People Who Absolutely Love Their Life Explain How They Found Their Joy

People Who Absolutely Love Their Life Explain How They Found Their Joy
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What is happiness?

If you ask positive psychology researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky, happiness is "the experience of joy, contentment, or positive well-being, combined with a sense that one's life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile." (You can watch her speak HERE.)

After Redditor Think-Tale-8719 asked, "People who absolutely love their lives, what's your story?" people told us how they got to where they are and what they do to maintain it.


"I wouldn't want to be anywhere..."

My grandfather gave me a pocket watch when I was young and I fell in love with the combination of art and science in watchmaking. My parents bought me books, I read online, and I learned everything I could about watches and watchmaking. At 16 I landed an internship at a jewelry store near my hometown and started replacing batteries and sizing watch bracelets. I decided that I wanted to be a watchmaker and high school wasn't going to help me get there, so I graduated early and went to watchmaking school.

Now I work as a watchmaker in that same jewelry store, now in my own workshop, repairing and restoring primarily Rolex. I wouldn't want to be anywhere else doing anything else.

g_the_watch_guy

"I fully expected..."

I used to weigh 550+ pounds. I fully expected that the rest of my life would be spent alone and uncomfortable. A doctor convinced me to try bariatric surgery. I lost 350+ pounds and now I'm out in the rocky mountains climbing mountains for fun.

My low expectations still haven't adjusted though, so every day is so much better than anything I could ever have hoped for.

swolf8100

"I'm eight years sober..."

I'm eight years sober and have severe depressive disorder. I was drinking to self medicate for my depression that I didn't really think I had in active addiction. If I take my meds and don't drink, everyday I wake up is the best day of my life.

babar

"Always have something to work towards..."

Married my best friend.

Got into a career I was sort of passionate about, not my number one choice in the world but it's good.

I plan out my weekends so I have things every week to look forward to. I have goals in my hobbies to work towards thats a huge one.

Always have something to work towards in your personal life. I am trying to make a dining room set with woodworking and want to eventually have most of the furniture and stuff in my house made by me.

Just36words

"Stay blessed!"

I grew up poor. Poor like sometimes not having heat through the winter or enough food as a kid, was homeless as a teen and struggled all through my 20's with mental health issues and creating stability. My kids have a middle class upbringing and I'm so grateful to be able to give them that. I'm grateful for everything. When it's raining, I thank God for the roof over my head, heat in the winter, my bed at night. I'm not rich by any means but am so happy to be where I am.

Thank you for the award kind stranger! And many thanks for all the love on this thread. My faith is everything and I give all the thanks to The Most High!

Stay blessed!

nomdeplume72

"We became really good friends."

Met a cute redhead whose personality is almost the exact opposite of mine (outgoing, bubbly, connects very well with all types of other people). We became really good friends. We started dating about two years later. We got married about eight months after that. We've had some struggles (mostly because of my own inability to communicate effectively), but we are very happy together now, over twenty years later.

theredditgrind

"Waited rather than settled."

Waited rather than settled. Dumped a lot of okay guys, left a lot of okay (and not so okay) jobs, moved a lot, was lucky to have a baby when the time was finally right. It's taken a lot of tough decisions and hoping for more but it's been worth waiting for.

luala

"I have a myriad..."

I'm depressed, I have a myriad of incurable physical and mental problems, but god dammit, I get to see my favourite person every day, and I have a job that isn't hard and pays relatively well for someone who doesn't need to be self sufficient. I love my life, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

neptombs

"That's pretty much it."

My life has been pretty awesome since I was 16 (I'm 40). It was pretty weird before that.

I've had a lot of good luck. At 16, some of the bad things left my life. My education improved. I married the right person. I managed to be moderately successful at something that fits my lifestyle (I've never not had enough money). I'm self-employed. My kids are easy, intelligent and fun. I have lots of fun hobbies. I still have most of my friends from growing up and continually add new ones. And I'm sill close to my dad.

That's pretty much it. I do actually pray every morning for peace for myself, my family, and others. And amazingly, I have a lot of peace in my life.

myfriendrichard

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We all have nightmares about diseases and murderers.

But what if, in the end, we just choke on a pickle we inhaled too fast?

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"What simple mistake has ended lives?"

Tripping over untied shoelaces.

It can break your neck.

TIE YOUR SHOES!!!

Off the Rocks

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"There have been too many instances of rock climbers rappelling off of the ends of their ropes, which could have been easily avoided by tying stopper knots at the ends of their ropes."

LZRDLZRD

Seconds

"I worked at a tire place for a summer and the first thing they told me was 'See that torque wrench? One mistake with this and you can kill a whole family in a matter of seconds.' I thought well, better take this thing seriously."

FrenchMicrowave

"Man for a second I was thinking 'F**k you'd have to swing that thing around fast to take out an entire family' and just bluescreened on the idea of changing a tire."

lurking_my_a**_off

How Vexing...

"THERAC-25. The world’s deadliest software error. Cost several radiation patients their lives by administering lethal amounts of radiation, and for a while, the doctors didn’t even know."

Longjumping_Event_59

"THERAC-25 suffered a particularly vexing sort of error known as a race condition. Essentially, the circuit required multiple inputs in a particular sequence, but sometimes the timing of that sequence could get thrown out of whack and it would lead to all sorts of nonsensical output."

"This is less than ideal when all you're doing is manipulating pixels, but when your software is handling radiation beams you really don't want this to happen."

"Even more vexing is that race conditions are frequently heisenbugs, which can vanish altogether when one attempts to study them. If you don't have a good idea of what's causing the error, you may never cotton on to what sort of bad input is required to test it. Under those circumstances, it's easy to write them off as imaginary, only to then find."

dancingmadkoschei

Heavy Drifting

"Leaving the stranded vehicle on the road in winter and trying to walk to get help. It happens in rural parts of our province once or twice a year and they find the body a few days later. They get disoriented and freeze."

Regina_Runner

"I got blown off a road in high winds. Heavy drifting. Less than a mile from a friend's house after I had turned around. Drifts made it impossible to complete the trip. Trying to run a mile in full blizzard conditions was a fight for my life as an in-shape 24-year-old male athlete.

"rotyag

Simple Slips

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"Almost any simple mistake can end a life if you're an anesthesiologist, that's how my grandpa died in his early 60s."

dwserps

Any second. Any moment.

Stay vigilant people.

Celibacy could be better...

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"Not being honest with doctors about Viagra. It has many dangerous drug interactions and can cause a lot of problems from what I’ve heard. Trust me the doctor ain’t gonna judge you guys, they have seen many more embarrassing things. And it would suck to die because you wanted to hide something just for it to be later stated in your death certificate."

The_upsetti_spagetti

Check the Numbers

"As a healthcare worker, giving the wrong amount of insulin."

UzumakiHorror

"During the first shift of my first clinical rotation in nursing school, I watched a nurse draw up insulin out of an auto-injector pen that was CLEARLY marked to specifically not do that AND she was drastically wrong about the dosage and almost killed a guy by giving him essentially like a hundred times the intended dose."

someguynamedg

Stay In

"Pulling the knife out of someone."

rcadephantom

"Yeah, I did that but it was a broken tree branch that had impaled my leg. Without even thinking I pulled it out. Blood started gushing so I pulled off my shirt and tied it into a pressure bandage. I was lucky I didn’t bleed to death."

Olddog_Newtricks2001

"Shock is an IQ reducer. I once sliced a bit off the side of my hand with a broken glass, and sort of dazedly picked off the piece of me and tried to stick it back on. It did not work."

UncannyTarotSpread

Stay Dirty

"Mixing cleaning ingredients."

Jonnysource

"My dad was trying to unclog his kitchen drain and mixed drain cleaners by adding one then adding another a few minutes later. It started bubbling and he began coughing intensely. I heard him coughing from the other room, saw what happened, and opened the nearby window to get rid of the chlorine gas he just produced."

"I forgot there was a large hive of wasps that had moved into that window and they did not appreciate this unexpected interruption. I took him to the emergency room for the gas exposure and it was tough explaining that the wasp stings were not why we were there."

CharmingTuber

Dear God

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"A friend’s husband locked himself out of their home. He tried to get in through a window that had security bars. While squeezing through his foot slipped and he essentially hung himself on the window sill."

Cokej01

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