Let's remember what's the most important part of your wedding day: You, the couple. No matter what anyone says, do your best to keep that at the forefront of your planning. It doesn't matter what your mother-in-law or the photographer or your family want, it's all about what you, the couple, want. That being said, try to learn from these people.
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Ooohhh....Homer Backing Up GIFGiphy
Well, we could have had the wedding in fall 2019, but my wife wanted more time to make sure everything was perfect, so we decided to have it in April 2020.
"What's the worst that could happen? It's not like the whole world is going to stop in the spring."
Just Looking For A Place To Sit?
Letting a homeless guy into our reception venue to use the restroom. Half-hour later, he's still in there. A few of my guests jimmied the door open and found him passed out on drugs.
Why Do People Let Others Tell Them What To Do On Their Day?
Letting the photographer dictate where we should be for the entire night. Going back I would have told him do all the photo poses you want in the first hour then leave us alone.
Also would have had someone walk around with us when we said hi to each table to help us get out of drawn out conversations to make it go faster.
It's Not All Bad. Your Dad Got Some Exercise?
Tiny wedding in a beautiful state park. I forgot the rings in the car and my dad was kind enough to jog back and get them. That's the only regret I have for that day.
DON'T. DO. IT.
Stuffing cake in my wife's face. No exaggeration, I regret it to this day.
One of the traits of a successful marriage is to protect your spouse, with words, with your actions. Protect in this case has the meaning of upholding their dignity, their honor, etc. shoving cake in their face is not doing any of that and it's very very public.
Don't do it. Plus it messed with her makeup, I really really wish I hadn't. :(Derekeys
Remember What The Day Is About: Your Relationship.homer simpson love GIFGiphy
Not exactly a regret, but just a reminder to keep things in perspective.
Looking at my grandmother's wedding photos, she pointed out her bridesmaids wearing matching hats. She remembered these hats were important and there was some big to-do about them. For the life of her, she couldn't remember what exactly and you certainly couldn't tell from the pictures.
Just remember that when you're having heated debates over the "correct" shade of blue for the napkins.
Where Did She Even Come From?
My husband and I went off alone to be married in the woods. No regrets on that, but I regret not going further off-trail for the actual vow exchange. A lady on horseback yelled at me that the "white thing on your head is scaring my horse"
Did You Dance To The Sound Of Silence?
I regret not hiring a dj. Its not only music, they help with the flow of the wedding. Flower toss, first dance, money dance, whatever you want. We cut corners where we could and that was one I regret.
Standing And Greeting. Standing And Greeting. Standing And Greeting...
A reception line. I got talked into it, I didn't want to do it but felt pressured. All I did for 3/4 of my reception was stand and say hello to people it was miserable and took a lot of the fun out of the day.
F-ckin' A. My wife's family insisted on it, and I was pretty ambivalent, so I went with it.
By the time we got done with it, the food was all cold, guests had started to leave, etc. Not f-cking worth it. Years later, we went to one where everyone went in, ate dinner, and then the bride and groom went table to table. That was waaaay better.
Good Lord...marge simpson wedding GIFGiphy
Letting my Ex-MIL dictate pretty much everything. It stopped being our wedding and became her wedding. And she is crazy.
The whole wedding was no longer focused on my wife and I but my MiL handing my wife off to me. Which is really ironic because after that moment MiL became even more controlling. Some things she did....
- She had a mommy daughter dance.
- Made an 30 minute long speech about raising my wife, including playing several inappropriate baby videos.
- Made a toast to herself
- Cut the cake with my wife
- Tossed the bouquet herself
- Tried to outcast my small family (party of 6) to the corner
- Departed the wedding in our limo with us
- This is the weirdest one. The bridal lingerie literally said "mommy's girl".
The wedding was ruined for me. The worst part? It set a precedent that my MiL can do whatever she wanted in our relationship and my wife would always choose her side. This eventually caused a split after MiL spanked the hell out of my daughter and my wife took her side.
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