People Explain Which Things They Wish The Opposite Sex Understood Better

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Whether it's in family, friendships, or dating, we've all felt misunderstood at some point. But it seems especially common to feel misunderstood by the opposite sex.

Here are some key points that people wished those of the opposite sex would just understand already.


Redditor idontplayhockey asked:

"What is something you wish the opposite sex understood better?"

Compliments Go a Long Way

"A good chunk of the men who need reassurance are most likely not getting enough compliments in the relationship."

"This isn't always the case, but I always felt insane dating certain people, and then with the right person who complimented me, is genuinely attracted to me and initiated things, and who ACTUALLY loves me (I now think others weren't that attracted to me, even ex-fiance), and I have never felt more confident, and safe in a relationship."

"Looking back, my intuition was correct with the other people I dated, and that's why I never felt secure."

- TinyDrug

Food Secrets

"If you wanted fries, you should have asked for fries."

- podrick_pleasure

For the Love of LEGO

"I don't drink, smoke, gamble, do drugs, go to strip clubs, or play video games... My vice is LEGO (yes, I'm a f**king dork) and my wife just can't stop complaining about the LEGO."

- lazyFer

The Dating Game

"Wish both sexes better understood biased selections. F**kboys, f**kgirls, arrogant egotistical people, and deplorable tw*ts will be overrepresented in the pool of people you encounter in a dating setting."

"Normal people form relationships, get tired of all the bulls**t, and 'age out' of the dating pool, all of which makes them underrepresented."

- 5e884898da

Stay the Same

"When I say, 'Just like that,' I don't mean speed up to 100 miles per hour."

- Unlikely_Anywhere464

Not Perfect

"For both sexes, we are flawed people and we are not perfect. Stop expecting everything to be perfect 100% of the time. I'm far from perfect, but I strive to make myself better. I'm married guy."

- ThrowAway97283917

Okay with the Friend Zone

"This might be specific to me, but... If I ask you out, and you say no, that's it. Like there's no lingering weirdness or anything. If you're not interested in me romantically, that's fine."

"I'm perfectly cool just being friends. I won't be awkward or anything about it, won't bring it up, won't bring it up to mutual friends, it was just a question."

"The friend zone isn't a bad thing all the time. Sometimes it's where the best friends come from."

- bstyledevi

Feeling Clueless

"I genuinely have no clue about 99% of the mind games taking place around me."

- SolitaryDumpster

Be Direct

"It's not as romantic, but plainly saying, 'I want the D' would fix so many issues in the communication department."

"Don't come to my place claiming to be interested in my hobbies but really after the D, because I will museum guide you through all that s**t that is my past time, and the idea of unzipping will scarcely occur to me."

- ZenEvadoni

Individualized Emotions

"Just because you keep telling me it's okay to have emotions doesn't mean I'm going to burst into tears. I have emotions, they're just quiet and don't bother people."

"I'm not emotionally distant or unfeeling. I'm just not going to burst into tears because the dog died in 'Marley and Me.' I'll cry when my dog dies in 'My Dog and Me.'"

- DanteWolfe0125

Menstruation Woes

"How bad period pain can get for some women."

"Have you ever been WOKEN UP from pain at 3 AM that didn’t go away for at least a couple of hours so you just stayed awake because going back to sleep was definitely not happening?"

"Painkillers only work for me if I catch it BEFORE it gets bad."

- BluWaff_x

Boundaries, Please

"Just because you think I’m pretty, doesn’t mean I need you to send me a photo of your junk. Come on now."

- Reddit

Connect First

"As a guy, I don't always want to have sex. Wanting to get in your pants isn't an indicator of liking you or not. Sometimes I just want to laugh and see how I enjoy being around you because most people turn out disappointing."

- Vapes-DB

Happy to Help

"We're honestly happy to help you lift stuff and carry stuff and put things away on high shelves. We like being big and strong. But please don't take it for granted. Show your appreciation."

- Fuzzpot

No Means No

"'No' doesn’t mean 'convince me.'"

- prosecutie05579

Some of these examples were heartening, as they apply to both genders, but others, like no meaning no, are disappointing, as it feels like it's a concept all people should understand by now.

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