Quitting your job, ideally, should be something done with forethought and planning. It's a career shift that can take months, if not years to make and that "minimally requires" two weeks notice.
Ideally.
Now ... you and I both know we absolutely do not live in an "ideal" world and sometimes sh*t happens.
Reddit user Broad_post-6496 asked:
What made you quit your job?
Spoiler alert: It pretty much boils down to terrible bosses.
No Heat In Winter
"I worked at a dry cleaners when I was in high school."
"The owner refused to turn the heat on in the middle of winter. She literally locked the thermostat with a key and I had to wear my winter jacket inside the whole shift. It got to the point where I could see my breath inside."
"After this happening multiple times, I called my city's health department to 'anonymously' report unsafe work conditions."
"Health inspector came that day and did a full inspection. Ended up writing multiple violations (fire hazards, unsafe worker conditions, etc.) which all came with a hefty fine."
"I was fully aware the owner would watch the cameras and see me giving the inspector a full tour. I never came back after that day and don't feel bad at all." - ta1234560
Family Business
"The wide spread nepotism and narcissism."
"As a result, I'll never work for another family-owned business ever again, especially if they promote themselves as being a 'family-like' working environment."
"It just amounts to a lot of unpaid overtime, requests severely outside of your job description, and lots of begging for a minimal raise while the family members get fat checks." - ThatReaperGuy
"To avoid arbitration, our company's HR representative sent out a poll to unrelated departments asking them to 'vote' on the next admin assistant. The choice was between two women."
"The woman who 'won' was the HR rep's best friend." - LudwigWhitecollar
"I just assume everywhere that says they have a 'family-like' workplace means a highly dysfunctional and toxic family lol."
"No thanks. I've got my own family to deal with, I'd rather not add yours." - CappuccinoBoy
No Money, Mo' Problems
"Not getting a raise."
"The 'seniors' that knew less and used me as a resource 24/7 for their important client meetings were all making $20k above me. I was also assigned the more technical and hard assignments."
"I asked for a raise and outlined why it was deserved. Boss said I made good points but his 'hands were tied' and I needed to 'Wait til annual reviews and we'll see what we can do.' "
"I put my two weeks in on the spot."
"Within 6 months all my peers, except for one person, were gone."
"Their reasoning? 'We knew if they wouldn't take care of YOU there was no way they'd do anything for us.' "
"They saw how little company valued an employee they heavily relied on, and decided they had no future there." - technical-reality-39
Dennis
"Once upon a time I was working as a delivery driver for Pizza Hut. My boss, F*cking Dennis, liked to say that he didn't have to go to college because he went to Pizza Hut University. Yeah, he was THAT GUY."
"I had an old truck that was having some issues and I couldn't deliver pizza. He told me to let him know when I had a working vehicle and he would put me back on the schedule."
"This was right around the Super Bowl."
"He wrote me up for not showing up the day of the game. Another week goes by and he says if I can't show up, he's gonna terminate me."
"At this point, I had just managed to buy a used car and luck would have it, I found a much higher paying job. So I go in and tell him that I'm going to put in my two weeks."
"He replies, 'You got fired the moment your truck stopped working.' and hands me a piece of paper I have to sign to get my last tiny bit of pay."
"It says I was negligent, blah, blah, blah. So I rewrite it and say that he told me to call him when my truck was fixed."
"He flips out and almost comes to blows with me. So I call the general manager and tell him the whole story."
"Sad ending - Dennis lies and gets promoted. F*ck you Dennis; and your stupid dumb mustache." - jimmygibbler
Executives And Emails
"In my case it was executives that drove me out."
"Managers were tolerable. My Local leadership was fine. Middle management could be at times Micro-managing but tolerable."
"It was when an Executive VP was calling me to yell at me cause he didn't like something I said in an Email to another employee - an email which this VP nor his staff were involved in. Guess they actually do go through all our Emails."
"That call is what made me start resenting that place. It showed such a lack of trust or respect and exactly how incompetent those execs were if they were spending their time reading low level employees emails rather than literally anything else." - AWACS_Bandog
Tachycardia
"I called my boss from the hospital to let her know I'd been rushed in because I stopped breathing and turned blue."
"I explained that I was, at that moment, sitting with a cannula in my nose and hooked up to multiple machines, which I know she heard because they kept going off because my oxygen was low and I was tachycardic."
"She yelled at me about how disrespectful it was for me to call in two hours before my shift, after I'd worked 12-14 hr days for three months straight. I hung up and emailed her my letter of resignation right then."
"I was a teacher at the time so taking abuse was a normal part of my routine, but I couldn't do it anymore."
"I had bruises from my students, I was so sick I couldn't move (they had to take me for imaging at one point and they had to transfer me onto the MRI bed because I couldn't lift myself), I was coming home in tears every day and dreading going to work."
"The hospital released me saying they couldn't find evidence of anything to explain why I couldn't breathe. I was at another hospital less than a week later where they found 'severe acute bronchitis.' My lungs were almost completely white on the image (which apparently means BAD)."
"I ended up with pneumonia a couple months later and I'm pretty sure it's because bronchitis went on for three months with no treatment because I couldn't get time out of the classroom to see a doctor."
"I'm an office admin now for a construction company and I'm 100% happier." - itsbadtonight
Boss After Boss
"It's been bad bosses time after time."
"1st job - they stopped giving me hours to force me to quit."
"2nd job - boss got involved in my personal life and told me if I didn't apologize to a friend of hers, I'd have no more hours."
"3rd job - Company went bust, but I stayed til the last day when the doors closed for the last time because that's how I work."
"4th job - I was severely over worked and underpaid. I was trained as a receptionist and still expected to do that while taking over for a contracts administrator - with almost no training. Oh and all the IT work too. No pay raises despite doing 3 jobs."
"5th job - still here :) Hopefully I'll get to stay a while." - InnocenceBlue
Invaluable, But Only So Far As...
"One, the 80 hour work weeks."
"Two, the 2 hour commute, and after having proven that I'm efficient AF working from home, still refusing to convert my position to a fully work from home one."
"But the final straw was my boss's boss's inability to promote me. When there was a vacancy at my boss's level, I worked my a$$ off and had more-than-proved that I could do my boss's job."
"Even so, when I applied for the position, I was told 'You're invaluable, but only so far as helping us hire the person goes.' Meaning: you're amazing at what you do, but you don't kiss our butt nearly as much as you should, so suck it."
"Joke's on them. I found a job that pays 40% more, is completely work from home AND at the level of my boss's boss. Exactly where I should have been. Who's sucking it now?" - sortitall6
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Are chance encounters really serendipitous or is it part of some grand master plan? While we may never have an answer for why we come to meet certain people ...Hiring Someone With A Bladder
"My boss constantly micromanaging my toilet breaks."
"Switched jobs where, surprise, boss doesn't give care about toilet breaks as long the work is in his inbox by the time he asked for it."
"Strange thing, now that I think about it... I don't really know WHAT my old boss wasn't happy about other than the fact that I went to the toilet occasionally and didn't respond within a minute after he messaged me."
"I mean, I still did all the reports he wanted within the time he wanted it, I joined all the weekend overtimes during crunch (also not during crunch)... Guess he just wasn't happy that he employed somebody who had a bladder." - TheDoorDoesntWork
Boss's Dating Life
"My boss started dating my mom."
"We all worked for the same company, but my mom at a different location. Co-workers suddenly assumed I was getting special treatment- many left the location, always leaving us short staffed."
"Anytime my Mom or my Boss were fighting, my Boss would have a massive attitude change towards me and be cruel. I had a mental breakdown because of it."
"She made me work more doubles, too, and I missed a few therapy appointments (that she was very aware of) and didn't come to work for a few days, so she took me off the schedule. Had to get back on medications during this time."
"Asked her to place me back on the next week; she called me in one morning because someone quit, so I went in to cover with her. It was such a depressing morning working with her."
"She was so nasty to me for the two hours I had been there, then she sent me home because my 'attitude sucks.' I asked her to transfer me to a new location, but she told me that she didn't want another manager to deal with my mental problems because they're too problematic, so she refused my transfer request."
"I quit on her after she gave me 5 doubles for the next week, forcing her to work them all."
"I tried to complain to the district manager about my experiences working with her, but nothing happened because they didn't have anyone to fill her position." - AstronomicalArtisan
Singapore
"The company never really cared about its US branch, and always showed blatant favoritism towards the Singapore office."
"The CEO was toxic, and would always complain that we didn't work hard enough, and that he wanted everyone to work 9-9, and would mandate it for the US offices if he could."
"I saw the writing on the wall when they stopped hiring replacements in the US office. The last straw was when they said that we were no longer using C# for our software, despite the fact that it's what all the developers specialized in, and what all our software was written in."
"Apparently, the .NET runtime was just too much of a hassle to deal with, so we were switching to C++/JS effective immediately. There was some backpedaling when they realized how long it would take to migrate some of our larger services from C# to C++ (I guess they thought it would be a straight-port or something?)"
"Anyway, it was a good idea to jump ship. 6 months after I left that (during Christmas time) that they announced they were closing the US office, and moving all development to Singapore/China." - VeloxFox
Lost An Employee And A Customer
"I was moving away for college."
"I actually left earlier than I'd originally planned because my coworkers started teasing me and being passive aggressive just because I was going to college and leaving them. I realized just how bitter they all were."
"I'm fortunate enough to get an education while they're spending their lives in a dead-end, minimum wage job, wasting all their money on booze and drugs. I'm glad I found out just how toxic a place that really was."
"It was a pit of misery, but I thought I at least had friends. I was fortunate enough to get out of it. If your wondering, it was just a local grocery store, but after working there I refuse to shop there anymore." - Arcinbiblo12
Scoop
"Worked at Wendy's - it was the first and only job I've ever quit. Nothing catastrophic, but they gave me like 4 hours a week during the summer when I requested more, and just stopped my training right in the middle of it."
"You're supposed to watch this series of videos; they start with basic stuff like food safety and sexual harassment, then go from there. Once I watched the one about manning the fry station they handed me a uniform and said 'ok get to work.' "
"I hadn't learned how to do anything else. Other employees rotated positions daily, making sandwiches and being at the register and whatnot."
"Quitting was frequent, and a lot of new hires came in during the brief time I worked there. I talked to them; they had all been trained on how to do everything."
"Not me. I spent my entire shift scooping fries and putting them in the containers, and they would yell at me because I wasn't fast enough."
"I had a panic attack once during a lunch rush and asked if I could go on break, they sent me home."
"It just was not worth the $15 per hour pay that was my sole motivation for accepting the job. Other duties were dull, but it's really demeaning to just scoop the whole shift." - chrisb0302
Fidgety
"Spent 6 years recovering from a bad fall. Could have died. Nearly lost my leg. Still have almost constant severe pain."
"Boss was the CFO. I'm middle management."
"After a board meeting, my boss tells me I needed to 'improve how I sit in a chair and stop fidgeting.' I reminded the boss that I am disabled and fidget because I am trying not to scream in pain."
"Boss feigns regret, then essentially repeats the advice. Stop fidgeting."
"I live in a small town, so word gets around. This wasn't worth suing over; I just went to the nearest competitor, got hired, and dedicated myself to making my new company successful."
"New company CEO says I'm the best he's ever worked with. I apologized for being fidgety and he gave me the biggest 'so what?' look I've ever seen." - Powerful-Care-9964
Whatever THIS Is...
"With my last job, it was definitely my manager."
"She insisted on having very graphic, adult conversations about sex and stuff which I tried to avoid and when I did, she would be like, 'What's WRONG with you? What, are you some kind of prude?' "
"She was also very passive-aggressive when it came to my husband and our relationship. She once asked me about my husband's job, how many hours he worked, etc."
"When I told her, she said, 'Well if that was MY husband, and he worked THAT many hours, I would tell him to just get the f*ck out, because I need him to be home more than THAT!' "
"My husband had a 2hr commute every day at that time, and worked about 50 hrs a week. This didn't bother me one bit because that had been the case for most of our marriage up to that point."
"She also acted like it was a crime for us to go on vacation (gasp!) as much as we do (2-3X per year) because she was (when she wasn't at work) a 'travel agent' and didn't get to go anywhere."
"She also kind of acted like there was something inherently wrong with me because I only have one kid."
"My body just did not handle pregnancy particularly well, getting pregnant wasn't ever easy for me and the second (and last time) I got pregnant, I had a miscarriage."
"I had accepted at that point that I was only ever going to have one child and was (and am) mostly OK with that."
"She acted like how dare I only have one child, that my son was going to grow up to be some kind of weirdo psychopath because he didn't have any siblings."
"She was 100% directly the reason I quit." - knockmeyourlobes
Response after response - Reddit basically just gave us different takes on the old idea that people don't leave jobs, they leave bosses.
So ask yourself, what was the reason YOU quit? Was it a management issue? Sound off in the comments!
Comedy is in a very tricky place right now.
There is so much to NOT laugh about in this world.
In truth, many of us have forgotten how to laugh.
And certain jokes that are told, make people afraid to laugh.
So what do we do?
We tell inappropriate jokes apparently.
Let's hear some...
Redditor CrewCreation wanted to hear some "risky" comedy. So they asked:
"What’s the best morbid joke you know?"
***WARNING: THIS ARTICLE CONTAINS SENSITIVE MATERIAL. PROCEED WITH CAUTION!***
I can't think of anything hilarious at the moment. Make us LOL.
Lady
"I have this friend, love him to bits, but his wife has a tendency of just constantly showing everyone pictures of their son at every social event. At the start it was understandable, but now I'm just like 'Lady, it's been two years; they're not going to find him.'"
UnoriginalUse
at 9am...
"Not the most morbid but I love Anthony Jeselnik’s story about his neighbor who has Alzheimer’s. 'One of my next door neighbors is a 90 year old man suffering from Alzheimer’s. And every single morning at 9am he knocks on my door and asks me if I have seen his wife.'"
"'Which means that every single morning at 9am I have to explain to a 90 year old man suffering from Alzheimer’s that his wife has been dead for quite some time. Now I’ve thought about moving. I have thought about just not answering my door in the morning. But to be honest, it’s worth it… just to see the smile on his face.”
dreagan021
Comedy?
"Why can't orphans play baseball? They don't know where home is."
GW2RNGR
"Why can't orphans play tennis? They get confused when they hear love."
JayDub506
People who make comedy are evil. LOL.
The Darkness
"Dark humor is like food; not everyone gets it."
storm_the_castle
God Laughs?
"A Holocaust survivor dies and goes to heaven, where she meets God. To break the tension she tells God a joke about the Holocaust, but God doesn’t laugh. The lady shrugs and says 'I guess you had to be there.'"
“'I guess you had to be there' is a common expression used when someone doesn’t laugh at a joke. It means that the comedy may not translate without the context of the situation."
"In this case the Holocaust survivor is saying it, meaning that during the Holocaust God was nowhere to be found. It’s not really a joke about the Holocaust, but the absurdity of belief in a benevolent God. Hilarious right?"
semimillennial
Oh Baby
"How many dead babies does it take to fix a light bulb? More than 3 cause my garage is still dark."
sirnibs3
I don't know whether to laugh or cry. Because I don't know what it says about us as people if we laugh. Oye.
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Life can change in an instant.
It can always change for the better.
Just ask any lottery winner.
Sadly, life can also take a turn for the worst and leave people shattered beyond repair.
Watching someone's life fall apart in a short amount of time is difficult.
You have to wonder if there really is such a thing as karma, bad luck, or Voodoo.
Redditor OkImagination5852 wanted to hear about the times we've been witness to personal disaster. They asked:
"People who witness a person's life crumble in a single day, what happened?"
I have lived through a lot of bad days. But thankfully they've been one disaster at a time days. So I guess I'm lucky.
Horror
"A friend of a friend had his entire family killed overnight. He was from my college and was home visiting his family. His parents, siblings, and extended family were all there together. One night, while they were all asleep, his father got up, took out a gun, and went on a shooting spree. He then killed himself."
"Everyone except this guy died on the spot. When my friend visited him at the hospital, the guy was still in shock. He had no idea why his father did that. This was more than a decade ago, and I have no idea how he's doing now."
DeadOnDeparture98
The IRS Called
"Knew a guy who had a nice house, wife, 3 kids. Machine shop in his garage, Snap On tool truck, sign out front, great mechanic. Never incorporated, didn't pay taxes on his business, cash only. Took nice vacations, bought a boat, then a camper. Five years later, the IRS came. I don't know what they estimated he owed but they seized everything. He lives alone in a trailer now."
Nobody_Wins_13
2 at Once
"My mom’s dad and dad’s mom both died on the same day. Completely unrelated. We were pretty messed up for awhile. It was 2010. Mom's dad had emphysema (lifetime smoker) and was pretty sick for a few weeks. I was in college at the time and came home to be with him, because we knew he was about to pass. Dad's mom was in the nursing home, as she had had a stroke and also had dementia (she often thought I was my dad, she thought we were in the 70s, etc.)."
"She took a turn for the worst, and so my dad left the hospice my grandpa was at and went to be with her. The towns they were in were about an hour apart, so I stayed behind with my mom to comfort her when her dad passed. A few hours go by, and he passes peacefully (huge thanks to the hospice workers for their respect and grace during this time)."
"Within an hour or so of his passing, we get a call from my dad saying that his mother had passed as well. It was a terribly dark day in our family, and the next couple years for me in college were pretty much a blur. Thankfully, things got better in time and we are all doing well now."
She lost everything...
"Her husband left her after previously persuading her to remortgage their house to save his business and he's already made her take multiple credit cards out in her name. She lost everything. He did it the week after their youngest turned 18 so he wouldn't have to pay child support. He'd obviously been planning for years."
Ieatclowns
a black sheep...
"My cousin was in a motorcycle accident with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend died. She broke her back. When she was in the hospital she learned she was pregnant. It's been 16 years and we're still trying our best, she took an all too familiar path of drugs, burning bridges and more pregnancies."
"At this point she's fairly stable and clean as far as I know but a bit of a black sheep. Her mother has custody of all one of her kids. She has her youngest and seems to be doing good by her, but who knows. It's been hard on everyone, especially her mother and her brother."
Paradigm6790
Well this is the stuff of nightmares. I'm grateful for every moment I have alive.
Several lawsuits are filed...
"Here is multiple lives ruined in an instant. A friend was over at some other people house, drugs were involved. They had been playing with a gun. My friend points the gun at a girl, pulls the trigger and shoots her in the head. Girl dies, friend gets locked up until he turns 18. Parents at the house get arrested because they knew what the kids were doing. Friends mom goes into a depression and ends up getting evicted from her house. Several lawsuits are filed."
sentondan
Gone Forever
"It was me... got in a car accident and suffered a traumatic spinal and brain injury that I had no chance of surviving... a 7 vertebrae spinal fusion, yrs of physical and mental therapy... 18 yrs later and the pieces, though many forever gone, are finally coming back together."
2boneskuLL
A Bad Night
"He trashed his fathers vacation house with an axe before setting it on fire, stabbed the neighbor nearly to death, stole their car and then crashed it into a cop car so bad the cops were injured. He also got his girl pregnant, so once he is out of prison they're gonna start a family."
Dumbing_It_Down
"dangerous"
"Pregnant friend found out husband (43) was having an affair with young woman (19) who was a volunteer at their ecolodge. Friend had 'dangerous' pregnancy and had to spend a lot of time in bed. This betrayal destroyed their marriage, split the little town where they lived and caused two employees to quit because witnessing the affair going on was just too painful."
"She had a beautiful baby girl (to go with her other two girls, lol) and after the breakup was clinically depressed. Worked hard and got a divorce (she had a great lawyer); got the business back on track; beat her depression and now is planning a great vacation trip with her girls."
"Meantime, Dad has generous visitation but just 'hasn't gotten around to' buying a car seat so he can pick up the baby and for a long time asked my friend, 'Can you drop the girls off at my Mom's?'"
NoBSforGma
Lost it All...
"Recently, I know of a guy that had borrowed all his family’s life savings for the most part to participate in the whole game stop stock thing happening… he lost every penny of his money (credit card advances), and his parents retirement, and every other dime he could get… it makes me sick to even think of it."
Bangbangsmashsmash
Well those are A LOT of bad days. Good luck to all of you.
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Those who are wealthy have the luxury of acquiring the best of the best–whether it's dinner at a Michelin-starred restaurant or status-identifying clothing from Chanel or Yves Saint Laurent.
But even the rich have their limits when it comes to frivolous spending before casting judgment on friends or colleagues.
Curious to hear examples of this, Redditor Sasquatchfl asked:
"Rich people of Reddit, what's the craziest/most unethical thing you've seen people in your circle spend money on?"
Expensive experiences were a priority over prized possessions.
Live Sushi
"An ex worked for Dell in the late 90s/early 2000s. He was pretty high up and there were lots of partiers in his work circle. Went to a party hosted by one of the dellionaires and there was a body sushi girl. I don’t know what was paid to her, but it was one of the most ridiculous things I’ve ever seen."
– 5hrs4hrs3hrs2hrs1mor
Pissing Contest
"Paid a group of homeless guys to only use the bathroom on a competitors business. Eventually bought that place for a massive discount."
– Haboobalub
Let's Work Out
"My mother woke up one morning and said she felt she was way too fat and she wanted to get a treadmill. The treadmill wouldn’t be a problem, but then she saw where it would be and didn’t like the lighting. Fast forward 2 months later there’s a 40k outdoor gym built and connected to the house. She hasn’t used it once."
– Herrera5449_
Taking A Leap
"Travelled with a bunch of ex 'friends' all fairly wealthy."
"First trip to SE Asia together and as an ex-local I was a de-facto tour guide (despite not being there in over a decade)"
"They somehow found and offered a bunch of kids diving off cliffs to jump for spare change."
"They increasingly challenged each other to land their coins as close to the cliff base and small surrounding rocks for the kids to dive for."
– Satakans
It's about the finer things in life.
Expensive Party Gag
"A 3k ouija board from Gwen Paltrow's store. I didn't even know it was a thing until the dude brought it out. I really wanted to cut it up and see what it was made from. Looked nice don't get me wrong but the thing is basically a party gag. For 3 grand, it better summon a demon that's all I'm saying."
– con_this
Slow Burn
"$600 USD for a candle."
– Jeffranks
It's not always about the things you acquire.
Minor Inconvenience
"I know a guy who went to get a new drivers license and had to pay ~$100k in back parking tickets, then joked about it after."
"Apparently he couldn't get a permit to park in front of his house, so he just did anyway, and accepted like a $200 fine everyday."
– melodyze
For A Successful Election
"Not me, but I know a guy who crowd funded (read: threw a bunch of money into, then solicited more at a flea market) $80,000 toward his friend's DA election campaign. The guy won. So far, this has paid back at least $120K in avoided legal fees. I know some rich people. Most of them are more boring than you think. Hell, most of them drive Hondas, Toyotas, and Nissans."
– KP_Wrath
The Lance Corporal
"I was stationed with a Lance Corporal who was wealthy beyond means after selling some of his patents. He owned and piloted four helicopters. Lived in a palatial waterfront house in Jacksonville, NC."
"The cheapest one cost 400K. That's the one he trained on. The most expensive was about 1.2 million. That's 1.2 million 1981 dollars. The two he's got now are about 5 million each."
"Had a floating landing pad out back moored to his dock and another landing pad in the back yard. Kept two helicopters and a Rolls inside his custom-built hangar at Norfolk International Airport."
"He drove a pair of Rolls-Royces. He also toyed with a 900K Miami-Vice type speedboat. He also housed and transported his squad to Camp Lejeune and back in a custom mini-bus."
– ApplicationConnect55
The dude was very giving and lived a very clean life. He'd fly us to Norfolk, pickup the car and we'd do our shopping and eating. Hop in a chopper and return home. He'd fly his fire team down to Miami on weekends. He kept a Limo there and wore a chauffer's outfit and did all the driving.
He bought a full-service and licensed pub in Northern Ireland. He lives there with his wife. Does a lot of charity work there. We still keep in touch."
– ApplicationConnect55
When there's plenty of money going around, there's no need to worry about a single thing.
That peace of mind is a luxury in itself.
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When marriages or relationships fall apart, infidelity is not always the cause.
Curious to hear from strangers online, Redditor Liam_Tang asked:
"People who've divorced, aside from adultery, what were the irreconcilable differences that ended the marriage?"

You think you know a person when you walk down the aisle.
These Redditors were in for a rude awakening.
Pet Neglect
"My wife divorced her ex for many reasons, but the final straw was when she went out of town for a few days, and when she got back he had not fed or given water to the dog. The dog lived a long and happy life after that."
– StrangeCrimes
Obsessed With A Crush
"Not me, but I had an old coworker that divorced his wife for spending their entire savings on candy crush and games of the same type."
– Hexis40
Compatibility Musts
"ITT: Intimacy (sex/romance), beliefs (religion/spirituality/politics), kids, and I haven’t seen it yet but it’s coming: finances."
"The big four. You REALLY need to discuss these things in detail BEFORE getting married."
– rabbiskittles
Physical violence is a legit reason for people to peace out of a relationship.
The Flattening
"She threatened to hit me with a hammer."
– michaelrohansmith
Hitting The Bottle
"She became an abusive alcoholic. It was sad but I had to get out."
– diegojones4
Emotional pain is too damaging to recover from.
Truth Hurts
"She told me as we stood in front of the judge ending our 7 year marriage, 'I never loved you, I just wanted kids.'"
– Pinch_Dogs
Can't Fix Angry
"She was beautiful/smart but an angry angry person. I thought I could be sweet to her and 'fix' that. Heh. She kicked the crap out of me emotionally. Wife II has been a walk in the roses for 32 years now :)"
– lowlandr
A change of heart is worthless if comes too late.
"We Could've Had A Nice Marriage
"He could not understand that my wants and needs were as important as his wants and needs. We tried to make it work for 7 years. During that time, for things that were really important to me, I tried explaining logically, asking nicely, begging, crying, yelling, passive aggressiveness... cycled back through all of these options multiple times."
"(If I knew something was important to him, I would do that. For example, he was really into sports, so I went to all his events, even though that is not at all my thing.) When I finally threw up my hands and told him it was time to get a divorce, he suddenly panicked and said 'What can I do? Do you want me to do half the chores? I'll do it! Do you want me to get a job? I'll do it! Do you want me to buy you presents for your birthday? I'll do it!'"
"So, in other words, he could have been doing that all along, but just couldn't be bothered. That made me so angry. We could have had a nice marriage that we both enjoyed, but no, by the time he saw the light, that ship had sailed."
"We are both happily remarried now (to different people) and I joke that his new wife owes me a thank you note. It was his experience with me that taught him to listen to her and take her needs seriously."
– Bluebird-True
"What Can I Do?"
"My ex was exactly like this. I didn't marry him but when I told him let's break up, he went all like, what can I do? Let's get engaged, let's look at houses, etc. Basically all the pre-marriage topics that we should be discussing about after being together for 7 years."
"I got so angry and straight up told him it's too late... I don't need you anymore."
– gudetarako
As much as a couple wants to stay together, unforeseen circumstances can eventually tear people apart.
Very few people can maintain healthy long-distance relationships.
When a new job opportunity takes a significant other away, would you begrudge them for wanting a better position to earn more money? Or is it better for them to reluctantly turn down the opportunity so they could stay with you? Do either scenarios breed resentment?
These were questions I've often asked myself with past relationships, and my answers varied depending on the person I was with.
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