What's your favorite thing to do?
Better yet, what's something that you used to love to do? Did you ever have a hobby or a goal that you suddenly ceased putting effort in? Maybe you were young and just grew out of it. Or worse - something or someone discouraged you from doing that thing you love. Nothing can last forever, but the hope is that the things that bring you joy or are dedicated to can remain a part of your life.
People reflected on the things they used to love doing when Redditor u/Enzerly asked, "What caused you to quit doing something you love?" Turns out, more often than not, the reasons are pretty sad.
When "friends" spoil the fun
I used to be very active on a discord server but then a group of people who I used to be friends with (started not getting along) began spamming the server with dumb garbage every day. Couldn't even go through a normal conversation with anyone without them being annoying. So I kinda ignore that server now. It's a shame too, that server was like a second home to me at some point .-.
Zmanbro6
Do you really have to miss all concerts now?
I stopped seeing punk shows or playing music because an elitist clique with alot of connections developed a beef with me over a woman I was seeing that one of them wanted. He was cheating on his fiancee with her but they acted like I was an evil a**hole for getting pissed and refusing to have an open relationship. I broke up with her and moved and years later they found me and started a fight in LA and sued me when I stood up for myself.
What an evil thing to do
mountain bike bicycles GIFGiphyMountain Bilking
My long term girlfriend cheated and we broke up. We had an apartment and dog together. She bought me out and we decided that it would be best if Kona stayed with her as I was going to be on my own with no immediate family or help.
Few days after I moved out I went to get something, Kona went nuts with happiness I played with him, gave him a hug and left. I could hear him crying as I left. I didn't grab my bike for some reason.
I needed time to get myself sorted and just decompress so didn't really reach out to see him. Regret that.
Few weeks later I found out she put him down due to severe separation anxiety. She never told me, I didn't get my bike and haven't ridden since.
Kona was my riding buddy.
Not so honorable
The Community. And the horrible developers.
God. For Honor used to be such a pleasure to play. But it has a Community so toxic its whats causing the game to die as we speak. I jumped that ship not to long ago. And I dont blame the rest for jumping too. I think the game has run its course. Its time for the prototype game to sink now. We now know the art of war system is great. But we need a new art of war game.
It's hard to lose your physical abilities
Loved baseball, played little league for 11 years, was all-star pitcher 4 years in a row with 78 mph fastball at 16 yo...then got into a car accident a few months after my 17th birthday. can't run, can't throw more than 30mph now, etc
accident was over a decade ago
You can't enjoy things when they're forced on you
School killed my passion for reading.
And programming killed my interest in programming.
A bad boss or colleague can ruin everything
I love my line of work. Working for someone who hates it, brought me almost to the point of quitting. (But then Covid happened and my line of work (entertainment industry) won't be back up on its feet for a very very long time.
News is hard to stomach
I used to love reading the news. Was subscribed to newspapers and feeds from all over the world.
And then the whole damn planet went bat-s**t crazy. And that was LONG before 2020.
Still trying to stay informed, but nowhere near the dedication and zeal I once had.
Silence is an option
Meditated for ten years with no appreciable effect. Group got more popular and it started being more social. Would go on week retreats no talking. Too much hugging afterwards. Too much talking about what happened during. Either I was there when it happened or it's your personal experience and none of my business. Do you really need to run your mouth this badly?
A culinary career is demanding
gordon ramsay cooking GIF by Hell's KitchenGiphyAdvice from older people
Used to be a chef and met a lot of older men who would wish they had changed career path when they were younger so they could get out of that life and have a family and some genuine time off during holidays etc.
I'm only 29 but I took the advice and can honestly say my life is a lot better now as a teacher
I hope they're able to recover from this tragedy
I used to cycle every weekend. I was preparing for a big race and was up to 100miles. My three year old nephew died in a car crash about two weekends before it was scheduled. It sent me into a pretty ragged depression. I lost interest in a lot of things. I'm trying to get some gear back to start again but I'm still working on it.
Family can be cruel
I stopped learning random skills in high school because of family constantly saying I'd never amount to anything
only recently got the confidence to start learning new things again
It's awful to have the things you love be laughed at
I used to write a whole lot of stories. Sometimes fanfics but mostly my own stuff. I illustrated a lot of them too. (That was from my 5th to ~14th birthday) I stopped doing it for a long time because my parents started to laugh at my stories which were very personal. It destroyed a lot of trust. I recently started to write again and it's not the same anymore. I constantly have that fear of being made fun of, my stories being cringy and simply not good enough. Never laugh about something your kid does if the kid doesn't laugh
Wild bears everywhere
Black Bear Family GIF by BBC AmericaGiphyThe area of my favorite nature trail has become heavily populated with black bears.
Since it's nearly impossible to walk the area without encountering black bears (some of them quite large), I've stopped going
It could've been accident, but that sucks
I loved writing lyrics. Wrote for 6 or 7 years, typed them all into a memo pad on a phone I carried everywhere. I wrote all of the time. It was my way of expressing myself, of coping with things in my head. It was my dream to record them all, and have people hear my message. Let my mom borrow my phone one day. She formatted it(deleted everything). I still don't know why. Since then, I can't seem to work up the will or desire to write lyrics.
This pandemic is on everyone's minds
Horrible teachers. I love my classes, it's just that some of the teachers can't teach or can't talk about anything but their life and the pandemic. I gave up watching their online classes and only study through the books.
Just like what you like
I used to love learning about Japanese history and culture. I would study and try and learn Japanese during school hours. But then this weeaboo nonsense started, and I wanted no part of that identity
Liking Japanese stuff doesn't make you a weeb.
In fact, a weeaboo is someone who's really ignorant of Japanese culture and just buys into fantasies and stereotypes. They can't seem to remember that Japan is just a country full of normal people and common problems.
The scary world of online gaming
I stopped playing video games because my friends are all toxic to me and I suck at games. At first I only played to play with my friends, but when they became toxic af I stopped playing.
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Curious to hear examples of these, Redditor lilac_cup asked:
"Which tv series has aged like milk?"
The handling of these controversial TV story lines seem so careless in retrospect.
Addressing Child Abuse
"The very first episode of Hill Street Blues has two cops breaking up a domestic disturbance caused by a woman finding her man f'king her 15yo daughter. The man is told not to be sh**ty, the woman is told to put out more and the child is told not to be so tempting. Then the cops leave, patting themselves on the back for a job well done."
– kifferella
The Teacher's Secret Relationship
"Pretty Little Liars. I think even at the time, the teacher dating his 16 year old student storyline was considered creepy, but in 2022 it’s honestly unbelievable that was ever portrayed in any kind of positive light. Also that her parents didn’t immediately just report him to the police."
– ColdFIREBaker
Forbidden Attraction
"Not the whole series but Ally McBeal. In one episode Ally found out her bf is bi and her reason breaking up with him was she afraid that one day her bf would be attracted to their son."
– thrussie
These reality shows would never fly in a "woke" world.
Racist Cringe
"There was a reality show on Fox called 'Black. White.' Where they put a white family in blackface and a black family in whiteface."
"Just reading about it, it turns out the white family wasn't even a real family. They were unrelated actors."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black._White.
– MichaelJAwesome
Extreme Makeover
"Extreme makeover. I remember watching this show as a kid and being like oh wow they’re fixing all these ugly people with plastic surgery and making them happy. I just think that caused a whole generation to think they could change their body with money. Show lasted like 4 seasons. Couldn’t imagine that show today."
– thenightshifters
Teen Exploitation
"Secret life of an American teenager."
"Just what…."
– carlirodriguez8
A Critique
"My god this show was terrible. My wife’s sister was into it and we ended up watching a lot of it when we were dating. I think they tried to make the banter like Gilmore Girls, but it ended up being the characters repeating their current plots and arcs over and over. I don’t remember the characters at all, but the main character was such a horrible person, and the audience is supposed to root for her."
"The main things I remember about it were the religious girl claiming she killed her dad by having sex with her boyfriend, and apparently you go to Bologna to get bjs."
– MachFighterG
So-Called Expert
"You Are What You Eat."
"Host Gillian McKeith (or to use her full medical title, Gillian McKeith) was an absolute quack with an online medical qualification from a Mickey Mouse university. She pretended to be a scientist by being recorded standing around in a lab wearing a white coat, spouted unscientific nonsense that anyone who had done a GCSE in science could see through, and was obsessed with getting people to shit in Tupperware boxes."
"It got cancelled after the final series when you had to have her move in with you. In the last few years she popped up again as a prominent anti-vaxxer once COVID vaccines became available."
– MattBD
These pageant shows glorifying good looks and talent would never be greenlit today.
Performing Pressure
"Dance moms- used to be entertaining, now all I can see is the psychological effects it must’ve had on those girls."
– KE789
"Americas Next Top Model has to be #1."
"From all the behind the scenes sh*t that went on in production to what the show actually shows. It’s all just horrendous."
– Nickster1619
From Ugly To Beautiful
"The Swan, was 2 women who are considered 'ugly ducklings' participating in a pageant against each other after undergoing a three-month transformative process aka having heaps of plastic surgery."
– twozedzed
Psychological Downer
"Right?! How were they allowed to do so many procedures in such a short time while completely isolating these women from their families? Making them diet and exercise while healing from a tummy tuck, breast implants, and veneers?! The 'therapy' sessions were a joke and were just for show while these poor women with low self esteem were preyed upon for entertainment. Just out of a safety and medical prospective…wow."
– Snoo-8746
Judging The Reflection
"Didn't they also not allow the contestants/patients to have mirrors the whole time so they were surprised when they saw themselves? Psychologically having massive changes like that and it being sudden is extremely bad for your brain, you can end up rejecting the reflection because it's not 'you.'"
– Delouest
As audiences evolve, so does the writing and development of all forms of entertainment.
But because the changes are gradual, it is jarring when looking back and noticing how offensive and isolating some of these shows can be.
Times sure have changed in the world of entertainment–mostly for the better.
Curious to hear experiences from strangers online, Redditor WallStreetDoesntBet asked:
"People who moved out of the parent’s house before 30, how?"
Most people can't afford to live on their own.
Roommate Is Key
"yeah this exactly. I've never lived by myself, was roommates until I got a serious girlfriend and now fiance. There's exactly 0% chance of me being in the same position I'm in financially if I had been paying full rent all those years."
– lick_me_where_I_fart
Not A Care In The World
"I was 17, we had 4 of us in a ghetto 2bd apt (bunkbeds) we had a beer bong on a lanyard screwed to the ceiling. We'd have keggers, party's every weekend and always had randoms crashing on the floor. Could barely afford to feed myself and pay bills but still not a worry in the world and it was the best time of my life."
– ApprehensiveAd6006
One inconvenience shared by many was the sacrifice of a good, home-cooked meal.
Change Of Scenery
"Just needed a little R&R."
"Roommates and Ramen."
– SudoPuff
The "Wild" Years
"This, lol. I was kicked out at 16 and after couch-surfing for a few months I moved into a studio apartment with 4 other people."
"When I say we were poor, I mean poor - most of us didn’t have jobs. I lived off the worst of the worst food. Knockoff ramen. Dollar store canned veg. Rice and terrible year old pasta."
"It was a wild few years."
– Vetiversailles
Rice For Life
"Or rice. I lived off rice for a full year. Fancied it up by adding some salsa, and then extra fancy by also adding ranch dressing."
"Those were hard times."
– Ok_Opinion_
Having work definitely makes things easier.
Saving Up To Leave
"Started working while I was in school. Got out as soon as I could."
– ReallyIdleBones
Not Much Fanfare
"Yep, moved out for college in 2006. Came back for the summer in 2007, but thereafter I got an internship so I just stayed in the city. Got a job at the same place after I graduated."
"It was never some big moment for me (my parents are fine, just annoying), just a natural progression for me."
– Zerole00
Building A Life
"At 18. Worked in construction. Lived on a couch with 6 buddies in one house paying for college. Bought cheap land during the recession. Then built my own house."
– ReubenZWeiner
Not moving out by choice seemed to be a common shared experience.
High Turnover Rate
"Got kicked out at 14. Finished high school sleeping on friends couches while serving tables. Had a ton of roommates for the next 10 years. At any given time I was living with like 3 or 4 people, it was never boring haha"
– herriotact
Different Parenting
"I am hearing that so many people are actually kicked out in the really young age is well."
"But i am not getting that why parents are so tough because in my country they try to keep them under their wings."
– wowoao
Tough Love
"My friends parents were going to kick him out immediately after he graduated high school simply because 'That's what their parents did when they were his age.' His Dad fully expected him to go out at 18 and buy a house because 'he was able to.'"
"Then his Dad got pissed when my friend did not buy a house and went to live with his uncle instead. Even after his uncle broke down the whole 'Your mortgage is $2200/month with taxes and you expect your son, who works part time at $7.25 an hour to afford a mortgage? With no credit history?'"
"Some parents do it out of tough love. Some parents do it because they shouldn't have had children. Some parents still think the world is the same as it was in the 70s-80s and think minimum wage part time employees can thrive."
– bangersnmash13
Placed Expectations
"My parents didn't kick me out, but there was definitely an expectation for me to be moved out and financially independent at 18. My mother walked into a job as a radio DJ at the age of 18 and then became a journalist with only a high school education a few years later (early 1970s), so she had this expectation that I could do the same. The thought of me being able to do anything like that in the 2000s was laughable."
– pie12345678
I moved out of my parents' house because I booked my first professional gig on a cruise ship.
It couldn't have worked out better. I was paid to perform on board in the shows while my rent was already taken care of since I lived and worked on the ship.
I packed one suitcase and traveled the world doing what I loved for about two years. It was the best way to transition into an exciting new chapter in my adolescent life.
What's your moving out story?
