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Many things around us possess a duality of opposing forces – including us.


While the concept of dualism embodies interconnectedness, we could stand to lose the negative aspects of ourselves if we can admit to having them.

It's a challenge always doing our best to be Jekyll while we conceal our Hydes.

But if we're able to acknowledge having the most toxic of traits and confront them head-on, there may be a possibility the light will overcome the darkness and allow us to become better versions of ourselves.

Curious to hear about the things that make us feel ashamed or ourselves, Redditor fafifafufa asked:

"What's your most toxic trait you can admit to?"

Stubborness

"I can't let go of things and I take things way too personally. I rationalize it like this 'I wouldn't dream of saying or doing something like that to this person, so why are they doing it to me?.'"

"Also, I procrastinate like no other. Seriously, you could give me a year, or 2 days to do something. Wouldn't make a difference."

PicturesqueCow

Not Letting Things Go

"I can hold a grudge a long time."

tidus-squall

"This! I have cut family members from my life because of my grudge."

Cool_Bastard

Putting It Off

"I procrastinate to a concerning degree as well. I'm starting to think it's because whatever line of work I got myself into is something I hate so so much, and that's why it's so dreadful to start any project, because like, I have no problem being productive when it comes to my hobbies, it's just school/work/chores that I procrastinate on."

Blngsessi

Living Out Loud

"I'm not good at hiding my emotions. Specifically, if I'm in a bad mood, everyone knows it. I used to be an absolute nightmare when I was younger because of it; I'd turn my bad mood into everyone's bad mood. I don't do that anymore, but I'm still not good at hiding it."

Ryoukugan

Spotlight Stealing

"I'm an unintentional one-upper."

"I'm not trying to steal the attention during a story or cut you off, I'm just overly excited that I can relate to you and want to share my similar story."

AdamDawn

Being Vulnerable

Sometimes, we are our own worst enemy.

Can't Win

"I sometimes tend to be a sore loser."

ScoutTrooper501st

Same. Especially if I'm gambling, I dont get pissed off at casual games with friends or my gf but if I'm losing a sports bet I'll be motherf'king people left and right"

Cubsfan630

Seeking Validation

"Most of the time when I ask people for their opinions, I don't actually want to hear 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 opinion. Instead I want to hear my opinion come out of their mouth. I'm always hoping that they will have the same opinion as me because it makes me feel validated. I don't actually care about what they really think."

Vinny_Lam

Low Self-Esteem

"I'm extremely insecure and overthink a lot, I feel constant fear of being disliked or abandoned, I need a lot of reassurance in things because my anxiety makes me so scared and worried I either hold on too tight or I push people away even though I want them close which only end up hurting them more."

floofywhiteclouds

Expectations

"I have impossibly high standards for myself and I tend to place this on others as well. Then I get pissy/grouchy when people fail me. Deep down it is a self protection mechanism, having been let down by so many people, it is just easier to assume and expect the worst, that even the best of those I love will let me down."

Canadabigjack

Not Being Consumed

Distancing themselves for whatever reason wound up not being a wise solution for these Redditors.

Being Unconcerned

"I just don't care about most things and that apathy has done a lot of harm to myself and others."

SwixSwax

"Honestly this, I've been completely desensitized to 90% of things that when I see terrible things happening, like on the news and such, I'm just kinda like 'yeah, shi* happens, world sucks, same ol same ol' and continue on."

Zaq1996

Relinquishing Certain Control

"I've begun categorizing things into 'you problems' and 'me problems.' I can control my actions and reactions, and that's it. I can't control anything else. If someone is being an a**hole and upsets me, then that's a them problem and they need to work on that part of themselves. If they're acting with good intentions and it's an accident, then it's a me problem if I hold that against them. Lifting the responsibility off of myself for the actions of others and only establishing accountability for myself really has reduced my stress and guilt."

shiguywhy

I'm a procrastinator.

I embarrassingly did not RSVP in time for a wedding and when I showed up at the reception assuming my very late response was received, I realized my name and plus-one were not on the list.

We did not have a place to sit at the reception which was held on a harbor cruise around Manhattan.

Fortunately, the very understanding bride and dear friend did not make us walk the plank. As it turned out, there was a cancellation and we did not that let the absent party's dinner go to waste.

You would think a lesson about procrastination was learned.

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