People Describe The Creepiest Internet Rabbit Holes They've Ever Gone Down
A few years ago, while researching for an article, I stumbled across a video that almost made me quit my job right then and there. This article is going to talk about that video - and other creepy, horrible, traumatizing things people have found on the internet.
Proceed with extreme caution. Seriously. I cannot put enough trigger warnings in this.
I won't describe the video in detail, even though I remember all 36 seconds of it vividly.
It was a girl - in her young teens - surrounded by a group of men who are about to murder her (which I obviously did not know when the video started.)
The method was ... brutal, violent, physical, and not "assisted" by modern technology. Sticks and stones, indeed.
It took me too long to process what was happening for me to turn it off, so I saw the whole thing. The victim knew she was about to die and as she sat on the floor in the seconds before it happened, she kicked her legs and sobbed.
It was a move I had seen my three year old pull over and over. It drove home that she was just a child.
I cried. I puked. I had (and still have) nightmares where I see her face. I almost quit. I talked to my therapist.
Reddit user VeghBaily884 asked:
What is the creepiest/most disturbing internet rabbit hole you've gone down, and why? Why?
I didn't go seeking the video, I wasn't on a website known for this sort of stuff like how Rotten.Com was. I surely can't answer why it was made, why grown men would choose to kill a young girl, why they put it on the internet ... nada.
But I can say with 100% certainty that THAT SINGLE VIDEO was the one that almost made me pack it up and quit the internet forever. And I'm far from the only one who has seen some scarring sh*t.
So let's talk about it.
Stalk Your Victim Like A Pro
"A large group of people sharing stalking tips, pictures and videos of those they've stalked. Including, but not limited to, how to dress, act, destroying evidence, lockpicking, how to poison pets, taking silent photos, creating alibis, etc."
"They'd award a golden sticker to the best photos/videos taken of the person they stalked - like inside the room while the person was sleeping."
"That or sharing the address of a person, alarm codes, etc, so someone else can enjoy stalking the victim too."
"I was watching some videos late at night - a little horror. I clicked to a break-in video, clicked to woman living in a guy's kitchen, saw a comment saying something like, 'pfft, amateur, they need some lessons.' That person had videos on their channel that were creepy as hell and link to a forum in their bio."
"Some sections were locked, so I looked around and found myself reading more and more. It honestly scared the heck out of me."
"But a part of me thought if I knew a little of how they did it then I could protect myself. Was going to sign up to see more, but they are stalkers... didn't need them knowing anything about me."
"Felt sick, tried to report some of the videos and pictures. A month later I went back to see if they still existed and the whole forum was now a website selling pot plants." - The_Last_Werewolf
0% Survival Rate
Imgur.com
"For some reason I was interested in the science surrounding tornadoes and I found a list of some of the most violent tornadoes ever recorded. It's actually really creepy once you read into it."
"The worst one was a tornado in Jarrell, Texas in 1997 where they had trouble identifying human from animal remains, and some people were simply never found."
"That same tornado destroyed every storm shelter in its path, and there was a 0% survival rate in the worst hit neighborhood. There's something deeply unsettling about the fact that even people who thought they were safe, and should have been safe in those storm shelters, ended up being killed."
"There's a photo of this tornado called 'Dead Man Walking' because it literally looks like it grew legs and is walking over the land leaving death behind it. Even the pictures creep me TF out now that I know."
"Keep in mind that this tornado was a rarity among rarities, with its sub vortices (those creepy legs in the picture) likely harboring wind speeds in excess of 300 miles per hour. The Jarrell twister scoured the ground so bad, up to 18 inches deep in places, that it sandblasted rocks that were too big for it to lift."
"The vast, vast majority of tornadoes never get that powerful, or even do any damage at all. Tornadoes that pass through rural areas can actually be fun to watch."
"When I was in first grade a weak one formed near my suburb of Denver and we watched it from our deck at home. We were a few miles away so we weren't in any danger. We got to see the funnel cloud, the spin up on the ground and watch it as it basically tore up a few bushes for about half an hour, and then rope out and disappear."
"The next day at school we brought pictures in to show the class. Obviously, THIS tornado wasn't a fun, cool, interesting one. This one was horrifying." - Abject-Preparation18
Beheadings
"Ugh back in high school my buddy found beheading videos, that was not a good day. You can't unhear those sounds and the defeated look right before it happens just breaks me." - Duuuuuude_Esq
"I assume it was the one that went viral everywhere somewhere in 2014 I think, the woman screaming that she 'didn't kill him' before getting brutally murdered, probably for something she didn't do?" - That_sarcastic_bxtch
"I was in college when the terrorist beheadings were added to the internet. I couldn't watch any video on the internet for months unless it was vetted and then described to me by a friend first." - AirySprite
MK Ultra
"MKUltra brainwashing and CIA videos and reports. I forget where I originally stumbled on it, probably a thread on /x/, but it was just a bunch of declassified documents."
"There were a few links in the post content. One lead to an old GeoCities-looking blog that some woman was running. She was a doctorate, but I forget the field. Her blogs were basically months of confessions of what was going on in the CIA."
"She then went off radar for the better part of the year, and the blogs started back up again. Except now, they were getting bizarre. She had full-blown paranoia and the verbiage dissolved from mostly coherent to absolutely incoherent over the course of a few months."
"The anon that was doing the data dump also put some declassified documents that had the woman listed by name in several areas. I cannot remember her name, but she went by first, middle, and last in all instances. Sarah, or Sandra or something."
"The theory is that the CIA discredited her by making her sound like a rambling lunatic as controlled disinformation rather than simply nuke the blog and lend credence to the conspiracy theorists."
"Scary stuff though."
"There were other documents pertaining to demons, aliens, mind control, all sorts of bizarre things. The craziest part, they have actually declassified documents from the US Government."
"They aren't fabricated. They're totally accessible to anyone willing to spend time looking for them in public archives." - biggest___chungus
Parents Explain Which Things Surprised Them Most When Their Child Moved Out | George Takei’s Oh Myyy
Parenting is a lifelong commitment but the load is certainly lightened when kids go off to college or move away for their first "adult" job. It can be quite ...Fetish For Destroying Your Body
"I forgot his name but the one older dude who ran a YouTube account where he would vlog himself smoking a lot of cigarettes everyday and wouldn't stop even when he was diagnosed with cancer due to smoking cigarettes."
"Each video you watch his health slowly deteriorate and if you watch his first and last vids he looks like a completely different person."
"The worst part? Everyone in the comments are cheering him on because it's a sort of fetish account for destroying your body. There was even one boy who emulated him and wanted to do the same to himself." - TheBigBroke
Elisa
"When the case of Elisa Lam got traction in 2013 I read a lot about the alleged supernatural stuff they thought was happening."
"From there it went to the supposed rituals and then to a bunch of websites explaining how to do them and what to expect as a result. This content was stuck in my head for weeks and had nightmares almost every night." - theBearzooka
"Elisa Lam kept me awake many nights. That elevator video is just bizarre. These weird cases is so fascinating because people WANT that is something supernatural or creepy, when the reality is just boring and sad." - candangoek
Encouraging
"Chris Chan... basically this mentally disabled guy badly drawing comics about his Sonic/Pikachu crossover OC and posting them online, but 4chan found out about him and people started harassing him, trying to find out information about him, contacting him, etc."
"They found out where he lived and everything about him, and started messing with him for fun. Someone even pretended to be a girl romantically interested in him, pretending to be his girlfriend, and then eventually told him it was all a fake."
"That drove him deeper into being violent and obsessive, and he was already showing warning signs of sexually predatory behavior... And the person who recorded him talking about it and contacted the police had apparently been ENCOURAGING him to do it."
"People are horrible." - GoldenScythe23
"Basically I only got through a few videos in a series about Chris Chan and I had to stop because I was feeling physically unclean." - colour_me_in
Souvenirs
"There's a website called Without Sanctuary that collected and displayed lynchings in America. I think much of it has been turned into a book so the site doesn't have all that it used to."
A not-quite-relative (first wife of an ancestor, so not directly related to me as I am descended from the second wife) 's family had a photo studio at the turn of the century. One of the photographs was credited to that studio on the back of the photo.
It was common back then to photograph and sell postcards of hangings and lynchings like souvenirs. It was surreal to see that name on the photo, knowing they very likely made money off photographing a lynching." - supershinythings
Jayne And Mariska
"The accident scene / death of actress Jayne Mansfield. Including trying to figure out how the kids survived."
"I even looked for the scar on her daughter, Mariska Hargitay's face because I'd never noticed it (good makeup I'm sure). Karma punished me (rightfully so) because I had nightmares for several nights after that rabbit hole."
"Anyway, it was a very tragic accident and people should skip that rabbit hole." - ProudCatLadyxo
Daisy
"Daisy's Destruction video, made by Peter Scully."
"Essentially, a middle-aged man slowly killing a child in horrific ways. Google it, I don't even feel comfortable typing out more about it."
"Why did I go down the hole? Honestly, it started with a YouTube video that essentially counted down the 10 most disturbing things found on the deep web."
"I got curious. I regret it." - Pistol_Pato
No One Suspects Mary
"Got a YouTube video suggestion and once I started, I couldn't stop watching it. It was about Mary Bell (or Belle?)"
"She was an 11 year old murderer (she has been severely abused herself, doesn't justify murder though) who apparently really enjoyed the aftermath of her actions. Up until she got caught, of course."
"She enjoyed the family's suffering and went so far as asking one of the victims' mother weird questions and being really cheerful about the whole thing."
"Even more disturbing than that - after being arrested and put in the version of "mental hospital" or corrections place they had at the time, she now lives somewhere in the south of England and her identity is being protected."
"She has a daughter. I think even a grandkid at this point."
"This whole thing messed me up big time, had to remove a lot of suggested videos from my feed after that. I just can't deal with that amount of mental dysfunction and then thinking - someone has her as a neighbor and probably doesn't suspect a thing 😳" - Kartapele
The Household Rules
"The transcript of a video that a serial kidnapper/torturer couple made that was played to newly kidnapped girls upon their waking up tied spread-Eagle to a table in the basement."
"It was an hour long video that essentially explained the household rules and what would be expected of the girls. It was extremely extremely upsetting." - weedandsteak
Comical In Any Other Situation
"I was researching something for History class- I forget what- and I ended up studying R. Budd Dwyer. He was the treasurer of Pennsylvania in the 60s and early 70s. He got wrapped up in some financial crimes, and was charged with a dozen crimes."
"He shot himself in the head."
"During a press conference."
"On live television."
"One of the articles had a picture of the exact last frame before the gun went off. The barrel is in his mouth, his eyes are looking off to his right (viewers left), and he is making a face that would have been almost goofy and comical in any other situation."
"Jesus Christ." - Lochrin00
So what have we learned today, friends? Hopefully to not mindlessly click - but internet is internet and stuff just happens, so for our own mental wellness let's remember to take internet breaks for a bit, kay?
Comedy is in a very tricky place right now.
There is so much to NOT laugh about in this world.
In truth, many of us have forgotten how to laugh.
And certain jokes that are told, make people afraid to laugh.
So what do we do?
We tell inappropriate jokes apparently.
Let's hear some...
Redditor CrewCreation wanted to hear some "risky" comedy. So they asked:
"What’s the best morbid joke you know?"
***WARNING: THIS ARTICLE CONTAINS SENSITIVE MATERIAL. PROCEED WITH CAUTION!***
I can't think of anything hilarious at the moment. Make us LOL.
Lady
"I have this friend, love him to bits, but his wife has a tendency of just constantly showing everyone pictures of their son at every social event. At the start it was understandable, but now I'm just like 'Lady, it's been two years; they're not going to find him.'"
UnoriginalUse
at 9am...
"Not the most morbid but I love Anthony Jeselnik’s story about his neighbor who has Alzheimer’s. 'One of my next door neighbors is a 90 year old man suffering from Alzheimer’s. And every single morning at 9am he knocks on my door and asks me if I have seen his wife.'"
"'Which means that every single morning at 9am I have to explain to a 90 year old man suffering from Alzheimer’s that his wife has been dead for quite some time. Now I’ve thought about moving. I have thought about just not answering my door in the morning. But to be honest, it’s worth it… just to see the smile on his face.”
dreagan021
Comedy?
"Why can't orphans play baseball? They don't know where home is."
GW2RNGR
"Why can't orphans play tennis? They get confused when they hear love."
JayDub506
People who make comedy are evil. LOL.
The Darkness
"Dark humor is like food; not everyone gets it."
storm_the_castle
God Laughs?
"A Holocaust survivor dies and goes to heaven, where she meets God. To break the tension she tells God a joke about the Holocaust, but God doesn’t laugh. The lady shrugs and says 'I guess you had to be there.'"
“'I guess you had to be there' is a common expression used when someone doesn’t laugh at a joke. It means that the comedy may not translate without the context of the situation."
"In this case the Holocaust survivor is saying it, meaning that during the Holocaust God was nowhere to be found. It’s not really a joke about the Holocaust, but the absurdity of belief in a benevolent God. Hilarious right?"
semimillennial
Oh Baby
"How many dead babies does it take to fix a light bulb? More than 3 cause my garage is still dark."
sirnibs3
I don't know whether to laugh or cry. Because I don't know what it says about us as people if we laugh. Oye.
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Life can change in an instant.
It can always change for the better.
Just ask any lottery winner.
Sadly, life can also take a turn for the worst and leave people shattered beyond repair.
Watching someone's life fall apart in a short amount of time is difficult.
You have to wonder if there really is such a thing as karma, bad luck, or Voodoo.
Redditor OkImagination5852 wanted to hear about the times we've been witness to personal disaster. They asked:
"People who witness a person's life crumble in a single day, what happened?"
I have lived through a lot of bad days. But thankfully they've been one disaster at a time days. So I guess I'm lucky.
Horror
"A friend of a friend had his entire family killed overnight. He was from my college and was home visiting his family. His parents, siblings, and extended family were all there together. One night, while they were all asleep, his father got up, took out a gun, and went on a shooting spree. He then killed himself."
"Everyone except this guy died on the spot. When my friend visited him at the hospital, the guy was still in shock. He had no idea why his father did that. This was more than a decade ago, and I have no idea how he's doing now."
DeadOnDeparture98
The IRS Called
"Knew a guy who had a nice house, wife, 3 kids. Machine shop in his garage, Snap On tool truck, sign out front, great mechanic. Never incorporated, didn't pay taxes on his business, cash only. Took nice vacations, bought a boat, then a camper. Five years later, the IRS came. I don't know what they estimated he owed but they seized everything. He lives alone in a trailer now."
Nobody_Wins_13
2 at Once
"My mom’s dad and dad’s mom both died on the same day. Completely unrelated. We were pretty messed up for awhile. It was 2010. Mom's dad had emphysema (lifetime smoker) and was pretty sick for a few weeks. I was in college at the time and came home to be with him, because we knew he was about to pass. Dad's mom was in the nursing home, as she had had a stroke and also had dementia (she often thought I was my dad, she thought we were in the 70s, etc.)."
"She took a turn for the worst, and so my dad left the hospice my grandpa was at and went to be with her. The towns they were in were about an hour apart, so I stayed behind with my mom to comfort her when her dad passed. A few hours go by, and he passes peacefully (huge thanks to the hospice workers for their respect and grace during this time)."
"Within an hour or so of his passing, we get a call from my dad saying that his mother had passed as well. It was a terribly dark day in our family, and the next couple years for me in college were pretty much a blur. Thankfully, things got better in time and we are all doing well now."
She lost everything...
"Her husband left her after previously persuading her to remortgage their house to save his business and he's already made her take multiple credit cards out in her name. She lost everything. He did it the week after their youngest turned 18 so he wouldn't have to pay child support. He'd obviously been planning for years."
Ieatclowns
a black sheep...
"My cousin was in a motorcycle accident with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend died. She broke her back. When she was in the hospital she learned she was pregnant. It's been 16 years and we're still trying our best, she took an all too familiar path of drugs, burning bridges and more pregnancies."
"At this point she's fairly stable and clean as far as I know but a bit of a black sheep. Her mother has custody of all one of her kids. She has her youngest and seems to be doing good by her, but who knows. It's been hard on everyone, especially her mother and her brother."
Paradigm6790
Well this is the stuff of nightmares. I'm grateful for every moment I have alive.
Several lawsuits are filed...
"Here is multiple lives ruined in an instant. A friend was over at some other people house, drugs were involved. They had been playing with a gun. My friend points the gun at a girl, pulls the trigger and shoots her in the head. Girl dies, friend gets locked up until he turns 18. Parents at the house get arrested because they knew what the kids were doing. Friends mom goes into a depression and ends up getting evicted from her house. Several lawsuits are filed."
sentondan
Gone Forever
"It was me... got in a car accident and suffered a traumatic spinal and brain injury that I had no chance of surviving... a 7 vertebrae spinal fusion, yrs of physical and mental therapy... 18 yrs later and the pieces, though many forever gone, are finally coming back together."
2boneskuLL
A Bad Night
"He trashed his fathers vacation house with an axe before setting it on fire, stabbed the neighbor nearly to death, stole their car and then crashed it into a cop car so bad the cops were injured. He also got his girl pregnant, so once he is out of prison they're gonna start a family."
Dumbing_It_Down
"dangerous"
"Pregnant friend found out husband (43) was having an affair with young woman (19) who was a volunteer at their ecolodge. Friend had 'dangerous' pregnancy and had to spend a lot of time in bed. This betrayal destroyed their marriage, split the little town where they lived and caused two employees to quit because witnessing the affair going on was just too painful."
"She had a beautiful baby girl (to go with her other two girls, lol) and after the breakup was clinically depressed. Worked hard and got a divorce (she had a great lawyer); got the business back on track; beat her depression and now is planning a great vacation trip with her girls."
"Meantime, Dad has generous visitation but just 'hasn't gotten around to' buying a car seat so he can pick up the baby and for a long time asked my friend, 'Can you drop the girls off at my Mom's?'"
NoBSforGma
Lost it All...
"Recently, I know of a guy that had borrowed all his family’s life savings for the most part to participate in the whole game stop stock thing happening… he lost every penny of his money (credit card advances), and his parents retirement, and every other dime he could get… it makes me sick to even think of it."
Bangbangsmashsmash
Well those are A LOT of bad days. Good luck to all of you.
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
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Those who are wealthy have the luxury of acquiring the best of the best–whether it's dinner at a Michelin-starred restaurant or status-identifying clothing from Chanel or Yves Saint Laurent.
But even the rich have their limits when it comes to frivolous spending before casting judgment on friends or colleagues.
Curious to hear examples of this, Redditor Sasquatchfl asked:
"Rich people of Reddit, what's the craziest/most unethical thing you've seen people in your circle spend money on?"
Expensive experiences were a priority over prized possessions.
Live Sushi
"An ex worked for Dell in the late 90s/early 2000s. He was pretty high up and there were lots of partiers in his work circle. Went to a party hosted by one of the dellionaires and there was a body sushi girl. I don’t know what was paid to her, but it was one of the most ridiculous things I’ve ever seen."
– 5hrs4hrs3hrs2hrs1mor
Pissing Contest
"Paid a group of homeless guys to only use the bathroom on a competitors business. Eventually bought that place for a massive discount."
– Haboobalub
Let's Work Out
"My mother woke up one morning and said she felt she was way too fat and she wanted to get a treadmill. The treadmill wouldn’t be a problem, but then she saw where it would be and didn’t like the lighting. Fast forward 2 months later there’s a 40k outdoor gym built and connected to the house. She hasn’t used it once."
– Herrera5449_
Taking A Leap
"Travelled with a bunch of ex 'friends' all fairly wealthy."
"First trip to SE Asia together and as an ex-local I was a de-facto tour guide (despite not being there in over a decade)"
"They somehow found and offered a bunch of kids diving off cliffs to jump for spare change."
"They increasingly challenged each other to land their coins as close to the cliff base and small surrounding rocks for the kids to dive for."
– Satakans
It's about the finer things in life.
Expensive Party Gag
"A 3k ouija board from Gwen Paltrow's store. I didn't even know it was a thing until the dude brought it out. I really wanted to cut it up and see what it was made from. Looked nice don't get me wrong but the thing is basically a party gag. For 3 grand, it better summon a demon that's all I'm saying."
– con_this
Slow Burn
"$600 USD for a candle."
– Jeffranks
It's not always about the things you acquire.
Minor Inconvenience
"I know a guy who went to get a new drivers license and had to pay ~$100k in back parking tickets, then joked about it after."
"Apparently he couldn't get a permit to park in front of his house, so he just did anyway, and accepted like a $200 fine everyday."
– melodyze
For A Successful Election
"Not me, but I know a guy who crowd funded (read: threw a bunch of money into, then solicited more at a flea market) $80,000 toward his friend's DA election campaign. The guy won. So far, this has paid back at least $120K in avoided legal fees. I know some rich people. Most of them are more boring than you think. Hell, most of them drive Hondas, Toyotas, and Nissans."
– KP_Wrath
The Lance Corporal
"I was stationed with a Lance Corporal who was wealthy beyond means after selling some of his patents. He owned and piloted four helicopters. Lived in a palatial waterfront house in Jacksonville, NC."
"The cheapest one cost 400K. That's the one he trained on. The most expensive was about 1.2 million. That's 1.2 million 1981 dollars. The two he's got now are about 5 million each."
"Had a floating landing pad out back moored to his dock and another landing pad in the back yard. Kept two helicopters and a Rolls inside his custom-built hangar at Norfolk International Airport."
"He drove a pair of Rolls-Royces. He also toyed with a 900K Miami-Vice type speedboat. He also housed and transported his squad to Camp Lejeune and back in a custom mini-bus."
– ApplicationConnect55
The dude was very giving and lived a very clean life. He'd fly us to Norfolk, pickup the car and we'd do our shopping and eating. Hop in a chopper and return home. He'd fly his fire team down to Miami on weekends. He kept a Limo there and wore a chauffer's outfit and did all the driving.
He bought a full-service and licensed pub in Northern Ireland. He lives there with his wife. Does a lot of charity work there. We still keep in touch."
– ApplicationConnect55
When there's plenty of money going around, there's no need to worry about a single thing.
That peace of mind is a luxury in itself.
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When marriages or relationships fall apart, infidelity is not always the cause.
Curious to hear from strangers online, Redditor Liam_Tang asked:
"People who've divorced, aside from adultery, what were the irreconcilable differences that ended the marriage?"

You think you know a person when you walk down the aisle.
These Redditors were in for a rude awakening.
Pet Neglect
"My wife divorced her ex for many reasons, but the final straw was when she went out of town for a few days, and when she got back he had not fed or given water to the dog. The dog lived a long and happy life after that."
– StrangeCrimes
Obsessed With A Crush
"Not me, but I had an old coworker that divorced his wife for spending their entire savings on candy crush and games of the same type."
– Hexis40
Compatibility Musts
"ITT: Intimacy (sex/romance), beliefs (religion/spirituality/politics), kids, and I haven’t seen it yet but it’s coming: finances."
"The big four. You REALLY need to discuss these things in detail BEFORE getting married."
– rabbiskittles
Physical violence is a legit reason for people to peace out of a relationship.
The Flattening
"She threatened to hit me with a hammer."
– michaelrohansmith
Hitting The Bottle
"She became an abusive alcoholic. It was sad but I had to get out."
– diegojones4
Emotional pain is too damaging to recover from.
Truth Hurts
"She told me as we stood in front of the judge ending our 7 year marriage, 'I never loved you, I just wanted kids.'"
– Pinch_Dogs
Can't Fix Angry
"She was beautiful/smart but an angry angry person. I thought I could be sweet to her and 'fix' that. Heh. She kicked the crap out of me emotionally. Wife II has been a walk in the roses for 32 years now :)"
– lowlandr
A change of heart is worthless if comes too late.
"We Could've Had A Nice Marriage
"He could not understand that my wants and needs were as important as his wants and needs. We tried to make it work for 7 years. During that time, for things that were really important to me, I tried explaining logically, asking nicely, begging, crying, yelling, passive aggressiveness... cycled back through all of these options multiple times."
"(If I knew something was important to him, I would do that. For example, he was really into sports, so I went to all his events, even though that is not at all my thing.) When I finally threw up my hands and told him it was time to get a divorce, he suddenly panicked and said 'What can I do? Do you want me to do half the chores? I'll do it! Do you want me to get a job? I'll do it! Do you want me to buy you presents for your birthday? I'll do it!'"
"So, in other words, he could have been doing that all along, but just couldn't be bothered. That made me so angry. We could have had a nice marriage that we both enjoyed, but no, by the time he saw the light, that ship had sailed."
"We are both happily remarried now (to different people) and I joke that his new wife owes me a thank you note. It was his experience with me that taught him to listen to her and take her needs seriously."
– Bluebird-True
"What Can I Do?"
"My ex was exactly like this. I didn't marry him but when I told him let's break up, he went all like, what can I do? Let's get engaged, let's look at houses, etc. Basically all the pre-marriage topics that we should be discussing about after being together for 7 years."
"I got so angry and straight up told him it's too late... I don't need you anymore."
– gudetarako
As much as a couple wants to stay together, unforeseen circumstances can eventually tear people apart.
Very few people can maintain healthy long-distance relationships.
When a new job opportunity takes a significant other away, would you begrudge them for wanting a better position to earn more money? Or is it better for them to reluctantly turn down the opportunity so they could stay with you? Do either scenarios breed resentment?
These were questions I've often asked myself with past relationships, and my answers varied depending on the person I was with.
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