There is so much to learn about one another.
But we never ask.
It's all too embarrassing for most.
It's why most teens tune out Health class.
RedditorTWDTourist69 wanted all the ladies to fess up with their burning questions.
"Women of Reddit, what question about men do you wish to be answered?"
I've always wondered what the ladies want to know.
Stay Standing
Schitts Creek Pain GIF by CBCGiphy"How often do you guys accidentally sit on your testicles? I can't help but think it'd be happening to me all the time if I had them."
sophia1185
"Depending on the size of your testicles/thighs, but I personally never sit on them. I guess they're just not loose enough to get underneath my legs, which I'm very glad about."
Poekemoes
Anatomy
"How do you pee if you have an erection? Or is that not an option? Is it painful?"
GuavaMelon
"It's h*rd (pun not intended)! Depends how erect the penis is. Full mast = almost impossible, without rotating 90 degrees. Bound to make a mess. Flow is very low and it'll take forever to finish. Half-Mast: Doable, not as comfortable as normal, but generally fine."
Powercutters
Sit Here
"Do you guys actually like when a girl sits on your lap?"
OkCheesecake2811
"Easy yes as long as she is light enough to not cause legs to cramp. If not, still yes but she needs to be aware that we will NEVER say anything and instead suffer in silence but she should either shift around a bit to allow us to adjust or just do a quick tease then change positions."
Dakkon_B
Hold Me
"How normal is it for you to hug your best friends?"
a_living_being_
"If we haven't seen each other for a while, sure. most of the time it's more like a pat on the back coupled with a handshake, if that counts."
astroduck-maurice
"Bro hug. Time of embrace is dependent on three (3) factors..."
"a) Strength of bond (Super Bro / Bro)..."
"b) Length of time between seeing each other..."
"c) Comfortability of other friend to accept said warm embrace..."
"If it's been a few weeks since I've seen my super secure super bro he's getting a solid 3 seconds."
popalock85
Hold Me
love sexy GIFGiphy"Do you think about our boobs while hugging us?"
Separate-Piano-3033
"Not all the time, if we're interested in you then yes."
lilredx
Can we just hold one another? Make it easy.
Fried
"Do men actually like thighs?"
kikuu12
"There is entire TV series and books devoted SOLELY to thighs. Heck there is a RELIGION devoted to thighs. Yes, Yes we do."
Dakkon_B
Wet Parts
"Do your family jewels ever sweat like our boobs do?"
gay_idiot53
Absolutely. In fact, that is mostly the reason you will see us 'adjust' so much or spread our legs. That crap will glue themselves to your thigh and nothing short of manual adjustment will remove them."
Dakkon_B
"God yes. Testicle hygiene is extremely important. Don't put up with a guy who doesn't regularly wash them."
noughtagroos
Control
"Do you find the narrative of men not being able to control themselves when it comes to sex annoying and/or offensive?"
coolname-
"You can definitely control it, don’t let any man say otherwise. It’s disappointing rather than annoying or offensive because bad men have used it as an excuse so much that there are people who believe it."
AwesomeWaiter
"Hate it when I’m movies there is this scene where she kisses him and he accepts, but has a partner and says he’s a man he couldn’t control himself. Totally bs yes you’re horny but that’s only a slight inconvenience."
DescriptionMain3214
Take This
"I often want to get my hubby a 'small appreciation something' that would be the equivalent to flowers, chocolate, etc for us. What is a similar-intended gift that would make you smile?"
NotoriousM0N
"Initiate some token of affection. Women vastly underestimate the impact of something as simple as a hand on the back, or a 10 second shoulder massage. We don't need things - We can buy our own sh*t. We can't buy genuine affection, appreciation, or the feeling of being needed or depended on."
Necro138
The Great Divide
Art Peeing GIF by badblueprintsGiphy"When using a urinal - do you want a small divider panel or is it pointless?"
"Men I've polled give mixed responses."
"Signed - Female architect."
MzFrazzle
"Men who don't care about a divider, won't care that is there. Men who prefer to have it, would curse at the architect or the builder for cheapening out on a sad sheet of metal that does a lot of peace of mind."
bad_mech
Stamina
"Why is it that sometimes you can go for one round, but then other times you can go four rounds back to back?"
ikarleighh
"Sex drive and stamina, can vary day to day.:
lilredx
"Like everything in life, why can you eat alot and sometimes barely finish your plate, why can you go intense in the gym and sometimes barely be able to finish your reps, etc."
speckhuggarn
Self Care
"What do you guys do for self care. Like if you just need some time to yourself, or if you treat yourself to something special."
pamela9792
"Not enough, it's the reason male mental health is in such crisis."
"We do have hobbies like gaming/sports/projects but I find those more to be escapism than actual self care to address our feelings/needs and reflect on them."
davetherooster
Rosetta Stone
"I just want to understand what that secret, unspoken language you all have with each other is."
"It sometimes seems to me that just a single look or a nod at a guy you've never said a word to, is years of conversations?"
ally-sha
"The up nod is for the homies, the down nod is for fellow men. Eyes go wide and stare straight at you means 'wtf is happening?' but eyes go wide then dart in a different direction means “'ollow my eye point to see a grade-A booty'”.
tgrote555
Temp Control
"How are you never cold?? My guy friends/male relatives are always lounging around with their shirts off. I’d be freezing my a** off if I did that."
Geodudette2014
"(Some scientific explanation from the web) Partly this is because, for a given bodyweight, women tend to have less muscle tissue to generate heat."
"But the hormone oestrogen also has a big impact because it has the side effect of thickening the blood slightly. This reduces blood flow to the tiny capillaries supplying the extremities."
"A 1998 study at the University of Utah found that this can mean women have hands, feet and ears that are 3°C colder than a man’s."
"(Personal experience) Often we just don't care about being cold or we act like we're not freezing to portray ourselves as 'strong' or 'manly.'"
Noschu1302
Token of affection
"Do you feel emasculated when a woman performs a typically male-assigned gender role? (ie. buys you flowers, opens the door for you, proposes to you)"
still_on_a_whisper
"Dude, if my SO would buy me flowers, I would be over the moon. That’s deeply romantic to me."
Ok-Lobster-Username
"My partner makes more than I do and supports us financially. While I still have a 9-5, I do almost all of the child raising stuff such as cooking meals, bedtime, etc. The roles are reversed in our case. I love it. I absolutely adore having a strong, powerful woman in my life. But it takes a secure and confident man to be able to do that. You gotta fully let go of societal expectations."
First Move
"Is it actually attractive for a woman to make the first move? I've been called weird or trying too hard because I try to initiate a conversation."
Suspicious_Opinions
"It’s usually really awkward for a guy to think of how to start a conversation with a girl. If you like a guy and he’s been wondering if you like him, then yeah it’s a pretty attractive trait that most guys like."
adsxz6_has_adhd
Men are weird. What did you learn ladies?
Any questions you'd like to add to the list? Let us know in the comments below.
Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.
