People Share Examples Of Toxic Femininity

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Even in our progressive society, there are still far too many people with antiquated, mostly ludicrous, opinions of what it is to be a woman.

These are primarily from men in powerful positions.

However, some women also tend to look down on those who believe they are giving their gender a bad name.

This ignorant behavior is most commonly known as "toxic femininity".


Redditor flawedforte was curious to hear some examples of toxic femininity experienced by the Reddit community, leading them to ask:
"What are examples of toxic femininity?"

Caring About Your Image More Than Other People

"Girls who only support other girls when it’s convenient for their image."- flowerchild_3

Worry About Your Own Children, Not Other Moms

"Moms bullying other moms."- LollipopDreamscape

Men Are Parents Too...

"Dad of a 5 year old girl here."

"When my daughter was a couple of months old my wife discovered a nearby play group and was planning on taking her there for a session."

"I decided to take her myself as it landed on one of my days off and I wanted to spend some real time with my little girl and my wife deserved a break."

"The play group is taking place in a large community hall and there's quite a few people there with kids ranging from newborns to around 4 or 5."

"However I quickly noticed that out of about 30ish parents I'm the only man there and everyone stares at me."

"I think nothing of it and proceed to the soft play section for the babies to play with my daughter."

"Not 10 minutes pass however and I notice mums and even nans pretending not to stare at me and talk under their breath."

"At first I thought I was being paranoid because I was nervous being the only dude there but then I noticed it was several groups doing it.'

'I then overheard one of the mums in the baby section with us say to her friend/sister/who cares that I must be dodgy or on the offenders register."

'Yes."

"THAT register.'

"All because I happened to be the only dad there.'

"I picked my daughter up, told the women where she could stuff her opinions and promptly left."

'I told my wife what had happened and then she went back by herself and had a somewhat heated exchange with the organisers."

"Sometimes I think I married a dragon because she returned with a face so red with rage you'd think she just breathed fire."

"Play group mums can be sexist as hell."- LostMercenary99

Never Pass Judgement Without Knowing The Details

"Mothers shaming C-Section moms saying they didn’t give birth because the child was surgically removed."- Sufficient-Voice-210

"My wife could not produce enough milk for our children."

"When our first was born she tried and tried."

"I woke up in the middle of the night to her crying."

"She felt like she was a horrible mom to even bring up formula."

"There is so much pressure on moms, and it is incredibly stupid."

"Our kids are very well adjusted and were on formula the entire time.'

"I tell anyone who is expecting their first that the only 'right' way is the 'right way for that child'.”

"Damn everyone else’s opinions; do what is best for your family; not the mommy bloggers."

"My oldest is 10 years old and my wife is at peace with it; she worked through her guilt, which I totally agree she should not have any guilt: she is an excellent mother."

"The statistics on breastfed vs. bottle fed have other correlations which I don’t want to take the time to defend, anyone can read the studies, but adding other factors like home life and atomic households, the delta between the two are not as big as the breastfeeding fanatics point out."

"Lastly, anecdotally and take this as a a claim from a dad.'

"My kids are healthy and hyper-intelligent."

"My oldest has been consistently tested through school as top 2% composite intelligence, and she is thriving in advanced classes."

"I say this because there are people who say that IQ is impacted by breastfeeding."

"It just isn’t true, my children thrive, they are healthy and they know they are loved."- Lokitusaborg

If You Can't Take The Heat...

"Being verbally abusive and then playing victim the second the other person argues back or raises their voice."- No-Bumblebee4615

A "Real Woman" Would Probably Never Say This...

"Pulling the 'if you're a real man' card whenever they need something."- Reddit

Not Everyone Is Meant To Be A Parent

"Mothers telling women without kids that their life is meaningless and they can’t understand true love."- DontShowMomMemes

No Man Is Worth The Trouble

"Women who throw other women under the bus for a man, or the attention of a man etc."- KekeSmall

Happily Ever After Has Many Different Meanings

"That single women should be sad."- hallelujasuzanne

Being Self-Serving Ultimately Serves No One

"Women that only want traditional values when it benefits them."- SnooCakes653

Just because someone, no matter their gender, lives their life differently than you do doesn't mean they are deserving of your judgment.

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Anyone believing others aren't fitting their expectations of what it is to be a "real woman" or a "real man" might want to stop and re-examine their standards.

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