It's never easy to be honest with yourself. If you can hide behind the facade you've crafted from other people, then perhaps you can hide from it too. Truthfully, confronting that honesty is more important, as it'll allow you to move past it and grow beyond it. Just take a look at these people's stories below as they open up about why dating them might be a bit of a challenge.
Reddit user, u/Niyi_M, wanted to hear about:
Oh Yeah. The Worldwide Pandemic.
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There isn't a lot of people I know that are my type, and the pandemic is making it hard to meet anyone who I would be interested in. Also I kind of just have high standards when it comes to dating.
Standards are always great, hope you find someone!
Waiting For The World To Get Back To Going
I'm shy, I have low self esteem, my confidence isn't the best, I have extreme social anxiety, and I'm afraid of rejection. I'm hoping to fix a lot of these problems after covid [disappears.]
Giving Yourself Time To Heal
I want to be single for awhile until the right one comes along. I've dated two guys this year and there was another guy in my life that I wanted to date but thank God I didn't. I'm over them now but the crap that I went through with them was unreal.
Rushing In To Fast
Because I always ruin the relationships I'm in.
Usually by moving too fast. I literally JUST ruined one without meaning too. I really like this one more then the others tho, so let's hope I can turn it around 🙃
Putting Up Your Own Walls
Because I am overweight. I have confidence and know how to flirt I just have a hard time believing someone is actually attracted to me because i am overweight. But working on it now and should not be a problem soon!!!!
Unable To Push Past High School
I have always not dated for many reasons. In high school, I didn't see the point in dating. I was raised Christian, so dating was for marriage. I also knew I'd go abroad for university, so there was no point at the time because I knew I wouldn't marry that person.
In university, I was depressed and anxious most of the time. I had one or two guys try to talk to me, but because of my anxiety it really felt like an attack to have people show interest in me. I was actually interested in one of the guys, but my thinking was way too messed up anyway. I thought (and still think) he was weird for being interested in me.
Today, it's because I need to heal from my childhood trauma, depression and anxiety. I know I won't be a healthy partner if I don't work on myself.
Something Beyond Your Physical Control
I have MS and as a result I have ED and I just don't have the confidence. I don't think that a woman wants to be with a man who can't get it up naturally at my age. It's humiliating.
there's nothing humiliating about something you have no control over, and there's someone that will be understanding and patient with you.
Prefer To Be Alone
Because I'm average-looking at best and probably require a lot of patience to get to know. I'm a bit shy, and maybe a bit closed off emotionally. I don't really like getting close to people at this point.I always end up looking like an idiot, and I don't think I could handle another disappointment.
Hanging On Tight To Someone Else
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Still getting over someone else
Time heals all, But writing down your thoughts will speed things up. It's easy to lose sight of the big picture when you're caught up in your emotions, the best way to heal is to start small. Shower every day, brush your teeth, eat real food, go to sleep early. It won't make you feel better over night but if you don't keep moving you drown. It sucks right now, and that's ok, no one said you have to be happy all the time. Remember that you are more than just your relationship. you love them and there's nothing wrong with that, but remember to show yourself that same love.
You've got this.
Always Competing
Women never see me as a romantic partner. More like I'm the competition. Lost count how many women would try and one-up me over the years growing up to adulthood. I still haven't forgotten when one called me a 'second class citizen' since I was known as the poor immigrant kid at school.
Like What I Like, Unironically
There's a lot of reasons that I'm still single. I haven't dated anyone or have any plans to- I think I'm just simply not ready. I want to focus more on myself, like maybe sometime after I finish college so I'm not all over the place. I also have seen or heard/read stories of relationships going downhill- and not in a pretty way either. Those really deter me from getting into a relationship because it can be stressful when taken in the wrong direction.
But for the personal side of things- I also prefer someone that shares the same interests as me without belittling my likes or dislikes or just my personal lifestyle. And that's about it all I can say really. This post was a bit long- I just had to get it off my chest I guess lol. I know I can't be in control of what, I prefer to be alone anyway. Maybe have a cat or two to keep me company.
Giving In For Less Than You Think
Because I always ended up with me settling and waiting. I realized that you can't really change a person through just waiting and making excuses for them. So if you see those makings of red flags, you can't just wait for them to change for you, just because you tell them it's hurting you. Sometimes communication isn't good enough because the other person won't ever listen.
Constant Work On Yourself
I have a lot of things that I need to work on in therapy. I don't think it would be right to inflict myself on somebody else before I'm some nebulous quantity of "healthier." Same thing with my debt and financial issues.
That's the main thing. Add our no-end-in-sight plague on top of it.
When Love Is Anxiety
hate myself, fear of intimacy, social anxiety. So feeling in love was so depressing and gave me so much anxiety. I never hated myself more when I knew he loved me back. And people didn't understand that i don't especially want sex in my life (asexual) so it's hard finding someone
People tend to think that you have to love yourself before someone else can love you or before you can love someone.
You are good enough and deserving of love just by being here and alive.
I would look into imposter syndrome.
Also, so many people are asexual (i'm grey asexual) and it's beautiful how much more openly common it is now.
Too Long By Yourself
I've been alone too long.
Having someone around might be handy, but would most likely bug the sh-t out of me.
Even in the year 2020 I feel like I don't get enough alone time, and I live alone, WFH, and only leave the house once or twice a week. I can image trying to share my space with another person.
A Later Bloomer
Because, due to religion and the way I was raised I thought even talking to a girl is a sin so I never really interacted with girls that much. I have basically 0 experience when it comes to talking to girls let alone dating.
The Trifecta From Hell
A combination of depression, social anxiety and lack of any social skills
PerditionLordDating Yourself Instead
I am uncomfortable dating and prefer being single so my time is dedicated to what I need to do in my life
Yes! This leads to feeling lonely sometimes but I'm busy and I get over it. Online dating makes me nauseous and disgusted that I need to judge someone based on a few pictures.
Your Own Worst Enemy Is Yourself
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I'm lazy and have a low self esteem.
I'm also very asocial.
Unable To Move On
Because my wife died.
I'm sorry for your loss. My husband died seven years ago, and I've discovered that I prefer living alone. So I'll stay single for the rest of my life.
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When we're intoxicated, or even the slightest bit tipsy from having a little too much to drink, our immediate perspective on things is hazy.
But there's nothing like a bit of alarming news or a jarring incident to snap us out of the fog and focus on the moment.
Sometimes alcohol isn't always to blame for our impairment.
It can be a state of mind, like a perpetual numbness from being complacent in life, and all it takes is one shocking moment to rattle us back to our senses.
Curious to hear from strangers online about this type of scenario, Redditor Known_Challenge_7150 asked:
"What’s one thing that sobered you up real quick?"
These individuals were witness to shocking events that sobered them up right quick.
Bleeding Out
"Got out of a taxi and found a naked man profusely bleeding from his head crawling up the driveway in my condo. Called him an ambulance completely forgot I was absolutely wasted until 45 minutes later when I'd helped him translate and in to an amublance and stepped in my front door."
"Later a few days later learned he'd slipped in the tub and literally crawled out for help. Poor dude. He was fine but I genuinely thought he was going to die there."
– DongLaiCha
Tragic News
"At a bachelor party and we got a phone call that the groom’s father had suddenly passed."
– accountnameredacted
Bottom Of The Barrel
"I went to visit my parents back in July. I was homeless and deep into fentanyl addiction so I lost a lot of weight. My folks could see it. They knew something was up. Anyway, I spent the night and I was getting ready to leave in the morning and I looked at myself in the mirror for a good long time. I finally had enough and told them everything. They took me to detox, from there I went to rehab. Graduated in August and been living with them ever since then. I have 160 days clean and sober."
– Crotch-Monster
A reality check can be enough for some people to snap out of it.
Like Father, Like Son
"Was driving a drunk friend home, he had been on a bender again and was smart enough to call me for a lift rather than try and drive. As I helped in to his house his mother came down the stairs and said 'your as drunk as your father' and went back upstairs. I haven't seen him drunk since then, he still drinks but the thought of turning into his dad scared him out of hard drinking."
– psycospaz
Busted
"Flashing blue lights."
– FiddleOfGold
"This sobered me up just thinking about it."
– redmaple_syrup
Losing Sight
"Woke up to no sight in one eye. I had cataract surgery so just thought one of the lenses had slipped and it was an easy fix. Eye doc says nope, you had a stroke. I loved soy sauce, teriyaki sauce and salty food, which caused high blood pressure, which caused retina damage. Over six months was able to get most of my eyesight back with medication, and all back within a year. Trying to navigate life with one eye was very sobering. Started taking HBP much more seriously."
– MissHibernia
Quitting The Bottle
"Looked up someone I went to highschool with who was an awesome guy. Found out he had been dead for 3 years from alcoholism, at age 33. I made an overnight change. I hadn't started drinking that night yet, 10 months ago. Haven't touched it again since."
– omgtater
These disturbing moments were enough for Redditors to immediately come to their senses.
Unplanned House Guests
"Me and a buddy Woke up in someone’s living room, realized neither one of us knew the people, they were just nice and let 2 drunk guys sleep on their living room floor. We didn’t even say goodbye."
– Oneinsevenbillion75
Serious Health Warning
"Elevated liver enzymes."
"And the knowledge that this sh** was gonna kill me and I just couldn't orphan my family over it."
"So I opted for recovery, instead."
"Clean and sober since June 5, 2009."
– Far_Meal8674
The Joyride
"Grew up in a rural area. The little town hosted dances at the hockey arena, everyone (adults and kids) went and they overserved everyone, regardless of age. I was maybe 16 or 17 and was absolutely sh*tfaced, and jumped in the back of someone's truck with about 8 other people to go back to someone's cottage for after dance drinking. The driver (still don't know who it was) started racing one of his buddies and we whipped around small dirt roads, flying around blind corners on the wrong side of the road, going god knows how fast. It was basically a disaster waiting to happen. It was crazy scary and I was sober and thankful to be alive when we finally arrived."
– foxfood9116
The human psyche is a fascinating thing, isn't it?
How we can automatically focus on something urgent at a crucial time, even after getting buzzed from drinking too much alcohol.
But as we're in the thick of the holidays, it's a good reminder to drink responsibly and stay off the roads if you drive to your celebratory destination.
Cheers. Stay safe. And happy holidays.
We've all complained or vented about something in our lives which, in the grand scheme of things, wasn't exactly a problem, or is very easily solved.
Then there are those who complain about things that others almost hope will happen to them at some point in their lives.
These are known as "first world problems", as they are problems that pretty much only the world's one percent faces.
From having to fly business class instead of first class, or being served Roederer instead of Dom Pérignon, these complaints are often met with amusement, bewilderment, or even anger.
Redditor jennimackenzie was curious to hear the most absurd "first world problems" anyone ever complained about, leading them to ask:
"What’s the most ridiculous 'first world problem' you’ve seen people get worked up over?"
"Tale As Old As Time..."
"I once knew a mom who was legitimately devastated, to the point of tears/grief, because a doctor predicted her 8 year old daughter's final height to be around 5'2","
"Which wasn't tall enough to get cast as Belle at Disney World."
"That was the child's (and her mother's) only dream in life, apparently."
"Didn't appreciate my suggestion that she could be Minnie or Mickey."
"Lol!"
"Only a face character would do!"- TravelLovingMom
"Must Be Funny, In A Rich Man's World..."
"My boss from about a decade ago was this insanely rich dude who always went to the bank to get fresh and crisp currency."
"He'd call the bank in advance to make sure they had some on hand."
"I think he was a germaphobe."
"He had a trash can that he'd throw $1 and $5 bills in that he thought was 'dirty' and regularly just donated it vs spending it."
"I asked him why he did this and he said it was too much trouble and asked if I wanted it."
"I said f*ck yeah dumped it into my bag and when I got home it was close to $400 in singles and fives.
"Another time, he wanted to upgrade all the computers in his studio, so we went to a store and bought 10 PCs."
"They all had $150 mail in rebates and he wasn't bothered to go through the trouble of mailing them in."
"3 weeks later I received $1500 after spending a whole afternoon filling out all those goddamn forms."- azninvasion2000
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Who Wore It Better?
"When I was about 19 years old, I was at my boyfriends family BBQ."
"I was wearing this pretty floral sundress."
"His cousins girlfriend showed up in the same dress and she was SO mad that she went and changed."
"I will never understand being upset when someone is wearing the same thing as you.'
"Did you really think that your shirt you bought off the rack is going to be unique to you?"
"No."- mertsey627
Seeing Red! Or Blue In This Case...
"The blue of the balloons wasn't quite the same as the bridesmaid's sashes."
"Years ago my wife and I attended a wedding."
"It was very low key."
"The dinner was in the dining hall at the university where the couple met, cinder block walls and all."
"It was a Baptist wedding - no booze and very serious."
"The dark blue balloons attempting to liven up the hall were a slightly darker shade of blue than the sashes on the bridesmaid's dresses."
"The bride lost here sh*t and absolutely raved for nearly an hour."
"I can't remember how they finally managed to talk her down."- mechant_papa
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See You In Court!
"Rich neighbors who end up in expensive court battles because they disagree about where a tree can be planted or whether the color of a fence fits in with the street’s 'amenity'."
'These disputes get really heated and rack up huge lawyers’ bills."
"The most pathetic part is after the judgement when they are arguing about who should pay the other party’s costs."
"Lots of affidavits filed citing the 'emotional distress' they had to endure, or painting themselves as brave warriors who were forced to take a stand to fight for 'justice'."
"Also lots of pompous litigants insisting that the judge refer to them by their 'Dr' title."
"An absolutely insane dumpster fire of entitled rich people problems."- ElectrocRaisin
It's Always People With Money Who Don't Want To Pay!
"I work in a public library."
"People will get so so mad if they have to be put on a wait list for a book."
"A popular book that just came out."
"Ok our services are not only free but so are the books."
"You’re welcome, a**holes."- Switchbladekitten
A Warm Butt Is A Happy Butt!
"My own."
"We have a bidet toilet seat (Fabulous! Everyone should have one!) and not only does it wash your bum and blow dry it, but the seat's heated!"
"It's shocking how much a heated toilet seat makes the whole process more agreeable."
"Except: We had a power outage and I went to use the toilet and the seat was cold!"
"Unacceptable!"
"This shall not stand!"
"I was really upset because it didn't feel good."
"Then I stopped and thought: This is the most first-world problem anyone's ever had."
"I was really pissed because my heiny was tepid."
"I got over it."- DeathGrover
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Holy Matrimony!
"Weddings are a gold mine for this question."
"People get so hyped up over their 'most important day of their life'."
"They'll destroy friendships, go into debt, and have crazy expectations."
"It's not always the couple who go crazy, either."
"Sometimes, it's the parents or another family member who feels entitled to control the wedding."
"It's just a party."
"Be considerate of guests, have plenty of food and drinks, and enjoy it."- magicrowantree
When Fast Food Isn't Fast Enough...
"Having to pull off to the side to wait for a drive-thru order to be brought out to you because your food isn't ready and there's a line building up behind you."- demanbmore
In Case You Don't Think Customer Service Employees Are Undervalued...
"I was working the return desk at a Target next to a military base so I have so many stories."
"One of my favorites was a lady who had her baby shower before revealing the gender and was livid that she had received floral newborn diapers when she’s having a boy."
"It was a huge box of super expensive, all organic diapers, that we didn’t carry and therefore could not return."
"I cannot accurately express her fury and disgust."
"How dare either suggest her boy could wear feminine diapers."
"I suggested she donate them if she didn’t want to use them and she instead threw away the entire box."
"When she left we pulled it out and threw it in our donate bin."
"There have also been multiple times where mom’s order massive toys and when we bring them out to the car they get furious that they aren’t wrapped."
"We don’t offer wrapping services."
"Here’s the thing, if you don’t want your kids to see the toys you got them for Christmas or their bit to day DON'T BRING THE CHILD WHEN YOU PICK IT UP."
'I’ve had multiple women scream and curse me out that I had ruined their kids Christmas by bringing the toys they ordered out to the car like they requested."- clever-mermaid-mae
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Happiest Place On Earth!
"I used to work for Disney."
"That in itself should tell you everything."
"However for fun I'll give you two specific stories one form our tech department and one from my wife who worked bookings."
"I specifically worked for their call center to help with technical issues with magic band and the website."
"Suddenly got worse huh?"
"A right of passage call everyone has at least one story of is the 'Dome call'."
"Basically there is a subset of Disney Guest (TM) that believes if it rains at Walt Disney world there is someone that will push a button to encapsulate the whole of Disney property in a dome to keep out the rain."
"I'm not kidding."
"If this button is not pushed they call our tech department to angrily ask why."
"My wife worked booking."
"Pretty much everything including Bibbidi Bobbidi boutique and Pirate's league."
"These two things did roughly the same thing difference being price and theme."
"BBB was expensive did more and was focused on princesses, pirates league did a bit less and focused on mermaids and pirates."
"Lady called up my wife, and got pissed about BBB being booked up (It goes FAAAAST)."
"Karen: 'Im going to give the phone to my daughter and I want you to tell her how you are ruining her vacation by not letting her do BBB'."
"Wife proceeds to explain how pirate's league is so much cooler and how she can be a mermaid or pirate and basically gets the kid to start demanding to their parents about how they want to be a mermaid instead of a princess."- trollsong
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The horror!
Being booked into a junior suite at Disney World instead of an executive suite!
It's almost as bad as having no money for groceries, or no food to feed you children...
Said absolutely no one.