Risk is inevitable. Falling in love, making a career move, merely crossing the street is all a gamble. We can try to analyze and prepare but the guarantee is fantasy. All we can do is try and breathe deep. There are even people who make 'risk management' a career, but that just seems like a limp option. Nobody can ever truly factor the unknowns. Life is going to happen as she sees fit. When the plan goes haywire, you reflect and learn how to implement better next time.
Redditor u/_lady_macbeth_ wanted to know who has some life plans that didn't go as expected by asking.... What was your "The risk I took was calculated, but man am I bad at math" moment?
That's how Shakespeare did it!
GiphyEvery essay I've ever written the night before it was due. some-canadian-kid
Do you one better I would write them morning of. skysmurf
Stay Sober for Success!
Alcohol was definitely involved, not even in the planning process, only in the execution which ironically is why I ended up making my flight. I can't remember the time frame, but I got up fairly early, catch a bus to the train station, and try to buy a ticket at a ticket machine. I then encounter the problem of being so drunk that I can barely read what is on the screen.
Even with one eye closed I struggle to decipher the letters, it also didn't help me that it was in Swedish (quite ironically since Swedish is the official Scandinavian dialect for drunken idiots). Anyhow I spend so long at this machine that I missed my train and have to take a taxi to the airport. Taxi gets me faster to the airport than train would have, I still almost don't make my flight. Had I not been so drunk I missed my train, sober me had been to blame for drunk me missing my friends wedding. jesuisjens
Listen to your Gut!
About 22 months into my PhD I was starting to think "this isn't working, I should quit while I haven't wasted too much time."
I tried to stick it out and salvage it. I ended up quitting after about 38 months. Shoulda left earlier.I learned enough about my field (theoretical/computational chemistry) to know that it was probably the right decision to leave, although this happened recently enough that I cannot yet justify that with evidence. Hopefully in 5 years I'll be able to look back and know for sure
As to myself, well, I guess I learned that, despite what I thought in high school and college, there IS a level of "abstract but fascinating unapplicable knowledge for the sake of knowledge," that not even i can see the point in spending years of effort on. iammaxhailme
Find the Words....
Sitting down to finish my speech I needed to give at 2 today (30 minute drive) at 1pm thinking I'd have time to finish, practice, and dress my toddler and get him out the door. izziev
Beware Atlanta....
GiphyDriving to Atlanta, which is an hour away, for an appointment without leaving time to adjust for the traffic. SerDire
When Atlanta traffic is involved, nobody wins. Jehovacoin
Look out Below!
I thought I could go down the stairs 2 steps than 1 step, I ended up going like this Step 1 Step 3 Step 4 Step 7 Step 12 Step 19 Step 23 Bottom floor. RedDeath1026
When I was a kid I watched my cat climb down the stairs headfirst on all fours at speed, so I figured I could do it. I got two stairs down before blasting to the bottom. The cat was far more nimble than I. RangerGordsHair
Every Number possible....
I decided since I was good at math, I wasn't going to study for my math final in Senior year HS.
Turns out that when the teacher says "everything you have learned" LITERALLY MEANS EVERYTHING! I had to remember everything from 2+2 to how to find the area of an ellipse. Fr0thier
Where is your compass?
Probably the time I thought it would be a good idea to leave my hotel and try to navigate a city in a foreign country by myself. Not only could I not find the group of people I was there with, when I tried to go back to the hotel, I couldn't find that either.
I did find them eventually... after three hours of walking, two taxi rides, and one nervous breakdown in front of a very nice travel agent. YourLocalBi
With extra syrup please....
When I thought I could run the 7 hills of Edinburgh cross country race (15 miles, and 1000+ ft ascent) in under 4 hours when I can hardly run a 5k.
I made it to hill 4, then ran straight into a coffee shop and ate some cake before going home. bugbugladybug
Just "1"
Took the AP Calc test as a high school senior. Answers in the practice test had a frustrating pattern of just being 1. Five minutes of rigorous calculation got you a grand total of 1. Got to a problem on the exam, had no idea what to do, drew a massive 1 over the entire page. MattMeduri
You're no stand up...
GiphyMade a joke in an interview, it was about stereotyping an area I grew up in. I didn't get the job. "we do drugs and swear a lot." northernlight217
Guess they didn't need to worry about the drug test at least. theillini19
Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.