Time passes. Those genetic features are joined by all the countless nicks and imperfections produced by time eroding, battering a physical body that is the furthest thing from invincible.
So to fall in love--or at least feel attracted to another--one must accept the physical imperfections of the people around them. Nobody lacks them, so to expect that would leave one alone and always disappointed.
Some Redditors who've fully embraced the imperfections of others recently gathered to share their favorite "flaws."
brofistzerodeaths asked, "What is a 'physical flaw' that you dont mind in the opposite sex?"
"If I click with someone they become more and more attractive to me."
"Something that would put me off from a person I don't get along with becomes endearing in a person I like."
Plenty to Love
"Crooked or imperfect teeth, scars, stretch marks, other various skin marks, random bulges, moles, body hair, any physical deformities or 'weird' body parts, etc."
"Really physical flaws aren't that much of a problem for me as long as we vibe. I have been with all kinds of people and I'm not bothered by much."
"I don't consider being a short guy a physical flaw, but it gets treated that way. I'm only a 5'2 chick, I have ZERO interest in dating a guy who's over 6'. I prefer them in the 5'4 - 5'10 range."
"I don't feel like straining my goddamn neck just to kiss my bf."
"Small breasts. I don't think they're a flaw, but plenty of women do. I think they're are sexy."
"My wife is always lamenting about how hers are too small but I can't get enough of them."
"Small penises. I promise you it's not that big of a deal. Besides, huge ones can hurt."
"ETA, since there seems to be some confusion: I obviously don't think a small penis is a flaw, but some guys who have them do. Didn't think that needed to be stated but here we are 🙃"
Hot for the Weathered
"Acne scars are hot as hell. Edward James Olmos springs to mind."
"I remember a lady who used to work in a grocery store I frequented and I had to actively try not to look at her, she had a strong jaw and looked like an absolute warrior."
"Would have bought her a drink in a bar, but hitting on people in their workplace isn't cool."
The Shapes of Noses
"A hook/Roman nose. I actually find them very attractive."
"Like, if it have to worry about eye injury while making out, then it's perfect." -- GirlsLikeStatus
"I see you like to live dangerously" -- XxsquirrelxX
"I will have to show this to my daughter. She got her dad's nose and she hates it. I think she's beautiful." -- nottypea
Spots to Play With
"Moles, birthmarks. No matter where they are. If you're cuddling naked it's fun to trace the outlines of them with your fingertip (straight female here)." -- DTownForever
"This is really funny to me bc my ex-gf did that to me once (I have hella moles, I keep a photo record of them so my dermatologist can compare and I've had a pre-cancerous cut out even though I'm only 19) and I totally hated it." -- Lonely_Boii_
"'Saggy' boobs. Things sag. That's how gravity works." -- luker_man
"Life saver, I am so self conscious about them" -- omnianadine
"Thank you. I needed this, I am 100% fine with finding grey hairs and wrinkles but I'm finding my boobs sagging the hardest bits of aging." -- ushouldcmoiinacrown
"Don't care for the word, but it's definitely sexy." -- xtrillia
Some Medusa Humor For Ya
"If she has snakes for hair then just one look from her will make me hard af." -- PhreedomPhighter
"This is the dumbest joke, that succeeded to make me laugh." -- TheShrekster_69
"Petrified wood is such a glam look" -- damagazelle
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Society gets confused about when two people of opposing genders are best friends.
It's never that you can just be friends. People make assumptions constantly about you both and how your relationship with each other must be.
And to make it worse, people that you love and trust do this to you too.
Here were some of those answers.
Nobody Believes You
Definitely the stress it puts on my relationship. There is always at least a little bit of jealousy and protectiveness.
The parent's questions.
You sure you don't like her? *Gives knowing wink*
"She looks like she's taking real good care of you"
Constantly being asked if you all are together or when you're going to be a couple.
My friend used to introduce me as his sister just because of this. Luckily we look somewhat alike, soulless gingers we are.
everyone thinks it's going to end up in some Julia Roberts "we were in love the whole time" stuff
people will even say it in front of your SO
no- that's my friend- how hard is it to understand?
Making It Bearable
A female friend of mine started dating a yoga guy with a top knot, can't stand that guy
It really is annoying when the guys they like to date clash with your personality. Can be frustrating when they want to do stuff and you cant stand their partner and they cant stand you.
The Same Everywhere
Jealousy from my SO. I have to second-guess all the things I do or say to my SO when it comes to things about the best friend. I try to make sure she doesn't overthink anything. I have a lot of anxiety when she overthinks and I just can't seem to snap her out of it. Hiding things from her isn't something I want, and doesn't really seem like it'll help if at all. I don't know how to deal with the amount of anxiety and stress I feel, all I can hope is I can get better.
When It DOES Happen
I've had a female best friend for over 20 years. The worst part is we have occasional phases where one of us wanted to be more than friends. It gets really emotional and weird until it passes and things go back to normal. It seems to get stronger every time though and it's scary. We're both terrible at relationships and I can't imagine losing an almost life long friendship over it.
The worst part for me is when I meet her new fella for the first time and a few beers in he asks if his girlfriend and I have ever slept together. I feel bad because I know at that point his days are numbered because they always end up the jealous, possessive type - those dudes don't last.
Also, just like to say clearly a few people in here don't understand the meaning of friendship. You aren't friends if you're just sitting around waiting for her to have sex with you. Sort yourselves out you scrubs.
Scary Treading Water
Wondering if you'd be great together but then you're not really attracted to them so you'll probably never know. And even if you are attracted to them you wouldn't risk becoming more than friends because what if it doesn't work out?
The Most Difficult Part
You can't talk about gender-specific issues with them. I don't mind best friends who are guys, but it's hard for them to understand the pains of bleeding through your freaking underwear.
Have you ever thought about whether or not you would date yourself?
Would you be a good date? A good partner? Are you nice enough to yourself and to other people?
Would you have fun at Coney Island with yourself? These are the important questions.
Here were some of those answers.
Could You Be Partners?
Sure. I get along great with myself.
The major downside would be though, there would be no covering for each others weaknesses and complementing each others strengths.
Yeah she'd probably know all the best taco places.
Doesn't that imply that you already know all the best taco places? That knowledge doesn't stack, you either know them or you don't.
Two shy people, neither of whom is ready to speak first.. Not likely.
But surely you'll be able to relate and understand each other better, having the same traits. For a shy person, having someone who understands you can really bring the best out of you.
To Protect The World From Devastation
I'm already horrible enough as is, the world isn't ready for trouble, make it double.
Ok team rocket calm down
I actually did, for a while, date a girl that was like my mirror copy. Not physically, but personality, world view, attitude, opinions.
Met at college. Hit it off amazingly, had so much in common, literally completing each others sentences from get go. Living the dream.
But over the years, it ruined our relationship. It was an echo chamber. If there ever was a situation I couldn't handle, she couldn't either, and it would blow up. I couldn't appreciate the good in her, because I was used to it in myself.
Went our separate ways shortly after college. I still remember our time together fondly. But unless you both are the perfect human being, that kind of relationship doesn't work.
Absolutely. Assuming there's any physical attraction we enjoy the same things, have similar standards, care about the same people - it'd be a good match. Are all of my traits awesome for dating? No, but I of all people can understand them and where she'd be coming from, and no one is more used to living with me and the consequences of that than I am...
It's a good deal, I think.
At worst? I (we both) learn a lot about ourselves and we grow as people. I think it'd work out - but if it didn't? Well, it was fun trying.
A Simple Answer
Lol no, I did the girl snapchat filter and I looked exactly like my sister. Plus I'm gay anyways
No, I generally rely on other people to keep the conversation going.
With two me's, its gonna be a whole lot of silence.
"Yeah, I like that, too"
Time Enough At Last
In terms of personality, we'd do great together. Finally! Someone who understands what I mean when I say "spend time alone, together." Ideally she'd be as into building random stuff as I am. Not to mention doing hallucinogens with myself would be pretty fun.
Now, the problem would be that I'm a pretty shallow person. I'm not bad looking so hopefully she wouldn't be either, but it's possible she may decide that I'm not hot enough. Or maybe she'll look just like me, and even if I'm not a bad looking dude, I'd make an ugly woman.
I would - I think i'm a fun, well rounded individual, who has my life put together. I'd totally love to hang out with me. Plus, having the same views on money management would be a great bonus!