Happy Couples Reveal The Stuff Other Couples Should Try At Least Once
Having a vast array of experiences will immediately broaden your horizons.
So of course, naturally, the next step is to include someone else--perhaps someone who loves you, in those experiences. Looking for a little insight, Reddit user Zydrarc stepped up to the message boards to inquire:
Here are some of the best answers.
Take A Step Back
You don't always have to do something with your SO. Occasionally, doing something completely selfless for them. It is a wonderful way to tie your bond a little stronger.
For my husband, who loved tub baths but would rarely give himself the time to take one, I would set it up for him so that he had to use it. I would get our portable Bose speaker and put on his favorite jazz, then I would start the water running very hot as I knew it would be just right by the time he got in. We didn't have the fanciest bathroom, but with some candles (yes I lit candles for my husband) and some fluffy towels stacked close to the tub, it lent the little room some romantic ambiance. I would turn the lights off, have only candle light, his jazz playing at a comfortable volume, and then I would make him a drink he liked. I made up a butterscotch vodka cocktail just for him, just for these rare occasions, and would have it placed on the edge of the tub. In the water, I would put whatever I knew he liked. Usually, it was scented bath soaps. But when he had been laboring hard at work (which was often in his profession), I would put in epsom salts and a scented oil--something masculine like rosemary, mint, or tea tree.
And then, after telling him it was ready, I would leave him absolutely alone in the tub. I would not bother him for at least 45 minutes to an hour, and then only to ask if he wanted another drink, water warmed, candles relit, music changed.
He gave me so many comforts and so many securities and I always tried to to give equally. He was an amazing husband; I always found joy in giving to him those things that I knew he loved but would not do for himself.
Take Life Less Seriously
Here's some my girlfriend and I do. I think we're really dumb together, and I love it:
- Go to an art museum and make up facts about art pieces / paintings together. Just try to make each other laugh at your ridiculous made-up facts. The more boring or crazy the museum (MOMA in NY is good), the better
IKEA date. Role play in each scenario. One of our best dates!
- Draw together. We're both not into museums, but we went and just drew together.
Swaddle your girlfriend with a giant blanket. She LOVED this and actually fell asleep..
- Give each other massages. She loves my back massages.
Shower together. Problem with this is that our shower is kind of small, so she doesn't enjoy it as much.
- Lie on top of each other. She especially likes it when I lie on top of her. She says she likes the weight l o l
Take cliche/corny photos together. We were "inspired" by this image, and we took a photo of us shopping in Trader Joes, her holding my hand, and me holding the Trader Joes bag.
- Go to the animal shelter together and pet some cats! It really helps that we both love animals.
Sometimes I would wrap myself into a burrito/banana, and I would exclaim to her "PEEL ME". And she would reluctantly come over, peel me, and start laughing when she gets rid of her poker face.
In general, just take life less seriously! Make jokes. Make each other laugh. Entertain each other. Life is better with a SO :)
Fire training. It's where you flop down over them (ideally while they are laying in bed) pretending to have passed out due to smoke inhalation, and it's their responsibility to both escape from under you and move you to safety. Ideally performed by yelling "fire training!" and then flopping without any additional warning. Don't explain it ahead of time. Fires don't explain themselves.
It's initially met with much resistance, so a key is to remain motionless and mute. Really commit to the role of someone who has passed out. Get them to realize that the only way they can get up is if they move you themselves, and then they find the motivation.
Bonus: you're safe in the event of a real fire.
This American Life
When on long car rides together, listen to podcasts that teach you something or which discuss some sort of controversial topic. My wife and I will listen to things like Radio Lab, 99% Invisible or This American Life while on long car rides. Quite often we will pause the show to discuss our thoughts on the show's topic. This has led to many great hours of interesting, intelligent conversation between us where we have gotten to learn a lot about each other and the point of view we have on many things in the world. It's a great bonding tool, plus you learn some nifty cool sh-t along the way.
My fiancée like to "steam roll" me when we are laying down. She just rolls over me and pretends she is crushing me. Always makes me smile
The Little Things
I tuck her into bed at night. I have every night for 14 years...it's not just a tuck-in. I climb in, we laugh and talk, I kiss her goodnight and make sure she is snug...
We're both adults yes but it's important to me that she sleeps well and I feel like doing this reminds her that I love her, will always love her, so she can sleep sound...
Trust The Studies
Learn something new together. Whether it be a foreign language, how to make sushi, knit, paint, etc.
Studies show that the feel good chemical is released when you are learning something new and when you learn with someone you subconsciously associate feeling good with that person. So, not only do you learn something new (which is a confidence builder in itself) you bond with your SO on a deeper level.
Two things I've done:
- If you have a truck or know someone who does, blow up an air mattress in the back of it. Load it up with pillows and blankets, grab something nice but easy to eat and drive somewhere random and rural. Lay out under the stars and watch a movie together. Bonus points if you live somewhere cold (me Edmonton AB Canada) and make it so you're defying nature by being warm.
- I took my girlfriend kayaking during a super harvest blood moon (real thing look it up). I bought an Indian food buffet which is not the easiest thing to eat on kayaks. We lined up our kayaks and put a piece of plywood across our laps. This kind of held us together as we drifted around the lake at sunset while eating the spread of wonderful Indian food. Wine was obviously a necessity as well.
Play tabletop games. The amount of couples who both enjoy 'games' but never try any tabletop games outside the usual realm of childhood games that are all terrible astounds me. Even something super quick / simple like love letter can be amazing when it comes to drumming up conversation. It seems like a lot of people think your choices are either monopoly or dungeons and dragons; I can't recommend looking into other options enough! Not only are tabletop games better to talk over than tv/video games, but it makes your house super fun to visit too. Our collection is big enough at this point that we can find a game even non-gamers enjoy easily.
Don't miss out on the cooperative games that you can win/lose together with either, I suggest Pandemic (though it is a tad on the heavier side, especially compared to things like love letter). Carcassonne is easily one of our favorites, the base game is very easily to understand but there are many small expansions that can make the game deeper / keep it interesting. Awesome game for half-playing half-talking as well.
The Things You Do
Conquer a fear together.
For my husband and I we both had a deathly fear of white water rafting.
It brings you closer together, teaches valuable communication skills, and is a memory you can cherish well into your old age.
Watch a documentary, take a class, experience something new, travel.
It's fun while it's happening, and great to talk about later on.
Worm racing - you both lie face down on the ground by the front door, with your hands in your pockets, and race to the other end of the house, on your bellies, like worms.
I'm 41, my wife turns 40 next month, we have a worm race probably once a month when the kids are elsewhere.
Go on a road trip. Road trips are so much fun with the right person, and I think it's also an important relationship milestone. How do you cope when you miss the exit, or you feel sick because he insisted on stopping somewhere that had all you can eat chicken and waffles.
Hide and go seek inside the house with all the lights turned off and loud music. It's fun, active, and after a couple drinks can be quite sexy.
The Couples That Bathe Together, Stay-the Together
Been with my wife for 17 years (dating and married combined) and we make time to shower together everyday. It's our time away from the kids where we get to talk about our day. I wash her body sometimes, she gets me sometimes. It's our way of staying connected. We get weird looks from other couples we know that find out we do this for some reason.
Lava boat. While you're laying in bed together start acting like the bed is getting hot, "Do you feel that?" "Oh my god, thats crazy" "You can't feel that?" And then you climb on top of her to get off/out of the lava and use her as a lava boat. Lay on top of her while you're both prone and try to get completely off the bed. Arms, legs, everything because the bed is lava.
Once you're fully off of the lava, tell her that the bed is lava and she's your lava boat. If she pushes you off act like you're burning until she lets you back on. Boys can be lava boats too, anybody can. All you need is pretend lava. Lava Boat, tell your friends.
Go shopping at 3 a.m. There are a some 24 hour big box stores in our area, and a couple times we've wound up running errands in the wee hours. It's surreal to drive through the dark, empty streets and arrive at a huge fluorescent oasis with no windows that feels exactly the same as it would at noon. You also get to see what other kinds of weirdos are doing their shopping at 3 a.m.
Lay in bed watching a thunderstorm. We live in Phoenix so rain is rare. We do get nice monsoons from time to time and we had the best time talking and watching the rain and lightning.
Have You Seen The Way They Kiss In The Movies?
Have a gimmick date (tunnel of love, drinking from the same milkshake, walk down the beach barefoot holding hands, eating from the same strand of a spaghetti noodle until you kiss, etc.), and make fun of how cliche it is while secretly enjoying every second of it.
Lose weight together. We were fat most our lives and never succeeded in losing the weight on our own. Then I dragged him into my last attempt. We held each other accountable, we kept each other motivated, we researched together, we forced each other to buy new clothes that fit, ect. We each lost 100 pounds. It was awesome. We've been able to keep it off too. I've gained a bit back recently because of hormone replacement therapy, but I'm back on track. It's nothing compared to being back at 250+ pounds and being tired all the time. I'm barely in overweight territory right now. He's keeping me accountable, which I need. We fail a hell of a lot less together.
The Secret Slime Action
My ex and I would play this game where she would pretend she was a slug and she would drag her belly all over me. It was such a stupid and silly thing to do. She called it Slime Time. I don't miss her at all, but I do miss Slime Time... It's super fun. I highly recommend everyone play Slime Time!
If you're both in contact with your families/have nice childhood memories I suggest watching home videos of each other together. Saw my SO in a middle school production of a musical and I've never loved her more. She told me everything she remembered about it and how much fun she had. It was so sweet. It's also a great way to share memories of family members important to you who have passed away, but who you wish you could introduce your SO to.
Food is an essential part of life. We need it to survive. But there are some foods that I'd rather drop dead than have to consume. Now I get that there are otherworldly concoctions that can give the palette an orgasmic shock but if the ingredients contain a few certain things--like cow tongue--I'll stay food celibate.
Death Greens<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwOTIwNC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyMzUwOTM1NX0.rtgSsSPQ4f6DPqn31mIo-6AKGNXvtDX9LhhWp9pb21w/img.gif?width=980" id="7aec4" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="3a832c9574fd9444258c4f684db6e2e6" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="245" data-height="255" />jim carrey asparagus GIFGiphy<p>Asparagus. It tastes good but my dad choked on it when i was a kid and it was so scary that i've never eaten it since then. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/goo1qsq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">girlgirl123456</a></p>
A Hard Chew<p>I absolutely hate chewing on tendon... whether it be from beef, or chicken.. God dammit, anything with meat and a rubbery chewy feeling just makes me gag. The sensation is god awful for me, and is the best I can explain.</p><p>I also dislike papaya because the smell is off putting. The smell coming from that specific fruit triggers memories when I was a kid and tried it and gagged from it. I can handle other fragrant fruits, but papaya - no. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/goo4qa2?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">spaigo</a></p>
The Bone<p>I can't eat bone-in meats because of tendons. Not only do you have that feeling of it in-between your teeth, but scraping the bone has a really cringy feeling similar to scratching a chalkboard. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gookbbc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">syfyguy64</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gookbbc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"></a>I'm the weirdo that will get <em>every bit</em> that I can off the bone, but only at home. I know to refrain when in public. But it hurts my soul. I knew my husband was my person when he offered me the chicken wing bones on his plate lol. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gooyt1c?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"> coolerthanyouravgmom</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/coolerthanyouravgmom/" target="_blank"></a></p>
Soy you Say...<p>Soy anything, I am deathly allergic to it and they put that crap in everything in America. It's the wax we shine our fruit with, the oils we make everything with from soup to coffee creamers. They inject the isolated protein, my allergen, into random meats and products. Forget soy. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/goo66ob?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"> shiftbackslash</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/shiftbackslash/" target="_blank"></a></p>
Scrub a dub spice...<p>I've got that thing where cilantro tastes like soap, so there's that. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gonxda4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">ColeYote</a></p><p>I always figured cilantro was some regional American spice but I've only just learned it's coriander lol.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gonxda4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"></a>Does this gene make the seeds taste like soap as well? </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/goojsu2?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Orri</a></p>
gross...<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwOTMyNy9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1NTQ2NjY2Mn0._YGTUNhpcd31l82mFkn6sn9wSt73wEsPzWl5h0lsJ7Q/img.gif?width=980" id="1116c" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="b6639244dd009202a2746007da81e025" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />gross gag GIF by Anime Crimes DivisionGiphy<p>Water chestnuts, its the texture. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/goocrsy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">menace-to-sobriety</a></p>
An Ill Slaw<p>Sauerkraut, I am from south Germany and a total disgrace to my culture and family for this but man forget that dish. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gootqom?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Deschlins</a></p><p>Finally! I'm not alone!</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gootqom?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"></a>There's plenty of foods that I don't really care for, but there's only one that I literally can't eat without getting physically ill (hell, I have to leave the room if someone is eating that crap). </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gopdink?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">honoredtwig</a></p>
Seafood Roulette<p>Oysters, clams, etc. The texture, smell, flavor. A massive no from me. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gonzfqc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Sirenofthelake</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gonzfqc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"></a>Eating raw oysters from the Gulf of Mexico is like Russian roulette with better odds. It is not often considering how much get eaten, but every year a few people get viral meningitis from eating them raw. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gooi6w5?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Birdapotamus</a></p>
Bad Oils...<p>Truffle, it's definitely a love it or hate it kind of thing but it just tastes like feet to me. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/goo8d7y?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">YouJabroni44</a></p><p>The first time I tried truffle was in a macaroni and ammonia was all I could taste or smell</p><p>I decided to try it again now that I knew what to expect and I found it MUCH tamer the second go aroun</p>
With a nice Chianti<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwOTI4MC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0MzgwOTE0NX0.g3rkPudLlS0668DgLv3rvJw3AfihB6MMzdDPTvka4uE/img.gif?width=980" id="b6353" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="1dfec4b4da0ce8ac2c64ecb571579f97" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="245" data-height="220" />hannibal and clarice GIFGiphy<p>Liver. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gonzlvb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">edpmis02</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gonzlvb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"></a>Whenever my mom makes something with liver I can smell it throughout the entire house, it's so disgusting. It's a weird kinda sweet smell/taste that just reminds me of decay. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrwpaf/what_food_do_you_just_completely_despise_and_why/gooqlig?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">bland_soup</a></p>
Just say NO! That's a famous 80's catchphrase about staying off drugs but it is also one of the truest and most life-affirming mantras that many of us have come to appreciate. Saying no, putting one's well-being first have become the new narrative for a society that was always over-extending itself. Sometimes you just have to decline an offer or decide that, no this situation isn't healthy for me. And then the freedom you feel... there is nothing else like it.Redditor u/SketchyByte wanted everyone to share the times in life they have never felt better by asking... What is the most satisfying "no" that you have ever said?
"Just try..."<p>Go ahead, try it. NO! I love it. I can't tell you how many times I gave a yes out of fear, guilt, or shame. Then later all I had to ruminate on was regret. I don't enjoy the NO at the expense of others but more often than not, I just have to recognize what a certain moment calls for and embrace it. I think the following people can explain. </p>
Sorry Boo<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwODgxNy9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY3NTI1MTU2NX0.ZSU2p6QRE68beiM3XCO16PB8t0duDZHTNimtxRpQ6JM/img.gif?width=980" id="56e7d" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="86ff0a0882d6b4adba90c50d14c26b04" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="640" data-height="360" />let's go courtroom GIFGiphy<p>I got offered a lot of money to basically screw someone over in a court case. I said no and the satisfaction of telling a seriously spoiled rich kids dad no was the most satisfying day in recent memory. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luhe9w/what_is_the_most_satisfying_no_that_you_have_ever/gp6vsjc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Affectionate_Row8434</a></p>
Humans Suck<p>I work in an Animal Shelter. We had this very scared Cane Corso mix named Tae, who had the perfect look for the worst kind of dog owner: cropped ears and tail, muscular, beautiful grey coat. Tae needed a special low traffic home without any kids because he was very nervous and uncertain, likely due to his past, and we wrote an entire profile explaining this. A guy waltzes in, slams money on the table, and announces he's taking Tae (without ever meeting him, mind you.) <span></span></p>
Mother's House<p>Honestly, it would have to have been splitting up with my ex. He was at his mother's house at the time, and he said he missed me. I stared at the message for so long he sent another, "this is supposed to be where you say you miss me too." But i didn't miss him. Or walking on eggshells around him, having zero help with our newborn child, having so much trouble. So I said but I don't miss you. Easily the best no I've said, I only wish I had said it sooner. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luhe9w/what_is_the_most_satisfying_no_that_you_have_ever/gp8m74w?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">SleepyParakeet</a></p>
"No, I'd prefer not."<p>Religious in-laws. Lots of holiday meals, they always stop before eating to Give a Blessing, taking turns, FIL assigns the leader of the prayer. For whatever reason, they do not single me out, and I certainly do not volunteer. FIL has a tendency to put people on the spot when he wants something done. After a decade, I assume it'll never happen.<span></span></p>
Blocked<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwODgyMi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2NjkyNDk3OX0.zWPGWp404V9MGaAruLbmTDj7_JbYTlQznlbxw-9X_IE/img.gif?width=980" id="e1045" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="0085ee261de67dd2b9ce091ee5153bfb" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="500" data-height="280" />Giphy<p>Not exactly a no, but declining my ex-wife's friend request on Facebook felt pretty satisfying. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luhe9w/what_is_the_most_satisfying_no_that_you_have_ever/gp6fi18?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"> JadwigaGothard</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/JadwigaGothard/" target="_blank"></a></p>
"Not Today"<p>See they get it. Are you envious enough yet to try it? Go ahead. NO. I'll wait. It can also be a silent NO. Just today this rude young lad tried to cut me off in the line at Target. Back in the day, I'll let that go. I'd wonder is it worth the argument? What's the big deal? Then I said... NO. You do not get to treat me this way. So I informed him where the line began and stretched to and he could march his happy backside yon. Read on...</p>
Rent Some Guys<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwODgyNC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0MTYwNTk3MX0.2N5Cyu6Aqwk_GxJKgj2Zv7z1cCDahGfVnqby1AW4jpA/img.gif?width=980" id="548f8" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="cc08a7c8ca9b973ceff98e0f89fc15f8" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="444" data-height="250" />Animated GIFGiphy<p>"so i see you have a truck"</p><p>"no... i will NOT help you move...."</p><p>"well damn."</p><p>LOL. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luhe9w/what_is_the_most_satisfying_no_that_you_have_ever/gp71agn?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Useless_bumbling_oaf</a></p>
Yuck!<p>I said 'no' to a crappy job offer. They asked me if I was working already and I said I was unemployed but I wouldn't work for their company anyway. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luhe9w/what_is_the_most_satisfying_no_that_you_have_ever/gp8a2y1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">fjramon</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luhe9w/what_is_the_most_satisfying_no_that_you_have_ever/gp8a2y1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"></a>There's one account that I won't accept projects on because of the way they abuse their vendors. I think my exact words were, "I'd rather eat cat food." </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luhe9w/what_is_the_most_satisfying_no_that_you_have_ever/gp9nwvz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Flahdagal</a></p>
Dodged a Bullet<p>I got fired because the company panicked during covid and decided to fire me and another guy, they were genuine a-holes that didn't care about their employees. I could go into details but it would take way too long, so you'll just have to trust me on this one. </p>
Peace Out<p>Overworked at an underpaying job in a warehouse. 14 hr days. 9 bucks an hour in a 15 degree industrial freezer. 2 15 minute breaks. They hassle you for taking a crap in between. I felt sick that day and boss man comes up to me with ANOTHER stack of orders after we were already doing the biggest one that day. Says "Hey I need you back in the freezer and i need you to pick up the pace a little bit" I just said "no" and walked the hell out. Hitchhiked home. Sun was shining. Dude that picked me up was playing Radiohead. Twas magical as hell. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luhe9w/what_is_the_most_satisfying_no_that_you_have_ever/gp8onfu?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Akwa_Rayna</a></p>
Worthless...<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwODg0NS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0NDg5MTYxN30.0bTtfqCl5ZHSj0W3vDfY9Ux3oxFC1zHjeYQV9tArvT4/img.gif?width=980" id="fb6b6" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="f4448d5923326714affa40e3203f7d1e" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="252" data-height="190" />Good Bye Reaction GIFGiphy<p>After cheating on me, during our break up conversation, she said, "I wish you would have fought for me instead of giving up so easily.."</p><p>I said, "maybe if you were worth it." </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luhe9w/what_is_the_most_satisfying_no_that_you_have_ever/gp6cu3k?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">SheilaSidney</a></p>
"NOOOO!!!!"<p>NO is not a curse word, nor is it hate speech. Some may see it that way but as you have read... NO... is an imperative part of life. Take it from my experience, you don't have to be a yes man in order to be a good person or solidify relationships. People will understand and if they don't, then they aren't introducing the NO in their lives nearly enough. </p>
Try as I might, there are some true crime cases that I can't get out of my head. Some are frightening. Others are disturbing. And then there's that special category of cases that continue to haunt me and that I keep going back to.
I have always been especially perturbed by the case of Sylvia Likens, who in the mid-1960s was tortured by Gertrude Basniewski, a woman who took care of Likens while her parents were away on business. What makes the case especially concerning is the way Basniewski recruited her own children––and even children and teenagers around the neighborhood––to join her in the abuse. The case is one of the most infamous child abuse cases of all time and I warn you to read about it at your own risk. (If you're interested, the drama film An American Crime, featuring Catherine Keener as Basniewski and Elliott Page as Sylvia Likens, is one film about the case. The Girl Next Door, a horror film based on the events, stars Blanche Baker as a Basniewski surrogate.)
After Redditor litteredbirdnina asked the online community, "What true crime case haunts you?" people told us about the cases that keep them up at night.
Warning: Some sensitive material ahead.
"Just the mental image of those poor children..."<p>The Andrea Yates case. Just the mental image of those poor children trying to get away as she was drowning their siblings. Also, the image of her husband keeping her constantly pregnant despite knowing she had mental health issues - he was quoted at one point as saying that he wanted to have more children with her after she was treated and released. If you haven't read it, the book "Are You There Alone" is absolutely heartbreaking.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls4yyz/what_true_crime_case_haunts_you/gopryp1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">mrwednesday33</a></p>
"I will never be able to forget..."<p>The murder of James Bulger.</p><p>It's the most horrifying and tragic case to me and pulls my emotions asunder whenever I think about it, or hear updates about the killers. I will never be able to forget that little boy.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls4yyz/what_true_crime_case_haunts_you/gopobq9?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">CouldMurderACarvery</a></p>
"I was really interested in history..."<p>Jack the Ripper.</p><p>I was really interested in history as a kid, got a book from the library's history section about the case without knowing anything about it. (Why my parents or the librarian let a child check that book out I have no clue).</p><p>It had pictures, lots of them. The image of Mary Kelly is forever burned into my retinas. It gave me nightmares for years. Still horrified by it today.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls4yyz/what_true_crime_case_haunts_you/goq7vza?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">KnickKnick</a></p>
"He would set up a murder kit..."<p><span>Israel Keyes. He would set up a murder kit ahead of time, sometimes years in advance, and then when he went back, would find a home that provided the opportunity. He murdered a couple in my tiny state of Vermont, and their bodies were never found. Bone-chilling.</span></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls4yyz/what_true_crime_case_haunts_you/gopt2d4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Inie802</a></p>
"He begged law enforcement..."<p>The Matthew Hoffman case. (Not the actor.)</p><p>For those who don't know, Hoffman was responsible for the deaths of Stephanie Sprang, Tina Maynard, and Tina's son Kody in November of 2010. After breaking into their house and stabbing them to death, he dismembered them, put them into garbage bags, and stuffed them inside a hollow birch tree. He also abducted Tina's daughter, Sarah Maynard, keeping her imprisoned in his basement for four days.</p><p>Hoffman had a minor criminal history and mostly kept to himself. When police identified him as a potential suspect and entered his home, nearly every surface was absolutely COVERED with leaves. There were leaves piled roughly three feet deep on the floor. Bags of leaves stacked against almost every wall. Sarah was kept on a makeshift bed of leaves in the basement.<span></span></p>
"The way he would stalk his victims for weeks..."<p>Joseph DeAngelo, the Golden State Killer. The way he would stalk his victims for weeks and sneak in and out of their house without anyone knowing and hide weapons around the victim's house and his victims had no idea. It just freaks me out to no end. Glad he was finally caught, but it took way too long. He took and ruined so many lives and then got to live the vast majority of his outside of prison. I'm not religious, but I hope Hell exists for fucking garbage like him. And I hope he has a long, miserable life of rotting in jail.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls4yyz/what_true_crime_case_haunts_you/gopm76g?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Narge1</a></p>
The Golden State Killer, or Original Night Stalker, as it were...<p>...is another who continues to fascinate me. I once made the mistake of listening to a recording of a phone call he made to a victim years after he had assaulted her. Not something you want to hear late at night.</p>
"The worst part..."<p>The Oklahoma Girl Scout murders.</p><p>The girls (Lori Lee Farmer, Doris Denise Milner, and Michele Heather Guse) were between the ages of eight and ten and had been bludgeoned and strangled. It happened during a thunderstorm and they had been in the tent furthest from the camp counselors, no no one heard or noticed anything. Additionally, the tent was partially obscured by the showers.</p><p>The worst part is that less than two months before the murders, during an on-site training session, a camp counselor discovered a disturbing hand-written note in her belongings. It said, "We are on a mission to kill three girls in Tent one." The director of that camp session treated the note as a prank and it was thrown away.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls4yyz/what_true_crime_case_haunts_you/gos99a1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Iseeasong</a></p>
"What they did to her..."<p>The torture and murder of Junko Furuta. What they did to her would make the cartels cringe, but the worst part of her sordid case is that all of the people involved in her death were given slaps on the wrist and are roaming the streets of Japan today.</p><p><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Junko_Furuta" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Junko_Furuta</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls4yyz/what_true_crime_case_haunts_you/goscfan?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">GW2RNGR</a></p>
Along with the Sylvia Likens case,<p>This is the other case that continues to haunt me. The level of depravity involved is out of this world. I would caution those of you with sensitive constitutions: That Wikipedia entry is a horrific read.</p>
"It's purported..."<p>The murders of Channon Christian and Christopher Newsome. One of the worst crimes you rarely hear about. It's purported that the press was gunshy as it were to widely report on it being afraid they would look overzealous reporting on black perpetrators on white victims. I think those guys would have done it to whoever was in the car that pulled up. I don't think it was inherently a race-related crime, but it's one of the worst I've heard about and I'm a long-time true crime 'fan'.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls4yyz/what_true_crime_case_haunts_you/gorftv1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">dart1126</a></p>
"Accounts vary..."<p>The most haunting to me is Carl Tanzler, aka Count Carl Von Cosel. He was a radiology technician who was obsessed with a young tuberculosis patient named Elena Milagros de Hoyos. A generally grandiose person who didn't fully exist in reality, he convinced her family that he could cure her with experimental treatments. Elena died and Carl funded a large mausoleum for her.</p><p>The thing is, he had the key to that mausoleum. He was convinced that he could preserve her body and bring her back to life (possibly by going into outer space? He'd created a strange contraption.) Anyway, here's the really eerie thing. For almost 9 YEARS, he 'refreshed' her body with wire, wax, cloth, and perfume to fill it out as she decomposed, basically turning her into a mannequin. Finally, Elena's sister, having heard rumors that he had been sleeping with Elena's corpse and confronted him. (Apparently, he'd also been seen dancing with her corpse?) He was arrested and stood trial, but charges were dropped. He later created an effigy of Elena that included no parts of her actual body and lived with it.</p><p><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carl_Tanzler#/media/File:Preserved_body_of_Maria_Elena_Milagro_de_Hoyos.jpg" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">This is Elena's body about 9 years after her death.</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls4yyz/what_true_crime_case_haunts_you/gossz9p?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Friendly_Coconut</a></p>
We apologize in advance if you're going to have some trouble sleeping tonight.<p>But if you're a bit of a true crime fanatic, you'll probably wind up going down the rabbit hole at 3 a.m. like the rest of us. We never learn, do we?</p><p>What are some cases that haunt you? Feel ftee to sound off in the comments below.</p>
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