When interviewing for a job, it's really important to know what you're getting into. Are you going to get into a job where you are really enjoying the quality of life you retain while working there? Or will you be selling your soul away?
Putting Us All On The Spot<p>On a second interview the general manager brought me into the conference room with his 8 managers present. At first I thought it was a meet and greet but no, they grilled me for an hour and a half. Didn't appreciate that along with a couple other things and politely withdrew from being considered.</p><p>Couple months later I'm playing in a ball tournament and come across one of the managers. I mentioned how weird that interview was. He says 'Weird for you? Ha! I found out then and there you were being interviewed for my job!'.</p><p>Yep, dodged a bullet there.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/GentleLion2Tigress/" target="_blank">GentleLion2Tigress</a></p>
Lying For Clout<p>I was once part of a group onboarding for an IT job. They handed us all the one-page new hire "contract" and everyone except me signed immediately. When I read the paperwork, I discovered we were signing a mystery document. Clauses included "I agree to abide by the personal search and seizure security policy (attached)." Without other pages, there was no way to determine what I was agreeing to. I kept requesting more and more pages until the HR drone said "ok, I guess [me] is just determined to hold everyone up. We will handle you separately if you're struggling so much."</p><p>After I walked out and drove home, I called the hiring manager to apologize for not taking the job. He informed me that HR reported I had walked out after refusing to be drug tested.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ManiacDan/" target="_blank">ManiacDan</a></p>
I'll Never Come Back From Lunch<p>Last job I worked.</p><p>"Yea, everyone here is new, but it's totally because of covid"</p><p>"The boss doesn't like people going out to get lunch because they're afraid you'll never come back, so being your own lunch"</p><p>"You'll get weird looks if you leave on time". It was a chinese owned company with heavy chinese work culture influence so you were expected to stay overtime all week.</p><p>Also "the people here are nice but it's pretty stressful".</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Expensive_Historian/" target="_blank">Expensive_Historian</a></p>
Big Mad<p>Once an interviewer straight up asked me if I had any trouble working for free on weekends... I told them my free time is more valuable than anything and that the only way that I would work a weekend is if they are paying me and if I felt like working a weekend. </p><p>She got really mad at me and ended the interview right away.</p><p>Biggest red flag I've ever seen because they didn't even try to hide it.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/lempiraholio/" target="_blank">lempiraholio</a></p>
Actually I Do Need To Read This<p>When you are signing all the forms they give you and you are taking your time to read over every document so that you can fully understand what you are getting into and people come in and start telling you that you don't need to read this and that just sign here and so on.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Saxon_Shields69/" target="_blank">Saxon_Shields69</a></p>
Finding Out The Going Rate<p>I interviewed for an independent contractor position on a piece rate. It's hard to predict how much you're going to earn on a piece rate, so to attract me the manager showed me some paystubs from his guys. I noticed that:</p><ol><li>He could easily cherry pick paystubs to show my his best guys best weeks. All that tells me is that I'm likely to make less than what he's showing me, at least on average.</li><li>The paystubs were obviously designed to be confusing. They were a full page and absolutely covered in data. He wanted me to be impressed by a dollar amount (obviously not accounting for costs which the contractor has to carry or taxes which the contractor has to deduct and pay) but he took them away before anyone could have deciphered what the pay period, piece rate, number of jobs or kms was.</li><li>He showed me other people paystubs! wtf??</li></ol>
A Terrible Boss<p>At my last place of work, the person interviewing me had a printed cartoon on their wall of someone who looked like a bomb had blown up in their face, with the caption "I spoke with 'boss' name' about it.. I guess we're still doing it".</p><p>That wasn't subtle at all, but I ignored it. The boss was an absolute tyrant who wouldn't listen to her staff, consider changing her mind about anything, or let people do the work they were best suited to do. She wouldn't show up for weeks at a time. The job itself was decent, but she was the worst boss I've ever had.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Posaunne/" target="_blank">Posaunne</a></p>
How Many Peoples' Jobs Am I Doing<p>Jobs where the expectations of the position aren't clear. The person hiring you should be able to give a clear idea of your responsibilities are day to day in a practical way. It shows that the company understands what it wants out of the position.</p><p>I've worked a couple positions that had a really hard time figuring out who was supposed to do what that lead to a lot of confusion and both of them had this in the interviews. If the company you're working for can't define what success in that position looks like you won't be able to either.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Xerodo/" target="_blank">Xerodo</a></p>
You Just Decided Not To Show??????<p>I once showed up for an interview and the manager wasn't there that day. No one called me to let me know.</p><p>The assistant manager was not apologetic for the scheduling issue at all. She was literally just like "oh, she's not here today" in a tone that suggested I should somehow already know that. She said they would call me to reschedule some time the next week. I told her I was currently unavailable M-W but could come in any time Th-F. She said if I couldn't make time for the interview, I probably wouldn't be a good fit.</p>
Tense Silence<p>If you can see the floor before the interview, you can sometimes get a vibe about the place. I once went to interview for a sales position. Aside from the interviewer being 30 mins late, it did allow me to sit and observe the situation. I realized pretty quickly this was not going to be the place for me. Very quiet except a handful of people on the phones cold calling.</p>
The best question to ask<p>My current boss gave me a great tip on the last interview I had. He said "Ask them if you can pick an employee to chat with about how they like the position you're applying for. They'll give a better impression of the place than management".</p><p>I got the job I was interviewing for. I turned it down because the above is the kind of management I want to keep in my life. Also the place undercut my pay offer I found out which is certainly also a red flag</p><p>.<a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/kharmatika/" target="_blank">kharmatika</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kttvdy/what_are_subtle_red_flags_at_a_job_interview_that/giobsz6/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"></a></p>
Location location location<p><br>When you ask, "what do you like about working here" and the interviewer talks about the location of the job ("it's a great place to live!") instead of the actual job.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/beard_lover/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">beard_lover</a></p>
Picket lines<p><br>I was once told "Sometimes the hourly workers go on strike and they lock us in to keep the production line running, but management brings us steaks and we have an informal agreement with the unions so you can cross the picket lines once a week to visit your wife."</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/dachjaw/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">dachjaw</a></p>
No in-between<p><br>Employees are either new hires or have been there for 15+ years with no in-between. There is no room for improvement - it's better to leave for advancement.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/princessarielle6/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">princessarielle6</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kttvdy/what_are_subtle_red_flags_at_a_job_interview_that/gio4b9l/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"></a></p>
Bullet dodged<p><br>I brought up a company's awful Glassdoor reviews and they got so mad they ended the interview. Well. Guess I dodged that bullet</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/glitterpumps/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">glitterpumps</a></p>
Work hours<p>"We don't like 'clockwatchers' here. We expect everyone to be committed." Expecting more work for no extra pay. Getting mad at you when you leave at 5 even though your stated work hours end a 5</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Kirill47/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kirill47</a><span></span></p>
Sometimes a chance encounter with someone completely random can shift your entire life.
Here were some of those answers.
The Same Cars<p>I was driving down a 3-lane highway in my old Taurus station wagon (unrelated but it's a very ugly car) and two other people driving old Taurus station wagons pulled up next to me. For a brief moment we were lined up perfectly across all three lanes. Just three Taurus station wagons aligned on the highway. </p><p>We laughed and waved at each other then drifted away. The absurdity of the moment + the fact that the other drivers also recognized it happening and shared the amusement is what makes it for me.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/dooley211/" target="_blank">dooley211</a></p>
Feel The Rain On Your Skin<p>I was walking along a sidewalk in midtown when there was a sudden heavy downpour.</p><p>A kind man nearby shared his large umbrella with me all the way to my destination 9 blocks away.</p><p>It was a simple act of sharing and kindness that I'll never forget.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Back2Bach/" target="_blank">Back2Bach</a></p>
Fascinated By Rental Technology<p>I was traveling around the US on my motorcycle and I stopped at this bar in South Dakota somewhere for a bite and this guy sat down next to me at the bar and we both drank a beer quietly beside each other before he struck up a conversation. He was super friendly and had a draw that I couldn't place, sounded like an Okie. </p><p>He was traveling around the country too in his helicopter, just flying around the country stopping and getting a beer here and there, same thing as me except I was on a bike. I found this super odd.</p>
Dinner With Strangers<p>I got back from a class trip and had to go home from the train station. On my way I had a homeless guy coming to me and asked me if I had some money for food and drinks... </p><p>I got myself my last 20€ and we went to a restaurant and had lunch together and had a great time. He told me everything about him and I did too. Still seeing him on the streets today, still greeting each other when we see each other</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Nicolas8600/" target="_blank">Nicolas8600</a></p>
The Coolness Of Strangers<p>My wife and I were travelling in Tokyo and we were looking for a good non-smoking restaurant (a lot of them still allow smoking unfortunately) in the neighborhood we were staying. Most restaurants in that neighborhood were only advertised with discrete Japanese signs. We are white Europeans and looked obviously like tourists.</p><p>This Japanese guy comes out of nowhere, asking if he could help us, so we tell him what we are looking for. </p>
Strangers Becoming Friends<p>Ugh, I was at this blues dance at a scene I'd never been to, dancing with a lot of strangers and it was so fun.</p><p>But this one guy it just clicked with. We had three dances that night and each one worked perfectly, not a foot wrong or a misfollowed lead or a mistimed turn and, ugh bliss. Just pure, human, connection</p><p>Someday I hope to return to that dance and do it again.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Incantanto/" target="_blank">Incantanto</a></p>
Thanks For The New Connections<p>I went for an interview for a residency program. The programs usually interview multiple people per day at the same time. Everyone is so nervous sitting around prior to the interview, that no one talks. For one of my interviews, there were only two of us. The other girl came up to me and we both started talking about how nervous we were.</p>
College Days<p>I'm in my mid-thirties, and was on my bike riding past a park on my way to the bank when I hear a shout, "Hey, buddy!". I stopped my bike and looked over and saw 5 guys at the park looking at me. "You wanna play ultimate Frisbee?"</p><p>I guess they expected a 6th friend to show up but he had to cancel at the last minute so they didn't have enough players. Apparently I don't look like a murderer so they decided to take a shot an ask me to play. I stuck around for about 45 minutes and then continued on with my day.</p><p>Super fun time, and reminded me of college, when you easily could just create pickup games out of thin air by holding a ball and finding some friendly folks nearby.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/qatest/" target="_blank">qatest</a></p>
Deep Convos<p>I gave a ride to a guy who came up to my work the day after New Years, it was getting dark, raining, and in the low 30s, I couldn't let him walk the 5+ miles back to town. Usually we only get addicts and loonies out in the woods where I work. But Alan was different.</p><p>He's a carpenter, from New York. Just a guy who's heart lies on the road and doesn't stay anywhere long. His phone had died and he couldn't uber back to his hotel. Instead of the usual small talk he pressed right in asking "So what it is that defines you, what makes you, you." and from there we talked about life, passions and focused on the bright points amidst the darkness of the previous year.</p>
One Day Stand<p>I met a guy on the bus one day. He and I looked very much like brother and sister. VERY MUCH. We talked for the whole bus trip, each of us opting to miss our respective stops. We ditched our plans and spent the whole day together at the beach, just talking and walking. Our connection was immediate. It was an amazing day. We never saw each other again, but I never forgot.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/3Throw_away13/" target="_blank">3Throw_away13</a></p>
No sir<p><span>I put off changing my name after getting married until my son was born a year later. I had to trudge all over downtown with a newborn in tow to get a copy of my marriage license, go to the DMV, and finally social security office. It was at the social security office that my son decided it was time to eat. I started to discreetly nurse him and a security guard looked in my direction. "Hey, you can't do that here!"</span></p><p></p>
Planes in the night<p><br>Was waiting at the airport for my flight, it had been delayed 2 hours. It was a full flight so almost all the seats near the gate were taken. There was one last empty seat next to me, so this older woman (Mary) asked if she could sit there. She was very friendly and we ended up talking about life and our relationships for almost the entire 2 hours.</p><p></p>
Compliments<p>I was at a club with some friends and the night was going poorly because my friend's birthday dinner reservations got canceled and the club was insanely busy so we couldn't even get drinks. I started dancing to lighten the mood and no one was really joining in much so it was literally just me.</p><p>Then a random girl came up to me and told me I looked "so hot" and to keep doing me. Honestly the best compliment I've ever gotten.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Just_a_toad123/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Just_a_toad123</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ksdfkq/what_is_the_best_encounter_youve_ever_had_with_a/gifvlou/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"></a></p>
Two very different milestones in life: weddings and funerals.
They don't intersect much... and you don't want to confuse one for the other.
It Does Happen<p>Let's do a silly photo this time</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RavennaMagnus/" target="_blank">RavennaMagnus</a></p><p>Irish funerals. Sombre ceremony, calm for the most part, completely silent except for the responses during mass and some crying. Then off to the pub. Massive piss up, celebration of the persons life. Many silly pictures can and probably will be taken.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Flashwastaken/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Flashwastaken</a></p>
No One Mourns The Wicked<p>Finally! I know this is the happy ending we all wanted.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/seriously_funn/" target="_blank">seriously_funn</a></p><p>Doesn't she look lovely in that dress?</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/YABOYCHIPCHOCOLATE/" target="_blank">YABOYCHIPCHOCOLATE</a></p>
Wink<p>That's going to be you one day.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Chaz_wazzers/" target="_blank">Chaz_wazzers</a></p><p>I feel like you can absolutely say that someday you will die, at a funeral.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/spacemantrip/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">spacemantrip</a></p><p>Like when you are single at a wedding and your aunts and uncles say: You're next </p><p>At funerals I look at them and say: You're next, with a wink.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Fuzzylogik/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Fuzzylogik</a></p>
An Open Season<p>"This is the happiest day of my life."</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Glittering-Inside/" target="_blank">Glittering-Inside</a></p><p>While you may be joking, that is one of the requests I've made too my wife for my funeral. Open bar, open ice cream bar, and as they lower me into the ground I want the sound of you going down the pipes in the original Super Mario bro's.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Banluil/" target="_blank">Banluil</a></p>
It Moved On<p>"I'm proud to say that I'm the one who's responsible for us being here today."</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/WryLawTalkingGuy/" target="_blank">WryLawTalkingGuy</a></p><p>Underrated comment</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/baconchipcookie/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">baconchipcookie</a></p>
Oops<p>My mom once said "Congratulations" at a funeral because she didn't fully understand the language yet.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/rossols/" target="_blank">rossols</a></p><p>I feel like if someone says something inappropriate but obviously is struggling with the language they should get a pass and a quiet explanation later on.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Drakmanka/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Drakmanka</a></p>
Over And Over<p>"Maybe this time it'll work out."</p><p>I'm imagining this being said at someone's second funeral. They were supposed to be dead at the first one, but so who came back to life for a while.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/mychal200302468/" target="_blank">mychal200302468</a></p>
I Object<p>If anyone objects to this union speak now or forever hold your peace.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/alk_adio_ost/" target="_blank">alk_adio_ost</a></p><p>"I object!"</p><p><em>corpse comes to life</em></p><p><em><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/bearatrooper/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">bearatrooper</a></em></p>
Over And Over<p>Till death do us apart was going to be my answer, but i could see a "grieving" widow maniacally mutter that phrases as they realize they have been freed from the iron chains of matrimony.</p><p>Mainly I would in that situation. Strip iff my clothes running into the sunset, on a quest to find the moon so I can howl at it.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/MoltenHotMagma/" target="_blank">MoltenHotMagma</a></p>
Just Giving It Back To You Dude<p>i remember being at my distant cousin's wedding and an old man walked up to me and said "that'll be you one day". a couple months later one of my aunts sadly passed away, and at her funeral i saw that same old man. i walked up to him and said the same thing. apparently that's not a good thing to do?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/darknight6526/" target="_blank">darknight6526</a></p>
This pandemic has been going for close to a year. We all miss the world as it was before the plastic shields at the grocery store, the masks in public, and the general nights out in a bar or restaurant.
And now we are looking at rebuilding the world post-virus, and starting to take into account what will go back to the way it was, and what will not ever be the same.
What are your guesses?
What All Us In Entertainment Want<p>I wonder if this will cause a boom in the entertainment industry and Restaurants. As much as I like eating, and watching movies at home. Sometimes there is nothing like getting out of the house and being able to enjoy a good movie or a meal out.</p><p>Though I do hope this causes movie prices to go down. $20 for a movie, and even BEFORE the Pandemic hit, most movies weren't even worth that money.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Randym1982/" target="_blank">Randym1982</a></p>
Self-Care<p>On a personal level. I've learned about what I can and can't live with, what I need around me and what can just drift away with the wind. And it'll make my planning to move out on my own again much much easier.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mcgruffles/" target="_blank">Mcgruffles</a></p>
Gimme Pizza!<p>I like how pizza delivery was a barometer of public perception of the pandemic. At the start, some delivery people were visibly annoyed or even offended if I didn't come out and personally interact with them. Now they treat my door like an IED. I don't want them to have to work in fear, but man I love this new version where they knock, I yell thank you, and that's it.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RealNewsyMcNewsface/" target="_blank">RealNewsyMcNewsface</a></p>
Go Out And Shop!<p>Many smaller businesses that are already heavily suffering will not able to recover even after the pandemic because it has become so normal for many to just use amazon... So please support your local businesses!</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/mikevseveryone/" target="_blank">mikevseveryone</a></p>
Faith In People: Gone<p>When I watched zombie movies I always said "there is no way people would be this stupid" when a character would be an idiot. Now I say "wow, at least a third of the people aren't total idiots!" and then I sigh because I know that if the zombies did come, my best course of action would be to slather myself in BBQ sauce and just get eaten so it's over with.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/eddyathome/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">eddyathome</a></p>
What May Actually NOT Change<p>In the long term, once the pandemic is over I don't think a whole lot is going to change, but I do see the loss of many small businesses being permanent.</p><p>There will be fewer people working in offices than before, but I don't think permanent WFH is going to catch on as much as people predict. While some people love WFH, some people hate it, or they are unable to do it effectively, and I think over time there will be some recruitment and retention issues. Those who want to WFH will migrate to companies that are full WFH, while those who want to work in an office will migrate to those jobs.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/yyz_guy/" target="_blank">yyz_guy</a></p>
Ah Cleanliness<p>I really REALLY hope all this sets a new precedent in terms of public sanitation. The amount of places that are like 'look, we're doing full sanitation procedures to make sure you stay safe!' and it's like...you weren't before?! Grotty.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/liliangoose/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">liliangoose</a></p>
But I Need Work/Life Balance :(<p>Boundaries between work/school and home. When many businesses and schools went completely virtual, there was no longer the boundary of work/school is at work/school and home is at home. Now work/school is at home, and many of them feel as though all your time is now their time. The common attitude many people have already seen from many businesses/schools is "you're at home so you're not doing anything anyway." They contact you at inappropriate hours, assume you have all the time in the world to take on a much higher work load, and make demands they wouldn't otherwise make. Breaks/days off are also often not respected, as again, the general attitude is "you're at home so you're not doing anything anyway."</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/peppapigisthecoolest/" target="_blank">peppapigisthecoolest</a></p>
A Fantastic New Service<p>For me, grocery shopping. I haven't been inside a store in several months. It's really nice to be able to pull up at a store and have someone load groceries into the trunk. Right now it's free in my city but I would happily pay to use this service.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Ok-Statistician-1513/" target="_blank">Ok-Statistician-1513</a></p>
Close Contact<p>I have a slightly different take on some of this stuff—like handshakes, hugging, and casual physical contact.</p><p>I think we're gonna go back to doing these things just as soon as we feel it's safe. (I know some parts of the country people already are, for better or worse...) But it's so important for human interaction. I just think we're going to actually appreciate how important these things are.</p><p>Just being close to someone and looking them in the eye after shaking their hand or patting them on the back is critical to making a personal connection. Yeah I know masks don't cover your eyes but not being able to see half of someone's face is terrible when it comes to basic human interaction.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SovietTrollFarm/" target="_blank">SovietTrollFarm</a></p>
People Who've Aged Out Of The Foster System Without Being Adopted Explain What They Wish Prospective Parents Knew
The foster system, while unfortunately necessary, is inherently broken. It results in traumatized kids and several groups of families who ultimately "use" the system for their own gain.