Falling in love or merely just dating is an emotional minefield.
Being able to trust someone completely is a superpower.
Because cheaters are everywhere.
Discovering you're being cheated on is the worst.
But also, the best, for you.
When you learn, you can take out the trash.
Redditor rammalammamemedongwanted to hear about the times a significant other betrayed you, so they asked:
"How did you find out your SO was cheating on you?"
If you're lonely... put on some Adele and Whitney and dance and cry it out. You'll realize you're better off. But let's hear some stories of people who chose differently.
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"I had a feeling for a while, but nothing concrete. We only had one car so she would drop me off at work and then go on to her work. We were supposed to have lunch together when she called and said she couldn’t make it, she was tied up at work. Boss heard I didn’t have lunch so he gave me the company truck to go pick up lunch for the shop."
"Drove to the fast food place my wife and I were supposed to have lunch at and saw her sitting outside with a coworker holding hands and feeding each other. I went through the drive thru, then honked at them. Her face went from confusion to shock and she tried to pull her hands away from the dude. Found out he was told I was her gay roommate."
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"Used her IPad on our honeymoon at Disney. She hadn’t used it in a while so when I powered it... all her texts from her phone synced over. Saw the whole affair flash before my eyes. Doing much better now than I was then!"
"I was taken out for wings with her best friend's husband and another of her guy friends - we hung out quite a bit. They knew I was clueless to what was happening but they liked me. :) I was told straight out by both of those dudes. Solid move by them - it sucked hard to hear but after a bit of time I really appreciated that they felt I was enough of a friend to let me know. It's been a few years since I've seen or talked to either of them. Good people those two guys are."
"Back when cell phones had limited minutes, I got notified that we were over our limit. Checked the last bill and nothing but her and her boss talking at all hours of the day. Then she stupidly left her e-mail open on my computer and I got to read how he enjoyed touching her boobs a lot."
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"Well the guy she was cheating with decided that he wanted her all to him self so he found me and told me about it."
People really are trash. Why am I still trying to date?
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"Her new boyfriend left 😘 on her Instagram picture. I clicked on his profile and his picture is them kissing. It was a pretty cool way to find out."
"My stay-at-home wife at the time got pregnant despite we hadn't had sex for a while and I had a vasectomy. She tried to hide her pregnancy under the guise of weight gain but the medical statements in the mail gave away the purpose of her doctor visits."
"She accused me of cheating out of the blue. Made me jump through crazy hoops to prove myself, but 'believed' me. Everything settled, 6 months later she did it again. It took two more of these to see the cycle, simple sleuthery led to the admitted truth that every time I was accused, she was the one cheating."
"I was early picking him up from work and saw the other woman dropping him off. They made out for a minute before he ran inside. He came out a few minutes later, having changed into his work shirt, and immediately started complaining about his coworkers."
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"I suspected him of having a thing for my friend but he always gaslit me into thinking I was just insecure and paranoid. He had his phone connected to the Bluetooth in our (shared) vehicle. A text from my friend popped up and before he could stop me, I pressed 'Read.'"
"Text message said 'I love you, can't wait for tomorrow.' That day ended a 7 year relationship."
Real bro move...
"The dude she cheated on me with had no idea I even existed and I was out of town visiting my dad in Boston. He sent me a message on Facebook telling me he's sorry but he had no idea I existed and he was drunk that night. He woke up before her and used the bathroom and saw my shaving kit."
"She said it was her roommate's but it was a 1 bedroom apartment. He did some snooping and found out she was dating me. Real bro move. I had no anger towards him, actually the opposite. He even invited me to have some drinks and he'd pay. I respectfully declined."
"Luckily we only had 6 weeks left on our lease. The most painful and awkward 6 weeks of my life. She threw away a 3 year relationship because she didn't wanna go to Boston but was mad that I still wanted to go without her. Now I'm happily married to a non-toxic and wonderful woman and that experience taught me a lot and allowed me to dodge a bullet."
months and months...
"Wife’s Apple ID was logged into the iPad we have for the kids and her texts were shared to it. I was setting up a movie for my kids to watch on a long drive and a text showed up on top of the screen from an unsaved number. The text was 3 hearts. I opened it up and holy f**kballs it had been going on for months and months. Totally freakin' wrecked me."
"We were on the couch and a message popped up on his phone that was on the coffee table. I kinda glanced down and he acted very nervous - grabbed the phone quickly and starting talking about how it was just his work blah blah blah - even though I didn't even ask or say anything."
"I did notice that the icon in the top corner was for a known hook up app. So the next day I searched for men seeking women in our area. Found an ad that he had made (He had put his phone number in the ad) took a screenshot of it and sent it to him and said to never talk to me again. (We weren't living together thankfully)."
"He sent me a string of messages that I never replied to. The first one was him denying it completely. Then he said that I was the one cheating, because why else would I be searching on that app. Then he said he made it to 'catch' me cheating. Then he was just insecure and wanted attention from other women, but totally wasn't going to do anything. The last message he finally admitted to it. I went and got tested and luckily hadn't caught anything. 0/10 wouldn't recommend."
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"Her roommate told me lol. Their house was always a freaking nightmare. The chore system must have been awful lol. They were best friends before the move in and they were each other's first roommate experience so they weren't prepared. I don't think the friendship lasted long afterwards."
"We were supposed to hang out after work but she bailed last minute with some shit excuse so I followed her. She lied about her plans and went back to her ex’s house. The next day when I saw her I just told her that I caught her in a lie, it’s a pretty bad one, and we’re done. She kept asking how I knew what she was doing and all I said was, 'no, I’m not gonna help you be a better liar.' She balled her little alligator eyes out."
"He left his phone open to someone named 'blocked' texting him about her weird sunburn from her swimsuit straps. Funny thing is, I wouldn’t have given it a second thought if the contact name in the phone was anything normal. 'So-and-so from work?' Whatever, not a second thought. But titling a contact 'blocked' (who clearly isn’t blocked since they’re messaging you!) is just a big red flag."
"I had a feeling for a while, it was always denied of course - directly and through a massive amount of gaslighting. Ultimately, the other woman was also married and her husband called me at work (found me via LinkedIn). Took everything I had to walk to my car to cry in private."
"I’m definitely in a much better place now (this all happened Fall of 2019). To answer some questions- I filed for divorce. No I didn’t get with the other woman’s husband. His main goal was stopping the behavior to work things out with his wife. I’m not sure how that ended up."
"He called me to tell me he was at his guy friends house. Okay love you have fun. Two seconds later my phone rings again and I can hear him and a woman laughing at 'how easy that was.'"
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"Got chlamydia. I knew I didn’t mess around, and my ex before her tested negative, so there wasn’t many options left. 1+1=2."
"The other woman knocked on my front door and asked me to take my kid and get out so that the two of them could be together and be happy. I told her she could have him, but they'd have to go because technically I owned the house. I then told him he was free to go. He did not go, sadly. She'd been dropped off by her ex who she'd cheated on with my (ex) husband. That was quite awkward."
Sometimes it's best to just stay single. Can't trust no one in these streets.
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