Let's talk about a fun but uncomfortable topic...
Pornography has been around for generations.
Now it's everywhere and free.
There is a lot to unpack here.
But feel no shame.
Redditor TinyLampBanditwanted to have a sassy chat... about adult entertainment. They asked:
"What are your thoughts on porn?"
***WARNING - THIS CONVERSATION IS FOR 17 AND UP!!!***
Porn is fun. There is a dish on the menu for everyone and that's nice.
Bad Discovery
"Honestly I wish I hadn't discovered it."
Ralfslapins
"Same here, been watching it since I was 11 and having a hard time stopping now."
LavishnessLonely7890
Month to Month
"It is pretty hard to quit. I mean I can get away from watching it for like a month, but the temptation keeps kicking in after the month."
That-Possibility-952
"I've noticed that I get tempted in stages and it's 3 days, then 5-7 days, then after 2 weeks. I don't think I've made it to a month but Ramadhan is coming up and I'm currently doing pretty well and hoping I can use the month to launchpad into cold turkey since I've been cutting back slowly over the last 2 years."
kylomorales
Ruined
"I didn’t used to mind it until my ex became addicted to it. It ruined our relationship after that."
cynthia3749
"Addiction is real. So sorry for you. I’ve fallen into the trap myself. I’m working every day to get out. My wife is understanding, though hurt. She still loves me and wants to help me which is all the motivation I need."
KimJongDerp1992
Bad Ideas
"Having access to porn at a very young age damaged my view of women. I see absolutely no value in the porn industry (it is well known for sex trafficking and drug abuse). There is literally no upside other than instant gratification."
A**Egg
Nothing There
life show GIFGiphy"It is so empty."
bbyoda_unchained
"The people that want realistic meaningful porn generally aren't able to make their own. If they could, I doubt they'd be watching porn."
kykaiboi
So Artsy
"I don’t watch it but I read erotica more. I find it less fake and better."
7_queenarmy
Influences
"Can't be satisfied without specific triggers anymore. Ever seen someone on page 34 of Pornhub? That's me."
hailmorrigan
"This is honestly terrible to hear, good luck. Breaking addictions is hard but if you believe in yourself, you can do it."
NZnumber1AussiesBTFO
unrealistic standards...
"As a 26 year old male, I benefit a lot from not using it. I’m not one of those pro “no fapp” kinda people, but I do think not using porn is better for you. It sets unrealistic standards and it’s just a dopamine chase."
ForWhenImWeird
"I still watch occasionally, but honestly not using it is best. There are some forms I prefer to videos with real people, but not using is the best option. On top of that, learning how awful the industry is should make everyone want to quit. I'm glad to have lowered my consumption compared to where it used to be."
Jazz_Musician
Disturbing...
"And even though it’s fake it’s very impressionable on young boys. Imagine their first time having sex. Don’t tell me that porn doesn’t affect young boys in negative ways especially with how they view and treat women later in life."
kh7190
No thank you...
Saturday Night Live Ugh GIF by HULUGiphy"We're the first generation of men who grew up with widespread high definition porn. And no one publicly talks about it. I think its messed up our brains a lot. Kinda like we think back to when doctors used to prescribe cocaine or smoking for things, and only decades later did they discover how bad it is."
areopagitic
Well... a very interesting read indeed.
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Redditor AMGBOI69420 wanted all the men out there to share some necessities, so they asked:
"What are some 'guy secrets' girls don't know about?"
Decisions.
Don't be afraid to make them.
Guys appreciate a decisive nature.
But don't be aggressive.
Thank You...
Episode 5 Thank You GIF by PBSGiphy"We will NEVER forget getting a compliment. I used the same conditioner until it went out of production because someone told me my hair felt soft and smelled nice."
LordSwitchblade
Good Morning
"Sometimes when it's up, it's not because we're horny. But don't let that stop you, Queen."
Spiceinvader1234
"I once had a guy tell me 'If a guy has a morning erection it doesn’t mean you turn him on, he was probably just having a sex dream about someone else.' Ever since then I NEVER try to initiate anything in the morning. Is that true?"
LoisLaneintheRain
"It‘s because the body tests any function while you sleep and most of the time that time you begin to wake up it tests the function to get an erection."
Gennerig_LP
Back Up...
"Nice try honey, I still won’t tell you where I keep my snacks."
XxLongoTxX
"Oh, I found them. Days before I was silently soaking in the glory of my private eye skills while we watched (XYZ) on Netflix, and relishing over the fact that the joys of your deceit will soon evaporate into the void during the exact moment you discover you’ve been left with only the lemon flavored ones."
TheOGPotatoPredator
And you are?
"Dudes can be friends for years and not know each other's real name."
theonetrueemanu
"I've lived in my house for 2 years. I chat with my neighbor just about every day when leaving for work. I didn't want to ask him his name so I looked up the property records to find out that information."
ku_chi_mun_chin
"I worked in a grocery store with a guy who went by his middle name. I went by a nickname completely unrelated to my name. We both found out we didn't know each other's real names until 2 years after we started working together."
Funkeysismychildhood
Breathe
Tuesday Morning Reaction GIF by The Secret Life Of PetsGiphy"That big sigh my wife just asked about while we’re watching the 10 o’clock news? Nothing profound, nothing bugging me, I just remembered to breathe."
Gudakesa
Breathing is everything. It can change every moment.
What Up?
houston rockets yo GIF by TwitterGiphy"We have an entire language around the headnod."
baka2k10
"It’s weirdly sophisticated too. You can actually tell how comfortable guys are around each other based on if they say hello with an up-nod or a down-nod."
Juxta_Lightborne
Fake it until...
"Sometimes, that male confidence that you find attractive is us totally faking it while shaking on the inside, insecure AF."
Ok_Technology390
"I just had this exact conversation with my husband the other day. I was telling him how he seems so confident and I would never guess that he's really nervous or that he's not sure of himself."
"I would've never dreamed he gets all nervous and all that good stuff still to this day with me. I don't feel like it's still sunk in completely bc I was so shocked at how nervous he was explaining he'd get at times lol so props to the guys who fake it til they make it. Keep on bc you're doing a good job 💯."
Exciting-Courage4148
Stay Calm
"We don’t want to tell you certain things are worrying us because we do not want you to worry also… now there are just two people worrying, whereas before, one was worrying, and the other was happy, which is a reminder to us not to worry so much."
Mundane_Tour_3215
"It's a bit different if the person you're telling can do something about the issue, but for something currently unsolvable there's no reason to extend the misery to anyone else."
Zncon
Just say it!
"Please for the love of God let us know if you’re into us. Don’t wait for us to tell you first because we won’t because we don’t want to be called creeps."
Wunderbolts
"My current partner and I used to flirt and talk through text all day, every day for months before I told our best friends. I was so into him, but unsure how he felt. My girlfriend was like: he’s usually just like that; he’s friendly with all of our other friends that are girls and would even ask me if I wanted to stream things with him when [her bf and his best friend] was at work."
"So I put that to rest. But then his friend helped a little bit by interfering and he was nonchalant about his feelings for me to him. When I got the green light I should just do it, I admitted my feelings for him. We’re close to celebrating a year in our LDR. We met in person for the first time a couple of months ago and he’s coming here soon. Best decision of my life to just say how I was feeling."
emeraldpotion
So many secrets.
So many truths.
Lesson? Try not to worry.