You think you know someone. Until they open their mouths and spew negative nonsense.
"Have you ever genuinely lost respect in someone because of their opinion? Why?"
People with no compassion and don't have an open mind can stay living under a rock.
Undermining
"Any time I hear from someone that my depression is fake, my doctors are brainwashing my brain and the pills is just placebo to act like a zombie, I can handle it. And an ex-friend did that except she wanted to sell to me her Bach roses/mlm sh*t and told me they CURE everything. I asked her if she even had a time per month to listen to my worries and said 'I don't have time for that.'"
– Edgefish
Questionable Therapy
"A friend I have since withdrawn from told me that she wanted her boyfriend; who has Aspergers; to go on a 5 day course to 'change his personality'. I didn't even know this existed! Horrifying."
– Cute_Island_260
The Xenophobe
"I'm an immigrant, and I have lived my whole in Europe ever since I was 4 months old . A 'friend' of mine back in high school complained about immigrants, and that they're 'filthy'. I told him 'Well, I'm an immigrant as well, and he just answered 'Well, you're a different immigrant. You're not like them'. I had known him since middle school. I guess I saw his true colors lol."
– EntertainmentFit2023
The Racist
"When I was in the break room, watching videos on my phone and my boss walked in, sat down, and was waved at me to take my headphones off and so I did and she said"
“'Do you go to the mall? Cuz I don’t, I hate seeing Mexicans and blacks just living off the government.'”
"I'm Spanish decent and I’m brown as well, what the f'k."
"Edit : added Spanish descent because an account reposted my story throughout my comment history because they were mad I said I was brown."
– Flywire789
Blaming The Victim
"Yeah Mt ex said that women who walk by themselves in the dark and get raped need to blame themselves."
"He was the ugliest man I ever met after that discussion."
"'I know it's illegal to rape someone but why walk about on your own after dark if you don't want that to happen to you?' BECAUSE WE NEED TO GET HOME FROM WORK, DANIEL. IT'S DARK AT 4PM HERE."
– [deleted]
An unpopular belief system is enough to write off a friendship.
Pro-War
"An old friend of mine thought wars are good and necessary due to overpopulation. She specifically mentioned WWI & WWII and why innocent people had to die."
– HotIcePack
Just The Facts, Please
"Yes. If someone’s opinion contradicts a scientific fact then I can’t respect them. Flat earthers are a good example of what I mean."
– Bjorn_Suicide
Flat-Out Believer
"A guy I was friends with started going on about how the earth is flat. I thought he was joking at first as there are a lot of flat earthers out there. But no, he's one of them. I struggle to hold a conversation with him now as it's all I think about when I (now rarely) see him."
– An-Englishman-in-NY
Support For An Autocrat
"A classmate of mine posts stuff on Facebook how it's NATO countries fault that Russia is invading Ukraine and not Putin. He makes it sound like Putin never had any fault in this and is blaming western countries. He also supports a dictator's son who is obviously a liar and a thief who is running for President. Seriously, that Dictator's son is a coward who doesn't show up at debates and interviews because they are 'biased'. That coward also has lots of troll farms on Facebook and Twitter."
– 567stranger
Outdated Norms
"A friend had his nephew (2 yrs) with him at another friend's place, I said i have toys at my place that I could bring over. I brought the toys over and he straight up said NO, he's not playing with these. Why? Because it was a kitchen set."
"I have had many of my nephews and cousins (boys and girls) play with them. I had already been realising that he was kind of sexist, but that just left no room for doubt."
– 1_step_at_atime
Perception Of Attractiveness
"People who think a relationship only works if you're entirely physically attracted to them. No I'm happy with being half into their looks. Really isn't as important as having a good personality with matching chemistry."
– joelfoy44
About Healthcare
"A former friend of mine once said that he hoped that healthcare was privatized here again. He said that he was 'sick of paying for other people's healthcare' and that people who couldn't afford it deserved to die anyway.He's from a middle class family and he said that to a group of people who were from working class families, who wouldn't be able to afford privatized healthcare and who in his eyes 'deserve to die.'"
These Redditors frowned upon those who lack having any sense of morality.
Cheaters
"People who cheat on significant others, when I learn you cheat I instantly assume you have zero integrity, I have 0 respect for you and I will distance myself from you any way possible because you are a backstabbing piece of sh*t."
– Kusanagi8811
Perception Of Criminals
"I work in medical research. It's a complicated topic and I don't want to get into an ethical debate in the comments, but I lose respect for somebody every time they say 'Why don't we just test drugs on criminals instead of poor little animals?'"
"You're philosophically bankrupt. We've got historic evidence that defining someone's right to human dignity and human rights based on criminal status is a bad f'kin idea. Tying that to profit motive and encouraging an increased 'production' of criminals to test on just gives you a system that is somehow even worse than the current American prison system."
"Kind of a niche rant, I know, but it bugs me that people actually believe this would work."
– Stradoverius
Bullies
"people who treat the weak badly."
– rasbperr1
Actions Speak Louder
"I have a sibling who is one of those people who makes a huge performative display of empathy and liberalism, but never undertakes action to back up the displays. A virtue signaler, I guess would be the term."
"Anyway, after years of outward display of being an LGBTQ+ ally, they justified Hillary’s stance against marriage equality in 2008 because 'it just wasn’t a smart political move'. This same sibling also told me they could never love a bisexual person because you could never trust that they wouldn’t cheat on you."
"Me and my fiancée are both bi and haven’t come out to our families."
– MagnusCranmegranate
Human beings are complex individuals, and we are constantly being influenced by our environment and those around us as things change.
So it's unsurprising how we grow distant from certain people as we get to know others who come into our lives.
And even though we may get along well with them on the surface, their views on the world around us and how they perceive others is a telling characteristic of who they are as a person.
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Curious to hear from strangers online about their developmental growth, Redditor 1234kyou_ asked:
"What did you swear in your childhood you would never do, but ended up doing anyways?"
Some hobbies that delighted us as kids never really go away as these Redditors have experienced.
The "Bird Creep"
"Birdwatching. I used to think it was the lamest way someone could spend their time when I was a kid. How could anyone just sit around and look at birds? What are you, some kind of bird creep? ... 20 years later and I'm obsessed with birds. Love hearing their songs and seeing all the beautiful colors."
– Koala-teas
Unfilled Dream
"Give up drawing."
"I actually broke my own heart when I recently found a school project we did back when I was a kid. We had to write a letter for our future selves and mine starts with: 'Hey, did you become an artist already? I really hope you did not become a boring adult with a boring job who gave up on his dreams and passions.'"
"Well, sorry little me, but I kinda did."
– Aesma_
Tending To One's Garden
"Gardening. We had a large garden. We raised and preserved what we grew. It was me and my sister's job to care for this garden. This was back when whipping your child was acceptable punishment. I was whipped sooo many times, because I hated that I had to grew and preserved vegetables I did not like. I hated it! Swore I'd never have a garden. Never do THAT to my kids. Then I had kids. A switch flipped in my head. I had to have a garden! I never made my kids take care of it. Gardening was my 'me' time. But being little kids, they wanted to be with mom and 'help' with the garden. I 'gave' them an area and they were allowed to grow whatever they wanted. If it was a fruit or vegetables , they had to eat it. As a result, they both love gardening and neither are picky eaters."
– Eogh21
When it comes to keeping it in the family, it's not always the goal.
Like Father...
"I have become my father."
– jer1303
Like Mother...
"I have become my mom.... even the voice is similar."
– rogue1206
Dad's Cynicism
"I've taken on a lot more of my dad's cynicism than I would like, but mostly I have my mom's wonder and carefreeness."
"But my dad is rich and mom is poor."
"He does not share the wealth he just shares 'you should've done X like this'. But his advice is the level of 'tear down the sign punch them in the face and say you're looking at your new employee'. I've also never heard a single dad joke from him."
– BugTester350
Posthumous Disapproval
"When I was touring houses to buy before the pandemic, my mother's spirit must have possessed me because I opened my mouth and her voice said 'i don't know, i don't think I could live in a house without both a coat closet and a linen closet.'"
– TJtherock
Adulting is hard.
The Financial Hole
"Get into debt I can't pay off."
– lilviviv
Potty-Mouth
"I said I wouldn’t curse unless a nuke was dropped on my house. That was a f'king lie."
– -notjosh-
Can't Wait, Don't Hate
"Have sex before marriage. Thank f'k I never made good on that one since I'm 41 and have never been married."
– squid1891
I'm a pretty fussy eater. Always have been.
I grew up in a Japanese family where regularly eating natto was a thing.
Natto is a Japanese dish made from Bacillus subtilis-fermented soybeans. It's known to have magical health benefits but the smell is overwhelmingly powerful, and the nutty taste leaves little to be desired.
Many people not used to eating exotic foods can't stand the flavor and slimy, sticky texture–let alone the pungent aroma.
I swore as a child that would be the one food I would never eat again after having a bad experience.
And yet, here I am as an adult, eating it for breakfast 2-3 times a week after truly understanding the health benefits.
Natto–which is rich in protein, vitamins, and minerals– helps maintain healthy cholesterol levels, reduces blood pressure, and can prevent heart disease. Some studies have suggested it can prevent certain cancers.
Once I trained myself to get used to flavor and smell, I actually crave it now.
It's definitely an acquired taste, but it's crazy to know that we are all capable of liking or appreciating something previously thought of as repulsive once we set our mind to it.
"Hiring managers of Reddit: What makes you immediately throw out a résumé?"
Not In It For The Long Run
"I once received an application from a man in his 60s."
"Solid CV, lots of experience."
"In his cover letter he wrote 'I'm applying because the Job Centre asked me to'."
"Please note that I intend to retire in 6 months time'."
"We had a good laugh, then sent him a very polite rejection letter and wished him a great retirement."-BeerPoweredNonsense
Season 1 Lol GIF by NBCGiphyMake Sure They Actually Get The Right Document...
"One time I had someone upload how to upload their resume from Dropbox instead of their resume."- rabidwhale
Always Proof Read!
"I'll usually still interview unless there is no relevant experience, but I've seen some atrocious resumes."
"I've seen people use crutch words like 'uh' in writing for a job description."
"I've also seen a sentence 4 lines long with zero punctuation."
"The same resume will have 'attention to detail' as a skill set."
"I've interviewed for one of those resumes, and the applicant said 'I dunno" to about 80% of my questions, and it turned out he didn't even know what job he applied for'."
"It's not that I'm overly picky, but if someone can't spend the 20 minutes or less that it takes to proof read their resume, are they going to put a lot of effort into their job?"
"Maybe, but it's hard to know."- ChristyM4ck
Read Book Club GIFMake Sure It's Legible
"The only time I have ever had to throw out a resume was because someone possibly had it in a bag with their lunch and the paper was soaking wet and dissolving as I tried to unfold it."
"It was just unacceptable to process."
"The application was left in a drop box so I don’t know if it was a prank or an actual applicant."- 416unknown
Unprofessional Email Address
"Back in 98 I asked a new group of hires at GIECO to write their email addresses on a list that was passed around."
"Remember email was kinda new back then.. "
"One young female employee's email address included 'mybaldc**tchie'."- catjugglinpimp
the messengers aol GIFNever Send Someone In Your Place
"It’s been a long time but I used to do hiring for a cinema."
"Staff were often young, for many it was a first job, making popcorn and selling tickets type of gig."
"I would not pursue anything where parents came in with a CV for their teenager or if parents were contacting me on behalf of their teen."
"Big red flag."
"Either their kid didn’t want he job in the first place or they’re incapable of taking initiative and it doesn’t bode well for how they’d be as an employee."- FigJamAndCitrus
"Having your parents submit your resume while you stand silently beside them."- krim2182
It's Pure, Dumb Luck!
"I remember a meme or maybe a tv skit from a while back."
"The hiring manager had a huge pile of resumes on his desk."
"Someone asked how he was going to sift through them all."
"He took 2/3rds of the pile, threw them in the trash, and remarked 'I don't hire unlucky people'."
"Lol."- SpecialSpite7115
Im Out Breaking News GIF by Homes.comGiphyAll About The Formatting
"This doesn’t matter 100% of the time but bad formatting."
"If it’s hard to read I probably won’t read it."- Far-Gain-3081
Depends On The Job
"If it's a professional position, significant spelling errors will make me pass on a resume."
"If it's a warehouse job or something, I'm less concerned."- staffsargent
Don't Treat It Like A Text Message!
"Former hiring manager here."
"I tossed MULTIPLE resumes that used text message abbreviations throughout the resume and cover letter and one that included emojis."
"While you can do pretty much anything from your phone, it doesn’t mean you should."- spectacularuhoh
text texting GIF by Fifth HarmonyGiphyChoose Your References Wisely
"Not me, but a friend who checks resumes/CVs had a belter."
"Candidate had a conviction and his reference was his friend 'Baz'."- LexiRae24
Make Sure You Have The Relevant Skills
"I know it’s pretty specific but If your looking for a scheduling job make sure you know how to use Excel and clearly state it on your resume."
"It will probably get thrown out otherwise."- LoyalPlanets
As stated before, no two hiring departments will have exactly the same prerequisites and red flags, so no matter how hard you work, your resume is never going to please everyone.
That being said, multiple misspellings and a cheeky e-mail address are a surefire guarantee of not pleasing anyone.