Us women have to put up with a lot of weird sh*t from men. Sometimes, it seems that they're just completely oblivious to what we want and need, but we just can't figure out how to say it. Luckily, we can all vent about it on Reddit. Here are some of the things guys do to seem sexy, when in reality, they just aren't.
u/Ulcrar asked: Women of Reddit, what is something Men do that they think is sexy/attractive but really isn't?
What makes them think this is a good idea?
On dating websites, post photos of them posing with at least 8 scantily clad women who work at the tropical resort that the guy is staying at.
"See what girls I can pay to stick around me, be thankful I might bone you."
So disappointing.
GiphyGoing to into great detail about all the things they're going to do when they get you in bed, and then doing exactly zero of those things.
Don't bring me into the bedroom thinking I'm getting an evening of pleasure when the reality is 10 seconds of jackhammer that's only enjoyable for you.
"I'm going to roll you up in a blanket and feed you pizza."
Yes and yes.
If you have to constantly tell people how big of a deal you are, you're not a big deal. Also don't be a jerk to the staff.
Yes please. If you're awful to hard working people who just do their jobs, you're awful in general. Such a turn off.
Talk about toxic masculinity.
Dated a guy once that took the masculine thing too far. I couldn't call him cute without him flipping out. He wouldn't ever call anything cute either. Wouldn't even run his hands through my hair because it was too girly.
Guy I'm with now falls asleep playing with my hair and it is HEAVEN.
This is weird.
GiphyOrder my food for me. Not in a cute, I know what she wants kind of way but a dominant a-hole kind of way.
I once was taken on a date, he insisted in driving and drove like a jackass there and back, blasted the same T-pain song over and over, then as we proceeded to order, he ordered everything for me, from the water to my horrible salad. I STILL PAID HALF THE BILL!!!!! One of the worst dates ever. 0 out of 10 would recommended dating this guy.
So annoying.
Being overprotective in a cringy way. I have nothing against a guy who is considerate but I really don't need someone who wants to punch every other guy that just looks at me (or even someone who makes sh*t up like "I heard these strangers over there talking about you" and frowning at them).
Like wtf dude, make me feel safe if you want to but don't make me feel like I'm made of glass.
YES.
Trusting you know what your girl wants is not the same thing is telling her what she wants.
One is knowing her well enough to give her what she wants the other is doing what you want and telling her she should 'lighten up and give it a try'.
We see right through it.
GiphyLying to make themselves look smart. The truth will come out. And when it does, they will look like a dumb*ss.
I was in a relationship with a guy way before all this metoo and the mentioning of red flags. I knew he was lying but I was so sucked in and people just kept saying to give him a benefit of the doubt. He lied about SO MANY things. Like buying Christmas gifts for me and my family and the gifts breaking in the mail. He made my cry at least once a day then broke up over the phone with me.
He knocked up some girl and got married a week later. He's a scumbag with two ugly kids and she's a MLM consultant.
Let's be real, they probably can't,
Talking about how they can "take down" someone. Okay you do that..
Oh god I HATE when men tell hypothetical stories about the type of guys who would get their a**es kicked if they dared to disrespect them. It's not making you look like a hero, just a violent jack*ss.
That's uncomfortable.
I had an ex that would put on his "sultry" voice and tell me it's time for bed.
It really came out sounding creepy and not a bit romantic.
Physically, we had good times but I had to cringe past his verbal intro.
I don't think anyone feels comfortable with that.
GiphyWhen they stare at you from across the way and don't stop.
I don't feel comfortable when that happens.
YES.
Physical violence/fighting. Last thing I want on a night out is for you to get in a fight. It's just a mindless display of testosterone. Give me a man who walks away from a fight any day.
No means no.
When they try to "win you over" after you've rejected their advances.
It has never once been attractive behaviour, only really weird for me. But then again I'm not attracted to men so perhaps that's just a me thing. Maybe some guys can make it cute by just showing they won't leave you right off, the ones I've encountered just sort of seem to be pushing themselves on me and I'm not a fan.
That's not confidence.
GiphyTalking about HoW I DoN't CarE ThAt I DrESS wIErd, YoU'Re sO LuCKy To EVen bE WiTH ME when they actually have very low self esteem and push people away because their insecure, but come off as cocky and "confident", and dress funny to stand out and seem like they "aren't like other guys".
WTF?
Trying to have sex with me but judging me if I have sex with them on a first date.
I don't have time for that game.
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"What's your opinion on flirting with / hitting on co-workers at work?"
Avoid In Office... Free Reign Outside
"I dated a coworker."
"We were not flirty or anything at work (it was a very professional/corporate place) but we went out to lunch together most days."
"We actually started off working in separate offices across the country but went to business events almost monthly and hung out."
"We only worked together a few years but have been married going on 28 years."- ncconch
Just Remember, No Means No...
If you socialize with them outside of work, that's the right time to flirt. And if they tell you no, then make sure you forget all about them before you come in to work the next day.- Metal-Dog
Just Don't
"That can go south quickly and cause a lot of issues."- Material_Joke1324
Season 3 Flirting GIF by The OfficeGiphyAs long As It's Done With Care And Good Intentions
"20% of married couples meet at work."
"Can’t really get away from that."
"That’s why most companies train to distinguish between sexual harassment and flirting, which is totally allowed if it is done in a non-harassing way."
"I dated a coworker."
'I’m female and he’s male."
"Same department, same titles."
"I started flirting on messenger first."
"We dated for 3 years and were always professional at work."
"We 'came out' after one year, shocking everyone."
"Coworkers were very supportive."
"After 3 years we broke up amicably and worked together with no drama or issues."
'I understand that this is probably an outlier but it does happen."- typical_friday
season 8 jim and pam GIFGiphyJust Be Open To All Possibilities
"I admitted to a co-worker I had a huge crush on that I liked her on a staff night out."
"She didn’t reciprocate those feelings."
"She dealt with it really well at work but it absolutely ripped my heart out and made seeing her every day very difficult."
"It’s a real gamble, could work out for you as it has a few people in this thread but I’d never do it again."- knopparp
"Anything that could lead to you f*cking your coworkers is a risky move."
"Source: spent several years as a 'f*cks her coworkers' girlie."- glittertits09
What You Do On Your Own Time...
"F*ck it! "
"Do it on the boss's desk."
"Leave a souvenir."- justimus_maximus
excited episode 4 GIFGiphyToo Big A Risk To Be Worth It...
"You're playing with firecrackers, while checking the gas line."
"Because, you're not sure your oven is working."- K_Odena
As The Saying Goes...
"Don’t dip your pen in the company ink."- Agreeable_Stick_6484
"Never dip your pen in the company ink, as they say."
"If things go south, it can cause a lot of problems in the workplace."
"You don't want to be working with a vindictive ex, or have any kinds of personal issues with someone you have to work with regularly that might affect your work output."
"Plus, you run a very serious risk of losing your job due to sexual harassment, or fraternization rules."- SweetCosmicPope
renee zellweger comedy GIF by Bridget JonesGiphyWhat Will Other's Say?
"It’s fun, but I’ve been getting weird looks at the family business."- GroundbreakingFox833
Stay Away From Prying Eyes...
"If it's reciprocal, go for it."
"Just probably don't do it with other people around."
"Some people here are overreacting."- AReformedHuman
Just Be Careful, And Know Your Place
"Everyone here is overreacting."
"Don’t be a creep or a weirdo and also don’t presume to know somebody just because you work at the same place."
"The same rules that apply everywhere."
"But also don’t try and get with inferiors or superiors."
"Other than that go for it."- Pepsplayed
When at work, it's a generally acknowledged rule of thumb to always be on your best behavior.
So if you think flirting might get you into trouble, probably best to avoid it.
