Clueless in love?
Grab a pen and get ready to get a clue because we're breaking it down today.
Firstly, don't feel bad.
Lots of us are completely and totally oblivious. You're among friends here.
Reddit user IsellKidneys2356 asked:
"What screams 'I'm attracted to you?' "
If you're reading this article with a particular someone in mind, hoping this article will help you figure out if they're into you or not, keep reading til the end and we'll give you a sure-fire way to know.
You're Not That Funny
"Laughing at your worst jokes."
- scrimmybingus3
"I told my friend when he was nervous on his first date 'if she laughs, you got a shot' to which he replied 'why?' ”
"I said 'cause you ain’t f*cking funny and she’s catering to your frail ego just like all girls do when they like a guy' he said it was great advice lol 😂"
- thelastride23
"My girlfriend was so giggly when we first met and it was so precious."
"I have a good sense of humor but I know I’m not THAT funny. It gave me peace of mind early on knowing she probably had the same butterfly feeling in her stomach as me."
- lanman33
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Terrified Silence
"I worked alongside this guy for several months, and he never said a word to me."
"For the longest time, I thought he hated me, as he would actively go out of his way to avoid speaking to me at all, or even make any kind of eye contact."
"I thought he was super cute, but I'm also pretty shy and introverted, which is why I just let it go for several months."
"It eventually got to the point where it was just uncomfortable, and I asked him what the deal was, and what I could have possibly done to make him dislike me so much."
"It took him a minute or so to respond, and then he said 'I'm really sorry. I'm incredibly shy, and have been since I was a kid. But I think you are the most flawlessly beautiful woman I've ever seen, and I am terrified to talk to you.' "
"We've been together for over three years, and married for four months."
- littletinylotus
Big Hints
"Apparently my fiancee dropped a whole lot of hints before we got together."
"A big standout was complaining that she didn't have any plans for our Junior prom, and then asking me what my plans for that night were."
"My dumb@ss responded with something to the effect of 'F*ck prom, I'll be home playing Mario.' "
- uwu-lmao-xD
"My girlfriend did the same thing, to the point she kissed me and I managed to convince myself that she wasn't interested."
"I ignored it for another month before I got told by multiple people that she was into me and I asked her out. In conclusion, I am a f*cking idiot."
- original__pickles
"When my son was about 16 he went off on a camping weekend with a heap of friends. There was one girl who’d he’d been getting kind of close with for ages, and I had a fair idea that something would happen while they were away."
"So when I picked him up, I asked him how it had gone."
"He said it was so weird, they’d had a great night, it was almost bedtime and she hasn’t set up her tent yet. He asked her about it and she said she didn’t know how to put it up so she was just going to have to sleep on the ground by the fire."
"Ever the gentleman, he sprung to his feet and recruited a friend to help set it up for her in the dark and the cold. Damsel saved."
"Fast forward an hour or so and everyone’s asleep. He hears a rustle at his tent door and there she is, complaining that she’s so cold all on her own in her big scary tent."
"Bless that sweet ignorant boy, he said 'oh. Well here you go, take my sleeping bag' and held it out to her. He remembers she looked sad and confused and he didn’t understand; he’d done a nice thing and now she wouldn’t be cold. Damsel saved."
"He shivered and froze all night and ended up climbing into another tent and going top to toe with his buddy."
"I said to him 'Mate, do you reckon maybe she wanted to sleep in your tent with you?' and the look on that poor kid’s face when the penny dropped…"
- Kristyyyyyyy
The Looks
"When you're in a group and the person consistently looks at you whenever something funny or interesting happens."
- take-a-ride
"I had a meeting yesterday afternoon. It was the first time for most of us meeting in person."
"The last person to arrive was this stunning girl and when we looked at each other I swear to God there might as well have been lightning shooting out both our eyes."
"At first I thought 'nah I imagined that.' As she sat down close to me we looked at each other for a solid second and smiled at the same time for no particular reason other than it just feeling right."
"She started making conversation with me specifically. We had to split up into groups to interview people, and she and I were paired by the supervisor (best supervisor ever)."
"For the next two hours, we just joked and talked with each other and every time something funny happened we just looked at each other automatically."
"I've been with a lot of people but never had this sort of easy chemistry happen before, certainly not so quickly. I'm excited to talk to her some more, regardless of where it leads. I asked her out to lunch sometime and she said yes!"
"It might be a bit because we're noth busy but it's a good development :)"
- RomanRodriBR
Full Of Excuses
"Excuses to be near them. 'Lets study together - we'll get more work done ; 'Oh, you're going that way? me too, lets walk together.' "
- pronouns-r-they-them
"My sophomore year of college a friend of mine said we should skip a formal to get more studying done."
"These formals were a big deal campus-wide and everyone went. Also, we didn’t take a single class together."
"She showed up at my dorm wearing knee-high stockings and a men’s dress shirt that was unbuttoned to her cleavage. She was not wearing a bra."
"I…studied. Hurts to think about to this day."
- m4gnum_89
"I’m guilty of that second one lol."
"There was a girl in one of my college classes that I got to know really well that I started to get a huge crush on her. We would always walk out of class together and I had always said that her spot was on the way to my spot when in reality it was way off."
"But I just enjoyed those walks every day. I looked forward to that."
- yeezyfan23
Distraction
"Losing their train of thought when you walk by, while they are talking to someone else."
- buck-status-BROKEN
"Yup."
"I work with my spouse. We've been married 14 years. I still lose my train of thought when he walks by."
- take-a-ride
"This happened to me once."
"It was absurd how I trailed off when she went by in a summer dress. Good lord, 100% embarrassing."
- mynameisbp
"Omg this is true."
"I was giving a mock presentation to my group mate and that guy suddenly joined and spectated. I tripped up so many time in that presentation."
- andrew_hihi
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This Classic Move
"Finding any reason to touch each other."
"Whether is play fighting, feeling up muscles, poking someone's bruise, comparing hand sizes of they actively try to find a reason to touch you, they probably like you."
- biggaylikewoman
"Comparing hand sizes is a CLASSIC move."
- WinterBird01
"Comparing hand sizes is like my go to :/ I’m ashamed."
- Aldroe
Food = Love
"If they know you like a certain food and buy it for you."
"The guy I liked loved this one dumpling place near uni. He’d constantly stop and get some on the way home."
"One day when we where walking together, beforehand he said he felt like some but didn’t have his card so no money. So even though I knew he wanted some, when I asked if he wanted me to buy it for him he politely declined."
"So I pretended to buy some for myself (since I sometimes would). Then I ate like 3 to make it believable and said I was suddenly full and he could have the rest."
"I just wanted him to be happy with his dumplings."
- JackSparrowscompass
Absentmindedly
"When you catch them absentmindedly looking at you."
"Even if they’re doing something/talking to someone else but they’re still in tune with you and mindful of where you are in the room. Because, even subconsciously, they’re thinking about you."
"Also, going out of their way to make you smile/laugh is a good one. Same with keeping notes on your interests."
- NinjaCakies
"Most of the girls that I knew were interested in me were girls who I kept catching staring at me."
"Initially I never made any effort go further, but then I did and found out they were actually interested in me. I have figured out the 'I like you' gaze now and it's easy to know who likes me."
- garlic_bread_thief
"Finding reasons to touch you, wanting to see you, hear your voice and most important - their gaze."
"You can just tell by the way someone looks at you. When you’re in a group or a party, you look at them and find them already looking at you from across the room."
- Skinnylicious3
"Its in the way they watch you from across the room when they think you are not noticing."
"The easy smile when you are talking to them. They really listen to what you have to say without talking too. much because they are cataloging and filing it into their brain for future reference."
"But it starts with the look..."
- Melesa-rdwudforst
Third Person
"A tendency to end sentences by looking at each other even if there's other people around."
"Also, making frequent side comments to each other in group settings. They just want to talk to each other more."
"It can be hard to notice if it's happening to you, but is super obvious from a third person view when people are into each other."
- Nightthunder
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Talk Talk Talk
"Always trying to find ways to talk to you."
- rottingrodents
"Walking up to you and finding an excuse to start a conversation with you is usually a good sign, in my experience."
- in_the_comatorium
The Reflex
"This might come off as egotistical, but it's something I noticed and haven't been able to tell anyone ..."
"At the gym I have a 'friendly acquaintance' who I see all the time. We generally just exchange pleasantries, but in December I ruptured the triceps tendon in my right arm."
"She happens to be a physical therapist, so there has been a lot more chit-chat since then."
"A few days ago I entered the gym, and went to stow my jacket in a cubby. She was nearby, so I said 'Good morning' and when she turned I saw her pupils dilate to like 11."
"Since then I've seen the same thing twice."
"Ocular reflexes don't lie."
- SurlyJason
This List
"Men to women:"
"Driving. He takes you home or picks you up without being asked."
"Killing things. He drops whatever he is doing when you need him to help you smash a bug or trap a mouse."
"Paying attention. He notices changes in your grooming and dress and remembers things you say."
"Ponying up. He pays for meals, coffee, movie tickets, etc. even if you aren't dating."
"Showing off. He subtly or not so subtly mentions how much he can bench press or how much his last client paid him."
"Spending time. He seems not to mind hanging around you for no apparent reason."
"Telling you in so many words. He voluntarily admits that he did all these things because he was attracted to you."
- Loud_Ad_5518
Some people aren't just oblivious - they're almost impossible to convince.
Even if you tell them flat-out that you're attracted to them.
Even if you have sex with them.
Even if you marry them!
Yeah ... there may be no hope for these folks.
I Do. For Real.
"It took a while of being literally married for me to be convinced my husband was into me."
"I’m not always the smartest lol, no matter how much he told me or kissed me or did sweet, thoughtful gestures, my own insecurity fought me every step of the way."
"I do understand now that I’m truly loved just as much as I love him."
- carsandtelephones37
"For me it’s the intrusive thought that my wife believes she loves me but doesn’t realize she’s actually just tolerating me and when someone better comes around she’ll be like 'oh damn I was wrong.' ”
- A_Doormat
"Married 5 years, that's how it feels to me."
"I'm slowly realizing that she didn't just marry me because I was the best option at the time."
"She has a hard time expressing love because she grew up in a very suppressed household. Her parents never kissed, showed much affection in front of the kids beyond saying I love you."
"Most of the extent of her showing love is just flat out telling me."
"She's brutally honest with her words and words mean a lot to her so, that's good, but I'm just not a words guy, I need physical touch, quality time, etc."
"But over the past 5 years, I've slowly been noticing the subconscious things she does that tell me she loves me. Some of the signs that people have posted here are actually what she does and it shows that even though she has a hard time expressing it, that adorable heart of hers yearns after me."
"A year ago, we were in a really rough spot, mostly fueled by me not feeling loved by her, so the fact that I can acknowledge this is huge for us."
- [Reddit]
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Sis Dropped The Ball
"A girl that had a locker beside mine in high school asked if I was going to prom and who I was going with."
"I replied, 'Nah, I’m not going I don’t want to pay for that sh*t.' Even more, one of her friends also pushed even further by asserting that we should go to prom together and I held my ground by, once again, stating that I wouldn’t even be going."
"I later found out that this girl had asked my sister if I had someone to go to prom with and made it clear that she wanted to go with me."
"Why my sister didn’t let me know of this information I will never know."
"I was definitely very attracted to this girl but my dumbass couldn’t comprehend that she would actually want to go with me."
"Oops."
- Mironium
I Cringe
"Close contact, especially the unconventional ones."
"Went out with workmates and a colleague (slightly tipsy) started rubbing my leg with her foot while at table."
"Never been flirted with like that and didn't know how to respond appropriately, so I panicked and just gently pushed her away. I cringe at how I handled the situation to this day."
- someguywithdiabetes
Cherry Stem Saga
"What screams 'I'm attacted to you?' I wouldn't know because I'm an idiot."
"My wife tied a cherry stem in her mouth for me the night we started dating. Tied a cherry stem - it's such a cliche but I still missed it."
"She had to 'scream louder' and hold my hand and press into me hard later on because I was f*cking hopeless taking the hint."
- Threndsa
Don't worry, we didn't forget out promise - you're here for that sure-fire way to find out if someone is attracted to you.
You ready?
ASK THEM.
Yes, it's awkward - but it really is the only way to know for sure. Sorry. Thems the breaks, fam.
You're gonna have to just ask.
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For many childhood memories are overrun by living nightmares.
Yes, children are resilient, but that doesn't mean that the things we see as babes don't follow us forever.
The horrors of the world are no stranger to the young.
Redditor -2sweetcaramel- wanted to see who was willing to share about the worst things we've seen as kids, so they asked:
"What’s the creepiest thing you saw as a kid?"
Serious Danger
"Me and my best friend would explore the drainage tunnels under the Vegas area where we grew up. These were miles long and it was always really cool down there so it was a good way to escape the heat of our scorching hot summers. We went into this one that goes under the Fiesta casino and found a camp with a bunch of homeless people."
"Mind you we are like 11 years old lol. And we just kept going like it was nothing. It wasn’t scary then but when I look back at it we could have been in some serious danger. Our parents had no idea we did this or where we were and we had no cellphones. We could have been kidnapped and never have been found."
oofboof2020
Waiting for Food
"I was at a portillos once when I was 12 and I was waiting with my little brother at a booth while my parents got our food. This guy was standing with his tray kind of watching me then after a couple of minutes he started to walk over really fast not breaking eye contact with me."
"He was 2 feet from the table and my dad came out of nowhere and scared the s**t out of him. He looked so surprised and just said he wanted to see if I’d get scared or not. He left his tray full of food near the door and left. My folks reported him but we never went to that location again since we found a better one closer to home."
nowhereboy1964
Captain Hobo to the Rescue
"When I was a pretty young teen, my friends and I were horsing around in San Francisco and started hanging out to smoke with some homeless guys. Another homeless dude came up and began aggressively trying to shake us down for anything (money, smokes, a ride, drugs- all of it) and wouldn’t take no for an answer."
"We got in over our heads and could tell this guy was now riling the other 2 guys up and they were acting like they wanted to jump us. Some grandfather-looking old homeless man appeared out of nowhere and yelled at us to get the f**k out of here- nice kids like us don’t belong down here at this hour!!"
"Captain Hobo saved our lives that night. My parents sincerely thought we were at a mall all day lol."
FartAttack911
Survival
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"I was 7 and survived the 2004 tsunami in Thailand. Witnessed the wave rise way above the already massive palm trees (approx. 40ft?) and my family and I watched/heard the wave crash into the ground from a rooftop."
faithfulpoo
These Tsunami stories are just tragic.
On the Sand
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"We were a group of kids who went to swim in a local lake. And there was a dead body on the beach with their hands raised and their legs bent unnaturally that local police just took out of the same lake. I've never put my foot in these waters again."
oyloff
Be Clever
"I was walking to school and I was about 5 or 6 years old and some guy pulled up beside me in his car and asked if I would get in. He also offered me sweets to do so. I said no. The creepy bit was when he calmly said ‘clever boy’ to me, then drove off. I’ve never even told my parents or anyone else about this as it would most likely freak them out."
OstneyPiz
Bad Jokes
"Dad's side of the family pranked me by burying a fake body on our back property and had me dig it up to find valuables. Was only allowed to use a lantern for light. They stuffed old clothes with chicken bones. Sheetrock mud where the head was... Random fake jewelry as the treasures... I was like maybe 10 or 11.. I remember digging up the boot first and started gagging because it became real at that point."
Alegan239
YOU
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"Woke up to find my little brother staring at me in the dark, asking, Are you really you?"
PrettyLola2004
Siblings can really be a bunch of creepers.
No one should talk to others in the dark though.
Not all pet owners have the same relationship with their pets.
While anyone who decides to become a pet owner, or pet parent as some say, love their pets equally, some never ever let them leave their side.
Taking their pet with them to work, running errands, even on vacations.
Many pet parents even allow their pets to share their bed with them when going to sleep.
For others though, this is where a line is finally drawn.
Redditor Piggythelavasurfer was curious to hear whether pet owners allowed their pets to share their bed with them, as well as the reasons why they do/don't, leading them to ask:
"Do you let your pet sleep in your bed? Why/why not?"
The Tiny Issue Of Water...
"Absolutely not."
"I have fish."- Senior-Meal3649
Everyone Gets Lonely Eventually...
"I adopted an eleven year old cat the day before Halloween."
"She has mostly lived in my closet since I got her, and she hasn’t been too interested in coming out."
"Last night, she came out of my closet and jumped up on my bed, and crawled under my covers and curled up by my feet to sleep."
"I was so happy!"- YellowBeastJeep
The Comforting Reminder That You're Not Alone...
"I recently lost my Greyhound but I used to let him sleep on my bed with me."
"The company was nice and he was no trouble to have on my bed."- HoodedMenace3
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What Do You Mean Allow?
"I have no choice."
"She is a cat, cats do whatever they want."- Small_cat1412
"He lets me sleep in my bed."- Poorly-Drawn-Beagle
Wouldn't Have It Any Other Way
"I carry my old boy upstairs to bed every night."- worst_in_show
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Who Needs An Alarm Clock?
"I let my two cats sleep with me."
"They're so full of love and just want cuddles all the time."
"And so do I."
"We've all developed a lil routine."
"Get to bed, oldest sleeps on my feet to keep them warm, youngest lies in my arm while I lie on my side (she the little spoon), then when I snooze my alarm for work in the morning the youngest paws at my face and meeps loudly to wake me up."- GhostofaFlea_
Whose Bed Is It Anyway?
"Yes."
"They're also kind enough to let me squeeze into whatever space they've left for me."
"Although I do get a few dirty looks off them."- Therealkaylor
"I found this tiny kitten screaming her head off under a car."
"Would not come out."
"Got some food and some water in dishes."
"I stood by the tire so she couldn't see my feet."
"She got curious about the food and water and started gobbling it down."
"I thought she would bolt when I squatted down."
"She was too busy eating."
"I grabbed her by the nape of the neck and all four legs went straight out and she tried to scratch me to death."
"I got her in the door and tossed her toward the couch."
"She ricocheted off the couch as if she was a ping pong off a table and I lost sight of her."
"I put out food and water and a sandbox and did not see that kitten for three days."
"On the third day, I came home and she was on my bed pillow."
"I thought she would bolt when I came near, but she didn't."
"I wanted to sleep so I tried to scoot her little butt off my pillow."
"She would not go."
"I put my head down to sleep and that is the way it was from then on."
"She ran the roost."- Logical_Cherry_7588
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Sleeping Is A Prerequisite...
"No, he's a cat and he cannot keep still during the night."
"He walks across the headboard, opens the closet doors, jumps into the windows and rustles the blinds, etc."
"If he would sleep he could stay, but alas, he's a ramblin' man."- Spong_Durnflungle
Saying No Just Isn't An Option...
"'Let'."
"Lol."
"It's a cat's world and I'm happy to be on her good side."- milaren
Felines Only!
"The cat does, the dog doesn't and the horse certainly does not either."- Xcrowzz
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Is That My Hair On That Pillow?
"My dog is perfect."
"She comes up, cuddles til we start to fall asleep, then gets down to sleep on her bed so she doesn't get too hot."
"Jumps back up in the early morning for wake up cuddles."
"The hair everywhere is the only downside but she is so cozy, what can you do."- HoodieWinchester
It is easy to understand how some people are able to fall asleep more easily knowing their friend and protector is there, in bed, with them.
Though we can't blame others who don't want to run the risk of being scratched or bitten in the middle of the night either...