No one would argue with you on the difficulty of relationships. Balancing your own wants and needs with your significant other's can be a tough act, but if the person is worth it in your mind, you'll find a way. When that person isn't worth it, and you're quick enough to recognize it, then you'll want out as fast as you can.
Reddit user, u/bixbygaea, wanted people to share the awful truth when they asked:
Like Looking IN An Awful Mirror
GiphyMy husband tells this story about his last ex.
They went to a wedding together where the couple had been together around 10 years. It was a "wedding-themed cookout" on somebody's property out in the country, where they interrupted the festivities for less than 10 minutes for the ceremony. When the bride came walking down the "aisle" (they just asked people to clear a space and stand on either side), the groom was literally bouncing on his toes, he was so excited to be marrying her.
My husband looked at the groom, then looked at his girlfriend, and thought "I'm never going to feel that way about this woman."
All For You, Damien. All For You.
It started feeling like all the compromises we made as a couple were in his favor and I started to resent him.
Just Think On It For A Bit
Technically happened after we broke up, during the breakup she used "you can't spoil me the way I deserve" as one of the reasons.
That bounced around in my head for a few weeks before it really kind of clicked, and opened my eyes to how unhealthy the relationship had been
Different Goals Are Only Okay For So Long
She wanted kids, 100%.
I love kids, but I love going home after spending time with them more. Thought about this for a year; tried to convince myself I'd be a great Dad (everyone says so). I couldn't take it any more.
We had a good long cry about it, and made the call.
Yeah, That'll Do It
My long term boyfriend came out gay while dating me.
We are still good friends 15 years later
Thank Goodness It Wasn't Monopoly
When he screamed at me, in front of all our friends, over a game of Pictionary.
Is there more context to why he screamed or was he just being a d-ck?
Unfortunately that one sentence was pretty much it - he was the one drawing, a few of us were guessing, I said the right answer but he hadn't heard me, I thought it must be wrong and everyone else had heard me too so didn't guess the same answer again. At the end of the turn when we hadn't got the point and he revealed the answer, someone said to me "hey you said that right?" and I nodded, he went off on me for speaking too quietly.
Don't Ignore That Nagging In The Back Of Your Mind
I realized that after 8 months with my ex-boyfriend. It took a while but my mental health kept declining with him around, he kept nagging on me about sex and his very violent outbursts from small things.
Once I forgot to say "kisses" before ending a phone call with him and he broke his computer screen.
Never Be Embarassed
When he told me that he was embarrassed to let his friends and family know about me
Work Over You? Easy.
After being at work for over 12 hours (5AM - 8:00PM), he yells at me as I walk into the living room, "Why can't you look happy when you see me? Dinner isn't even ready."
When I wanted to work another 12 hour shift right then, it was obvious we weren't meant to be.
A Big Move For Low Return
When I left my entire life and moved to literally the other side of the world to be with her but her insecurities stayed the same and she only seemed to care about having a wedding ceremony above all else.
Don't Take It TOO Far
We were playing truth or dare and having a pretty good time. I hit him with, "What would you do without me?" expecting a sweet and light-hearted answer but instead, he got very serious and explained how he would probably kill himself if I ever left him
Different Behind Closed Doors
He only wanted me for my body. He didn't want to go on dates with just the two of us, he would wanted me to bring our friend group.
We only hung out alone when we were in his home. He was sweet and nice before but then I broke down crying one day because I realized that I am just his playground.
He had anger issues, he would ocassionally burst into rage when we had an argument or a fight (which we had almost everyday) but I always thought I could endure it for love. One day, we had a very bad fight over something very stupid and I was left alone in the middle of an anxiety attack, and for a brief second the question "what if he ever hits me?" crossed my mind.
At that moment, I panicked even more. He was [abusive] already, but he had never hit me, but I was certain that he could, at some point. After that, I simply began to become more distant with him while I continued to think about that. In the end, he cheated on me and broke up with me, and I was so relieved.
Don't be with people who are [abusive] in any way, kids. Don't try to endure it for love, you don't deserve it, regardless of what you've told yourself.
20 Years Is A Long Time
When I realized that wasting 20 years of my life is much better than wasting the life itself and there is no amount of alcohol that can change that.
Then I divorced my lazy, manipulating, demanding, cheating wife.
Fool Me Once...
This happened to me twice with two different people - I realized I did everything to make them happy, but they wouldn't do the same.
Both of them literally kept me around for their own happiness. Both of them broke up with me when they realized they couldn't toy with me anymore.
Of course, during the break up I was upset, but if I am honest, I didn't see much future with either of them during the relationship. I was just stupid and wanted to still try and see if it would work out.
It's Never Enough
Probably just when he justified all of his cheating (5 chicks, six months, nothing physical (that I found) but lots of pics/ Skype 'sex' ) by saying I wasn't loving enough to him
We shared a bedroom in a dingy share house, I cooked, cleaned and played the good little housewife I thought I needed to be. he was glued to gaming so badly I was often left struggling with things waiting for him to get off it and help, and told me I was 'too fat' (those exact words used, on our one, and only, anniversary) for him to want sex...despite me weighing almost half what he did.
Sometimes it doesn't matter what you do for someone, they'll find an excuse
Call You Out In Front Of You Friends
GiphyAt my birthday party I ate a slice of pizza and she yelled at me that I didn't do any situps that day and I can't eat pizza. Everyone there just stopped and looked stunned
Can't Burn The Candle For Them
When I realized that what was required to make her happy was making me miserable and I couldn't keep that up.
"What's the best response to a Christian saying 'you're going to hell'?"
How Else Would They Know?
"'See you later!'"
"A skater boi dropped this one on holy rollers in college, the rest of us thought it was absolutely brilliant."- Ishidan01
"See you there then."- CuddleDemon04
He's Always Listening...
"It makes Jesus sad when you say that"- OperationBackground2
Can I You Show Me On A Map?
“'Where?'”
"Act like you’ve never heard of it—concede none of the authority or credibility they are used to having."
"'What do you mean, after I die—how can I go somewhere after I die, I’ll be dead?'"
"'My what?'"
"'Do you see these souls often, friend, is one in the room right now?'"- RidesThe7
Some People Have Heard Worse...
"Shrug, say 'Ok' , and walk away."
"You not caring riles them up even more."- ExRetribution
I See It Differently
"Yeah, well, that's just like, your opinion man."- EnvironmentalPack451
Animation Disagree GIF by Moving Picture ShowGiphyWhen Was The Last Time You Actually Read A Bible?
"Judge not, that you be not judged."
"For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you."
"Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?"
"Matthew 7, 1-3."- Aas-im-Aermel
“'Live a good life'."
"'If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by'."
"'If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them'."
"'If there are no gods, then you will be gone, but will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones'.― Marcus Aurelius."- Trygolds
"I thought God is the only judge of our soul?"
"Who are you to take his place?"
"It's better to attack them using their own teachings and beliefs that contradict their statement."- ZaiJianDada
Bible GIF by GlorifyAppGiphyTell Me Something I Don't Know...
"Aren't we all already here?"- YaMa-Ma
When The High Road Doesn't Seem To work...
"The Australian thing to say is "Get f*cked c*nt!"- IllTruck3645·
Give Them A Taste Of Their Own Medicine
"According to your God, so are you for doing his job and judging."- Reddit
Episode 5 Burn In Hell GIF by The SimpsonsGiphySay. Nothing...
"Stare at them blankly and don't hide your confusion."
"Don't say anything."
"Let them talk."
"They will keep talking, and the more they talk, the more uncomfortable they will make themselves."
"If they ask you any direct questions, don't answer them, just keep looking more and more puzzled."
"At the very most, shrug in total confusion."
"Do your best quizzical dog impression."
"They will give up and walk away, and regardless of how they try to seem outwardly, they will feel defeated, and question whether being an enormous a**hole is worth it."
"It may not last once they get back into their bubble of people who think that's a great way to act, but realistically, it's the only way to fight back."
"The minute you engage with them at all, you lose."
"Any comeback feeds into the victim complex inherently baked into Christianity."
"The only winning move is not to play."- PowermanFriendship
Will Ferrell Blank Stare GIFGiphyIt can be very easy to judge others.
But one can't help but stifle their laughter at those who judge others for not being as devoutly Christian as they are.
As they are all but literally going against the beliefs they are supposedly practicing.
Redditor ItzFlexyBoi wanted to discuss all of the things that drive us crazy, so they asked:
"What is a mildly inconvenient thing that annoys the hell out of you?"
I can't stand when business hours differ in person than what is listed online.
How does that happen?!
Get UP!
Dropping Michael Scott GIF by Prime Video UKGiphy"When I drop something small onto the floor and have to pick it up. I've completely turned into my father. I usually roll my eyes, sigh as I bend down to pick it up, and then growl angrily when it takes a couple of tries to actually pick it up."
JMCrown
I'm NOT Done!!
"When a motion sensor sink turns off before I’m done with it."
YourSecretSidepiece
"When I was little I hated the concept of taking a crap in the supermarket because I did one time and the automatic toilet flushed twice while sitting on it. Don’t get me wrong, automatic toilets are a great concept, reduce germ spread through touching a handle and whatnot, and they suck in execution."
"Update: used an auto toilet at a highway rest stop and it flushed while I was peeing in it. Damn."
Tra1nGuy
Wire Snap
"Getting wired earphones caught on a handle and having them ripped out of your head. I instantly rage."
CalvinSays
"This used to happen to my husband in our old house, mainly with pockets of pants. I never really understood how maddening this could be since I'm shorter and it didn't happen to me."
"We moved and now in our new place, this happens to me because the handles are at my pockets' height instead of his. I suddenly understand his past frustration at this small thing!"
spinozasnodgrass
Where is the HELP?
"Please remove the item from the basket, please add the item to the basket, and please wait for assistance."
Rollthembones1989
"What they do now also is there will be different bays with about 6 self-checkouts per bay. Instead of having one employee watching each bay checking IDs, helping out, etc, they will have one employee watching 20+ self-check-out machines frantically running from one person needing help to another."
Rollthembones1989
Trickles
Water Se Laver GIF by Benjamin SiksouGiphy"Washing your face in the bathroom sink and the water trickling down your arms towards your elbows."
AlgernonZX
Seriously. Why does water want to splash all over us, all of the time?
NOOOOO!!!!!
Angry Rooster Teeth GIF by Achievement HunterGiphy"Charging your phone and sleeping then find out that it wasn’t charging overnight and it’s about to die."
Aquahert
"The wooooorst."
Milfshake23
Not Again
"Having to wait 3 extra seconds for YouTube ads every time I want to watch a 30-second video."
JoyIsDumb
"My biggest pet peeve is getting the same ads over and over again. Sometimes I have to close my eyes and mute the audio/look away because after seeing the same ad 100 times it feels like a torture technique out of a CIA manual."
DroidLord
"Even worse when it’s two 15-second unskippable ads."
Tra1nGuy
1 ITEM Issues!
"Leaving something in the other room and remembering I need it after I sit down."
Preszidenmt
"Sitting down and your drink/remote/phone etc... is just slightly out of reach so you have to stand up again."
Robinho311
"I do that with the grocery store. Driving home when I remember 1 item that I went for and forgot."
Famous_Bit_5119
"My husband can NEVER tell me everything he needs from downstairs at once. So I end up making 4 trips."
Rahallahan
Lane Chick
"Getting in the wrong (slowest) checkout line."
PongoWillHelpYou
"I ALWAYS get in the line where someone wants to pay in change, needs to cash a check, or doesn’t know how to use a card reader. Every. Time."
musteatpoptarts
"Nothing like stopping at a gas station on your way to work only to get stuck behind the guy who's buying 75 lottery tickets."
TaintedLye
"Or switching lanes and you end up in one that's even slower."
DeathSpiral321
MOVE!!
Giphy"Slow walkers and people who stop walking in the middle of a crowded area and don't move despite people being behind them. Head to a wall or seat and check your phone there, don't just stop walking in the middle of a crowd. FFS."
NeonSugarSorbet
Library Volume Please
"People who listen to things in public areas without headphones. PLEASE I do not want to hear whatever crappy TikTok you're watching."
starrfast
"My partner does this ALL THE TIME!!! We could be watching something together and she'll pull out her phone and start watching TikTok."
"And she doesn't seem to think it's rude. One time she did that and I paused what we were watching and said 'I didn't wanna interrupt.' Another time I changed it altogether since she wasn't interested."
"But if I glance at my phone once I'm 'on my phone a lot.'"
AnytimeInvitation
I approve of every item on this list.
But like I said, I'm easily annoyed.
Redditor ThurnisHailey wanted to discuss the careers that leave little to help the world, so they asked:
"What high-paying jobs contribute very little to society/humanity?"
Anti-Robinhood
Real Estate Realtor GIF by South ParkGiphy"My sister makes a lot of money in real estate. She helps rich people get even richer."
Ieatalot2004
"To be fair, most jobs are helping rich people get richer."
nBrainwashed
Useless
"As a marketing manager, I can tell you I have one of the most useless jobs in the world."
erose994
"What do you actually do as a marketing manager? I'm just curious."
bertolintus
"Mostly wrangle the opinions of 8,000 people who all think a project should be executed differently and all feel like it needs to be done yesterday. And pass that project through a complicated and overly bureaucratic system of approvals until it inevitably stalls out in a VP's inbox, and you have to send them 3 reminder emails just to get it done."
"Other than that... Talking to agencies (at least where I work, we outsource our graphic design, social media, and advertising work to third parties), building annual strategies, planning social media and email content, and occasionally getting to do something fun like writing a blog post."
"Oh, and managing budgets. But it's budgeting season right now so that's a touchy subject."
erose994
Data Collection
"Some of the best-paid people are figuring out how to collect as much data about you as possible to show you the best adverts. Or how to shave off milliseconds off a trading decision and build better arbitrage strategies to buy and sell the same thing millions of times."
Weak_Commercial_7124
The Middle
"IT middle management. I always thought they did nothing, then I was promoted to one and now I can actually confirm it."
"Do nothing, contribute nothing. Worthless."
RedditWhileImWorking
"I honestly think middle management is all about what you make it. If you're motivated and WANT to make things happen for the better, I think you generally can, but it's also very easy as a middle manager to just maintain the status quo and literally do nothing but collect a paycheck."
TinaBelchersBF
Complicated
people love GIFGiphy"Hospital administration. Obviously, hospitals are important and are complicated systems that need proper management, but any doctor, nurse, etc. can tell you that hospital admins aren't exactly looking out for your health and safety."
dancingbanana123
It's sad to learn hospitals are a scam. Tragic.
Office Time
Staring Episode 2 GIF by The OfficeGiphy"Administrators who spend a lot of time inside an office in calls or meetings but have very little to do with the hands-on work that actually advances stuff."
Ukhupa
Dirt
"I'm using a burner account. I'm a political strategy advisor which is code for opposition researcher. I work for a federal government party in my country. I research for gossip or dirt on our political opponents and feed stories to the media to disparage them and have us win elections. I feel all I do is make people more disenchanted with politics."
Clean-Elephant9363
Moochers
"During the pandemic, didn't you notice that the 'essential workers' were often paid minimum wage? Seems like the important jobs that actually keep everything running are not being paid much at all, most of the time. All the value of their labor is being sucked out of them by the wealthy moochers who just happen to own the company but never do any work."
Pipboypipboycheerio
Liars
dominic cooper preacher GIF by Amazon Prime Video UKGiphy"Megachurch preachers are evil AF."
MpVpRb
"The fleecing of gullible sheep is a story as old as humanity."
wittie2
Well, people certainly had some feeling about these career paths. What do you think? Do you have anything to add?