The Weirdest Thing People's Partners Did That Totally Turned Them On
Reddit user thann3 asked: 'What is the weirdest thing your partner did that turned you on?'
Part of the fun of dating and being in a relationship are the unexpected, impulsive moments.
What's funny is how these could be equally arousing moments, too, even if they're moments that we never expected to make us feel that way.
Redditor thann3 asked:
"What is the weirdest thing your partner did that turned you on?"
Backing Up
"When he backs into a parking spot, he puts his right hand on the back of my seat when he looks behind him."
"Hnnnngggggghhh. Gets me going and I don't know why."
- evilpinkmoney
"Every time someone mentions this, I am reminded of the time I did it and accidentally backhanded this girl in the face."
- kingoflint282
That Reading Voice
"In high school, this girl had a soothing voice. Every time she read out loud, I had goosebumps and she gave me butterflies."
- donbruh
Overwhelmingly Happy
"I can’t think of anything weird my husband did, but the first night of our honeymoon, we were talking about the wedding and our future, and I started crying because I was so happy (and told him that’s why I was crying)."
"He was smiling and gave me a kiss and then whispered, 'I don’t know why, but you crying just now turned me on.'"
"Lol (laughing out loud), it didn’t turn me on, but it did make me laugh, and I thought it was weird-cute."
- snarkylarkie
Safety First
"On the first date, he put my seatbelt on. It surprised me because I heard of men opening doors for their dates but not putting their seatbelt on. It just showed a very caring yet masculine side of him."
"The tension of knowing we wanted of each other but agreed to take it slow just made me go feral in my head."
"A year and a half later, he still does it to this day. He even gets 'mad' when I don't let him. I still blush when he does it, especially when other people are in the car with us."
- eeeeriemarie
Certain Accessories
"It wasn't my girlfriend, but over a Skype call maybe a decade ago when I was a teenager, I was on a call with a female friend I had the hots for."
"I casually mentioned that I had a thing for girls in glasses."
"She gasped, told me to wait there, and scurried downstairs. About 20 seconds later, she rushed back up, jumped onto her bed with her jaw resting on her fists, and low and behold, she was wearing glasses."
"We laughed, I didn't know what to say, but that was the cutest and sexiest way of letting me know she liked me."
- GemoDorgon
Good Chemistry
"I know it sounds weird, but her breath is intoxicating. It’s naturally somewhat sweet, and of course, she thinks I’m crazy."
"Edit: We know it’s not diabetes, ketosis, or any other medical issue. We’ve been together for over 30 years and it’s just good chemistry."
- yoooozername
That Deep Stare
"An ex-girlfriend of mine looked at me in a certain way every now and again that just did something to me, like a bit of a stare deep into my soul knowing she wants all of me. Every day I hope someone will recreate and enhance it."
- SamCham10
The Perfect Sweater
"When she wears THAT sweater, I'm powerless."
- wastedmytwenties
"Can someone link a pic of this type of sweater? Asking for a friend."
- schnaizer91
The Sleeve Roll Trick
"My boyfriend rolled up his sleeves kind of slowly the other day, and I felt like I couldn’t hear anything for like a solid minute, lollllll (laughing out loud)."
- farrah_barra
The Corniest Jokes
"This man will make the corniest joke in the whole world, and then his whole face lights up as he giggles at it. Gets me every time."
- Hobbbitttuallly
The Perfect Wine Pour
"We had our honeymoon in Italy and he noticed the waitstaff poured wine really beautifully, so he replicated it. Now I have him pour all my drinks for me."
"For some reason, the way his wrist moves when he pours really gets me going."
- chicken-and-awfuls
Specific Arm Movements
"Two things."
"When he's working on something mechanical and he starts getting serious, he'll flip his cap backward. It's an absent-minded thing and F**K is it sexy. And when he's working overhead, the way his arms flex. Watching him lift things into our attic is an instant turn-on. It's f**king weird, but godD**N does it do it for me."
"Also when I wear something sexy or low cut and he's not expecting it, he'll stutter if he's mid-sentence. We'll be talking from another room for instance, and I'll toss on a revealing shirt and walk in there and he'll lose his train of thought. Or shake his head like he needs to clear it. Your man making you feel sexy is the ultimate sexy move."
- shimmydownnow
Love Language: Physical Touch
"It's the gentle physical touch in public. That little 'Love you' touch as they scurry away to do a thing. Those random touches turn me on so quickly."
- 1beeratatime
Totally Saved It
"He fixed the shower in my truly horrible, low-rent grad school apartment and changed the oil on my car. Not sure why, but that just did things to me."
"If you were to ask my husband, self-deprecating humor would probably be his answer."
"On our first date, he and I went to see this stage production of 'Jekyll and Hyde.' At the bar, they were selling these cute little shots of Bailey's/Kahlua, with each liquor on separate sides of the glass. Me, being incredibly graceful in all things always, completely dumped the Bailey's half onto my blouse."
"His eyes got all big, not sure how to react, and I just sighed, turned to him, and reintroduced myself like, 'Hi, I'm (my name). This kind of thing happens a lot.'"
"He busted up laughing, I ordered a scotch, and we've been together for the past 11 years."
- anyesuki
Simply Existing
"Exist. My girlfriend could literally just stand there and I could and would get a chill down my spine."
- andytheloser12
While we were expecting these responses to be, well, weird, most of these were actually pretty cute or heartwarming.
Sometimes when it comes to relationships and intimacy, something can feel weird simply because it's unexpected, but maybe the unexpected moments are among the best parts of the relationship!
There is no one way to anybody's heart or libido.
Sexy doesn't always have to equal raunchy.
I've known people turned on by music, books, nature, and even funerals (don't ask).
What starts someone's engine is a mystery.
Redditor asexyjohn18 wanted to hear about all the things that get people in the mood, so they asked:
"What is a non sexual trait that turns you on?"
I love a walk. A little strut. Nothing like getting the heart racing.
Tingles
hair GIF by SB NationGiphy"Getting my head scratched or having someone run their fingers through my hair."
SensitiveDolphin55
"Same. It’s so pleasant when the tingles run down your spine... ;-) "
PumpkinSpiceMaster
LOLOL
"When a girl genuinely laughs at jokes I make."
Realistic_Practice16
"I remember being on a first date with a beautiful woman and I made a bit of corny joke/comment and she laughed at it. I remember thinking, damn, wait till I get to my good stuff. I did get to my good material apparently as we were married. She gives me as many laughs as I give her."
CarlJustCarl
Do Right
"Kindness. When I see someone going out of their way to help others for no other reason than it’s the right thing to do… that is some truly attractive vibes."
Electrical-Bid-9577
"Apparently it's vanishing from this world really fast. People who show kindness often end up in losses (of course not everytime but most of the time yes). It really breaks my heart."
Walker1798
"Probably the sexiest thing out there. Someone can be smoking hot, funny, talented, etc. But if they're not kind, they're unattractive."
sravll
Oh Yes...
"Smiling right at me, and men stretching. LAWD HAVE MERCY!!"
Skwiddling
"I have trouble smiling at women. Is this a turnoff for them? And ones I like are really hard to smile at. Because I know it's always going to be some really weird big smile if I am crushing which makes me feel like a super duper creep."
Maximum_Knee_4622
Simplicity
Happy I Love You GIF by Warner Bros. DeutschlandGiphy"Sorry if this is too kinky but i like it when they care about me."
SirReal10000
"Too far man. You need to rethink your choices."
Funkeysismychildhood
Sometimes it's all about the heart.
Eye 2 Eye
i see you GIF by VH1Giphy"When a guy explains something to you in a calm and understanding voice. Bonus points for gentle eye contact."
Belphiespillow666
GENIUS!!
"Being crazily intelligent. Screw dirty talk, I want you to explain some unexplainable s**t in my ear."
-F**KINGUSERNAME
"Heck yes. My best connections have been with a philosophy/history professor turned chancellor, an environmental engineer, and a neurosurgeon, all 3 Summa cum laude grads and conference speakers in their fields. The downside to genius though is complete absorption in their fields leaving little time for in person connection."
__trezora__
Yummies
"Everyone should know how to cook. Hunger knows no gender. I like to eat good food so I learned how to cook. I asked my mom one day and she reacted surprised. She was more than grateful to have an opportunity to teach me the ‘finer’ aspects of cooking, as she called it. Lol. I love food."
"My girlfriend, now wife, likes to jokingly say I got her into bed with a well seasoned steak and homemade fries. I mean we did sleep together almost immediately after we finished dinner so maybe she’s right. That old saying comes to mind. 'The quickest way to the heart is though the stomach.'"
SaiyanGodKing
Getting Green
"When I ask my husband for help when I repot my plants and he delicately cleans and moves the leaves. He is a mechanical engineer and he works with huge pieces of industrial equipment, seeing him so tenderly caring for my plants just makes me melt."
BoysenberryNo3877
Limbs A Lot
Excited Thomas Lennon GIF by ABC NetworkGiphy"Men doing intricate work with their hands."
GooglePixel69
"I second this, also someone who can play guitar/bass real real well... just watching their hands, whoa mama."
squeaky-mcgee
Well, it seems that just about anything can get someone in the mood, especially if you're kind, courteous, and especially a good cook.
Anything to add? Let us know in the comments below!
We all have different opinions about dating, marriage, and even our sex lives, but one thing we can all agree on is that we should have a good time.
And some people are not shy about sharing what makes them happy.
Redditor mini-mum-wage asked:
"What is an unconventional thing you find sexy?"
Just Hands
"Hands, it’s so f**king stupid, I know, but I swear to god, when I see large and veiny (not like grandpa veiny but still) hands, I’m giggling and swinging my feet, twirling my hair, and everyone around is absolutely hornswoggled."
- PANSEXUALKALIMBA
Like the Song
"I like a girl in a short skirt and a looooooong jacket."
- Horsetoots
A Preview
"When hubby reaches for something above his head and his shirt rises just enough that his belly shows...no idea why but damn, gets the lady bits all worked up."
- No_touchie_ma_boobs
Peek-A-Boo
"The little curly wispy hair at the base of a girl's hairline."
"No idea why."
- stumpdawg
It Hits Different
"I think it is hot if a middle-aged woman wears a business suit and puts her hands on her hips and tells me she is disappointed with me."
- inkseep1
A Proper Sailor
"Ability to cuss effectively and within context."
- Adventurous-Flow4228
Symmetry Who?
"I find an asymmetrical smile very cute. There’s a YouTube channel Charismatic Voice and she is a good example of what I mean as she often smiles higher on one side. It doesn’t seem super common but I’ve noticed it as a trait of a few people."
- Eternal-Bagel
Passionate Chats
"I love when they get lost in their thoughts and talk about what interests them. Eventually, they come back to reality and apologize for rambling but I tell them to continue."
"You know they've been hurt before but they're with me now, and I love the passion."
- YaFairy
Occasional Exposure
"When the nape of the neck is exposed on someone who typically has their hair down… Good God."
- ceaseless-watcher
Knowledge is Sexy
"I like a girl I can learn from, even if she's not like directly teaching me but I can still learn something from watching her."
- SleepySleeprsn
Nervousness is Interesting
"When a guy is nervous when he's talking to me and his voice quivers."
- agentscully222
Eye-to-Eye
"I seem to be in a small minority of people in preferring partners my own height. I think there's something really sexy about seeing literally eye to eye."
- Emu_on_the_Loose
Vulnerability
"When men blush. Goodbye, panties."
- Think_Doughnut628
Lines Tell a Story
"Laugh lines on a guy’s face. My boyfriend has the most beautiful perfect little creases on an otherwise smooth face. it’s so enchanting because he’s otherwise a very stoic person."
- ReasonablePudding96
What's on the Face Counts
"Big or unique noses. It's something I've always loved about other people, and in recent years, it's something I've come to love about myself."
- strawberryyogurt_
This was a fun reminder that everyone has their own preferences, and something that may not work for someone will make someone else very, very happy.
People Explain Which Things Others Find Sexy That They Just Don't Understand
What one person finds sexy is anther person's ick factor.
It's an eternal debate.
The mind, the heart, pheromones... it's a messy combo.
To each their own.
Redditor PetrichorPrints wanted to hear about what makes many of you tingle in ways the rest of us don't get.
"What’s something other people find sexy that you just can’t understand?"
I'm not telling you my secrets. But I'll listen to yours.
Stung
botox GIFGiphy"People doing fillers to make their cheek bones look more 'refined.' it just looks like you got stung by a bee."
Amira_Da_Tiga
'right there.
"There was a dude years ago that I was seeing, we're on a webcam and he said he liked my crease. Had no idea what he was talking about and he kept saying 'right there.' Turns out he likes armpit creases."
TinkleTwinkleToes
"That is oddly specific. Congrats, you taught me that literally anything can be a turn-on for the right people."
axxonn13
Speak Up
"That voice some women put on to seem cutesy/sexy, I can only describe it as 'baby voice', but it just annoys me. Talk like an adult."
HuskyLuke
"That's the voice I use to talk to my cat. She doesn't care if I talk in my normal voice, but slap the baby tone on it and she's all ears."
HuskyLuke
"My wife had a friend who did that baby voice. Not all the time, just when she thought she was being cute. It used to drive me crazy, especially in the car. One day when I was driving them back from a crafting event we had agreed to drop her off at her place. As we got closer, she baby talked , You don’t have to stop. Just slow down and I will jump out. Hehehehe.”
"After we dropped her off, I mimicked her 'I’ll just jump out. Hehe.'"
"My wife said, 'I felt like shoving her out the door and shouting, Tuck and roll, *itch!'"
DeannaDouglas
Awaken
"Interrupting while I'm asleep."
Dea7777
"Yes! I always wondered if I was in some very tiny minority because it seems to be labeled as a 'hot' thing to do. Waking me up in the middle of the night, you’re going to get someone angry, disheveled, and confused. I’m surely not going to be rearing to go. I don’t even like being touched in my sleep. We have the whole waking day to bang."
nononanana
"Omg this is a double edged sword for me, because I love the fantasy of my husband taking me when he wants but the actual execution of this? Nope nope nope! Let me sleep!"
squidplant
Serious
Animated GIFGiphy"The serious/intense 'model' face (ie. Blue Steel). Completely unsexy."
DiscreetJourneyman
"I’m assuming you mean faces 'like' Blue Steel but not actually Blue Steel itself which is incredible."
irepairstuff
Werk. Stand. Give. Face.
Too Big
"I don't understand the big breast implants some women get. Breast implants are fine but the huge a** ones are just a massive turn off."
6969sinep
"Totally get this. I've always felt the same way. Until I met my wife. The first time I saw her breasts I was flabbergasted! 'Cos they're not over the top while she's dressed. But once they're free and breezy I immediately questioned their authenticity! She never hid the fact they aren't real, but my word they've changed my mind on augmentation! Teardrop implants can be (trust me) magnificent!"
bananafarmer80
Attitudes
"Being mean to someone. I understand it's 'I'm so sexy I can treat you like crap' attitude, but what about 'I'm so confident, I don't have to put people down' confidence?"
kai1415926535
"If you mean someone getting turned on by another person being mean to them then it's almost always a domination thing."
JohanGrimm
"I question more the people who are with these a**holes. I don't get how someone likes that at all unless they're masochistic. And even if they are, I would imagine they would want someone who's only that way in the bedroom and not all the time."
NoThanksJustLooking1
Well, that is quite the list!
What would you add to this? Let us know in the comments below.
Everyone has their own turn-ons, something that gets the instantly aroused or in the moment of passion. This is what makes new relationships so interesting, trying to figure out what works for the other person while uncovering new buttons of yours you didn't know you liked pressed.
As it turns out, it doesn't take much to get people hot and heavy. In fact, we should all be so lucky to find ourselves in the situations these people found themselves in with our own romantic partners.
Or, in some cases, total strangers.
WARNING: Some of these are extremely NSFW.
Reddit user, Nightfury0818, wanted to know what made your tummy all funny when they asked:
"What was the hottest thing someone said to you?"
Keep it polite, but make your intentions known.
Makes You Wonder How Long They'd Been Looking At You...
"I was listening to the lecture in English class, and one of the smartest and hottest guys in the room looks at me and says “hey [name], your shirt is both inside out and backwards.”
"I mean, I realized that he was right, but at least he talked to me"
Person9183736
Cute First Times Are Allowed
"That he never felt so anxious about kissing someone"
Halle-Hellion
Don't Start A French Girl Tripping Spree
"French girl, I grabbed her when she fell. I apologized 'sorry if I hurt you'"
"In THE sexiest accent EVER"
“'Darling….I’m not made of sugar”' and blew me a kiss ."
"Sh-t !! Makes my heart flutter just thinking about it ."
Previous-Status-4652
"I didn't know that was a French idiom. You learn something new every day."
Scarlet_Skye
The Way To Someone's Heart
"This banana bread is delicious"
"Wow, you make a great goulash"
"I've never had a better lasagna"
"Complimenting my cooking is pretty much dirty talk to me."
RaccKing21
Maybe that wasn't enough.
Maybe you need to turn the heat up to let the object of your desire know what they mean to you.
It's A Simple Question
"'You want to be my boyfriend?' - some girl who I secretly had a crush on"
ZodiacKiller1968
Like To Be The Little Spoon, Eh?
"I'm 5'1 and had a coworker who's 6'3 - 6'4. I was struggling to get something down from a cupboard, he stood behind me and fully towered over me (duh) while grabbing what I was trying to reach. He was partially pressed against my back while reaching for said thing and brushed my hand. Once he reached said thing he looked down on me, still towering over me, and smiled and said "It was fun to see you struggle." (roughly translated) before handing me whatever I was trying to grab earlier. It was like one of those romance anime scenes. It wouldn't have been hot if it wasn't for the entire situation but...goddamn."
"Kinda had a crush on him back then."
HumanParfait_
What Better Time?
"My girlfriend(F18) and I(M18) are in the same class. During one online lecture, I get a text from her saying, "I wish something else would replace my necklace right now". I look up to see her necklace in her mouth."
Empty-Intention-9745
Step On Me...What?
"I accidentally knocked a female coworker's water bottle off the table. She looked me square in the eye and said, "pick it up b-tch.""
"I never knew I had a sub bone in my body until that moment."
User Deleted
Not The Effect You Thought You Had...And You Liked It
"I was in theatre and we were playing an improv game to warm up that involved guessing so a few people had to leave the room so we could come up with ideas and not be heard. When it was time to go get the first person I run into the back room and yell at the top of my lungs “FIRST VICTIM!” (Note that I am a bass and a gravelly one so it’s not like a child yelling it) and everyone In the room jumps except for one girl, who was already walking towards me and with all the confidence in her strut in the world said “You don’t scare me…” Hands down the hottest thing I’ve ever seen someone do"
BuriedDeepInMyHead
Hold It In Your Heart
"I like it when you pull me close to you."
"From a girl I had met just 5 seconds prior and started dancing with. Sent chills down my back. I hope I never forgot about that moment."
LlamaManatee
Outta Nowhere!
"A soft, "I love you" whispered point blank in my ear."
Tumulousmaple56
"That sounds nice"
Nightfury0818
"It was made better by the fact that it'd never happened before and was completely unexpected."
Tumulousmaple56
And then there's these, the moments when all the barriers are dropped and all the pretense is taken out of the romantic entanglement that leads to love.
Stop being so polite and get to it, people.
Who Needs To Wait?
"When we were making out pretty hot and heavy she grabbed my hand and said “stop being such a gentleman”. I thought we were taking it slow but she had other ideas."
somethingunnatural
"That's the sex equivalent of mashing A to skip all the cutscenes."
sin-and-love
When You Learn It's Bigger Underneath
"I was at my bf house and we had been kissing and I was in his lap so I could feel everything yk and I felt him get hard and I said "damn being stabed over here" my bf is kinda shy about that's stuff so he kinda looked away and said "it's barely hard" by being stabed it felt huge and it was"
_crunchy_grass_
Get It All Planned Out
'We can either go out for dinner at 5, or you can f-ck me and we will get there at 530 ish'
"My ex loved planning things out"
Lazy-Pumpkin-9116
The Power Of Your Voice
"Being told that they masturbated to the sound of my voice from the voice memos I sent them. Wasn’t even sexual in nature, my voice just did it for them. lol never thought my voice had that power."
TheWeirdGirl143
No Place Better
"The first time me and my ex girlfriend had sex at my house. It was late and the room was dark, she decided to get on top and seemed like she enjoyed it more than usual. She stopped suddenly. Grabbed me by the back of my neck and pulled me in. She whispered in my ear, “if I had the choice, I’d have you inside of me for the rest of my life” She wasn’t a very confident person, so it took me by surprise."
Sad-Thought-6831
Speak Up, Guys
"Anytime a man moans or is vocal in general during sex I melt"
ricesaladenthusiast
"This, exactly! So many men are quiet and it is so hot to hear those groans."
RadRac
Don't Ever Let The Passion Fade
"My wife and I were out watching a band. They were really good, place was packed. But she had gotten dressed up for it and looked amazing. After maybe a half hour I turned to her and said, "Want to go home and f-ck?" She said "Yes...", then grabbed my arm and said "Yes!" It was the second yes that got me. We picked up our stuff and started to leave and saw the people behind us smiling. They had obviously heard us, and she clearly didn't care, which was also really hot."
conejon
Take a cold shower.
Then call your significant other to let them know how you really feel.
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