Reddit user _Halboro_ asked: 'What was something fairly small that made you feel betrayed by your SO?'
When you're in a relationship, the things your significant other—or sig-O—does hit different.
Teasing remarks you'd laugh off from friends can feel like a knife in the heart when your romantic partner says it.
Minor slights can easily become major issues in your relationship if you feel vulnerable.
Reddit user _Halboro_ asked:
"What was something fairly small that made you feel betrayed by your [significant other]?"
"When he was doing a work contract overseas I sent him love letters every two weeks to feel connected."
"When he got home and unpacked I found many of them unopened."
"My high school girlfriend lent my hoodie to someone else."
"Gah! I had a University BF lend My hoodie to a girl (who was a smoker, too. 🤮)."
"There were at least 15 other single guys there that could have stepped up and lent her their sweaters, but mine was up for grabs!"
"And when I got it back it reeked. So, annoyed with him on multiple levels."
"My sister was in the hospital and he didn't do the dishes while I was gone for 3 days."
"When he got Covid, he was quarantined downstairs. I waited on him hand and foot."
"Three days later, I got Covid but while he was feeling better and still quarantining himself, I had to be sick and care for our son."
"I was stooped over the counter trying to make him dinner and he just went back downstairs. I’ll always remember that."
"My sister, nephew, and mom went on a vacay for about 9 days including travel days."
"When she and my nephew got home, the sink was full of dirty dishes and so was the island in their kitchen. Their island is HUGE, bigger than what I would consider average for a home."
"There were also trash bags just sitting around the house and it was just absolutely disgusting."
"It's small, but one year we were both working 15-18 hour days but had Thanksgiving off. I planned the menu, he didn't give input."
"I ordered the ingredients online during my lunch break to pick up after work because I didn't have time to shop."
"I woke up early, made everything. Cleaned the dishes and the kitchen after."
"All he did was complain."
"I made too much. I had too much wine (3 glasses over 7 hours)."
"After all that work and not even a compliment or a thank you?
"Yeah—we divorced. That was our last Thanksgiving together."
"After complaining for months that I never got to sleep in, despite being the only one to get up to the kids in the night, he finally let me sleep in one morning."
"I woke up hearing him quietly saying to the kids 'Mummy’s had long enough; go wake her up'."
"I only had maybe an hour extra. He always had several."
"I'm almost always up first. I tend the pets, get the kids going and make coffee. 20 min routine."
"Every morning I'd bring him a cup of coffee and open the curtains to let some sunlight in and then leave and he would play on his phone and sip coffee for half hour while I tended the kids and got to work."
"Then he complained that just because I was up didn't mean he had to be up."
"Guess who doesn't get hot coffee in bed anymore."
"My ex would skip the songs I liked that came on the radio."
"Was on my way back from Turkey with a nice stash of dried fruit from Afghanistan (imported to Turkey)."
"Declared it on my customs form."
"Got detained for agricultural reasons, said they would let me go but had to take the dried fruit."
"I looked and looked but could not find it. Was detained for hours."
"Turns out my girlfriend ate it all while I was asleep on the flight."
"We were going through airport security together."
"She went first and when she was being screened, pointed at me and said 'make sure you check my boyfriend, he always has knives' as a joke and then I got detained for a search and questioning and almost missed the flight.
"And no, I didn't have any knives other other contraband on me. Then she got mad at me for almost missing our flight."
"LIKE WHAT DID YOU THINK WOULD HAPPEN HERE EMILY‽‽"
"When we were signing our first lease she joked with the landlord about how rowdy I am, to 0 chuckles or even a smile.
"I wanted to bang my head into a wall."
"I had a friend who dumped his girlfriend when he overheard her making fun of his (admittedly, rather nerdy) sister to her friends."
"He said it wasn’t just about loyalty to his sis, it was about not wanting to be with someone who has to put others down to feel better about herself."
"Always thought it was admirable."
"The most extreme case I know of is my dad and the girlfriend he had before my mom came along."
"He and the gf were high school sweethearts and had been together for three years. They were both dying to see Back to the Future 2, a movie that had been highly anticipated for years."
"He had a family emergency the day it came out so they agreed to see it the following Monday. He found out from friends she went to see it with a douchey guy friend my dad never really liked."
"He was so hurt and she was so unapologetic—her attitude was 'I’ll go see it with you too! Why did I have to wait?' even though they’d agreed to see it together. He told her they needed to take a break."
He fully meant for it to be temporary, just until he cooled off, but then he met my mom when he went to see the movie by himself…and he never looked back.
"He does feel a bit guilty though because his ex was pretty devastated when she found out he’d met someone else and wanted to end things for good."
People felt these were minor slights, but many seem pretty major from the outside looking in.
Most ended the relationship being described.
I guess it's proof positive that little things—good or bad—mean a lot.
Reddit user Kenybrown asked: 'What’s the reason you left your ex?'
Ending a relationship is never easy.
In several cases, the reasons for doing so might also be unexpected.
More often than not, it simply becomes apparent to both members of the couple that the relationship has simply run its course, and there is no future.
Other times, however, there might be an inciting incident that made staying in the relationship no longer tenable.
Possibly a surprising act by one member of the couple, or a longstanding secret that was finally unearthed.
"What’s the reason you left your ex?"
"Lied about business finances."
"Discovered 95k of personal credit card debt used to fake its success."-
"Lived more like roommates than lovers."- ojyelims·
"She got pregnant by another man, tried to pass it off as mine, I called BS, was right, and somehow *I'm* the every other weekend parent to our 2 kids."- disturbednadir·
"Caught with her ex in my house."- Working-Field-1568
"He cheated on me and then insisted on having me back."
"Dumba** me said yes but after more months of his lies and him not taking any accountability for his actions I left."- Hekatevenstar
"Realized that I came into the relationship with everything, and after 5 years together, realized I had nothing."
"Lost all my self-confidence, sense of who I was, all my friends, all my money, and all hope for the future."- FoxsNetwork
You Could Hear It
"When you can hear the lack of emotion in your own voice, you know you’ve gone too far to come back."
"That’s when it happened for me."
"I heard me give up."- SanguineSuprises
Enough Was Enough
"I was tired of crying all the time."- Sexyseculargoddess69
One Sided Relationship
"Narcissism is not easy to live with."- CrimsonCamellia13
"I supported him through everything he couldn’t support me when I needed him."
"I realized that he’s completely useless to me because I still feel alone while in the relationship."
"My life is much nicer now."- Pleasant_Lemon6687
"She said that it was her or my daughter."
"She will not be second to a child."
"I didn’t even say good by just got up and walked away."- SGT-Hooves
"She had a sugar daddy."
"Two years later he went to prison for embezzling (Failure to pay) state taxes collected from his employees."
It's always noble to try and make a relationship work.
Sometimes, however, a relationship can be truly broken beyond compare, and there is simply no saving it.
And should your health and safety be at risk, it's unwise to even put in the effort.
I've always let go of people too late.
Because I ignore the warning signs.
Half of the time I can sense something off and I choose to get closer because... "that'll fix the problem."
Not all friendships are meant to last forever.
That can be a difficult truth to hold.
People grow apart or become evil.
You just have to pray they don't come back with blackmail.
Redditor TreyTheEyeball wanted to hear how great friendships came to an end and asked everyone:
"What made you unfriend/hate your best friend?"
The less friends the better.
Cheaper for Christmas.
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"Realized he wasn't just roasting me as friends do but was treating me like a human punching bag in front of other ppl to make jokes."
I have never looked back...
"He was a pathological liar, manipulative and told all of my most trusted secrets to everyone because he wanted to feel powerful and like he controlled me. Haven’t spoken a word in 5 years and I have never looked back."
"Had a friend just like that. Eventually tried to drive a wedge between my fiancé, me, and all of our friends. Our closest friends kind of let me in on what was going on behind the scenes, which we could already tell, and I eventually booted him from my wedding altogether."
"10 yrs later I was going to be moving back into the state he lived in, and I reached out to see if he’d grown up. He apologized for everything, owning it all seemingly. Then a few hours later informed me he was a realtor and to let him know once I’m house hunting. Never spoke to him again after that."
15 Years Gone
"I let her and her little dog move in with me and rent a room while she got back on her feet. It was a double wide trailer and she had her own bathroom across from her room. She was nasty, dirty and a drunk. I knew she liked to drink, but not like what I experienced."
"She would leave used tampons on the bedroom floor, plates of half eaten food pushed under the bed and liquor bottles and beer cans all over the place. She would lock her dog out of her room so she could sleep in or nap and it would terrorize my animals."
"I found out from a neighbor that she would sit out on the back porch drinking and instead of coming in to use the restroom she would relieve herself in my little patch of backyard at all hours of the night (she admitted that she did this). The last straw was when I came home from a shopping day out with my daughter and she saw the purchases and said 'well I guess you don’t need my rent then.' A 15 year friendship ruined."
"I was trying to quit weed. I asked him 1 thing. If you wanna hang out this week while i'm in the early stages could you not bring any over. He FREAKED out. Kicked up a massive fuss about how I should have willpower. Finally I said fine just don't come over for a couple of weeks while I get my head straight. So he apologised said he was wrong. Came over. Sparked up a pre rolled joint 2 minutes in. F**k you Craig."
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"He got my gf pregnant and congratulated me as a new dad at birth. Didn't figure it out until a few years later."
This is all a mess of scandal.
"He started being an a**hole for no reason, I swear. One day he just started to be mean towards me, even to the point that he insulted me many times. I still think about how we went from being 'best friends' to ignoring each other. What did I do to him? It's like he became a totally different person from one day to another."
4 to about 12...
"I wonder if childhood best friends are more a result of proximity, rather than affinity. It seems more common to drift apart once your lives take off."
"I’ve come to realize this too. My best friend from age 4 to about 12 was really just because our parents hung out we lived close and once we got older had much different interests and proximity and in the early grade school years had mostly boys in our classes and we were the only girls that knew each other for several years."
Things got hard...
"Drugs, we'd been neighbors and friends since we were a few months old."
"At college we met new people as you do. We'd always had other friendship groups outside of each other so I didn't really know her new friends. She started off smoking weed with them, not my thing but pretty harmless in the grand scheme of things."
"Eventually she started taking harder drugs when we'd go out. It was always me that got her home safe."
"It just got to the point where I'd had enough, I couldn't watch her destroy herself like that. I tried to get her help but she wouldn't take it. So I just left, cut all ties and moved away (the move was planned already). No idea what happened to her or if she managed to turn it around, I hope so."
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"She only called or texted to brag or because she needed something. Everything was about her, all the time."
Not every relationship is meant to be forever.
Be at peace about it.
Affairs and infidelity are sadly a more common part of life than we care to admit.
People cheat. it seems to be part of the human condition.
Are we meant to be monogamous?
That's a story for a different article.
I say though, if you're going to cheat... have some basic human decency.
Don't cheat with people you all know.
And how are BFFs not automatically off limits?
Redditor Gifwii wanted to hear all the ways we'd all react when betrayed by the ones we love.
So they asked:
"If you caught your best friend having sex with your wife, what would you do?"
How can people betray one another like that?
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"Be weirded out because they are brother and sister."
"Haha... I'm also dating my best friend’s sister."
"I'm more concerned on how he found her body."
"If he's really your best friend, he helped bury it."
"I don't think he would. I had him neutered as a puppy."
"This reply was made extremely funny (or concerning) by the fact that I took it as someone neutering an actual person when they became friends."
Never Cry Wolf...
"Take his car keys and drive to his place. It's all yours now buddy."
"Hol' up, remember to make it official. You have to p*ss a border around your new acquisition like in Never Cry Wolf, and if any relatives of the former owner are present you need to mark the ones you can't mate with, and you know, mate with the others."
"With that logic, I guess his house and and family are mine now? That's okay with me, his wife is pleasant to be around."
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"That happened to me 30 years ago and I haven’t been able to fall in love since."
"I'd be more unwilling to make best friends than rather than unable to develop a crush."
The rudeness of it all.
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"Ask if she wants help..."
"Since they're the same person."
"Have sex with his wife. It’s only fair."
"My ex fiancée had an affair with a married man. Talked to his wife, she and I made a sex video and sent it to them."
"I'm not a vengeful nor petty person but this kind of turned me on."
"Record it for evidence then talk to a divorce lawyer on how to get a divorce without losing anything."
"Thank them both and move on with my life."
"In most states, the fault isn't a thing that matters beyond the reason. It just may waive the cooling off period... at fault divorces mattering in regards to separation of property ended in the 70's for the vast majority of the country."
"Apparently they discovered that people lie, and it is rarely a clear cut 'this person is the only one guilty.'"
"I'd have to leave, or else I'd commit murder. I would then leave forever, I think I would just leave everything behind and become a nomad at that point and never look back."
"Also my first thought. Never a more compelling moment to finally hit the road and live every day like it's my last."
"Maybe tomorrow I'll wanna settle down..."
Lost to Me
"Well, it is an extreme level of cheating. One thing is to find your wife in bed with a lover but whole other to find her with your best friend. It is multi-level betrayal and that would leave a huge impact on my future life. Not that I would be sorry for losing that person but because it would make me hard to trust anyone after that. Hope that never happens to me or anyone I know."
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"Exclaim, 'Bob! What the hell? I HAVE to sleep with her, but you??!!'"
This is more common than you think. Watch Dateline.
How would you react in this situation? Let us know in the comments.
*The following article contains discussion of suicide/self-harm.
Life can never prepare us for the curveballs hurled our way. If we survive the challenges, it's time to count our blessings.
"What was the most painful moment of your life?"
Medical procedures and ailments were at the top of the list as some of the most painful experiences.
"Sneezing after corrective thoracic surgery with fluid in my lungs. Everything went dark for a second. After that I could suddenly surpress sneezes (most of the time)."
"Being diagnosed with cancer twice."
"For anyone wondering I was diagnosed with stage 2A Nodular Sclerosis Hodgkin's Lymphoma both times. I am and have been in remission for about 5 months."
"For anyone fighting KEEP FIGHTING!"
This Really Sucked
"Had a catheter inserted into my calf to suck out bloodclots, I had to be mostly coherent in case the doctor needed me to respond to him. My heart rate went from about 65bpm to 140bpm when he was inserting it... I never want to experience that kind of pain ever again."
"My max pain was when being fitted with a metal halo for a brain MRI. The 4 screws on the halo had to actually contact my skull bones and poke slightly into them. The staff first injected liberal amounts of Novocain into the 4 locations, then quickly tightened the screws. Even with the Novocain, the pain of having screws inserted directly into skull bones was excruciating. It softened after about 15 seconds later as the drugs took effect, but that first 15 seconds is quite memorable."
"Wisdom tooth rot. Coupled with some kind of nerve pain. Plus for the removal, the doc said I needed antibiotics for 3-4 days to remove the infection before he could do the surgery."
"My experience with pain isn't a lot. But Ive had dislocated shoulders, elbows, had a broken ankle, 3-4 times terrible gastro pain. And i dealt with them fine enough. No biggie."
"But persistent tooth nerve pain was, holy sh*t, like nothing I've ever experienced ever. As a 30 year old dude, all i could do was just lie face down on my pillow and cry."
"Physical pain - Kidney Stone."
"Though in comparison to holding my father's hand while he breathed his last breath (esophageal cancer) . . . I'd rather have had a few more Kidney Stones."
These people experienced emotional trauma.
Losing A Best Friend
"When I was in my early twenties, my best friend committed suicide. I couldn't even sit inside at her funeral because I was crying too hard and loudly. It's been twenty years, and I still think about her a lot and get triggered at random things that remind me of her."
"I caught my wife in an affair and it totally broke me, but the worst part was when I found out that the affair was longer than our marriage and that none of the children were mine. Just kinda woke up one day and found out my entire adult life was a lie. She settled down with him in a nice little house they bought while she was still married to me. He dumped her because he couldn't deal with the kids."
Salt On The Wound
"Finding my husband in bed, doing the deed with my friend. He left me for her."
"His death in a car crash 6 months later, leaving my 3 kids (all under 8 years old) without a father."
"Having to deal with her grief at the funeral."
"Being abandoned by his family while they supported her emotionally and financially while my kids had no help from them."
Unfortunate circumstances led to painful injuries, and even worse, death.
"I fell over at a Turkish waterpark, knocking my 2 front teeth clean out of my mouth. For the next 20mins they shoved a hose in my face to wash the constant bleeding."
"The teeth are probably still in the pool today."
"I got a chip in my tooth after being kicked into a pool railing as a kid. I can't even imagine how painful it must be to lose two whole teeth."
Game Gone Wrong
"Had the pleasure of getting 7 teeth kicked out of my head by some clowns playing 'the knock out game'. Waking up with my jaw broken, skull fractured and several broken ribs to the sight of my teeth laying around me on the ground was pretty memorable. Doctors poked my teeth back in and wired my broken jaw shut. Teeth survived and still functional 25 years later. They’re much more crooked though."
"Getting your teeth knocked loose is definitely a unique type of pain. I didn’t notice the broken bones until after gathering my teeth up. When I tried to fit them back into my mouth is when I realized my jaw was broken. After that the rib and skull fractures became apparent."
"The death of my girlfriend. We were in the shower, she stepped out, said, 'Oh God,' falling back into the shower, I caught her but she died of an aneryusm."
The worst physical pain I felt was from my first severe sun poisoning from when I went tubing for four hours in Arizona.
I had no idea I was allergic to the sun screen my friends gave me, and I liberally sprayed my entire body with it.
During the lazy river excursion, I noticed my arms were as red as a cooked lobster. Later that night, my arms had swelled to almost twice the size and when I bent my arm, the skin ruptured and a significant amount of clear liquid poured out from the opening.
To describe the sensation as painful was an understatement.
The combination of sun poisoning and the sun block ruined me for life, and to this day, I can't have direct UV exposure for more than 30 minutes.
So, yeah, the sun is not my friend.
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
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