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People Break Down Their Worst 'I Cannot Hang Out With This Person Anymore' Experience

Not everyone will be in your life forever. Some relationships end, much to our disappointment, while others end, much to our relief. The latter type of relationship is what we will concern ourselves with today. You'd be surprised just how cruel some people can be, especially after Redditor blakeanthony asked the online community,

"What's your 'I'm not hanging out with this person anymore' story?"

"My boyfriend's best friend..."

My boyfriend's best friend tried to strangle me at a party. He had me pinned on the ground with his hands around my neck while laughing. I kicked him off and connected with his face somehow, he proceeded to call me crazy for making his tooth loose. I didn't even mention it to my boyfriend until a year after we broke up. It was normal behaviour for his friend so I just didn't bring it up until he mentioned it was weird that I stopped hanging out with his best friend so suddenly.

imatworkla

"John didn't say anything."

My best friend (we'll call him John) and I were in the same gym class in high school. There was this kid that was incredibly annoying that hung out with us (we'll call him Bill). I really didn't like him, but I didn't want to say anything because he was obviously friends with John, and I didn't want to upset John.

One day, John and I are walking to school. We're both complaining about Bill and all of the annoying things he does. After several rounds of back-and-forth, I finally said "I wouldn't even hang out with him if he wasn't your friend."

John didn't say anything. I walked several paces before I realized he wasn't walking next to me anymore. I look back, and he's frozen in place. He finally says, "He's not my friend. I thought he was your friend."

I stopped hanging out with Bill after that.

skribbsbb

"Passenger in my car..."

Passenger in my car made fun of a Mexican family on the corner asking for change. Not long after, he had lost his high paying job and was looking for a place to stay. I automatically thought about how he had treated others in the position he now found himself in and the choice to say no was easy.

frommymindtothissite

"Used to carpool to work..."

Used to carpool to work at a factory with a guy many years ago. We had started hanging out a bit outside of work. One day he comes over and the first thing he does is pull some drugs out of his pocket and snort it off my coffee table. We... didn't hang out much after that.

certaindoomawaits

"She was actually upset..."

Everything was a competition. Everything. She was actually upset that my boyfriend and I had gotten engaged before her and hers. They got engaged a few months later. Then when we were talking about buying a house, suddenly she was too. Same with a different car (mine was dying). It was exhausting. I didn't want to tell her anything anymore because I knew she'd just "compete." She ended up ghosting me. I'm good with that though.

ridethewavebud

"Not literally."

They stabbed me in the back. Not literally.

Sasibazsi18

"To be honest..."

Had a friend who would flake. He'd be my best friend for six months, then suddenly he'd not be my friend for a bit and go hang with someone else, but always came back. I eventually learned to just shrug and move on till next time. I was still young and still had the damaged high school mentality of "I'm alone anyhow, what the hell."

I moved out of state, and we'd chat sometimes, but it always happened again. I'd ask a question and he'd vanish, then reappear literal years later. I was older but heavily depressed, so I rolled with it.

I moved back into state, now married, and he eventually contacted me. We hung out and chatted. Played some D&D. I had another friend now who played with us. We'd drive for an hour to play. Talked about going to see the new Star Wars movie together, as his wife was supposedly pushing him to spend nerd time with someone else because she was very much not a nerd.

He vanished again. We drove an hour and he never showed, never responded to any messages, nothing. At this point, thing had changed and I simply wasn't desperate for friendship any more, so I shrugged it off. A year later, he suddenly messages me two days before the film arrived, "When do you want to go see the SW movie."

I finally realized I was a friend of convenience. When nobody else was there to be friends with, I'd suddenly be his best friend. The moment someone more interesting came along (I can be amusing, but I wear thin on social interaction fairly quickly if I don't have an actual purpose to the interaction, where as he has always been a "hang out" kind of person) I was put on a shelf until such time as he ran out of alternatives.

To be honest, I might have been more tolerant, but he'd changed immensely over the years. He went from a progressive liberal with a love of science and technology and a dark sense of humor to a regressive conservative of the "gays arn't people and the internet is all criminals trying to attack my daughter in law so I better police her interactions like Big Brother" variety. Considering the region we are in, and the woman he married, I am starting to suspect he's a social chameleon, taking on whatever stance gets him the most friends. Or possibly a straight sociopath. No idea. Doesn't matter. I told him I made other plans and ghosted him.

Bignholy

"I went to college in one city..."

So I grew up with my best friend in a small town. We had quite a large group of friends and as usual as we all grew up we grew apart. I went to college in one city and she went to school in another.

I would drive up to my parents every other week, and stop at her place for coffee and chat, see her kids, catch up etc. Eventually she stopped answering my calls, or messages, or would say she was busy, which was fine. UNTIL one of my other friends was arrested and I tried to find out where he was being held, court dates, etc. When he got out he called me and thanked me for trying to help him, and told me that the last time he saw my best friend, and another friend that they were doing meth.

Now my best friend was a gym rat, seaweed eating, single mother. She hated needles and only used weed once in a while (or so I thought). I called her to ask her how she was and what was going on, I was pretty direct. She denied any drug use and told me I was starting rumours and causing drama. I called two of my other friends to ask them if they had seen her and noticed anything. One denied seeing her, and other said that she wasn't using and to stop starting problems. Both of these girls blocked me on social media and stopped talking to me.

All of this was extremely weird to me, as my buddy would have zero reason to lie about them. I tried to contact my friend for coffee since I was heading that way, no answer. I showed up to her place anyways and she was home, (car parked, lights on, kids playing), but she ignored me. I did this for about 6 weeks, and every single time but once she was home but ignored me.

I eventually reached out to her ex husband to see if he could actually give me a straight answer, which he confirmed she went to rehab for drug use (pills) and that she seemed to be getting better, but that he was worried about his kids. By this point I thought ok well maybe she is ashamed about it, but will come around eventually. I was also doing exams at the time for college, and it was around Christmas time, so I was volunteering, raising my daughter, and doing school. I had hoped she would contact me since it was around Christmas and we both loved baking random s***.

Instead on December 21st I get a call from her ex husband saying she died that morning. My whole world stopped.

The funeral happened after Christmas, and her mom, and my ex friends still denied her using drugs even though she was covered in track marks and died from a drug overdose. After the funeral a few of us ended up going over to a friend's place and they admitted (while drunk) that they did know she was using, but they didn't know what exactly. I was so angry by that point. They also said that I wasn't as close as they were to her, and that I had just disappeared out of her life, and should have helped her.

WHAT THE F***?

Ya, I will never talk to them ever again.... Like f****** ever. Even her ex husband read all the messages between all of us, and they knew full well and were part of the drug use. Now I actually live with her ex-husband and her children (as well as my kids and my sister and her kids) and they have been begging to see her kids, and their father refuses.

ICYFCKBOY8

"The final straw was when..."

A crabby, pessimistic friend that everyone hated only talked to me when they had a problem. Then I wouldn't hear from her for long periods of time. Even when I'd reach out, she'd just start complaining about her life. Basically I was her therapist. Looking back I don't even know why I was friends with her. I eventually moved far away to a city for school and ended up staying there.

The final straw was when she was having a hard time with an ex-boyfriend. I had suggested she get away for a while and come visit me. Turns out the ex lives in the same city as me, in fact just two neighborhoods over. She even said non chalantly that she hated the city I lived in but visited him over 10 times in a period of 2-3 years. She didn't even bother calling me once. Keep in mind this is a distance most people would choose to fly rather than drive to. I can understand the first 2-3 visits for just spending time with him, but 10+...? I asked her why she never bothered to tell me whenever she was around. She shrugged it off and continued to complain about her life.

Last winter break she had saw that I was back home and asked to hang out. I knew she was lonely and miserable and just wanted to use me again. Never responded and haven't spoken to her since. Don't waste your time on s***** friends like this.

GratitudeRock

"If you treat people that way..."

Carpooling with a coworker, politely asked her if she would stop for fast food on our way as I was hungry, and offered her a meal too, my treat.

She declined the offer for food but drove us through the window anyway

...and sped off after the cashier gave us the food before asking for the money. The cashier was a PoC in the city outskirts. She refused to go back and claimed "he wouldn't get in trouble, I misplaced money at work all the time in [well paying job in suburban white area] and never got trouble for it"

If you treat people that way with your money, you're s*** and you've made a s***** decision. You do that with my money and you can f*** off out of my life.

monster_boy_ahoy

"I used to hang out..."

I used to hang out and drink with a guy in college. One day while riding in his back seat on the way back from the casino he asked if i wanted to join the KKK (yes, THAT one) and said that he knew someone who could get me an application. I stopped returning his calls or hanging out with him after that. He was an asshole but that was the last straw.

LeadGem354

"A colleague of my husband's..."

A colleague of my husband's asked us to join him and his fiance for lunch. During lunch, he told a story about his mom throwing her declawed cat out of the house to get a dog. He laughed about how ugly the cat was after years of living outside. That was when I decided I would never hang out with them again. Not worth my energy.

catsmom585

"My partner's former best friend..."

My partner's former best friend sexually assaulted me while my partner was passed out drunk. There had been hints of a threesome earlier in the night, but he continued his advances after I said no many times. I felt bad for a while, but it's been years and he never apologized. F*** him.

PayMetoRedditMmkay

"They went to Florida..."

They went to Florida when their COVID cases were at their worst and acted like nothing was wrong. Then came back and went to their church that doesn't require masks, putting everyone there at risk. They invited me to their wedding in a few weeks, but it's "no mask." Hell no.

BellChell1199

"They showed up..."

They showed up wearing my jacket that I accidentally left at their house a few years prior. It has my name written on the label and I had asked them a few times if it was there. When I pointed out that it was mine, they made no effort to return it to me.

InfiniteMetal

"Finally..."

My now former friend, let's call her Sarah, was really attention hungry and toxic towards everyone and worth of tossing away.

For example, she bad-mouthed me to my friends everytime she had a chance for it. Also when ever I would do something nice for her, she would always find something I could have done better and complain to me and others about how badly she was treated.

Finally the last straw for me was when in one night when we hang out together in a big group of our friends, Sarah tried to seduce my dear friends significant other in front of everyone. Since then I have just ghosted her, and so did some of our mutual friends. Don't think she will ever think she did something wrong.

procrastinating4ever

"It's a boring story..."

I met a woman on bumble.

It's a boring story to tell otherwise, but out of the blue she used the n-word in my presence. I ghosted her after that.

ZestfulCone2705

People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley

Remember

"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt

Imagination

"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."

RedditbOiiiiiiiiii

"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."

monobarreller

Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."

– GTFOakaFOD

"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip

Yikes!

"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User

"Oh."

– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

Close up face of a woman in bed, staring into the camera
Photo by Jen Theodore

Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"

Sensations

Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy

"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."

PeachesnPain

Recovery

"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."

good_golly99

Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."

rayrayrayray

Free

The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy

"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."

TooReDTooHigh

This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.

Shocked

Giphy

"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."

Admirable_Buyer6528

The SOB

"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”

1-cupcake-at-a-time

Colors

"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"

Hannah_LL7

"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"

huntokarrr

The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."

Fluffy-Hotel-5184

Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."

Hot-Refrigerator6583

Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
Santhosh Vaithiyanathan/Unsplash

Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.

Shopping

"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.