For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health... those are promises that are called upon and put to the test pretty quickly after I do.
People really should sit down and process those words and the meaning behind them before the big day.
Money can often be a burden, especially in relationships.
It's not everything but everybody should be on the same page about it.
It's especially important to be clear when one partner has been living a type vastly different from the other.
Does money define part of the ever after?
Redditor BugsRatty wanted to discuss want happens after certain types if "I Dos." They asked:
"Redditors who have married someone of a significantly greater or lesser socioeconomic level, how did you meet and how is it going?"
I've had a few rich significant others. It can be uncomfortable. I didn't learn soon enough to speak about the uncomfortable.
Lucky
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"Just got engaged to the woman of my dreams, her mom was homeless and she’s been working minimum wage jobs since she was 16. Hopefully things turn out well, she’s sweet and kind and I honestly think I’m the lucky one." ~ Responsible-Laugh590
The Practice Girl
"My husband grew up very wealthy and very socially awkward. When he was 20, his mom had him take out the new maid so he could 'practice' on her. The mom did not expect him to propose. She was not amused. She cut him off until they had their second kid. This was like forty years ago. We’re still happily married." ~ HolaEverybody
Life is good...
"My wife's family is very wealthy and I grew up a poor country boy. They've been very welcoming and nothing but amazing. We met at a park a few years ago. She has a higher earning potential than I do because of her education, but I'm the breadwinner of the family right now. Life is good, we have everything we need and most things we want (excluding super expensive things)." ~ chewroxurface
'favela'
"I was born in the 'favela' (Brazilian name for ghetto), always lived there and I met this woman at a mansion party that I went because my brother was a friend of one of the organizers, I've been studying hard as f**k for my whole life and now I work at a pretty big corp (got accepted two weeks ago), while she's the daughter of a plastic surgeon and lived at a very rich neighborhood here in São Paulo, we met, dated and we're engaged now."
"The funny part is that her family loves me, her father is a very nice man and her mom is pretty much an angel, all of them treat me really well. The weird part is that my family doesn't like her exactly for the fact that she came from a rich family, I already got into an argument with my mom because of this, my brother is the only one who really supports us." ~ Regular-Attorney-310
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"I was making around 90k a year and she was a car hop at Sonic. We met through my sister n law at the time. We were married for 18 years, and the divorce." ~ No_Ordinary_3824
So far a mixed bag. You win some, you lose some. Ah sweet romance...
No regrets
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"Over 30 years after meeting and later marrying my beloved deep south redneck wife, no regrets! It's going well, and we've been able to forge a strong partnership. My elitist, aristocratic Japanese mom's inheritance helped not just us but those we care about." ~ MyAnvsIsBleeding
10 years this January...
"Not the biggest difference, but my girlfriend is definitely on a higher level than me. When we met (at a mutual friend’s birthday party) I was unemployed, she was a software engineer leading a team of people from all over the world, writing the kind of code that entire countries use to keep track of their economies. I was still living with my parents at 25, she was able to support herself in her own flat in the centre of town, no roommates."
"I got s**t GCSEs and never pursued higher education, she’s got the kind of degrees that give you letters after your name. We’ll have been together for 10 years this January - I do minimum wage restaurant work, she makes four times as much as me writing code from home and developing cool apps. I’m saving up for an engagement ring. :3." ~ SpookyVoidCat
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"I grew up in public housing, lived on welfare and food stamps for a time, and attended college on scholarship. I met my husband in college when we had a class together and, later, when we met again during a protest of the first Gulf war. He was handsome, funny, and bold. I had no idea he was from a wealthy family until we were already engaged."
"We separated this summer after 26 years together but, in truth, our marriage had been over for several years. A health scare and slow drift into extremist politics changed him into a different person, the pandemic accelerated it until he was unrecognizable. Our son no longer speaks to him and his mother and brother are baffled by his behavior. We had 2 good decades together and raised a beautiful child, I'm just sad it ended like this." ~ HaupiaGoddess
Made it Work
"My wife grew up wealthy. Her dad is a doctor and exec of a local hospital, her mom is a professor. Both of my parents worked in a factory. My mom was a secretary and dad an electrician. I was the first in my family to go to college and got a computer science degree."
"I learned to budget well, lived within my means, and bought my first house at 23. I sold it a few years later and put myself through grad school where I met my wife. We have 2 beautiful daughters and a nice house. She’s a stay at home mom now and we live off my income. It’s going great." ~ HitNRun_
Mom's Tale
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"Not my story... But my mother was a single parent of two working 60 hours a week to provide for me and my sister."
"When I was around 5 , she met my step dad who was making 100k as a railroad engineer. They soon moved in together and my mom was able to spend more time with me and my sister. I'm now 18, they've been married for almost 4 years and together for 13." ~ BladeWolf26
Here we are 11 years later...
"Not extreme, because I'm not wealthy or anything. But I definitely had a very different upbringing and opportunities (college degree, stable home, professional license...) We met because she was a server where I ate every Thursday. We clicked so one day I gave her my number and she called. Here we are 11 years later. It still gets interesting. Since being with her I've had more interactions with the police and legal system than I know."
"If you say you are cold she will give you the shirt shirts she's wearing damn nudity laws. She'll make ramen to take to people she saw sleeping in the laundry room. She's also the person that will come back from redbox and say 'The police will be here soon. Girl got in my face so I kicked her a**.' Our perception of life are very different; but we are better together." ~ diegojones4
Thanks Cupid
"I was a nanny and in grad school to be a teacher, and he was working in finance making half a million a year. We met on OkCupid and hit it off from there. I grew up lower middle class with blue collar parents, and he grew up in different countries with a prominent ob-gyn father and SAHM."
"Every one in his family is wildly successful while my parents are probably the most successful out of their families of black sheep. My sister jokes that I’m a fancy witch now and maybe I am. But I am still a thrifty person at heart; husband likes that I’m scandalized by the costs of things and try to find better deals and don’t want things just because they’re expensive."
"For example, I drive a Subaru while he drives an Audi because the idea of a $900/month car payment is offensive to me. We could afford it, but I’ll take my Subaru. I also donate more to charities than he does because it’s ridiculous we have so much money. He thinks it’s all very normal, but it’s not for me!" ~ katiejim
26+
"I was in fast food as a lowly peon watching my marriage crumble (first husband was a serial cheater). He (second husband) was a college student nearly eight years younger than me. We met on the internet back in the days of the BBS (ya know, in the early days, back when rampaging hordes of compuserve and AOL floppies roamed the earth)."
"We struck up a friendship while my soon to be ex husband was out on a date on our anniversary, and about two months later started dating after I left my first husband. Been together 26 years now, married for 23." ~ Pagan_Chick
From the Middle...
"Idk if this counts but my dad came from a middle class family and my mom was the daughter of two factory workers (working class). They met at a country fair while they were both in high school. My mom was the first person in her family to even try to go to college. My dad has a Bachelor's in Mechanical Engineering. He works full time and makes triple what my mom does working in a store part time."
"They love each other so much it's honestly inspiring but my father has expressed some sadness around the pressure he feels as the almost sole provider for the family. My mom, on the other hand, is sad she didn't complete school and get a degree. They make it work but it's rough on both of them. I can see how something like this could break up a marriage though seeing as they just celebrated their 25th anniversary I think they're doing ok." ~ ShadowCast2550
Legit
"My ex-wife and I fit this very well. I'd rather keep the specifics to myself, but everything that I had heard about how it could go wrong did go wrong for us. Not saying it's not possible, but there's a legit reason people are warned not to do this." ~ Locklin13
"Similarly, my cousin dated the same guy all through college and for a while after. They had a beautiful life together and our family all adored him. But his family thought she couldn't be anything but a gold digger because she came from a poor family. She walked away shortly after they got engaged because she just couldn't live the rest of her life with in-laws looking at her like that." ~ nothingweasel
'unlimited funds'
"We met through a mutual friend while I was finishing up my BA in my late twenties. I'm not exactly poor but I certainly am compared to the outrageous wealth that she comes from. Overall it's great but I still find her hang-ups about money to be extremely strange. For example, we rent even though she has a trust with 'unlimited funds' for purchasing a home because she isn't ready to buy."
"It wouldn't be my home but I would rather pay her rent than a landlord. People who come from old money seem to have strange psychology around money. Her aunt isn't leaving her cousins any of the family money because she feels the family inheritance ruined her life. Truly bizarre." ~ howdidthishappen777
Toxic Boomer
"My wife grew up showing horses and I grew up mowing the infield of a local dirt racetrack so I could pay our electric bill. 28 years later, we are happier than we ever have been. We raised a daughter, moved across the country, and now enjoy taking a shower together every day. It prolly helped she decided to kick her toxic Boomer parents to the curb, though. I encourage her frequently to reach out, especially when we make infrequent trips back to our birthplace. Her choice. They really are unredeemable a**holes, though." ~ BBaggins75
Struggles...
"I grew up moving from home to home with a drug addict father and a mother who had to work 2+ jobs to keep a roof over her 3 children’s heads. my husbands family definitely struggled when he was a kid cause he’s the oldest, but now they make upwards of $150k a year and live in a nice house with nice food and things and present parents. We didn’t endure the same traumas and sometimes it’s difficult to understand each other’s struggles, but we’ve been married almost 6 months now and everything’s going great!" ~ straightupgong
In the Bay Area...
"I grew up in the Bay Area, so my dad made good money and invested well with stocks. Money pretty much wasn't ever an issue. My wife's family always struggled with money though I'm not sure if say it was poverty (she finds Malcolm in the Middle very relatable, haha). We met at church, been married about five and a half years. I'd say it's going pretty great. :) " ~ The_GREAT_Gremlin
Fairytales...
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"Yes. We met online, lived in different countries and it’s a fairy tale for 7 years now. Sounds cheesy and cliche but it’s true." ~ No_Prune1433
It feels like money isn't always the obstacle. If you're going to be together forever, you make it work or you don't. For richer or poorer be damned.
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When we're intoxicated, or even the slightest bit tipsy from having a little too much to drink, our immediate perspective on things is hazy.
But there's nothing like a bit of alarming news or a jarring incident to snap us out of the fog and focus on the moment.
Sometimes alcohol isn't always to blame for our impairment.
It can be a state of mind, like a perpetual numbness from being complacent in life, and all it takes is one shocking moment to rattle us back to our senses.
Curious to hear from strangers online about this type of scenario, Redditor Known_Challenge_7150 asked:
"What’s one thing that sobered you up real quick?"
These individuals were witness to shocking events that sobered them up right quick.
Bleeding Out
"Got out of a taxi and found a naked man profusely bleeding from his head crawling up the driveway in my condo. Called him an ambulance completely forgot I was absolutely wasted until 45 minutes later when I'd helped him translate and in to an amublance and stepped in my front door."
"Later a few days later learned he'd slipped in the tub and literally crawled out for help. Poor dude. He was fine but I genuinely thought he was going to die there."
– DongLaiCha
Tragic News
"At a bachelor party and we got a phone call that the groom’s father had suddenly passed."
– accountnameredacted
Bottom Of The Barrel
"I went to visit my parents back in July. I was homeless and deep into fentanyl addiction so I lost a lot of weight. My folks could see it. They knew something was up. Anyway, I spent the night and I was getting ready to leave in the morning and I looked at myself in the mirror for a good long time. I finally had enough and told them everything. They took me to detox, from there I went to rehab. Graduated in August and been living with them ever since then. I have 160 days clean and sober."
– Crotch-Monster
A reality check can be enough for some people to snap out of it.
Like Father, Like Son
"Was driving a drunk friend home, he had been on a bender again and was smart enough to call me for a lift rather than try and drive. As I helped in to his house his mother came down the stairs and said 'your as drunk as your father' and went back upstairs. I haven't seen him drunk since then, he still drinks but the thought of turning into his dad scared him out of hard drinking."
– psycospaz
Busted
"Flashing blue lights."
– FiddleOfGold
"This sobered me up just thinking about it."
– redmaple_syrup
Losing Sight
"Woke up to no sight in one eye. I had cataract surgery so just thought one of the lenses had slipped and it was an easy fix. Eye doc says nope, you had a stroke. I loved soy sauce, teriyaki sauce and salty food, which caused high blood pressure, which caused retina damage. Over six months was able to get most of my eyesight back with medication, and all back within a year. Trying to navigate life with one eye was very sobering. Started taking HBP much more seriously."
– MissHibernia
Quitting The Bottle
"Looked up someone I went to highschool with who was an awesome guy. Found out he had been dead for 3 years from alcoholism, at age 33. I made an overnight change. I hadn't started drinking that night yet, 10 months ago. Haven't touched it again since."
– omgtater
These disturbing moments were enough for Redditors to immediately come to their senses.
Unplanned House Guests
"Me and a buddy Woke up in someone’s living room, realized neither one of us knew the people, they were just nice and let 2 drunk guys sleep on their living room floor. We didn’t even say goodbye."
– Oneinsevenbillion75
Serious Health Warning
"Elevated liver enzymes."
"And the knowledge that this sh** was gonna kill me and I just couldn't orphan my family over it."
"So I opted for recovery, instead."
"Clean and sober since June 5, 2009."
– Far_Meal8674
The Joyride
"Grew up in a rural area. The little town hosted dances at the hockey arena, everyone (adults and kids) went and they overserved everyone, regardless of age. I was maybe 16 or 17 and was absolutely sh*tfaced, and jumped in the back of someone's truck with about 8 other people to go back to someone's cottage for after dance drinking. The driver (still don't know who it was) started racing one of his buddies and we whipped around small dirt roads, flying around blind corners on the wrong side of the road, going god knows how fast. It was basically a disaster waiting to happen. It was crazy scary and I was sober and thankful to be alive when we finally arrived."
– foxfood9116
The human psyche is a fascinating thing, isn't it?
How we can automatically focus on something urgent at a crucial time, even after getting buzzed from drinking too much alcohol.
But as we're in the thick of the holidays, it's a good reminder to drink responsibly and stay off the roads if you drive to your celebratory destination.
Cheers. Stay safe. And happy holidays.
We've all complained or vented about something in our lives which, in the grand scheme of things, wasn't exactly a problem, or is very easily solved.
Then there are those who complain about things that others almost hope will happen to them at some point in their lives.
These are known as "first world problems", as they are problems that pretty much only the world's one percent faces.
From having to fly business class instead of first class, or being served Roederer instead of Dom Pérignon, these complaints are often met with amusement, bewilderment, or even anger.
Redditor jennimackenzie was curious to hear the most absurd "first world problems" anyone ever complained about, leading them to ask:
"What’s the most ridiculous 'first world problem' you’ve seen people get worked up over?"
"Tale As Old As Time..."
"I once knew a mom who was legitimately devastated, to the point of tears/grief, because a doctor predicted her 8 year old daughter's final height to be around 5'2","
"Which wasn't tall enough to get cast as Belle at Disney World."
"That was the child's (and her mother's) only dream in life, apparently."
"Didn't appreciate my suggestion that she could be Minnie or Mickey."
"Lol!"
"Only a face character would do!"- TravelLovingMom
"Must Be Funny, In A Rich Man's World..."
"My boss from about a decade ago was this insanely rich dude who always went to the bank to get fresh and crisp currency."
"He'd call the bank in advance to make sure they had some on hand."
"I think he was a germaphobe."
"He had a trash can that he'd throw $1 and $5 bills in that he thought was 'dirty' and regularly just donated it vs spending it."
"I asked him why he did this and he said it was too much trouble and asked if I wanted it."
"I said f*ck yeah dumped it into my bag and when I got home it was close to $400 in singles and fives.
"Another time, he wanted to upgrade all the computers in his studio, so we went to a store and bought 10 PCs."
"They all had $150 mail in rebates and he wasn't bothered to go through the trouble of mailing them in."
"3 weeks later I received $1500 after spending a whole afternoon filling out all those goddamn forms."- azninvasion2000
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Who Wore It Better?
"When I was about 19 years old, I was at my boyfriends family BBQ."
"I was wearing this pretty floral sundress."
"His cousins girlfriend showed up in the same dress and she was SO mad that she went and changed."
"I will never understand being upset when someone is wearing the same thing as you.'
"Did you really think that your shirt you bought off the rack is going to be unique to you?"
"No."- mertsey627
Seeing Red! Or Blue In This Case...
"The blue of the balloons wasn't quite the same as the bridesmaid's sashes."
"Years ago my wife and I attended a wedding."
"It was very low key."
"The dinner was in the dining hall at the university where the couple met, cinder block walls and all."
"It was a Baptist wedding - no booze and very serious."
"The dark blue balloons attempting to liven up the hall were a slightly darker shade of blue than the sashes on the bridesmaid's dresses."
"The bride lost here sh*t and absolutely raved for nearly an hour."
"I can't remember how they finally managed to talk her down."- mechant_papa
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See You In Court!
"Rich neighbors who end up in expensive court battles because they disagree about where a tree can be planted or whether the color of a fence fits in with the street’s 'amenity'."
'These disputes get really heated and rack up huge lawyers’ bills."
"The most pathetic part is after the judgement when they are arguing about who should pay the other party’s costs."
"Lots of affidavits filed citing the 'emotional distress' they had to endure, or painting themselves as brave warriors who were forced to take a stand to fight for 'justice'."
"Also lots of pompous litigants insisting that the judge refer to them by their 'Dr' title."
"An absolutely insane dumpster fire of entitled rich people problems."- ElectrocRaisin
It's Always People With Money Who Don't Want To Pay!
"I work in a public library."
"People will get so so mad if they have to be put on a wait list for a book."
"A popular book that just came out."
"Ok our services are not only free but so are the books."
"You’re welcome, a**holes."- Switchbladekitten
A Warm Butt Is A Happy Butt!
"My own."
"We have a bidet toilet seat (Fabulous! Everyone should have one!) and not only does it wash your bum and blow dry it, but the seat's heated!"
"It's shocking how much a heated toilet seat makes the whole process more agreeable."
"Except: We had a power outage and I went to use the toilet and the seat was cold!"
"Unacceptable!"
"This shall not stand!"
"I was really upset because it didn't feel good."
"Then I stopped and thought: This is the most first-world problem anyone's ever had."
"I was really pissed because my heiny was tepid."
"I got over it."- DeathGrover
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Holy Matrimony!
"Weddings are a gold mine for this question."
"People get so hyped up over their 'most important day of their life'."
"They'll destroy friendships, go into debt, and have crazy expectations."
"It's not always the couple who go crazy, either."
"Sometimes, it's the parents or another family member who feels entitled to control the wedding."
"It's just a party."
"Be considerate of guests, have plenty of food and drinks, and enjoy it."- magicrowantree
When Fast Food Isn't Fast Enough...
"Having to pull off to the side to wait for a drive-thru order to be brought out to you because your food isn't ready and there's a line building up behind you."- demanbmore
In Case You Don't Think Customer Service Employees Are Undervalued...
"I was working the return desk at a Target next to a military base so I have so many stories."
"One of my favorites was a lady who had her baby shower before revealing the gender and was livid that she had received floral newborn diapers when she’s having a boy."
"It was a huge box of super expensive, all organic diapers, that we didn’t carry and therefore could not return."
"I cannot accurately express her fury and disgust."
"How dare either suggest her boy could wear feminine diapers."
"I suggested she donate them if she didn’t want to use them and she instead threw away the entire box."
"When she left we pulled it out and threw it in our donate bin."
"There have also been multiple times where mom’s order massive toys and when we bring them out to the car they get furious that they aren’t wrapped."
"We don’t offer wrapping services."
"Here’s the thing, if you don’t want your kids to see the toys you got them for Christmas or their bit to day DON'T BRING THE CHILD WHEN YOU PICK IT UP."
'I’ve had multiple women scream and curse me out that I had ruined their kids Christmas by bringing the toys they ordered out to the car like they requested."- clever-mermaid-mae
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Happiest Place On Earth!
"I used to work for Disney."
"That in itself should tell you everything."
"However for fun I'll give you two specific stories one form our tech department and one from my wife who worked bookings."
"I specifically worked for their call center to help with technical issues with magic band and the website."
"Suddenly got worse huh?"
"A right of passage call everyone has at least one story of is the 'Dome call'."
"Basically there is a subset of Disney Guest (TM) that believes if it rains at Walt Disney world there is someone that will push a button to encapsulate the whole of Disney property in a dome to keep out the rain."
"I'm not kidding."
"If this button is not pushed they call our tech department to angrily ask why."
"My wife worked booking."
"Pretty much everything including Bibbidi Bobbidi boutique and Pirate's league."
"These two things did roughly the same thing difference being price and theme."
"BBB was expensive did more and was focused on princesses, pirates league did a bit less and focused on mermaids and pirates."
"Lady called up my wife, and got pissed about BBB being booked up (It goes FAAAAST)."
"Karen: 'Im going to give the phone to my daughter and I want you to tell her how you are ruining her vacation by not letting her do BBB'."
"Wife proceeds to explain how pirate's league is so much cooler and how she can be a mermaid or pirate and basically gets the kid to start demanding to their parents about how they want to be a mermaid instead of a princess."- trollsong
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The horror!
Being booked into a junior suite at Disney World instead of an executive suite!
It's almost as bad as having no money for groceries, or no food to feed you children...
Said absolutely no one.