We all talk about the creepy things that men do in romantic or sexual settings. But to be fair, there are women (and non-binary people) who can be just as cringeworthy. Where is the line drawn between obsessive and sweet? Here are some answers from the men of Reddit.
u/Master_Lego_Yoda asked: Guys of reddit, what makes a girl creepy?
17 times?!
I once told a girl I was going to take a nap and then call her after. In that hour I had 17 missed calls from her.
We never spoke again.
TIL that 17 is the optimum number to break a relationship.
Yikes.
Not taking no for an answer, when a girl feels entitled to your attraction, it's not only a turnoff but is SUPER creepy.
It's harassment. Especially when you reject her and then she starts telling people you're a creep you tried to get nudes and wanted to do sh*t to her.
Nope, this is assault.
They keep trying to kiss you even if you say no. Had a girl keep doing this, apparently I'm in the wrong for lightly pushing her away.
Reverse the genders and it's assault.
Not even reverse the genders. That's straight up just assault.
Woah.
When she changes her last name to yours on Facebook after a week of texting.
People do that?
I heard girls would try on the last names of their crush or new boyfriend, but in like a diary or notebook or something private. But this made me fear for my safety.
Don't do this.
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Making up stories for attention. Once went out with a girl, who lived MILES away and she texts me one night saying 2 guys broke in to her apartment, where she lived alone, were robbing her and she was locked in the bathroom. So naturally I call the cops in her area, who go around to check on her. She then texts me going completely nuts cos I sent the cops to check on her, since you know SHE WAS BEING ROBBED IN HER OWN HOME.
Turns out it was all just attention seeking bullsh*t. Needless to say she was ghosted after that. Ladies don't do shit like this...no one benefits.
So many red flags.
When they send far too many messages, call far too many times, and in general give off the vibe that they are obsessed with you. Crying if you you can't be with them at that moment.
Or when they get incredibly possessive to the point of threats if you ever want to leave - threats of saying that you raped them in particular make you question everything. Going through your phone and deleting other women from your contacts. Making you delete certain social media/etc.
And finally, stalking behavior, running into them all the time in public places or at your home or parents house.
Pretty much red flags galore.
Good intentions, but creepy.
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Had a note left on my truck when I was in the service (early 2000s). Said I was handsome and to call. I spent 22 months out of 36 at sea and we were all over the Middle East, and my time on land was short, so I took the bait. Call and it was a civilian nurse. She was really embarrassed that her "friend" put the note on my truck. Who knows if her friend was real. I don't even know how the hell they even saw me, my truck was parked at the barracks. Anyways we talk on and off for a bit, but never meeting. Next time I talk to her she says she got the beer I like.
Me - "Wait, they don't sell that in this state, or the states around here. How did you get it?"
Nurse - "I drove 3 states away to get it!"
Me - "You drove over 150 miles away to get beer for me?"
Nurse - "Yeah!"
While some might think this was amazing, having never met the woman, I thought it was a little creepy and borderline stalker... maybe if we had been dating for several months it would be cool. But not the second phone call.
So, creepy.
Good point.
Probably not exactly what you were looking for.
As a gay man, the creepiest girls are the ones that won't stop pushing for me to be their gay best friend.
Just because I'm gay doesn't mean I want to gossip and go shopping and be a stereotype.
Definitely creepy.
- When they follow/friend every girl you're friends with on social media.
- When they get angry/annoyed at female customer service employees or angry/annoyed at you for interacting with female customer service employees.
- When they feel the need to constantly post pictures online to prove how happy your relationship is.
- When they talk to their friends about your sex life in graphic details.
Yikes.
Girl I met on this dating app for teenagers kept DM'ing me about how she didn't want me to hang out with other girls and she was just insane. Like I didn't even know her so I just blocked her.
A messed-up Elle Woods.
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My husbands ex-wife got dumped by a guy who said his feeling just weren't developing as they naturally should. She concocted an entire narrative in her head that he was just so in love with her that he was actually just really scared by his true feelings.
Then shortly after proceeded to change her entire degree plan from Political Science to Psychology so that she could move from AZ to GA "for school" which just happened to be right down the street from where he lived.
Um, what?
Measuring the weight of a carton of yoghurt in the morning before I wake up. Then when she came home later in the day she measured it again, and it weighed the same. She flipped out and threw yoghurt at me for not taking care of myself.
I literally have a hundred different examples like that. Toxic. The breakup was hard but necessary.
That's problematic.
Having a girl your aren't in a relationship with, telling people that you are her future husband.
It was a few years ago, and I had recently broken up with my ex-girlfriend. Hanging out with friends, one of my sister's friend was around. She was interested in me and apparently thought it was ok to tell lots of people that I was her future husband. I wasn't interested in her and never showed any interest in her. My sister even told her to knock it off, but the girl persisted.
What's even worse, she was in a relationship with another guy. Too bad he wasn't there. I'm sure he would really appreciate that kind of behavior.
After that my sister kind of distanced herself from that friend, until a year or so after when I started dating my now fiance. The crazy girl apparently asked sister who my fiance was, and said she wanted to beat up my fiance.
I got a great sister who has tried to distance herself from creepy girl, and creepy girl still tries to hang with my sister in hope that I'm single again someday.
Don't do this.
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Persistence after being turned down/blatantly not interested in. Despite being fairly tall and bulky (6'2 210lbs) Im actually a pretty nice person (or so I'm told) but if I'm not interested in someone, I'm not going to dance around the fact, if they ask me out and I'm not interested I will say no. If they were my friend beforehand that doesn't change anything, unless they make it so.
One time last year when I was a junior, there was this one (I think sophomore or freshy) girl that was absolutely obsessed. Asked me out about 2 months into the year, turned her down because I was already in a dedicated relationship at the time. She was already part of a small friend group I had at the time so I didn't think anything of it. But over the course of the next week she asked me out three more times, threatened my girlfriend, followed me home once and called me 56 times, none of which I answered. She just couldn't accept that no means no and I'm fairly certain the next Monday was the first and only time I raised my voice at a girl ( yes I'm aware of this makes me sounds like a white knight but you have to keep in mind I'm this 6 ft guy and most girls at my school barely broke the 5'5 mark)
I didn't get any more grief after that.
Sounds like an HR issue.
Bro. This girl at my work keeps coming near me. And touching me. Talk about personal space. I will go work on something and she comes following me. She makes deathly stare eye contact and it gives me the creeps.
When we're intoxicated, or even the slightest bit tipsy from having a little too much to drink, our immediate perspective on things is hazy.
But there's nothing like a bit of alarming news or a jarring incident to snap us out of the fog and focus on the moment.
Sometimes alcohol isn't always to blame for our impairment.
It can be a state of mind, like a perpetual numbness from being complacent in life, and all it takes is one shocking moment to rattle us back to our senses.
Curious to hear from strangers online about this type of scenario, Redditor Known_Challenge_7150 asked:
"What’s one thing that sobered you up real quick?"
These individuals were witness to shocking events that sobered them up right quick.
Bleeding Out
"Got out of a taxi and found a naked man profusely bleeding from his head crawling up the driveway in my condo. Called him an ambulance completely forgot I was absolutely wasted until 45 minutes later when I'd helped him translate and in to an amublance and stepped in my front door."
"Later a few days later learned he'd slipped in the tub and literally crawled out for help. Poor dude. He was fine but I genuinely thought he was going to die there."
– DongLaiCha
Tragic News
"At a bachelor party and we got a phone call that the groom’s father had suddenly passed."
– accountnameredacted
Bottom Of The Barrel
"I went to visit my parents back in July. I was homeless and deep into fentanyl addiction so I lost a lot of weight. My folks could see it. They knew something was up. Anyway, I spent the night and I was getting ready to leave in the morning and I looked at myself in the mirror for a good long time. I finally had enough and told them everything. They took me to detox, from there I went to rehab. Graduated in August and been living with them ever since then. I have 160 days clean and sober."
– Crotch-Monster
A reality check can be enough for some people to snap out of it.
Like Father, Like Son
"Was driving a drunk friend home, he had been on a bender again and was smart enough to call me for a lift rather than try and drive. As I helped in to his house his mother came down the stairs and said 'your as drunk as your father' and went back upstairs. I haven't seen him drunk since then, he still drinks but the thought of turning into his dad scared him out of hard drinking."
– psycospaz
Busted
"Flashing blue lights."
– FiddleOfGold
"This sobered me up just thinking about it."
– redmaple_syrup
Losing Sight
"Woke up to no sight in one eye. I had cataract surgery so just thought one of the lenses had slipped and it was an easy fix. Eye doc says nope, you had a stroke. I loved soy sauce, teriyaki sauce and salty food, which caused high blood pressure, which caused retina damage. Over six months was able to get most of my eyesight back with medication, and all back within a year. Trying to navigate life with one eye was very sobering. Started taking HBP much more seriously."
– MissHibernia
Quitting The Bottle
"Looked up someone I went to highschool with who was an awesome guy. Found out he had been dead for 3 years from alcoholism, at age 33. I made an overnight change. I hadn't started drinking that night yet, 10 months ago. Haven't touched it again since."
– omgtater
These disturbing moments were enough for Redditors to immediately come to their senses.
Unplanned House Guests
"Me and a buddy Woke up in someone’s living room, realized neither one of us knew the people, they were just nice and let 2 drunk guys sleep on their living room floor. We didn’t even say goodbye."
– Oneinsevenbillion75
Serious Health Warning
"Elevated liver enzymes."
"And the knowledge that this sh** was gonna kill me and I just couldn't orphan my family over it."
"So I opted for recovery, instead."
"Clean and sober since June 5, 2009."
– Far_Meal8674
The Joyride
"Grew up in a rural area. The little town hosted dances at the hockey arena, everyone (adults and kids) went and they overserved everyone, regardless of age. I was maybe 16 or 17 and was absolutely sh*tfaced, and jumped in the back of someone's truck with about 8 other people to go back to someone's cottage for after dance drinking. The driver (still don't know who it was) started racing one of his buddies and we whipped around small dirt roads, flying around blind corners on the wrong side of the road, going god knows how fast. It was basically a disaster waiting to happen. It was crazy scary and I was sober and thankful to be alive when we finally arrived."
– foxfood9116
The human psyche is a fascinating thing, isn't it?
How we can automatically focus on something urgent at a crucial time, even after getting buzzed from drinking too much alcohol.
But as we're in the thick of the holidays, it's a good reminder to drink responsibly and stay off the roads if you drive to your celebratory destination.
Cheers. Stay safe. And happy holidays.
We've all complained or vented about something in our lives which, in the grand scheme of things, wasn't exactly a problem, or is very easily solved.
Then there are those who complain about things that others almost hope will happen to them at some point in their lives.
These are known as "first world problems", as they are problems that pretty much only the world's one percent faces.
From having to fly business class instead of first class, or being served Roederer instead of Dom Pérignon, these complaints are often met with amusement, bewilderment, or even anger.
Redditor jennimackenzie was curious to hear the most absurd "first world problems" anyone ever complained about, leading them to ask:
"What’s the most ridiculous 'first world problem' you’ve seen people get worked up over?"
"Tale As Old As Time..."
"I once knew a mom who was legitimately devastated, to the point of tears/grief, because a doctor predicted her 8 year old daughter's final height to be around 5'2","
"Which wasn't tall enough to get cast as Belle at Disney World."
"That was the child's (and her mother's) only dream in life, apparently."
"Didn't appreciate my suggestion that she could be Minnie or Mickey."
"Lol!"
"Only a face character would do!"- TravelLovingMom
"Must Be Funny, In A Rich Man's World..."
"My boss from about a decade ago was this insanely rich dude who always went to the bank to get fresh and crisp currency."
"He'd call the bank in advance to make sure they had some on hand."
"I think he was a germaphobe."
"He had a trash can that he'd throw $1 and $5 bills in that he thought was 'dirty' and regularly just donated it vs spending it."
"I asked him why he did this and he said it was too much trouble and asked if I wanted it."
"I said f*ck yeah dumped it into my bag and when I got home it was close to $400 in singles and fives.
"Another time, he wanted to upgrade all the computers in his studio, so we went to a store and bought 10 PCs."
"They all had $150 mail in rebates and he wasn't bothered to go through the trouble of mailing them in."
"3 weeks later I received $1500 after spending a whole afternoon filling out all those goddamn forms."- azninvasion2000
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Who Wore It Better?
"When I was about 19 years old, I was at my boyfriends family BBQ."
"I was wearing this pretty floral sundress."
"His cousins girlfriend showed up in the same dress and she was SO mad that she went and changed."
"I will never understand being upset when someone is wearing the same thing as you.'
"Did you really think that your shirt you bought off the rack is going to be unique to you?"
"No."- mertsey627
Seeing Red! Or Blue In This Case...
"The blue of the balloons wasn't quite the same as the bridesmaid's sashes."
"Years ago my wife and I attended a wedding."
"It was very low key."
"The dinner was in the dining hall at the university where the couple met, cinder block walls and all."
"It was a Baptist wedding - no booze and very serious."
"The dark blue balloons attempting to liven up the hall were a slightly darker shade of blue than the sashes on the bridesmaid's dresses."
"The bride lost here sh*t and absolutely raved for nearly an hour."
"I can't remember how they finally managed to talk her down."- mechant_papa
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See You In Court!
"Rich neighbors who end up in expensive court battles because they disagree about where a tree can be planted or whether the color of a fence fits in with the street’s 'amenity'."
'These disputes get really heated and rack up huge lawyers’ bills."
"The most pathetic part is after the judgement when they are arguing about who should pay the other party’s costs."
"Lots of affidavits filed citing the 'emotional distress' they had to endure, or painting themselves as brave warriors who were forced to take a stand to fight for 'justice'."
"Also lots of pompous litigants insisting that the judge refer to them by their 'Dr' title."
"An absolutely insane dumpster fire of entitled rich people problems."- ElectrocRaisin
It's Always People With Money Who Don't Want To Pay!
"I work in a public library."
"People will get so so mad if they have to be put on a wait list for a book."
"A popular book that just came out."
"Ok our services are not only free but so are the books."
"You’re welcome, a**holes."- Switchbladekitten
A Warm Butt Is A Happy Butt!
"My own."
"We have a bidet toilet seat (Fabulous! Everyone should have one!) and not only does it wash your bum and blow dry it, but the seat's heated!"
"It's shocking how much a heated toilet seat makes the whole process more agreeable."
"Except: We had a power outage and I went to use the toilet and the seat was cold!"
"Unacceptable!"
"This shall not stand!"
"I was really upset because it didn't feel good."
"Then I stopped and thought: This is the most first-world problem anyone's ever had."
"I was really pissed because my heiny was tepid."
"I got over it."- DeathGrover
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Holy Matrimony!
"Weddings are a gold mine for this question."
"People get so hyped up over their 'most important day of their life'."
"They'll destroy friendships, go into debt, and have crazy expectations."
"It's not always the couple who go crazy, either."
"Sometimes, it's the parents or another family member who feels entitled to control the wedding."
"It's just a party."
"Be considerate of guests, have plenty of food and drinks, and enjoy it."- magicrowantree
When Fast Food Isn't Fast Enough...
"Having to pull off to the side to wait for a drive-thru order to be brought out to you because your food isn't ready and there's a line building up behind you."- demanbmore
In Case You Don't Think Customer Service Employees Are Undervalued...
"I was working the return desk at a Target next to a military base so I have so many stories."
"One of my favorites was a lady who had her baby shower before revealing the gender and was livid that she had received floral newborn diapers when she’s having a boy."
"It was a huge box of super expensive, all organic diapers, that we didn’t carry and therefore could not return."
"I cannot accurately express her fury and disgust."
"How dare either suggest her boy could wear feminine diapers."
"I suggested she donate them if she didn’t want to use them and she instead threw away the entire box."
"When she left we pulled it out and threw it in our donate bin."
"There have also been multiple times where mom’s order massive toys and when we bring them out to the car they get furious that they aren’t wrapped."
"We don’t offer wrapping services."
"Here’s the thing, if you don’t want your kids to see the toys you got them for Christmas or their bit to day DON'T BRING THE CHILD WHEN YOU PICK IT UP."
'I’ve had multiple women scream and curse me out that I had ruined their kids Christmas by bringing the toys they ordered out to the car like they requested."- clever-mermaid-mae
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Happiest Place On Earth!
"I used to work for Disney."
"That in itself should tell you everything."
"However for fun I'll give you two specific stories one form our tech department and one from my wife who worked bookings."
"I specifically worked for their call center to help with technical issues with magic band and the website."
"Suddenly got worse huh?"
"A right of passage call everyone has at least one story of is the 'Dome call'."
"Basically there is a subset of Disney Guest (TM) that believes if it rains at Walt Disney world there is someone that will push a button to encapsulate the whole of Disney property in a dome to keep out the rain."
"I'm not kidding."
"If this button is not pushed they call our tech department to angrily ask why."
"My wife worked booking."
"Pretty much everything including Bibbidi Bobbidi boutique and Pirate's league."
"These two things did roughly the same thing difference being price and theme."
"BBB was expensive did more and was focused on princesses, pirates league did a bit less and focused on mermaids and pirates."
"Lady called up my wife, and got pissed about BBB being booked up (It goes FAAAAST)."
"Karen: 'Im going to give the phone to my daughter and I want you to tell her how you are ruining her vacation by not letting her do BBB'."
"Wife proceeds to explain how pirate's league is so much cooler and how she can be a mermaid or pirate and basically gets the kid to start demanding to their parents about how they want to be a mermaid instead of a princess."- trollsong
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The horror!
Being booked into a junior suite at Disney World instead of an executive suite!
It's almost as bad as having no money for groceries, or no food to feed you children...
Said absolutely no one.