of a desert, though I do not dare to find out lol."- PalwaJoko
Define What You Mean By "Rural"...
"There are two kinds of scary rural: rural so remote you'll die before you reach help and rural where you die because you meet 'help'."- onesadjam
Beware Of Wolves...
"I'd say between Thunder bay and Winnipeg."
"There's like f*ck all between these two places, and I once saw a giant white wolf here."
"Was cool, but I wouldn't want to break down there."- Hawkwise83
Anywhere In Canada In The Winter
"I imagine along the Saskatchewan-Northwest Territories border in the dead of winter would be pretty horrifying."- ZytharrosGiphy
Truth be told, it's never fun or convenient when your car breaks down anywhere.
But if one could choose the location, it would ideally be in the midst of civilization, and in broad daylight.
Seeing as we can't plan around that, however, it is always a good idea to get your car checked up before embarking on a long road trip.
Particularly in the winter.