Personally, I like to live my life without regrets. Every one of our mistakes has formed us into the person we are today. However, at the same time, I can't say I don't wish I had gotten my sh*t together a little sooner, and saved myself some grief. It seems like these Redditors feel the same way.
u/desmondl12 asked: What is your "I wish I had started doing that earlier in my life"?
Yes to all of these, but especially that last one.
Saving.
Getting in a habit of exercising.
Eating right.
Forcing myself to be less lazy / more active.
Not caring what others think.
Once again for the people in the back.
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Not caring what people thought of me as much.
Hey want a tip? Notice how you only think about the things YOU do. Do I look weird, did I say a bad joke, are they thinking about me etc... all that time spent unnecessarily caring, well it's all about you. And how often do you think like that about other people? Very rarely. And even if someone else does something embarrassing, you don't even give a sh*t, you're just glad it wasn't you.
Well likewise, everyone else is thinking the same thing. They're not thinking of the goofy embarrassing thing you did, They're thinking about themselves. And even if you did do something embarrassing, they don't really give a sh*t, They're just focused on themselves.
All that goes on in your head that - like "are these people judging me" type of thing. Well everyone else is thinking the same thing about themselves. Just like how you aren't caught up about that embarrassing thing Sally did 2 years ago, neither is Sally caught up about that embarrassing thing you did 2 years ago.
So when you're thinking. "Omg that person's looking at me do I look normal" - well that person is usually thinking the exact same thing about themselves.
Yes!!!
Start giving myself more credit, always thought being self critical made me work harder. It just made me miserable.
Me right now. It got me through college, but is making me feel so incredibly burnt out at work.
Mood.
Working out, if I am being honest.
I still haven't started but wish I did sooner.
Truth.
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Giving a sh*t about my 401k.
Now is a great time to start caring given the state of our economy.
Thank you.
I don't know who needs to hear this right now, but if my words can help just one person I'll be satisfied.
A lot of people keep saying how they wish they cared less about what people thought about them, but this kind of thing doesn't just come out of nowhere. You can't just will into existence the "not caring" thing.
A lot of people are missing the driving force behind not giving much credence to what people say about you, it's a symptom of something much deeper; they are missing a certain level of "love" for themselves.
For example, if you spend most of your life being insecure about how weird your personality is , you aren't really comfortable in your own skin, are you? As a result, self esteem issues arise and you start to seek validation from external sources (ie those around you) because you aren't getting it from you. You need to learn how to love yourself first and foremost, and then auxiliary issues such as social anxiety, insecurity, and how important other's opinions of you are kind of just sort themselves out.
Everyone moves at their own pace.
Let down my guard enough to even begin a romantic relationship. The responsibility was too frightening.
I understand the feel, 28 and only ever been in a relationship once. It is hard but small steps are better than no steps.
Definitely take care of your teeth.
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Taking better care of my teeth.
I really regret not taking dental health seriously because now I have two broken molars and other problems with my teeth that will probably end up costing me a lot of money to fix.
Important.
Putting my goals and happiness above what my family expected/wanted of my life. It took me 25 miserable years to realize that what my family wanted my life to be was dramatically different from what I really wanted and needed to be happy.
It's important to understand what you want from life and to go for that even if its not what your family wants for you. If your family loves you they'll support you regardless. If they choose not to support you, fine.
Fill your life with people who love you and support your happiness/wellness. It might be hard to let go of toxic familial expectations, but its always worth it.
A helpful switch.
This isn't very deep but using a prescription strength antiperspirant. I stuck to black or white shirts til my mid 20s because of my sweat problem.
Do you have something to confess to George? Text "Secrets" or "" to +1 (310) 299-9390 to talk him about it.
Never too late.
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Playing guitar, started taking lessons at 17 and now work at music full time (producing, writing, playing in a band, teaching) would've like to start earlier so I'd had now more experience.
Totally.
Telling others how I feel and trying to help them understand instead of just pushing them away. And having deep conversations with myself and about what I want and teaching myself how to be emotionally independent.
Always eat your veggies.
Eating vegetables and more food in general.
I had been an extremely picky eater until I was around 14 and I had honestly been missing out on soooo much good food. Now I'll basically eat anything and have to try and not to eat too much tbh.
If there are any parents dealing with a picky child, I'll say my experience in case it helps.
I was honestly the pickiest eater ever but in 2016, my family and I went on holiday to another country for holiday. It was there in a restaurant, where I didn't like the main dish very much and due to the lack of choice, I ended up trying the vegetables and basically fell in love with them. So I'd say the advice is to get them to try new things starting from when they're really young. My parents had work so never had enough time to give me loads of new food. So I rly do recommend letting them try new things.
Those videos are cool.
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Taking a picture of me every day so I could make a cool video that shows how my appearance changes.
Every few months I wish I would have started years ago or at least the last time I thought about it, but then I think that it is to late now. It repeats.
Relatable.
Being aware of my own health conditions
I'd always been a mouth breather. Didn't think much of it until I did a video tour of my house and heard my breathing. Turns out I had a bent nasal canal. If I realised or someone said something sooner. Maybe I could've got surgery and wouldn't have gotten so out of breath as a kid and might be fitter now.
Not to mention a host of other health concerns I had for years but didn't notice until I was living by myself/with partner.
But we should also be prepared and ready to ask the right questions to have a leg up on the competition.
"What is THE best question to ask on a job interview?"
A company's history or information about a past employee were suggested subjects appropriate for questioning.
Prior Knowledge
"When you were interviewing here, what would you have liked to know before you joined?"
"This worked for me. I asked my interviewer a question about how she had personally dealt with a company policy she had just explained. She bragged about her stellar adherence to the policy. I nodded my approval. I got the job."
A Previous Employee
"One that has always gone over well for me:"
"What were some qualities that the previous employee in this role brought to the job that you would like to see carried forward?"
"Another good thing to do is research the company you are interviewing with and you can ask things about what they may be involved in or you could drop that while reading about the company, you wondered this."
Hypothetical questions were suggested as helpful examples of inquiry.
Indicators Of How Companies Treat Employees
"A question that landed me a job once was: 'If I asked your direct reports about your management style, what do you think they'd tell me?' Stumped a hiring manager and he emailed me personally to tell me about it, no one ever asked him that question but got the job.
"In my current interviews I'm asking 'what did your company do for its employees during [the virus] to improve their day to day, work life balance, etc.' and I ask 'Is there anything your company adopted during [the virus] that they plan to keep post [the virus]?"
"These questions give a lot of insight into whether a company treated their employees well."
Past Performance & Adjustments
"If we were currently sitting in my 1 year review, what would I have done in this year for you to say I excelled in my role?"
"If I could snap my finger right now and change anything about your job or the company, what would it be and why?"
The following questions about a prospective company may not be answered from initial digging on their website.
Measure Of Success & Career Trajectories
"How is success measured in this role?"
"What are some possible career trajectories within the company that could stem from this position?"
Being A Solution
"Ask them what is the biggest problem you can solve for them in your first six months with the company. Similar to 'don't think of a purple hippo,' this forces them to imagine you succeeding in the position."
Simply The Best
"Who is your best employee and why is he/she the best?"
"You will then face 2 situations mostly:"
"panicking CEO who can't answer you 'Bob who works 17 hours a day for a slice of bread' so the fear in their faces must be a big nono for you"
"entusiast CEO who actually follow their business and can tell you who is an added value for the company and why."
– ThePiz91
My experiences with job interviews are different than others seeking work in office environments.
Having had a years-long career as a dancer, my "interview" was the dance audition, where hopefuls dance in small groups of people at a time after learning a routine and then awaiting their fate after the panel evaluates their performances.
The question I may or may not have asked in such a scenario earlier in my career was: "Did I make the cut?"
I did not make the cut. And I learned never to ask that again.
I remember the worst date I ever had. My biggest regret is that I stayed for the entire thing. I should've left as soon as I realized this was not going well, which was basically at hello. But he was paying so I drank, a lot. I'll keep names and dates to myself to protect the innocent.
0/10
Big Brother Reaction GIF by Big Brother After DarkGiphy"Went to brewery, date said I had hairy arms and that meant I was horny, said "you look really awful in this light" and then tried to dig out of that hole by saying in his native language that was a term of endearment long term couples said to each other. 0/10 did not date again."
Lucky 13?
"My wife wanted to plan our 13th wedding anniversary. I was excited because usually, I plan it. She bought us some new disc golf discs and after a quick supper, we went to play. We hadn't played in forever. We were laughing and I had a great time. She served me with divorce papers and told me that the date was a test to see if she still had feelings for me. I also learned that she was having an affair that started well before our anniversary."
- rmorlock
Two Hours from Home
"Not necessarily a date but a person I was dating invited me to his parent's house for the afternoon. He wanted to introduce me to them and show me the house he grew up in. I thought it was super sweet and had no problems going. He was also in the middle of moving and needed to pick up a few things, so it really didn't seem that unusual."
"Yeah, we got there and it was awful. His entire family was there. They traveled from hours away too. This was not just meeting the parents, it was meeting the ENTIRE family. Even worse? At some point, this idiot told his parents that he had proposed. We had been dating TWO months. I spent the entire afternoon dumbfounded and just playing along."
"We were two hours from home and I had no cell service, no way to leave at all. We ended up spending the afternoon brainstorming wedding ideas and planning an Alaskan honeymoon that his parents planned to gift us. His brother even called to say congratulations! We drove back to his apartment in silence. When we got there, I got in my car and left, didn't even bother grabbing my stuff. Weirdest experience ever. I have no idea how he broke it to his parents that we weren't getting married."
You're Cut Off!
"Got set up on a blind date once between mutual friends. She shows up to the restaurant already a little tipsy, orders multiple appetizers and only takes like one or two bites from each one. Then she proceeds to order 3 or 4 more drinks and is visibly drunk at this point. She gets up and says she's going to the bathroom and staggers off. About 15-20 minutes go by so I try to call her several times but no answer."
"Finally I decide to pay the check and just leave. About 2 hours later I'm sitting at home and I get a call from an unknown number. It's the police department. She was picked up on a DUI on her way home after she ditched me and gave the cops my number to see if I could go bail her out!"
- mox44ah
Sorry?
Bbc Three Idk GIF by BBCGiphy"Well, I gave this answer on a different topic, but it ties in with this. We were out on a date, we had been seeing each other for a while, close to a year maybe. She gets a phone call. Suddenly she looks destroyed. Her fiancé had just died in a motorcycle accident."
What in the world? I mean how can we ever expect to pair off with the dating pool being inundated with liars and nut jobs? I'm going to delete my apps.
Girl, Bye.
Sassy Beyonce GIFGiphy"Had a girl openly flirt with the bartender in front of me. She says she wasn't. But handing him her own phone and asking for his contact info in front of her date seems like it to me."
Crazy!
"Came out from a movie, late at night, and date's Camaro was stolen. Apparently, he called his WIFE (that I did not know he had) and let her know where he was and what happened. She showed up and realized he was on a date! She started chasing ME around the parking lot telling me she was going to kill me. Saved by the cops who showed up just in time to take the auto theft report."
Hey Mom
"Met a girl at a country bar one night in my 20s. We were both pretty drunk but hit it off pretty good. Ended up getting her number and we agreed we'd go on a real date. Fast forward to the date, she gets in my vehicle and... she looks almost identical to my mom. I was mortified. I was polite and we went for lunch where I found out she also had a boyfriend she "wasn't sure if she was into". Never talked to her again."
- SgtGo
Liars...
"When I was in college many years ago, before the advancement of cell phones and social media, I was chatting with a girl I met on a BBS who lived on Long Island, NY. I was 18 at the time, but lied and said I was 22 because she said she was 25. We spent a few weeks emailing each other, as well as calling each other."
"We even exchanged pics. When we finally met up, things blew up. Turns out we both lied about our ages: She was really 33, and lied because she thought she looked younger. She admitted she sent a college photo to me. We still had dinner together, but it was awkward as hell. We never spoke again."
Doubles
Kill Me Now Season 1 GIF by FriendsGiphy"It was a double date. She was more interested talking to the other girl throughout the whole thing. Found out later from the other guy that his girl cheated on him with my date."
Ummm... I think I'm just going to stay single. That is a handful of crazy. Why can't people just be honest? I swear the search for love warps people's brains. Be careful out there people.
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