People Reveal The Advice They'd Give To Someone Who's Dating Their Ex

The dating scene can be really tough, and obviously one of the most difficult elements is going to be the breaking up period.

For this reason, some Redditors shared the advice they would give to someone who had only just begun to date one of their ex partners.


Redditor drifterdodger asked:

"What advice would you give the person dating your ex?"

Last But Certainly Not Least

"Which one? For most, I would just say I hope it works out better for you than it did me, but for one of them, I'd tell you to treat her like a princess because she deserves the best."

- Rogukast1177

Mistakes Were Made

"Treat him well because he will treat you better than you have ever known. Make him laugh because he’ll make you laugh like you’ve never known."

"Let him hold the door open for you, he really wants to. Hold him back when he holds you and don’t let go."

"Don’t make the mistakes I did."

- abastreusmonzuzu

Be Communicative

“She’s wonderful, you’re the luckiest man alive. Treat her with all the love and respect she deserves. Make her feel safe, secure, loved, and desired."

"Take it from me, don’t project. Work on yourself if necessary so that you don’t pass that on to her and hurt her in any way. And if you do hurt her, talk to her, communicate, talk about it, and don’t keep it all in."

"Just be kind and loving, put yourself out there, and fight alongside her, not with her."

- iceman_x2

Fun in the Kitchen

"She’s a great cook, so if you’re a foodie, then inquire about all sorts of exotic stuff you want to try. She’ll probably make it for you."

- Whowhatwhynguyen

Underlying Insecurity

"Understand that when she says she hopes you have fun hanging out with your friends, she is actually furious that you decided to be with them instead of her, no matter how many consecutive nights you’ve spent together."

"This will then lead to her imagining several ridiculous and unrealistic scenarios of what you are 'actually doing,' which will then likely lead to her having a panic attack, and you will then need to leave whatever you are doing that night to go to her house and try to calm her down."

"So yeah, aside from that minor issue, she’s great."

- Godsfavorite_sinner

Rating: Zero Stars

"Flee. Get away, far away. Change your number, name, appearance, possibly gender."

- Expensive_Rhubarb_87

Would Not Recommend

"Just, don't."

- steppinonp**sclams

Secret's Out

"Check her phone once in a while. She’s cheated on you with pretty much every guy she’s ever met, and with every one of her exes, regularly."

- theronsharma

Textbook Ex Material

"As narcissists will, she will make you feel important. Once you are hooked, then she will manipulate you to bend your will. You will never live up to her expectations, so you will be seen as not a priority."

"Lastly, the sex is meh and I always thought she felt dirty by doing it, so that’s why we stopped."

- Fanabala3

Healing Time May Vary

"She needs to fix herself. She never gave herself time to heal and looks for healing in others instead of working on herself."

"She’s kind and good-hearted, but needs healing."

- EveSixxx

They're Just Hangry

"You can end arguments with food."

- heinous_nutsack

Sudden Heartbreak

"She loves steak but is scared of steak knives."

"She dislikes pork despite growing up in a region famous for its cuisine. Bacon is okay."

"If she falls asleep during the movie, let her lean onto your shoulder. She likes that."

"She can be quite funny with Facebook messenger text stickers but prepare for a shy and sweet person in real life."

"She loves to share her culture (mainland Chinese) and wants to learn about American culture so be well educated in Western sciences, arts, and history to answer her questions and equally eager to learn about hers."

"Take small steps literally. She was only 5'-0" with shoes and does not like a brisk pace."

"If it doesn't work out in person or things happen to where she had to go back to her homeland, don't expect a long-distance relationship. One day the messages do stop coming and your heart will break."

- playingwithechoes

Nostalgia Hurts

"If she's angry, buy her some chicken nuggets and milk tea."

"If she's sad, go to her house and make some instant noodles for her."

"If she's happy, well... good job, my friend."

"Make sure she drinks lots of water because she usually forgets to, make sure you play with her hair, and make sure to hold her hand whilst you're driving."

"Make sure to always say good morning to her, make sure that you prioritize her, make sure you give her lots of attention, and make sure you love her more than I did."

"I'm not crying, you are."

- fattyboomba123

Depends on the Ex

"Usually, I'd say run, but since it's the a**hat they cheated on me with (knowingly), I'd say: you deserve each other so go to h**l holding hands; I wouldn't want you to get lost on the way."

"To the other ex's partner: You are privileged to be loved by such an amazing and kind-hearted person, so hold on to and nourish this relationship to the best of your abilities, and hopefully it will make you both happy to the end of your days."

- gaylordtheblue

Call Anytime

"Take care of him. And if you ever decide to leave him, call me, I'll be there to pick him up."

- dreamingbabes

Usually when people think of talking about exes, the horror stories are usually the first to come to mind.

Fortunately for these Redditors, there were easily as many sweet and nostalgic stories as there were problematic ones.

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