Crushes are a pretty common experience, especially among teens who are dealing with the hormone rushes of puberty. A crush can be a pretty strong thing, too. Often the crush fades over time, or the person with a crush just realizes that they're not a good match.
But there are some things that just instantly make any attraction to a person disappear. A person who treats service or wait staff badly will instantly lose all respect from me, for example.
Reddit user u/goldclouds09 wanted to know why people's crushes faded and asked:
Wildly beautiful woman I was talking to said she has to REALLY like a guy to not cheat on him.
She was playing me along and eventually said how she wasn't really into me, but how she was really into this other guy who she found out likes her back.
Edit: Okay, this blew up quite a bit for me, but I should say that personally I was only kinda interested in her, she knew this and cut it off before I got too into her since she found another guy she liked and didn't want me to be too hurt by it all. I'm thankful that she cut it off early instead of stringing me along for too long.
I had a crush on her, and so did my buddy. I was going to ask her out, but my friend (who hadn't ever had a girlfriend to that point) asked me not to, so I stepped back.
When he did ask her out, she laughed at him. Crush gone.
A 'friend' of mine convinced my crush to write a list of all the reasons he wouldn't date me. Apparently I needed to wear make up, style my hair, wear cooler clothes, and not be weird.
Asked him out. Found out he had a girlfriend, but then he said, "Don't worry about it, she's out of town this week anyway ;)" and I was like oh, ew.
It was my freshman year of high school. I was 14 and he was 18. I know it was bad but I didn't know better back then. His girlfriend recently broke up with him and he started to catch feelings for me but still hasn't gotten completely over his ex.
When his ex found out I was coming on to him, she made a fake email account posing as me and sent an email to herself saying I told her to kill herself. She showed the school counselors the fake email and things got messy. The three of us plus four school counselors and the vice principal gathered in a room together to sort it out. Most of the conversation didn't involve me and I was only there for part of it.
When it was over I got to talk to my counselor alone and I was a sobbing mess. It was so overwhelming for me at 14, I had no idea what to do. It became obvious I didn't do anything so they let me go. Him and the ex eventually got back together and as far as I know she didn't get in trouble. So yeah, didn't talk to that guy much afterwards.
All of my crushes have turned out to be lesbian. Every single one.
All of my crushes have turned out to be straight, so I feel you.
While on a semester abroad he had started a relationship with a girl, still kept me on hold for 6 months. Found out through a third party when he came back. The realization that I had still been dreaming about him, talking to to his friends all exited about him, all while he was making new memories with someone else... Totally crushed me.
A long time ago, I was hanging out with her and her brother when her brother took out a lighter and started burning worms. I told him to stop and he gave me a dirty look and asked me why. My crush then asked me, "Wait, you're not an animal lover, are you?"
I never thought I'd have to defend myself trying to stop a guy from burning a creature to death. And the idea of "animal lover" being a grave insult to her was really eye opening. It was hard to be attracted to her after that.
I had a crush on this guy who stayed at my university dorm for one whole summer. He switched dorms afterwards and I did not see him again until graduation.
Four years later, a mutual friend introduced us through Facebook wherein he asked for my number. We've been texting for a month, kinda flirting, when he asked to meet personally. It sounded like he wanted to have a date.
Turns out he wanted to recruit me to one of those multi-level marketing schemes.