None of us are perfect.... well... besides me. But most of the mortals wandering about are doing their absolute best, every second. So it's always interesting to try to understand the reasons some people may chose to sever ties with a person. Like what could a friend have done that you would exile them? Aside from murder and philandering, let's list the reasons to dump a pal.
Redditor u/Sexysexsex6969420 wanted to discuss all the times we've been dumped by a friend by asking..... What was the dumbest reason a person had for no longer being friends with you?Pay it Forward....
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She insisted on paying for our meal a few times (even after I offered to pick up the tab, or at least pay for my share) and then "felt like she was paying for everything all the time".
"Who" Knows....
I was watching Doctor Who in my college dorm.
Roommate asked what I was doing, so I told him about the show. He sat down and watched a few episodes with me in silence.
He then got up and refused to speak to me for the rest of the semester, then moved to another dorm.
To this day I have no idea what he found so objectionable.
Filthy
I suggested she should clean her lizard enclosure more often, and took it personally.
I felt bad for the lizard. Filthy, filthy.. ;) But yeah an actual lizard enclosure, it would always be running through its own crap and stopped eating too. (It outgrew the cage he was in, not having proper lighting, etc). Just genuinely not happy. She wasn't the most hygienic person either though, and Im glad I don't have to smell her anymore but thats a different story.
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Blocked....
The idiot blocked me on facebook and messenger as a "prank" and then when he couldn't see my account to unblock me he accused me of blocking him and called me a traitor even though i didn't block him.
Well of course you can't see my account in your friends list if you blocked me you dimwitt, you gotta unblock people from the settings.
Well-off....
I couldn't afford to be her bridesmaid. I was experiencing hard times and living in poverty. She knew this and didn't give a crap. Her family was exceedingly wealthy and she was well-off. She was a spoiled brat and always got her way. She said I should make her wedding a financial priority. I didn't have money to put gas in my car. 15-year friendship down the drain. Turned out to be a huge blessing.
Who are you?
She got trained in another position at work and suddenly thought she was better than me, even though I was trained in adjacent position before her. Tried to make friends with all the people in her new position and sh!t talked me, invited them all out to dinner, told them not to tell me. It was really weird and stupid.
Knobbed...
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Accused me of stealing a door knob.
I didn't steal it and never gave the guy a reason not to trust me.
Don't Beg!
Don't be roommates with your friends. Best friend begged me to move in with him, only to be kicked out 3 months later because "once or twice you left a window open, and I know you don't leave dirty dishes out but you should clean everyone's dishes if you get the chance." Turns out his gf just wanted me out so her friends could move in, then they broke up a couple months later. Still see the guy time to time and we're cool, but we went from being best friends since kindergartn to super distant.
Y'all do You!
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Friend of over a decade. His wife was screwing him over, cheating and threatening to take his kids away.
I came over one day to lend a shoulder to lean on. She showed up, starting yelling about some stuff in the house (she had moved in with her new partner by this point). He repeatedly asked her to calm down.... She tried to take a painting that was left to them from his late grandma. He said no, so she punched a hole in it and left.
He was there crying (6'5" burly bearded guy btw). I tried to help. I made the mistake of bringing my opinion of her into the matter (a not so good opinion). Told him he was better than her. You know. Dude trying to cheer his bro up.
They got back together a week later and he stopped talking to me. It's been near 4 years now. No explanation was ever given. I just assumed it was because of her.
Y'all too much....
I had friends who were a married couple. They were going through a messy breakup and wanted everyone to pick sides. I refused to pick sides. They were both angry with me for not hating their "evil" SO during that time period even after they got back together...
Like they still wanted to be together, but they also wanted all their friends to hate the other one? It was so odd. They lost all their friends over this.
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Not with my candy....
I had a buddy for years before high school. He moved from a small apartment in a bad area to a larger one in a nicer complex, then on to a condo in an even nicer area. I visited the condo, hung out a while, then on the way out grabbed a mint from a tray near the front door.
He ran after me when I was a few blocks away, slugged me, and took the wrapper from me. We never spoke again.
8 Months Later...
Friend hadn't returned any calls for 8 months when I went through a tough time.
I finally decided to go see him and he said that I used his remote control and searched for "porn" because I was in his house watching TV that day we had last seen each other, said his nephew was looking for a show a few days later and "porn" auto completed, must've been me.
20 year friendship, when he had no license I'd pick him up for motocross, fix his bike, take him to get gas, go riding, Dunkins and bring him home. I never talked to him again.
I Rock...
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During my childhood my neighbor told me one day that his friend (a girl) refused to be friends with me because "I looked like a boy". All because I rocked short hair. Kids can be a**holes sometimes lol.
Ain't Nobody Married....
I had sex with the girl I had a crush on.
Mind you, he did not have a crush on her. He barely even knew her. I asked multiple times if he had a thing for her, because if he did, then I had no idea. Repeatedly he told me he did not, but that my actions were gross. A couple of weeks later we were cool, but that shit was weird.
"Richard"
I refused to go to Toronto with her and a 60 years old guy she met online to go get an exotic bird from Africa she ordered.
According to her plan we were to sleep in the same hotel room as this guy "Richard". When I told her I would not come cause I feared for my life, that it might be dangerous, she got really angry and said "Wow you fear for your life and not mine."
She called me the following day to tell me she didn't want to be my friend anymore.
She found my phone number like 5 years later and wanted to reconnect and I just told her: "Hey, I appreciate it, but I think you made a good call when you decided to end our friendship. I wish you the best."
In the Eye...
I was talking to a friend and they decided to put on some mascara. They poked their eye and then started to yell at me saying it was my fault. They demanded I apologize and say that it was my fault it happened. I said I was sorry it happened to them but I wasn't going to take the blame for something that wasn't my fault.
This person held a grudge for like two years and even slammed a locker door into me at some point since we always had lockers next to each other. They tried to drag mutual friends into it too... over them not being able to put on mascara properly. This was in middle school. I'm 30 now and it's still the dumbest reason someone's ever ended a friendship.
Little Creep...
My parents gave me the DnD 3.5 books as a birthday present. He had specially forbade me from getting the books (so he would be the only one who knew the rules for certain?).
He was a controlling little guy. He cold shouldered me and refused to talk to me any more, and apparently swapped the insert he had made of me in his home drawn comic book from a hero to a villain overnight. This was second hand info I heard years later, but he apparently considered me accepting a gift as the biggest betrayal he had ever experienced.
I hadn't thought of him in 15 years until I saw this post.
Use Yahoo....
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She gave me the wrong address for a party, I typed it into google maps, and it took us to the wrong place. (She drove, I was the passenger.) She never spoke to me again.
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I have a constant fear of death. I wanna perfect the ending of "Death Becomes Her" so I can live forever.
Before
morbid death GIFGiphy"I'm not scared of death because of working in health care I was around it so much. I AM scared of what leads to death, however."
Full-Mulberry5020
Why now?
"Why should I be scared now of something that's only going to happen at the end of my life?"
User Deleted
"I did this cult thing called the landmark forum and I actually did like their “meaning of life”: the meaning of life is that there is no meaning. Life is empty and meaningless. There is no answer."
"Life is what you make of it and every persons answer is equally valid because there is no meaning to life. Life exists as, basically, an accident, we are all here by complete accident, there’s no great mystery, it’s all biology and you are 100% free to make life about whatever it is you want."
Conservative_HalfWit
Death and I are good friends...
"I was very sick as a child. Spent ages 7-20 in and out of hospital due to kidney issues. Lost a kidney at 28. Almost died during the surgery to removed the dead kidney due to blood loss. Had 5 surgeries back to back during the next 2 years. Twice they had difficulties bringing me out of anesthesia."
"Found my favorite aunt dead in her bed when I was 22. Watched my best friend die from a brain tumor at 30. Death has been a constant force in my life. Sometimes just on the edges waiting, sometimes unexpected staring me in the face. I'm not afraid because it's always been there. I now work in healthcare. Death and I are good friends."
Tiny_Teach_5466
No Worries
"Because it's coming for us all, sooner or later. So there's no point in worrying about it. I am much more concerned about day to day minutiae. The Lars von Trier film Melancholia starring Kirstin Dunst portrayed this perfectly. If there was an asteroid hurtling towards the earth, I'd probably be more preoccupied with worrying about whether I left the back light on or not."
Giallo_submarine
It's Over
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MarshallApplewhiteDo
I never thought about the before much. I hope the before is quick.
The Effects
Pray I Hope GIFGiphy"I hope that when my times comes it will be merciful. My uncle had a stroke, he is paralyzed. My grandmother is 91, but is losing all her memories of her life. Death does not scare me, what could be left of me before I die is what terrifies me."
M1ssy_M3
No Terror
"It’s like when the writer Nabokov said that he saw a picture one time, a picture of before he was born. It was a picture of his mother, his brother and sister that were older than him, but he had not been born yet. He said that when he saw that picture there was no terror in him, even though he was looking at a picture where he didn’t exist."
im_on-the_can
state of nonexistence...
"I'm not afraid of death, I'm afraid of dying. Death is just the state of nonexistence I experienced before I was born. I don't remember it because I didn't exist yet. Death will be the same way. I just don't want the transition to be marked by pain and sorrow at things left unfinished. I want it to be quick, painless, and with me surrounded by love."
Wazula42
I'm Gone...
"Because once I die, I won't know it. I won't miss people or regret things or feel pain or sadness about anything. I might fear being sick and slowly dying, just having to live with the knowledge that it's all going to end and this is the last time I'll ever see the people I love or taste good food or hear good music. That sounds almost unbearable. But death isn't even a thing, it's just having done something (died)."
"It's like virginity, it's a made-up state of being that just says whether or not you've experienced a specific occurrence. Once I die, I'm gone. My corpse will be the empty wrapper I used to be in, just garbage to be disposed of in whatever way makes my survivors feel better. I'll be switched off. If I don't worry about what the light feels after the bulb burns out, why would I be afraid of being dead?"
SallyHeap
At Peace
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Some very interesting perspectives. May it all calm peacefully and with great mercy for us all.
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I once had a guy ask me if I was willing to follow him into the woods, depending on the price of the meal.
Yeah. No steak is worth that.
Plans After...
Wait What Wtf GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy"Thanks for the ride but I have a date with someone else, I figured you wouldn't drive me if you knew I was going on a date with someone else and I really needed a ride."
"Online dating, talked to her for a while, finally got the courage to ask her out and then she said that as we got there."
iareyours
Mirror Image
“'You look just like my wife!'”
catalinachild
"I did have a guy tell me I reminded him of his son. I don’t believe English has a word to adequately describe my feelings at that time."
UnicornMagicRainbow
"That would definitely do it."
chaotica78
Third Wheel
"'Hope you don't mind if my mother joins us.'"
ofsquire
"Actually had a girl do this on a first date because she had anxiety issues. Honestly wasn’t bad except that 90% of the time she was silent and her mom talked over her."
"I didn’t mind that much and wouldn’t have minded trying again when she was more comfortable except that she was let go at the company we worked at and she deleted her social media profiles and she never responded on her number. Ah well."
Seightx
Liar
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"Random dude I've never seen before in front of my (f) date."
JHXC16
Was he lying though?
Filter Issues
"'You looked better on Tinder.'"
waqasnaseem07
"Isn’t it basic knowledge that everybody looks slightly worse than the worst picture you can find?"
no_user_ID_found
The Past
"'My ex used to do that too.'"
xxIvyOF
"Yep. I’ve definitely had two otherwise-decent-guy date-situations sour because the ex-comparisons just would not stop flowing. No woman wants to be seen as interchangeable—I’m not here to perfectly fill that ex-sized hole in your life. Focusing on the present moment and a future we could build together is a courtesy we need to grant each other in earliest dates of dating."
LarkScarlett
Powerless
"'I'm an alpha, you cant handle my top energy.'"
Midnightgay28
"I actually left a dude in the middle of dinner, in part, for saying this. I ordered an Uber under the table while pretending to listen to him. Went to the bathroom, and never came back. That was when I was young. Now I’d just say, 'How about we enjoy this meal in silence, before we head our separate ways.'”
UnicornMagicRainbow
Mommy...
"'Mother says I should be back by 9.'"
"Saying 'mother says' just feels weird."
bunnyrut
"That gives me Norman Bates vibes."
Werewolf_lover20
"'Mother says alligators are aggressive because they have an overabundance of teeth, but lack a toothbrush.'"
sodaextraiceplease
Obvs...
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Specific_Tap7296
If it looks anything like a Dateline NBC episode... RUN!
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Or so you would think.
Do people still knit to pass the time? Are people actively collecting stamps?
It depends on who's asking.
Curious to hear about hobby trends, Redditor gizehgizeh asked:
"What are once popular hobbies that are slowly dying these days?"
Before we've become conditioned to living on our phones, these activities used to keep people occupied.
Before Texting, There Was This
"Letter writing."
– littlekingMT
Literal And Tangible Joy
"Well the internet killed pen pals for sure. I do remember I had a Japanese girl for a penpal maybe back in 2007 or so. I honestly don't remember how it started, pretty sure some website, but that was a fun experience. But now I can just straight up talk to foreign people real time, lol. But yea getting a physical letter that someone took the time to write and mail still is hard to beat feelings wise."
– skyburnsred
Model Trains
"When I was growing up, every town had a model train store in it. Now I have one in region and everything else has to be bought online."
– Hairy_Effective1172
Pretty Rocks
"Don’t see anyone playing marbles anymore, I had an awesome collection in school."
– sheeple85
"I had some marbles as a kid in the 90s. My grandma got them for me and I had no idea what I was supposed to do with them. I always imagined them as a thing kids in the 40s played with."
– Ryoukugan
People Were Moving Canvases
"Paintball has been dying a slow death since 2006. Sad, really."
– hobo_recycler
Before the general population began hating clutter, collecting was once a "thing."
Precious Coins
"Coin collecting... I'm a silver/gold nut and I'm always hunting for precious metal coins. whenever I go into a shop they get all excited because 'no one under 70 collects coins anymore.'"
– ThatFishySmell99
Post It
"Stamp collecting."
– spooky_scully_mulder
"Collecting in general, really. Of course there are still prominent collectors but it's slipped more into enthusiast and niche territory than being a popular hobby that you might expect anyone to have."
– iuytrefdgh436yujhe2
What A Gem
"Rockhounding was immensely popular back in the 1950's and 1960's. Personally, I think it's a fascinating and fulfilling hobby, but when I go to a meeting at a rock and gem club, I'm usually the youngest one in the room by several decades."
– filthy_lucre
People once enjoyed making things.
Admiring The View
"Stained glass. I learned how to make it from my old man, and my junior high art class teacher also taught it. Very few artisans are still around."
– brobeanzhitler
Metal Vocation
"Black smithing."
– kenworth117
"I bought a forge to try. It’s insanely hard work, and crazy expensive. I still haven’t finished a piece."
– DSentvalue
Scrapbooking
"Yeah. I'm watching the arts and crafts stores around me completely uninstalling their racks for specialty paper. Now the only thing they have is mega packs of repeating colors/images. To boot all the inclusions like papercraft/die-cut things, washi tape, scissors, stickers, etc have gotten so expensive I would rather go buy $5 bags at value village to get an assortment of things versus buying anything new. I really, really miss yard sales for the same reasons."
– Phantasmai
I envy people who have jobs that are basically their hobbies.
Not everyone gets paid doing what they actually enjoy and have a profound level of passion for.
If they do, kudos to them.
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