Crushes are a funny thing. We often don't understand why we have a crush on someone, but we feel it all the same.
If something happens to make us lose interest, though, it's probably super clear why.
Reddit user u/jelz asked:
Bragged about how she was leading on a few guys so she always had a backup.
He would ask me questions about myself, then cut me off in the middle of my answer to talk about himself.
"If you could have ANY super power what would it be?"
"I think I'd like telekinesis because..."
I have a friend like that, and my cousin does this often too. It's like they bring it up so they can talk about it, but don't realize that you can just say what you want to say instead of bait and switching with who gets to talk. I love them both dearly, but it's sooooo annoying.
We were eating dinner out and he was rude to the server. Told him (we were pretty close friends) it would be nice to add a "please" or "thank you" he said "why should I, she's a waitress (implying he feels superior ) and I pay her to do her job". instant turn off and didn't really want to hangout with him even as friends after the incident
A woman I was talking to was recently divorced and had moved back in with her parents. She already had a child and a couple pets and was talking about getting another pet and her parents told her no, she chose to go ahead and get another pet anyhow and basically her parents began pushing her out the door. And it was a stressful situation for her and I suggested she talk to her folks. However once she told me she was grown and made her own decisions and did not care about their rules I suddenly understood, and quickly lost interest.
I had a crush on a guy in high school who was a little bit of a rebel. Nothing serious but definitely had a bad boy thing going on. One day in class the teacher told him to do something minor and he flipped out, basically had a temper tantrum and refused. Totally killed all interest by being a jerk for no reason.
He would steal people's tips off the bar counter when we were at a bar together with friends. Then he would offer to buy me food with it. No thank you.
I had a harmless crush on a married friend that I did not signal or act on, ever. I've been the spurned wife before, I kept my distance and did everything short of unfriending him on Facebook.
He slid on in to my DMs right after my separation became public knowledge and he found out I was no longer married.
He was still married to his wife, with a baby on the way.
I didnt respond.
They are divorced now. Shes a really lovely person and deserves so much better.
He snapped his fingers at a waitress... then as I looked mortified, he whistled.
Not so much a crush, but we were in the initial sentences of the conversation getting to know each other. We were describing to one another what our jobs were. He corrected me on describing my job. stopped right there, said it wasn't going to work out and ended the conversation.
I had a huge crush on a girl in high school. I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime and she was down. I suggested going downtown and she told me that she didn't like going downtown because all of the black people.
I was stunned. I never followed up on hanging out and I was never attracted to her again. I also let the friendship we had die pretty quickly after that. Ain't nobody got time for that kind of bullshit.